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Salam
I'm a high schooler who proudly wears hijab however, there are a lot of times where I'm frustrated. When people ask me why I wear it, I tell them I want to be modest and I tell them basically that I want to be known for my personality not my body etc. People just don't understand it, I guess it just does notttt process. They just ask "so why would you even want to be modest?" uff...It makes me so frustrated. I get confused, especially when fellow muslims don't agree with hijab either. I just feel so lonely in my decision. Of course my mother wears it and some of my friends do but I feel like the general public doesn't really understand it at all and finds it weird. wHEN I have the conversation about hijab with some muslims who don't agree with it they say
"it doesnt say in the Quran you have to wear it...why would you cover your hair? I agree with covering the body but why the hair?"
I don't know what to say to that. I chose to wear hijab, it was fully my choice SubhanAllah it was easy and I love it, don't get me wrong. But how do I deal with all these constant remarks? Especially the ones that my fellow muslims make?
Asalaamu Alaikum, My Sister don't worry about what other people and the world thinks of you wearing hijaab. Let them percieve you how they want for it is only because they do not understand. Try to explain it to them as best you can and then leave it. Remember your reward is not with them so it is not between you and them and it never was. For it is ONLY between you and Allah and your reward is with Allah and it is ONLY his commandments that your fulfilling and ONLY for him that are you wearing it for no one else.
Therefore do not ever get discouraged for wearing the hijaab as you are weaing it to pleae the one who created you. Also sister because you’re in a mixed school of young Muslims and Non Muslims then inevitably you will get some youngsters who may look at you out of curiosity because of a complete lack of understanding in regards to why you are wearing the hijaab and this is because what you are wearing is different from what they are used to seeing or able to comprehend and understand and a lot of the times people fear what they do not understand.
Therefore explain it as best you can to them in a simple manner and in a kind and gentle way and the leave the rest to them to look into for themselves. Do not get defensive or attack them for enquiring but if they get nasty or rude then ignore it once but if they do it again then inform the teachers and head as discrimination with regards to religious practice should NEVER be tolerated.
It is so unfortunate that even Muslim parents do not inform their children as to why the hijaab is worn. There does not seem to be much difference between Muslim and non Muslim children nowadays and this is a very sad state of affairs. But my sister this is all the more reason for you to be proud that Allah has given you the ability to wear the hijaab and to want to be modest.
My sister hold your head up high and be proud of who you are and your identity as a Muslim women so that others can look you and be inspired and inclined to look into Islam as well so that Allah may open their hearts to the truth! The best dawah (Inviting towards Islam) is good character and manners. Be proud of your identity as a Muslimah. Be proud to hold the banner of Islam where ever you go.
Those so called friends who are a bad influence and talk about boys or have boyfriends, gossip, backbite, lie, slander then completely let go of them from your life for they are not true friends at all. Their company is like poison for you. Just remember that a true friend is the one who will take you towards Paradise and the bad friend is the one who will lead you towards destruction so which friend will you choose? Bad friends will never be your true friends for they will stab you in the back one day if they get the chance. So never take them as friends but try to stick with good sisters who have good characters. Disregard the fakes and find true Muslimah's who are striving themselves and who will help you also to strive as a practising Muslimah.
My sister strive be closer to Allah and make the best of your youth for the worship of youth is the best worship one can do in ones life. But life is uncertain and we keep thinking to ourselves that we will live until old age or until we are old but this is not reality. If one was to go to a Muslim grave yard then one will clearly see Muslims who have died of all ages. Our life can end any second so we need to make the best of now in order to please Allah. Continue to wear your hijaab and be proud to represent yourself as a Muslim. Give dawah to others and if you invite them towards Allah with kindness then Allah may unseal their hearts inshallah and they may come towards Islam. The best speech is the speech of a person who invites towards Allah.
Put your full hopes, trust, faith and reliance upon Allah and always remember that you are doing this for him and be proud of that and show people that your proud to be a Muslimah!
Here is a short poem I found from a new Muslimah who wanted to express how proud she was wearing the hijaab:
As I get ready to go into the outside world
I look in the mirror
What do I see?
My beauty
Then I slip on the hijaab
Why?
I cover my outer beauty
So you take a look at my inner beauty
I step into the cruel and unjust society
Of this
"free" country
I look at avoiding eyes and stares
I hear whispering from every side
I think to myself
"i am not here to please everyone"
I am here to please Allah
Then I hold my head with the hijaab high
Allah has chosen this jihad for me to overcome
Yes this is my jihad
Here is an article which is very useful inshallah:
Hijaab is a woman's real beauty
It often occurs to me that many of our sisters in Islam are not properly encouraged once they begin to observe the requirements of Hijaab. It may be that a sister has been obliged to wear the Hijaab without truly pondering over its superiority.
Perhaps she has reached the age of puberty and her parents have instructed her to wear it. Perhaps she has recently accepted Islam and her close companions have told her of its obligation. Alternatively, perhaps her husband has commanded her to wear Hijaab.
A sister who does not truly know the superiority of Hijaab will always remain envious of disbelieving women. Why? Because they observe these misguided disbelievers attempting to look beautiful for all to see. Hence, the Muslim woman then compares herself to that woman which causes her to feel ashamed of her own Hijaab.
Therefore, what follows is a reminder for my sisters in Islam. It is a reminder of the true status of these so-called beautiful women. It is a reminder of the excellence of the women who wear Hijaab.
Excellent Qualities of Those who Wear Hijaab:
It is well known that the Muslim woman is a creature of modesty. Allaah loves for our Muslim women to be shielded by their Hijaab. It is their outer protection from the decadence of this life.
