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sabr*
If you review every post or thread I submitted I have never used a smilely face or established a sweet tone with the opposite gender.
Bro relax. I was talking in general, not about you. I consider you one of the best and purest brothers here. My post was about the point you raised, and I gave my opinion for the sake of Allah and my intention was for the benefit of my brothers and sisters here.
If someone uses PMs or Reps or Posts to discuss with or contact a member this doesn't mean he's attracted to him/her; and vice versa (if a member if attracted to another person, he will not necessarly PM him or post him).
I sometimes use PMs if it's needed, and if it doesn't involve fitna. My Pms were mainly about help about Qu'ran verses or about arabic questions, or sometimes about help with life problems. I wouldn't use PMs if I thought for one second that I'm doing wrong conversation or I'm attracted to another member or trying to be attractive. And I try to avoid Pms as possible.
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sabr*
Is the prevalent and prominent forum mindset that sisters should only have discussions with sisters and brothers being restricted to the same?
No one said we should stop beneficial interaction between each other. I even find that many sisters here have more knowledge then some brothers (me including), so I'm interested in this type of beneficial interaction (questions, answers, discussion, help, learning, etc..), and I don't see the "attraction" aspect necessary or inevitable in such constructive interaction.
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sabr*
Some Muslims make the practice of Islam inhuman. Islam is a way of life that covers every espect of our lifes. The Muslims who impose the Taliban rules on others without applying it to themselves will never work. The Muslims you see who are never happy with themselves and struggle with applying Islam but have no problem applying to others. (A fact) If it doesn't apply to you I wouldn't expect you to defend it.
What does the Taliban rules do with this thread ? I don't want to backbite the Taliban more, because the media is doing this job perfectly. May be Allah is more pleased with Taliban more than us (who did nothing to the ummah). Anyway, we're going off topic.
If you're thinking that I'm giving advice and not applying it for myself, I ask Allah to give you Husn ad-Dhan in your brothers. And even if we suppose I'm doing the opposite of what I'm advising people, you still can benefit from my advices if it's correct and it's the truth.
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sabr*
Akhi marwan Islam is personal for me and a way of life. I don't seperate Islam into Church and State. I recognize Islam as a theocracy.
That's correct brother. Islam is Life. Yes islam is covering every area of life. But the problem is, you can't mix an area of islam, with another area of islam. For example, islam covers politics, and covers daw'ah, and covers personal life too. But you can't use the politic part of islam in the dawah part, and you can't use your personal life interests in the dawah part.
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sabr*
The word attraction defined as engaging,drawing too and attraction of eloquence, and not the power of charm or alluring. How in the world could you get a Muslim being attracted to a persons Din mixed with anything negative is shocking.
format_quote Originally Posted by
sabr*
The word attraction defined as engaging,drawing too and attraction of eloquence, and not the power of charm or alluring. How in the world could you get a Muslim being attracted to a persons Din mixed with anything negative is shocking. A practicing Muslim with Iman (faith) and Taqwa (Allah consciousness) (Please reread the OP) doesn't seek to earn (buy) a spouse.
I'm confused. I don't know if you are using the word "attraction" with the neutral sense. In my post I did say that I was just uncomfortable with the term "attraction" because it was given a personal meaning today, as I said, it suggests some kind of personal affection between tow persons.
If you mean by "attracted" that a person is just approving the writings or the ideas or the deen of another member, Then I agree with you.
But if you mean by "attracted" that a member like another member because of his deen and wants him to be his partner, that's what I understood you are asking about in your OP :
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sabr*
Is it possible for the forum to constructively address the issue of unmarried brothers and sisters who opt out of marrying within their local Masjid, etc and desire to establish a Nikah with people they are attracted to their Din and intellect? Are they even seeking Nikah or something haram by intent. Is there any solutions? Are we that naive or stern in our own image of self importance that this can't even be discussed?
Then I think it's not appropriate to deal with this type of attraction in this forum.
I mean anyone has the right to be attracted to another person and to seek a partner (spouse), but the point is what is the right place to search for a partner. As I said, one can't mix between tow islam areas, because this can change the forum function from a pure learning space to another thing, with all the related infringements.
I don't want to spend other extra bytes about this part.
And forgive me if my ideas seems to be unpalatable for you. I have no intention to oppose anyone, and I don't address any person with my posts, I'm just exposing my opinion in a general form, for the sake of Allah.
And Allah knows best.