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anonymous
12-28-2010, 09:31 PM
Salam,
I have read that a muslim woman shouldn't call her husband by his name, as it shows disrespect.
How should you address your husband? any ideas, suggestions.
jazakhallah.
w'salam.
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Ansariyah
12-29-2010, 02:23 AM
:wa:

Where did u read that?

I dont see the disrespect in calling the husband by his own name. Is this something cultural? I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with Islam.=)

But if a wife wants to be sweet to her husband, i'm sure there are words she can use to do so.
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'Abd Al-Maajid
12-29-2010, 03:02 AM
I don't know what's wrong in calling a family member with his/her first name.

If you want to be more respectful towards your husband call him by his last name to be more polite you can use Mr. also with the last name. ;D Example: Mr. Khan, will you do the dishes for me, please. ;D
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أبو سليمان عمر
12-29-2010, 03:33 AM
Asalamu alaykum
My wife calls me by my first name somtimes and i dont mind a bit.. this mght be a culture thing that you mentioned Allah knows best
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Rafeeq
12-29-2010, 03:42 AM
It is culture, in asian countries, it is said like this. But there is no islamic restriction in it.
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Ramadhan
12-29-2010, 04:07 AM
It is definitely cultural.

it depends on the culture and it is up to the couple themselves to choose what names/terms they best call their spouse, which shows both endearments and respect.
Before having children, my mother called my father "mas" a term of endearment and respect in bahasa indonesia, referring to an older brother, not too dissimilar to "sweety" (but with a sense of respect). But after the children, my mum called him "pah" (a short of "papah" or "papa"), while my father called her "mah" (a short of "mamah" or "mama").
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ardianto
12-29-2010, 04:50 AM
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My sister,

Maybe there is no prohibition to call your husband only by his name. But from my knowledge, Aisha Radiallahu Anhu never said "Yaa Muhammad" to her husband. So, it's better if you don't call your husband only by his name.
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أبو سليمان عمر
12-29-2010, 05:02 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto
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My sister,

Maybe there is no prohibition to call your husband only by his name. But from my knowledge, Aisha Radiallahu Anhu never said "Yaa Muhammad" to her husband. So, it's better if you don't call your husband only by his name.
Naam akhi also non of the compains after accpeting islam called him Muhammed they called him rasool Allah or nabi for the reason of respect and the people who didnt accpet islam called him muhammad
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tigerkhan
12-29-2010, 08:29 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto
Aisha Radiallahu Anhu never said "Yaa Muhammad" to her husband
u r talking of Aysha RA, i heard ALLAH SWt also dont says ya Muhammad many times. only one or 2 time. its bcz ALLAH SWT love Prophet PBUH. SubhanALLAH , how much ALLAH SWT love us. it really so pleasuring... i
To us ALLAH SWT in one aya said, oh humans "which thing" had made u forgot Allah SWT (plz its not exact translation). Ulama says Allah SWT bcz of his love for we humans doesnot directly says y u had forgot me, a very karim RUB...u see the way of adressing, how much its loving.....like if some girls whos boyfriend is not giving attention to her and she say with extreme loving feeling;dear is there anyone else more loving/cute/beautiful than me............? wallah we cant imagine how much ALLAH SWT love all of us.
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Yanal
12-29-2010, 08:51 AM
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Insha'Allaah this should help:

Praise be to Allaah.*

Firstly:*

Yes, it was proven that some of the Sahaabiyaat (female Sahaabah) mentioned their husband by their kunyahs (“father of So and so”). Examples of that include the following.*

It was narrated that ‘Awn Abu Juhayfah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) established the bond of brotherhood between Salman and Abu’l-Dardaa’. Salmaan went to visit Abu’l-Dardaa’ and he saw Umm al-Dardaa’ looking unkempt. He said to her, “What is the matter with you?” She said, “Your brother Abu’l-Dardaa’ has no interest in this world.” Then Abu’l-Dardaa’ came (to visit Salmaan) and he made food for him, but he said, “I am fasting.” He said, “I will not eat until you eat.” So he ate. When night came, Abu’l-Dardaa’ went to stand in prayer. [Salmaan] said to him, “Go to sleep.” He slept a while, then he went to stand in prayer. [Salmaan] said to him, “Go to sleep.” When the end of the night came, Salmaan said to him, “Now get up.” They prayed, then Salmaan said “Your Lord has rights over you, your own self has rights over you and your family has rights over you. Give each one who has rights over you his rights.” [Abu’l-Dardaa’] came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)* and told him about that, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)* said, “Salmaan spoke the truth.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1832)*

