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anonymous
10-15-2010, 08:35 AM
:sl: to all

I was surfing around the net for some Islamic reading materials and I came across a website - something like matching making via online dedicated to Muslims. I couldn't help but ask, are these sorts of things ever allowed? Just the thought of pairing with stranger that you know nothing of give me some kind of creep. The intention maybe ...good but seriously how can you tell that they are what they write? how can you be sure of the profiles given is not fake?(given that the website has given assurance that no fake profile and privacy protected etc etc) I wanted to write down the name of the website but I'm not sure if its allowed. He's quite famous on utube channel too.

I'm just curious as things like this. I'm not looking into joining or anything as I'm already taken. Just really curious. At least when someone I know would have the intention of joining I would know what to say.

On to the next
There are times when I couldn't help but notice that some seen muslim take alcohol beverages..I don't mean to start up a fight or anything of that sort but sometimes you can't but feel sad and angry when you look at these people and I assume that since they are Muslim they should know better that Islam strictly prohibits us from drinking or be anywhere near it. My question is, are there a best way to approach these people without causing any trouble? if it's a guy and I feel like if I started to remind them they'll hurt me or something, can I just stay away from it? can I just hate them? or will I be punished for not telling them off?
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Muhaba
10-16-2010, 05:19 PM
You would have your parents and male relatives talk to him and check out his credentials, get to know him, etc. to see if what he says about himself is true. But first you would do istikhara prayer.
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Hamza Asadullah
10-17-2010, 04:13 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous
:sl: to all

I was surfing around the net for some Islamic reading materials and I came across a website - something like matching making via online dedicated to Muslims. I couldn't help but ask, are these sorts of things ever allowed? Just the thought of pairing with stranger that you know nothing of give me some kind of creep. The intention maybe ...good but seriously how can you tell that they are what they write? how can you be sure of the profiles given is not fake?(given that the website has given assurance that no fake profile and privacy protected etc etc) I wanted to write down the name of the website but I'm not sure if its allowed. He's quite famous on utube channel too.

I'm just curious as things like this. I'm not looking into joining or anything as I'm already taken. Just really curious. At least when someone I know would have the intention of joining I would know what to say.

On to the next
There are times when I couldn't help but notice that some seen muslim take alcohol beverages..I don't mean to start up a fight or anything of that sort but sometimes you can't but feel sad and angry when you look at these people and I assume that since they are Muslim they should know better that Islam strictly prohibits us from drinking or be anywhere near it. My question is, are there a best way to approach these people without causing any trouble? if it's a guy and I feel like if I started to remind them they'll hurt me or something, can I just stay away from it? can I just hate them? or will I be punished for not telling them off?
Asalaamu Alaikum, Firstly when you say you are taken then in what way? Are you married? Going about finding a partner online may be the only option for some Muslims nowadays especially those who have no contacts in this country. There are many Muslims out there who found a partner online and are now happily married but they will not always admit it and who can blame them as their is still a stigma attached to finding a partner online. But i think it can be an avenue to explore if done in the right way as in involving mahrams and family straight away and not having a relationship and "getting to know" one another before marriage as "getting to know" one another always leads to more as shaythan is always the third person when two non mahrams are talking or together.

You will see many Muslims doing Un-Muslim things but that is the choice they have made as they know what is right or wrong and they choose to follow their own desires instead of obeying Allah. One of our duties as Muslims is to enjoin good and forbid evil so if we see it then we should forbid it but this should be done in a gentle manner using wisdom and tact and not in an attacking manner as an attacking manner will only result in a persons defense barriers going up and then they will not listen to anything we have to say so one must use wisdom and tact and of course give dawah when the situation is right for us to do so.

Sending islamic reminders through e mail and text are a brilliant way of giving dawah and inviting towards Allah as well as talking about Islam to the person concerned and indirectly telling them that what they are doing is forbidden but these things have to be approached carefully and if one is unsure of how to approach it then it is best just to maybe talk about Islam and the importance of prayer and especially to talk about death and the hereafter as death is the destroyer of pleasures and will always bring a person back to reality!

