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anonymous
01-07-2011, 12:19 PM
Salaam

It is said that Allah wont forgive us for backbiting until the victim does -
i want to know how you can ask for forgivness for those people you will probably never see again -

or even if you do see them and you dont have the confidence to say anything cos they are not that islamic and wont get it -

can you send them anaymous text messages asking for forgiveness

what if you have just started recently practicing islam and have asked god to forgive you for you past and you want to start afresh -
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أبو سليمان عمر
01-08-2011, 02:34 AM
Hope this Helps

Is it obligatory to seek forgiveness of the person you have gossiped about?

Praise be to Allaah.

The correct view –and Allaah knows best – is that he should not tell him that he has gossiped about him if he does not know; it is sufficient just to ask Allaah for forgiveness for the sin and to ask for forgiveness for his brother to counteract the harm caused by his gossiping about him.

There follow some of the scholars’ opinions on this matter:

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mecy on him) said in his book al-Adhkaar (2/845, Baab Kafaarat al-Gheebah wa’l-Tawbah minhaa – Chapter on the expiation for backbiting and repenting from it): “Know that everyone who commits a sin must hasten to repent from it. Repentance in the case of a sin involving the rights of Allaah (i.e., in which no other person is affected) requires the following three conditions:

He must give up the sin immediately

He must regret what he has done

He must resolve not to do it again.

With regard to repentance from a sin that affects the rights of other people, these three conditions are also required, and to them is added a fourth: he must restore to people what is due to them and settle the matter, or else ask for forgiveness and find a way to relieve himself of this burden of sin.

The repentance of the backbiter must meet these four conditions, because backbiting or gossip affects other people, so he has to seek the forgiveness of the person about whom he gossiped.

Is it sufficient for him to say: ‘I gossiped about you so please forgive me’, or does he have to tell him what he said about him?

The companions of al-Shaafa’i, may Allaah have mercy on them, had two views:

The first was that he has to tell him, because if he forgives him without being told what was said, it does not count, as in the case of forgiving someone with regard to an unknown amount of money.

The second was that he does not have to tell him, because this is something that can be forgiven, so he does not have to tell him what he said, unlike the case with money.

The first view is more correct, because a person could forgive some type of gossip but not others.

If the person about whom you gossiped is dead or is not present, it is not possible to ask him for forgiveness, but the scholars said: you should pray a lot for him to be forgiven, and make du’aa’ for him, and do lots of good deeds.

Know that the person who was spoken about should forgive him for that, but he does not have to, because this is a voluntary giving up of one's rights. The choice is up to him, but it is strongly encouraged (mustahabb) for him to forgive him, so that his Muslim brother may be relieved of the consequences of his sin and he himself may attain a great reward from Allaah and the love of Allaah. (This was the view of al-Shaafa’i)
Ibn Muflih said in al-Aadaab al-Shara’iyyah (1/9): “It was said that if the person who was wronged by the gossip knows about it (then you cannot do anything about that), otherwise you should make du’aa’ for him and pray for forgiveness, but he should not be told. Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen mentioned that this was the view of the majority.

More than one scholar said: if a person who slandered or gossiped about another repents before the person comes to know about it, is it a condition of his repentance that he should tell the person and ask for his forgiveness? There are two views.

Al-Qaadi said that he does not have to do that, because of the reports narrated by Abu Muhammad al-Khallaal with his isnaad from Anas, and attributed to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Whoever backbites about a man then asks for forgiveness for him, his backbiting will be forgiven” and “The kafaarah (expiation) of the one who gossips about another is that he should ask for forgiveness for him.” These two ahaadeeth are not saheeh in their transmission from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Another reason is that by telling the person what was said, this may make him hate him. Al-Qaadi said: this is not permissible. This was also the view of Shaykh Abd al-Qaadir.

Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said in his book Bahjat al-Majaalis: “Hudhayfah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The kafaarah (expiation) of the one who gossips about another is that he should ask for forgiveness for him.” ‘Abd-Allaah ibn al-Mubaarak said to Sufyaan ibn ‘Uyaynah: the repentance for backbiting is that you should pray for forgiveness for the one you gossiped about. Sufyaan said: rather you should ask for forgiveness for what you said about him. Ibn al-Mubaarak said: do not hurt him twice. Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen ibn al-Salaah al-Shaafa’i also said in his Fataawa something like that which was said by Ibn al-Mubaarak.

After mentioning these two reports on this issue, Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen said: “Any talk about a person’s honour is either truthful gossip or a fabricated lie. In either case it is slander, because if slander is true then it is gossip and if it is not true then it is a false accusation.”

Our companions were of the opinion that he should not tell him; rather he should make du’aa’ for him which will be a good deed towards him, to make up for his wrongdoing towards him, as was stated in the reports.
It is clear that what Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said about telling the person hurting him twice makes sense, and that there is the fear that it could lead to conflict, hatred and a breakdown of the relationship between them. And Allaah knows best.


Reference: Masaa’il wa rasaa’il by Muhammad al-Mahmoud al-Najdi, p. 61.
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Hamza Asadullah
01-22-2011, 02:10 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous
Salaam

It is said that Allah wont forgive us for backbiting until the victim does -
i want to know how you can ask for forgivness for those people you will probably never see again -

or even if you do see them and you dont have the confidence to say anything cos they are not that islamic and wont get it -

can you send them anaymous text messages asking for forgiveness

what if you have just started recently practicing islam and have asked god to forgive you for you past and you want to start afresh -
Asalaamu Alaikum, jazakallahu khayran for your question, Rather than send anonymous text just send everyone you know texts saying that you want to go towards Islam and closer to Allah and that you want to ask everyone for forgiveness that you have ever hurt, offended, slandered or backbitten against or if you have ever not fulfilled the rights of a person. This will surely be seen positively by all of the people you know and it is an honourable thing to do.

Also you should ask all of your family to forgive you for the same reasons above especially your parents. This is soemthing we should all do because a lot of the times we do not even notice who we have backbitten against or slandered and who's rights we have not fulfilled etc. So asking everyone we know for forgiveness is something we should all do at least once a year becaue we don't know when death will come upon us and if it does then it will be too late to put wrongs right. The time to put any wrongs that we have done right is now. So let us act now inshallah.

Also if there are people you may have backbitten, slandered etc that you are not in contact with and it is not possible for you to locate them then you should also regularly pray for their forgiveness and ask Allah to pardon you as well.

And Allah knows best in all matters
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