Originally Posted by tigerkhan
Asalaamu Alaikum, jazakallahu khayran brother for sharing your thoughts with us. Our whole life is a trial and test and we will be judged on the day of judgement on the choices we made and what was in our hearts in whatever choices we made in life. None of us can expect to cruise into Paradise but we will be rigorously tested. The sweetness of the rewards of what we achieved in this world will truly be felt in Paradise when we will talk to one another about the great trials we went through in our life on earth.
Our life will always be full of ups and downs. We will be tested according to what we can bare. Many of us treat tests as "bad luck" or "misfortune". Many also view it as a "curse" or someones done "blackmagic" to cause such adversity. But what we don't realise is that trial and hardship is a blessing in disguise and may even be better for us:
" Do not detest the misfortunes that befall you, for what you detest may be the cause of your salvation and what you like may be the cause of your ruin." Al-Hasan Al-Basree
Time is the best healer so through time we will learn to adapt and deal with whatever stress, hardship and trial we went through:
‘Ali ibn al-Husayn narrated from his grandfather the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), who said:
“There is no Muslim who is afflicted by a calamity and when he remembers it, even if it was in the dim and distant past, he says Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi raaji’oon (verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return), but Allah will give him a reward like that of the day when it befell him.”
Some people have bigger trials than others and it maybe that a person who went through life with so many great trials and was patient through it relying on Allah and putting their trust in him would face Allah with little or no sins. So patience and reliance in Allah through trials and hardships are the best ways to get closer to Allah aswell as gain high ranks of Paradise as well as face Allah with little or no sins.
Although we should all marry as soon as we can to safe guard ourselves against our carnal desires and complete half of our imaan I can assure you that trials and hardships do not end once a person is married. A marriage is not easy and requires a lot of hardwork. You may look at a married couple or anyone for that matter and think "They look happy and content" but we do not know what they are going through in their marriage or in their lives. We can only see from the outside not the inside.
One does not know what trials will come in ones life. We may be happy one day and the next day struck with such a great trial. We do not know what is decreed for us but we can prepare for whatever comes our way by building up our imaan and strengthening it as well as striving to get closer to Allah.
So we should do everything in everyday of our lives ONLY to please Allah and get closer to him and to refrain from anything that angers or displeases him. We should make the best of every second and put our reliance, trust, faith and hopes in Allah and ALWAYS accept his decree and then we will NEVER feel alone or let down no matter what we go through in life.
No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah's decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere it will never come your way but if it is yours by destiny from you it cannot flee. (Umar Ibn al-Khattab Radiyallahu Anhu)
And Allah knows best in all matters