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anonymous
10-17-2010, 02:38 PM
:wa:

taken as in married yes. sorry abt that.

but will it be safe for people to get to know each other on an online match making site like that? how do you actually tell the mahram to check out the credential of the said individuals. Did you mean by asking them to meet him or her in person?

as for the muslim doing non muslim issues, are you saying that I can send reminders or articlles on the forbidden thing using email instead of confronting them??? If this is allowed I think this easier to do. I cannot see myself confronting them as Im worry that my emotions might get the best of me and I'm worry that it may trigger a lot of anger and hatred or other unpleasant problems for both sides. what happen if we see people at the mall is doing it and assuming they're muslim in some ways?? let say if I go to a mall and I see a muslim girl or guy smoking or drinking or doing something forbidden what shall I do? Im more afraid to telling guys as Im not sure what theyre capable of.
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Hamza Asadullah
10-23-2010, 04:42 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous
:wa:

taken as in married yes. sorry abt that.

but will it be safe for people to get to know each other on an online match making site like that? how do you actually tell the mahram to check out the credential of the said individuals. Did you mean by asking them to meet him or her in person?

as for the muslim doing non muslim issues, are you saying that I can send reminders or articlles on the forbidden thing using email instead of confronting them??? If this is allowed I think this easier to do. I cannot see myself confronting them as Im worry that my emotions might get the best of me and I'm worry that it may trigger a lot of anger and hatred or other unpleasant problems for both sides. what happen if we see people at the mall is doing it and assuming they're muslim in some ways?? let say if I go to a mall and I see a muslim girl or guy smoking or drinking or doing something forbidden what shall I do? Im more afraid to telling guys as Im not sure what theyre capable of.
Asalaamu Alaikum, As with anything in life we must do everything within the boundaries of Islam and never cross those boundaries. For example a Muslim guy or girl are looking for a potential partner on an online Muslim matrimonial website and they have read a profile of a potential that they feel sounds compatible and they want to know more about the person then the girl can get her wali or mahram to initiate contact with the guy and the guy can ask her for her Wali or mahram. Once contact has been made and the guy or girl accept that they want to talk further then the girl can pass on her questions and answers onto her wali or mahram to pass onto the guy and vice versa forward.

Once both sides have asked all the most important questions and they feel happy enough to take it to the next stage then they can show each othrs photo online as in on MSN but not sending it by E mail as this is never recommended. If they are still happy then they can meet with each other and family and if they needed additional information then they can ask around the area.

The internet is just another avenue for searching for a potential partner and many Muslims have found their partners through the internet and are now happily married but as with anything in life it must be done within the boundaries of Islam if it is to have any blessings from Allah and unfortunatley many people committ haraam from the internet.

Firstly you should not approach the opposite sex on the street or Mall etc to give dawah. Face to face dawah should always be given to the same gender. Secondly it depends on the situation and generally we cannot go around telling people to their face to stop committing this and that sin because that will never gain a good reaction. What we can do is firstly be the best example to others we can by showing the best conduct and dressing modestly in accordance with Islamic teachings. We can also send weekly Islamic reminders by e mail and text to our contacts and these will keep getting passed around and will cover quite a lot of people eventually. We can also set up short Islamic talks and reminders in our local community centres and leave leaflets there inviting others towards Islam and warning about Major sins etc.

Also if we are ever in the situation where we can give someone dawah then we should take that opportunity like for example if we get talking to them somehow or they know someone we know and they happened to be there and you have the opportunity of speaking to them then you can initiate a conversation by maybe mentioning something about Islam or a talk that you liked or one that is coming up etc. From there you can tell them about the importance of time, death, hereafter and our purpose in life etc.

Then from there we can speak to them a few times and maybe invite them to a good Islamic talk or send them some good lectures by e mail or take their number and make them part of your weekly text list.

There is much good we can do but we should always approach giving dawah carefully so as to not offend the other person or make him become defensive by attacking him etc. Dawah should always be approach in a beautiful manner using wisdom and tact and using the best conduct and ettiquette. This way the person will appreciate the beauty of Islam and is more likely to respond positively to dawah.

The best speech is that of the person who invites towards Allah so let us be of those with the best of speech and let us invite towards good and forbid evil until our very last breathes.

And Allah knows best in all matters
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Yanal
10-24-2010, 03:03 AM
Asalam alaykum,

The drinking of liquid which is prhibited in Islaam is decribd as Khamr.Khamara originally means it is veiled or covered,wine has been given the name of Khamr because it is an intoixicating liquor which clouds and obscurer the intellect of a person who is addicted to drinking.It is haaram and it is declared in several stages.Everything that is causes intoxicating is called Khamr,the prohibition of this is greatly emphasized throughout the Qur'aan,Prophet Muhammad(pleace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: " Every intoxicant is unlawful,who drinks wine in the world and dies while continuing it and does not return penitently,will not get drink in the Next World".(Muslim)

A friendly reminder to a Muslim brother should not hurt,although I advise you to confront the person before he starts drinking,since drinking causes intoxicating,which clouds the mind up,it is difficult to predict what a person can do in the state,possibly physical presence can be brought upon if angered,thus be on the safe side and give a friendly reminder when the brother is in full state of his mind,may Allaah help you and others who are suffering through this addiction,ameen.
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