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taken as in married yes. sorry abt that.
but will it be safe for people to get to know each other on an online match making site like that? how do you actually tell the mahram to check out the credential of the said individuals. Did you mean by asking them to meet him or her in person?
as for the muslim doing non muslim issues, are you saying that I can send reminders or articlles on the forbidden thing using email instead of confronting them??? If this is allowed I think this easier to do. I cannot see myself confronting them as Im worry that my emotions might get the best of me and I'm worry that it may trigger a lot of anger and hatred or other unpleasant problems for both sides. what happen if we see people at the mall is doing it and assuming they're muslim in some ways?? let say if I go to a mall and I see a muslim girl or guy smoking or drinking or doing something forbidden what shall I do? Im more afraid to telling guys as Im not sure what theyre capable of.
Asalaamu Alaikum, As with anything in life we must do everything within the boundaries of Islam and never cross those boundaries. For example a Muslim guy or girl are looking for a potential partner on an online Muslim matrimonial website and they have read a profile of a potential that they feel sounds compatible and they want to know more about the person then the girl can get her wali or mahram to initiate contact with the guy and the guy can ask her for her Wali or mahram. Once contact has been made and the guy or girl accept that they want to talk further then the girl can pass on her questions and answers onto her wali or mahram to pass onto the guy and vice versa forward.
Once both sides have asked all the most important questions and they feel happy enough to take it to the next stage then they can show each othrs photo online as in on MSN but not sending it by E mail as this is never recommended. If they are still happy then they can meet with each other and family and if they needed additional information then they can ask around the area.
The internet is just another avenue for searching for a potential partner and many Muslims have found their partners through the internet and are now happily married but as with anything in life it must be done within the boundaries of Islam if it is to have any blessings from Allah and unfortunatley many people committ haraam from the internet.
Firstly you should not approach the opposite sex on the street or Mall etc to give dawah. Face to face dawah should always be given to the same gender. Secondly it depends on the situation and generally we cannot go around telling people to their face to stop committing this and that sin because that will never gain a good reaction. What we can do is firstly be the best example to others we can by showing the best conduct and dressing modestly in accordance with Islamic teachings. We can also send weekly Islamic reminders by e mail and text to our contacts and these will keep getting passed around and will cover quite a lot of people eventually. We can also set up short Islamic talks and reminders in our local community centres and leave leaflets there inviting others towards Islam and warning about Major sins etc.
Also if we are ever in the situation where we can give someone dawah then we should take that opportunity like for example if we get talking to them somehow or they know someone we know and they happened to be there and you have the opportunity of speaking to them then you can initiate a conversation by maybe mentioning something about Islam or a talk that you liked or one that is coming up etc. From there you can tell them about the importance of time, death, hereafter and our purpose in life etc.
Then from there we can speak to them a few times and maybe invite them to a good Islamic talk or send them some good lectures by e mail or take their number and make them part of your weekly text list.
There is much good we can do but we should always approach giving dawah carefully so as to not offend the other person or make him become defensive by attacking him etc. Dawah should always be approach in a beautiful manner using wisdom and tact and using the best conduct and ettiquette. This way the person will appreciate the beauty of Islam and is more likely to respond positively to dawah.
The best speech is that of the person who invites towards Allah so let us be of those with the best of speech and let us invite towards good and forbid evil until our very last breathes.
And Allah knows best in all matters