It was narrated that Faatimah bint Qays said: My husband Abu ‘Amr ibn Hafs ibn al-Mugheerah ‘Ayyaash ibn Rabee’ah sent word to me, divorcing me, and he sent with it five wasa’ of dates and five wasa’ of barley. I said, “Do I have no maintenance apart from this, and should I not spend my ‘iddah in your house?” He said, “No.” I got dressed and went to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) . He said, “How many times has he divorced you (talaaq)?” I said, “Three.” He said, “He was right when he said that he does not have to spend on your maintenance.”

(Narrated by Muslim, 2721)*

*Secondly:*

With regard to a woman mentioning her husband by name, there is nothing wrong with that. For example:*

It was narrated that Zaynab, the wife of ‘Abd-Allaah (i.e., ibn Mas’ood) said: I was in the mosque and I saw the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He said, “Give in charity, even if it is from your jewellery.” Zaynab used to spend on ‘Abd-Allaah and on the orphans under her care. She said to ‘Abd-Allaah, “Ask the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) whether it is enough charity for me to spend on you and on the orphans under my care.” He said, “You go and ask the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).” So she went to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and found a woman from among the Ansaar at the door, with a similar question. [Zaynab said:] Bilaal passed by us and we said, “Ask the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) whether it is charity enough for me to spend on my husband and the orphans under my care. But do not tell him who we are.” He went in and asked him. (The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)) asked, “Who is it?” He said, “Zaynab”. He asked, “Which Zaynab?” He said, “The wife of ‘Abd-Allaah.” (The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)) said, “Yes, she will have two rewards, the reward of upholding the ties of kinship and the reward of charity.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1373; Muslim, 1667)*

It was narrated that Khuwaylah bint Maalik ibn Tha’labah said: “My husband Aws ibn al-Saamit divorced me by zihaar [saying “you are to me as my mother’s back”], so I came and complained to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) argued with me on his behalf and said, “Fear Allaah, for he is your cousin (son of your paternal uncle).” I did not leave before Allaah revealed the words (interpretation of the meaning):*

‘Indeed Allaah has heard the statement of her (Khawlah bint Tha‘labah) that disputes with you (O Muhammad) concerning her husband (Aus bin As‑Saamit),’

[al-Mujaadilah 58:1]

(Narrated by Abu Dawood, 1893; classed as saheeh by Ibn Hibbaan and al-Haakim. See Khalaasat al-Badr al-Muneer, 2/229)*

Thirdly:*

With regard to saying one’s husband’s or wife’s name in front of other people, that depends on local custom (‘urf) of the people in any given society. In some societies, doing that is disliked, and in some societies it may even be seen as a lack of gheerah (protective jealousy). In the hadeeth of Ibn Mas’ood mentioned above, Bilaal (may Allaah be pleased with him) mentioned the wife of Ibn Mas’ood by name (Zaynab). If a woman is well known by her name and it is OK for people other than her husband to mention her by name, then how about her husband?*

It is preferable to mention people by their kunyah rather than their names in some societies, or in front of some people. Many problems arise from taking the matter of mentioning people’s names lightly.*

And Allaah is the Source of strength.
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/13778
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Muhaba
01-03-2011, 08:09 AM
it is a cultural thing and personally i find it stupid. what should you call your husband whom you have to live with for the rest of your life if you don't call him by his name. of course you can use words like darling and honey but 1. you can't do that all the time. 2. you can't do it infront of all people. so what should you say when you want to call his attention? "excuse me, uh excuse me" or tap him on the shoulder every time or what???
there's nothing disrespectful in usinghis first name.
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ardianto
01-03-2011, 10:22 AM
To brother Abu Sulayman Umar and brother Tiger Khan

Jazak Allahu Khayran.
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Ramadhan
01-04-2011, 04:46 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by أبو سليمان عمر
Naam akhi also non of the compains after accpeting islam called him Muhammed they called him rasool Allah or nabi for the reason of respect and the people who didnt accpet islam called him muhammad
No one called prophet Muhammad SAW by his first name only, isn't it because he was a prophet and Rasul of Allah?

I'd like to know if prophet SAW actually prohibited a wife of a sahaba called her husband by the first name only.

Any hadiths?
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