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Aileen
Assalaamu alaykum,
I repented to Allah a lot after committing a sin and made the intention never to repeat it again. However, I became weak and committed that sin and once again repented to Allah and made that same intention again. As I know, that is the right thing to do, because every time I do repent, I do firmly make up my mind never to repeat it and not to go back into it and I do stay away from that sin much better than i ever did before. However, after i first repented to Allah and committed the sin again I was feeling so bad about it thinking God won't accept the repentance again and then I thought to myself that if I ever do commit the sin again then Allah won't accept my repentance and this will be the last time and all sorts of thoughts like that. I know I shouldn't have thought like that but I'm really worried that when I was making Dua's and repenting to Allah, I said it out loud or made an oath to never commit such a sin again and now I've done it again. I can't really remember if I said it out loud because at the time I didn't know that Allah would accept repentance for the same sin again and I was trying to justify it all really.
Having said all this, I am an extremely paranoid person as most of you on these forums would know and so I know that I won't get any peace of mind if I don't assume the worst and 'fix' what i've done.
So please help me. If I did say it out loud or made an oath in Allah's name this means I have obviously broken it. What does one need to do? Also, what does one do if they can't remember if they did say it out loud or not because quite often shaytan does spread his waswas really.
Secondly, if I did have a thought that Allah won't or doesn't need to accept my repentance if I commit this same sin for the third time and then want to repent for it again, what do i do?
I'd just like to say that this is not about drinking because I am familiar about the verse in the Quran (or maybe Prophet Muhammad's Hadith) about drinking and repentence.
Thank you for any help you can give me.
Asalaamu Alaikum, My sister if you really do think that you broke an oath to Allah when you made dua to him about refraining from a certain sin and you are sure it is not just waswas from shaythan who is trying to make you paranoid then you will have to do kaffara.
According to Shaykh Abdurrahman ibn Yusuf Mangera: Only the one kaffara is necessary for you in this case. For instance, if your oath was to make your five daily prayers, and you said something like, "By Allah, I will observe my five daily prayers," then by missing a prayer you would have to make an expiation (kaffara).
Once you have done so then your oath is complete and has ended. Therefore, if you miss any prayer again you would not have to pay another kaffara, even though missing prayers obviously remains a sinful act.
Furthermore, even if your oath was in the negative, for instance you said, "By Allah I will never miss a prayer," then upon missing a prayer and paying a kaffara your oath will end as well. Any prayers subsequently missed will not necessitate another kaffara, unless you made another oath after the first kaffara.
It states in the al-Durr al-Mukhtar of 'Allama Haskafi:
"If one took an oath not do such and such", then he must refrain from "it forever." then if he does what he had [sworn not to do] he will have broken his oath, and his oath will now be ended. What has been mentioned in Sharh al-Majma' that the oath will not end is an error. Hence, if he was to do the thing again [which he had sworn not to do] he will not be considered as having broken an oath, except in the case of [using the term] kullama [i.e. "every time" or "each time" as part of the oath]."
If one swore that he will surely do such-and-such, and then does it once, he is freed from his oath."
(al-Durr al-Mukhtar 3:135).
One more point to remember is that one can only resort to fasting three days for the kaffara if unable to do any of the following:
1. Freeing a slave
2. Clothing ten poor people, giving each of them one garment or more. [Please review previous answers for more details on this]
3. Feeding ten poor people two meals each.
Only when incapable of observing the above can one resort to fasting three days.
Next time my sister try to refrain from making an oath to Allah about any matter as according to Reliance of the Traveller, a Shafi'i fiqh manual, breaking a promise counts as a probable enormity.
[Reliance, p.75.15] Obviously, it is not advisable to make an oath or promise one cannot keep. Hope that helped inshallah.
And Allah knows best in all matters
Taken from: http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.a...ID=470&CATE=12