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@ muhaba .... jazakallaahu khairan, our local imam comes to my place and i recite to him as i am still studying; cant join a full time madrasa. And i am a indian(culture wise)
@Qatada.... jazakallaahu khairan, i have applied for membership on that site, insha allaah it would be beneficial.
@ Ukti Amat Allaah, jazakalaahu kharain, May Allaah accept your dua's. I understand that shaytan is trying his best to get the better of me. I try to fight him+nafs by Allaahs help, but there comes a point then i just give up. May Allaah renew and strengthen our eemaan. I had told my parents regarding getting married, they still consider me small and i have an elder sister, so first we are looking for her marriage then mine. May Allaah keep me steadfast on his deen, turning to Him Alone and make things easy for All of us. I recalled this verse,
Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried?
But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars.
[29:2-3]. May Allaah give us strength to be true to his deen and enter it completely.
Wa 'alaykum as salaamu wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh,
Asalaamu Alaikum, Jazakallahu khayran for sharing your issue with us. What you are going through is one of the biggest tests for the Muslim youth.
Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
“Although marriage is generally considered a highly recommended act, yet from the point of view of fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence)—because of diverse circumstances—it can readily fall into one of the four categories listed below:
Fard (obligatory) or
mustahabb (recommended) or
haram (forbidden) or simply
halal (permitted).
1. Marriage is considered
fard (obligatory) if a person is so tormented by sexual desire that he/she fears falling into the sin of fornication. Since staying away from fornication is obligatory, and since marriage is the only avenue for legitimate sexual satisfaction, it becomes obligatory on such a person to get married. This is based on the principle in jurisprudence that says: “If an obligatory thing cannot be fulfilled except by fulfilling another, then fulfilling the latter becomes equally obligatory.”
2. If, however, he or she is not so tormented by sexual desire, and, hence, there is no fear of falling into sin, then it is highly recommended to get married if one has the means to do so. By doing so, one is fulfilling one of the great Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), our perfect role model.
3. If a person knows for certain that he or she cannot fulfill the duties required in marriage, and there is no fear of his/her falling into sin, then it becomes
haram for such a person to get married. Islam forbids us from doing injustice to another person; this would definitely be the case if one were to neglect his/her spousal duties.
4. If a person has no means to marry and is, therefore, incapable of fulfilling his spousal duties, but has strong desire, it is permitted for him to get married—provided he tries earnestly to seek an honest source of living. Allah has promised to help such a person. We must also add here a further note that the Muslim community has a duty to assist such people until such time that they become self-reliant.
If, however, no such measures are available, and a person finds himself unable to fulfill his spousal duties, he is advised to curb his desires through the discipline of fasting and other acts of sublimation.”
Read more:
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...#ixzz1COrPbw8s
Therefore my brother have a very seriously talk with your parents and be open and honest with them that you feel that the time is right for you to get married and that Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) encouraged the youth to marry early soon after puberty.
Tell them that you will only do the nikah for now and the rest like walima etc can be done at a later stage. At least this way you will safeguard yourself because these desires get stronger with age as they are a natural desire which can only really be suppressed by marriage. Other things like fasting can alleviate the desires a little but you need a solution which will enable you to complete half of your imaan and protect you against major sin.
You can do hifdh part time or at a later stage. Even if you just do nikah that will not affect you if you wanted to do your hifdh. But if your desires are too much then your priority is to marry as soon as possible.
Do isthikhara and talk to your parents and see if you can come to a comprimise. Ask of Allah in all of yuor dua's especially in the latter part of the night at Tahajjud time to help you to be strong against these desires and for him to help you get married as soon as possible if it is best for you.
I pray that whatever is best for you will happen inshallah. Ameen
And Allah knows best in all matters