Allaah's Messenger , said: "Allaah is modest and covering. He loves modesty and privacy."
[Abu Daawood, An-Nasaa'i Al-Bayhaqi, Ahmad].
Thus, as modesty is a quality that is loved by Allaah, our sisters must take comfort in knowing that they are modest and that they are not like those women who show themselves off to the world. Such women will not be shielded from Allaah's Wrath.
Allaah's Messenger said: "Any woman who takes off her clothes in other than her husband's home, has broken Allaah's shield upon her."
[Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi)
Therefore, we see that the Hijaab of the Muslim woman is indeed part of modesty. Modesty accompanies Eemaan (faith).
That is why Allaah's Messenger said: "Modesty is part of Eemaan and Eemaan is in Paradise."
[At-Tirmithi]. Also: "Modesty and Eemaan are companions, when one goes away the other one goes away."
[Al-Haakim and others]
The Muslim women must know that the disbelieving women who beautify themselves for the world to see possess no modesty, thus, they are void of any Eemaan. Instead of looking to the latest fashion models for guidance, you must look to the wives of the Prophet .
Look at the regard for modesty that our mother, 'Aa'ishah possessed even in the presence of the deceased; she said: "I used to enter the room where the Messenger of Allaah and my father (Abu Bakr) were later buried in without having my garment on me, saying it is only my husband and my father. But when 'Umar bin al-Khattaab was later buried in (the same place), I did not enter the room except that I had my garment on being shy from 'Umar."
It can be quite difficult for the Muslim woman to go out wearing Hijaab in a society that mocks and torments her. Indeed, she may feel strange and out of place. However, if she knows the status of those who are mocked by the disbelievers, then she would continue to wear her Hijaab with dignity.
Allaah Says in His Book (what means): "Verily! The criminals used to laugh at those who believed. And whenever they passed them, used to wink at one another. And when they returned to their own people, they would return jesting. When they saw them, they said: 'These have indeed gone astray!' But they (disbelievers, sinners) had not been sent as watchers over them (the believers). But on this Day those who believe will laugh at the disbelievers. On (high) thrones, looking (at all things). Are not the disbelievers paid (fully) for what they used to do?"
[Quran 83:29-36]
Allaah's Words should serve as a support for you my dear sister. Also, take comfort in being a stranger among these lewd and sinful women. Allaah's Messenger said (what means): "Islam began as something strange, and it would revert to its (old position) of being strange, so good news is for the strangers."
[Muslim]
The Characteristics of the Exposed Women:
Instead of practicing the Hijaab (covering), the disbelieving women expose themselves, making a dazzling display of themselves for others. Such a display is an attribute of ignorance. Allaah Says in His Book (what means): "And stay in your houses and do not display yourselves as you used to during the times of ignorance."
[Quran 33:33]
Allaah's Messenger said: "The best of your women is the affectionate, the fertile, the comforting, the agreeable -- if they fear Allaah. The most evil of your women are those who expose and display themselves, and those who strut (to show off) and they are the hypocrites. Those who enter al-Jannah (the Paradise) are like the red beaked crow."
[Al-Bayhaqi]. The simile of the red-beaked crow is to show that those who enter Paradise will be as rare as this kind crow is rare.
We see from the above Aayah and Hadeeth that displaying oneself is indeed unlawful. Further, it is a quality of the most evil of women! Therefore, do not be envious of the disbelieving women. They only have this life to enjoy, while the believing women will have Paradise. There is nothing in your Hijaab to be ashamed of, as it is the garment of the righteous and pious female worshippers of Allaah.
In order to truly show you how evil those women who expose themselves are, let us ponder over the following statement of Allaah's Messenger : "Of the people of Hell there are two whom I have never seen, the one possessing whips like the tail of an ox and they flog people with them. The second one, women who would be naked in spite of their being dressed, who are seduced (to wrong paths) and seduce others. Their hair is high like the humps of the camel. These women would not enter Paradise, nor will they smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be sensed from such and such a distance."
[Muslim]
These women who expose themselves are common among us today. These are women that even the Prophet did not see! Look around you and you will see those women who are clothed but naked! Look at the hairstyles of the women who expose themselves -- are they not high like the camel's hump?
Perhaps we are the first generation since the time of Aadam(AS) to witness such women. If one ponders over photos taken thirty to fifty years ago, one will see that the disbelieving women did not expose themselves in the manner that their offspring do today! These women are among the people of the Fire! Thus, how can you envy them?
Such lewd women will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise; so our women must avoid their path.
Another lesson from the above hadeeth is that it confirms that what the Prophet (Pbuh), came with is indeed the truth! This is a prophecy that has come to pass in front of our very eyes. Hence, will we continue to envy these evil women, or should we be grateful to our Lord for the Hijaab, which brings modesty, which leads to Paradise?
To sum up, the Muslim woman should abandon all of the ways of the exposed women, and adopt the ways of those who are modest through their love and practice of the proper Islamic Hijaab.
By: Salaah Brooks
[Source: Hudaa Magazine]
I hope inshallah my post was of some benefit. Please remember me in your dua's and never hesitate to share anything you want with us or ask us any questions that you may have for we are here for you and as Muslims we are one!
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Here are some very beneficial lectures which you should listen to, to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:
Remembrance: ask Allah for his forgiveness
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-EK9r3rMzQ
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo
How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg
AMAZING short speech -"The Goodly Life"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fugf1DcNyc
If you need help, advice or anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask. Please remember me in your duas.
And Allah knows best in all matters