i need help for my friend.

[May Ayob]

I have this friend and lately she had some problematic issue that she need advice for and me as a muslim , well i dnt know i didnt know what to say to her i came here so that i can get some advice to give to her.

this is her story:

she is a junior in college, and there is a man who is almost 9 yrs older than her (who is not a muslim) but whenever he sees her or is facing her direction looks at her very deeply in the eye for a very long time. without saying a single word , she told me he has light brown eyes and that one day he was in a race and stopped running and went to her direction and looked at her straight in the eye and she thought it was kind of rude so she left the person followed her and walked infornt of her and reached his hand, but she rejected and left , the 2nd time was that she was in a room helpinga child with his work and the man was standing by the door just deeply gazing at her eyes and she could swear to God that she saw his pupils dilating, she never spoke to him and doesnt even know him but once she saw him in dream telling her to come with him to the mosque and offer Salaat. ( the guy is hispanic and is a christian) she knows this is haraam and she doesnt want to get involved in anything bad but what can she do ! please help !

[Alpha Dude]

This sounds a bit confusing. Who is this man? Is he someone who works in the school of this sister? Why not get someone (perhaps senior teacher) to have a word with him/tell him to back off?

I wouldn't worry about the dream.

Simply pray for protection and alert the authorities if she feels she is in any danger.

[Muhaba]

run off in the opposite direction. the man seems like trouble.

if the man continues to bother her, then she can complain that he's harrasing her. if she feels she will fall into sin, then she should have a relative escort her so she won't get the chance to be alone with him or talk to him by herself.

A male relative can also explain to the man that relations outside marriage are forbidden and marriage between a muslim woman and nonmuslim man are not allowed.

[Hamza Asadullah]

I have this friend and lately she had some problematic issue that she need advice for and me as a muslim , well i dnt know i didnt know what to say to her i came here so that i can get some advice to give to her.

this is her story:

she is a junior in college, and there is a man who is almost 9 yrs older than her (who is not a muslim) but whenever he sees her or is facing her direction looks at her very deeply in the eye for a very long time. without saying a single word , she told me he has light brown eyes and that one day he was in a race and stopped running and went to her direction and looked at her straight in the eye and she thought it was kind of rude so she left the person followed her and walked infornt of her and reached his hand, but she rejected and left , the 2nd time was that she was in a room helpinga child with his work and the man was standing by the door just deeply gazing at her eyes and she could swear to God that she saw his pupils dilating, she never spoke to him and doesnt even know him but once she saw him in dream telling her to come with him to the mosque and offer Salaat. ( the guy is hispanic and is a christian) she knows this is haraam and she doesnt want to get involved in anything bad but what can she do ! please help !

Asalaamu Alaikum, she should be firm and tell him that if he continues to bother her then she will tell her older brothers or cousins to deal with him. That should scare him off. If it does'nt then she should report him to the police for harrasment. No women should ever tolerate being harassed by another man. Tell her to take these steps and inshallah he will stop following and harassing her.

Does she cover as in wear hijaab and jilbaab? If not then she should definatley do immediatley as it is a fard upon her and it will also make a huge difference with regards to not attracting unwanted attention as well as the fact that she would be fulfilling her obligation to Allah.

And Allah knows best in all matters

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[Cabdullahi]

ooo it sounds spooky....Hispanic guy....pupils dilating...it would make a sick movie!

[*charisma*]

Assalamu Alaikum

That's kind of...creepy.
She shouldn't worry about the dream as it may be Shaitan messing with her persistence to stay away from him, or it could be because she's often been thinking about this person so he showed up in her dreams, Allahu a'lem. Also tell her she shouldn't walk alone. This guy sounds like he's a carnivore waiting on his prey.

fi aman Allah
w'salaam