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جوري

03-06-2011, 09:39 PM

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When You Find Out You Are a Gay

My world was so confused as I kept asking myself why men marry women when in fact, they love men?
Editor's note: This is the true story of an ex-homosexual man. It is published here with the author's kind permission.

I was born in a devout Muslim family. All my family members keep the five daily prayers, fast in the month of Ramadan, and observe all the Islamic teachings and rituals. My parents performed Hajj in the 1970s. There are 14 of us in the family. I am the 11th and the last son of a 5-brother and 9-sister family. I am close to my sisters and my mother compared to my brothers. My father passed away when I was 10.

I felt attracted to guys when I was young. Maybe the feeling developed when I was 10 years old. At 14, I knew that I would not want to get married as I was not attracted to women. I thought of how I would face my brothers and sisters when they all would get married and I would stay single.
My world was so confused as I asked myself why men marry women when in fact they love men. Then I realized that it was only me who felt that way. I was never abused by anyone. I still have no clue why it affected me.

Same Sex Experience

Last March, while reading Qur'an after Fajr Prayer, I prayed in my heart that Allah gives me a female companion. I wanted to stop all thisSomehow, time passed by so fast and I had to face the reality that I will stay single forever. Luckily, some of my brothers and sisters got married when I was studying in the US. When I finished my degree, I stayed in Kuala Lumpur away from my family. Therefore, I could escape from the marriage questions.

My first SSE (Same-Sex Experience) started during college days. It continued after completing my studies when I settled back in Kuala Lumpur. It went further as my work took me to the Middle East. During these times, I still continued with my prayers. Sometimes, I felt so shy to face Allah during prayer as I just had sex earlier. Sometimes, I waited till the next day.

Although my career grew, I felt turbulence in life. My career did not go as smoothly as I wanted it to. My life was empty and my emotions were unstable as I kept changing partners. Then, I read a hadith about those committing sodomy.

Two years ago, I was out of work. I thought that was the worst time of my life when in fact it was the best time ever. I started reading the translation of the Qur'an. The imam in a mini mosque read hadiths (from the collection of Imam An-Nawawi) every morning after Fajr Prayer (Arabic for: Dawn Prayer). I now realize how these hadiths have shaped my life and my thinking.
I also read Prophet Muhammad's (peace and blessings be upon him) biography and the biographies of the 10 Companions who were promised Paradise. These stories moved me.
Even with all this, I still continued with my SSE, as bad habits die hard.

During my 6-month out-of-work period, Allah taught me how to surrender to Him. When I was hungry with no food to eat, Allah sent people offering me to eat with them. I did not have to ask Allah for this. He read me well. I was glad.
Surrendering to Allah is the turning point of my life. Reading the translation of the Qur'an has changed my perception of thinking and looking at this world. I read the book Road to Mecca by Muhammed Assad. I felt like a totally new Muslim.

Even with all this, I was still having SSE.

Words from Prophet Lut to his people kept me thinking. "Take my daughters for your wife. May you will find peace." I smiled sarcastically as I know these people were not interested in women, how could he offer his daughters? But then again, these are a prophet's words. There must be some truth in them.

Last March, while reading Qur'an after Fajr Prayer, I prayed in my heart that Allah gives me a female companion. I wanted to stop all this. I felt tired of my life, felt like every time I was climbing ladders to reach to the highest level of faith, I fell down when I had a SSE.

Getting Married

Allah gave me a wife who fulfilled 9 out of 10 on my checklistWith my companion, I could channel my sexual desire according to Islam. Within a week, Allah sent someone who wanted to introduce me to her auntie. (I said in my heart: An auntie?) I said, "OK if I have the time." Then the lady was brought to me in the same evening. There was not much conversation except that she said that her favorite journey is from her house to the masjid. That was the last word we spoke before I adjourned to surau for my `Asr Prayer (Arabic for: Afternoon Prayer).

After the first meeting, we contacted each other via text messages. She asked me "Why didn't I get married?" I was a bit stunned and replied with all sorts of excuses. Then I resent to inform that in fact I did not get married because I was born homosexual. After a week of text messaging, I asked her if that it was OK to let my mom know about us and I found the right person. She said "OK." Within three months, we were married in a small ceremony.

Allah gave me a wife. She fulfilled 9 out of 10 on my checklist. I told her the one she did not fulfill is that she is a woman, not a man. She smiled. Allah offered me the qualities in her as if I spelled out my checklist. Allah knows me too well and knows what makes me happy.

During the three months that I knew her (before marriage), I did not feel attracted to her, I did not feel the arousal when I was with her. Nor does she toward me. I surrendered to Allah alone as I read in the Qur'an that He is the One Who showers the love feeling.
I prayed to Allah to shower us with love and make me feel aroused with her. True enough, Allah accepted my plea.

During the process of knowing my wife, I stumbled upon straight struggle Yahoo! groups based in the UK that cater for Muslims who face Same Sex Attraction (SSA) all over the world. I shared my life experience and my successful story with the groups. I am glad that I paved the way and encouraged some to take the first step to get married and counter the fear of first-night marriage.
In sha' Allah, my small contribution will lead to many successful heterosexual marriages in the future. Amen.

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...ture/ACELayout

Neelofar

03-06-2011, 10:17 PM

i'm not knowledgeable in this area either.. but i do have one thing to ask you of.. STOP participating in sexual relations :) and lower your gaze. Don't worry about other Muslim men who are gay.. first concentrate on yourself and have firm intention and faith to change. Inshallah someone more knowledgeable on this topic will help you.

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aadil77

03-06-2011, 10:45 PM

this guy is hilarious, do any on you lot think he's muslim? he probably is gay tho

جوري

03-06-2011, 10:56 PM

Originally Posted by aadil77

this guy is hilarious, do any on you lot think he's muslim? he probably is gay tho

well the having sex with gay muslim 'priests' was amusing if anything.. nonetheless we advise for the sake of all that is good..

:w:

Woodrow

03-07-2011, 12:49 AM

For tne moment let us set aside the issue of your homosexuality. One sin is you have been having sexual relations with someone who is not your wife. This is a issue even heterosexual people have.

You do have a difficult temptation to overcome, but this temptation is no greater than the temptation many heterosexual men face.

Like all men you are faced with sinful temptations, we each may have different temptations but to give into any temptation is a sin and facing these temptations is a very difficult trial.

Pray for strength and guidance in forsaking all temptations. Learn how to gain better impulse control.

Since you know the difficulty it is to avoid temptaions, Pray that Allaah(swt) will help you avoid the situations in which you will face these temptations.

- Qatada -

03-07-2011, 07:42 AM

:salamext:

http://gaymuslims.org/ - islamic advice for gay muslims.

hopeonallah

03-07-2011, 07:38 PM

I am extremely sorry for disagree with you . I am not at all happy being a gay . second thing still I am not a Muslim . How do I think being a gay and stay as a True Muslim . Islam never accept gay . I wish, I could be a true Muslim then definitely I would not be a gay . That is what Islam says . But the fact is there are many gay who are Muslim .
But I really and truly believe the wonderful great book is Quran only. And I also believe Mohammad is the greatest person in this world. And I dont think any body will come to this world which is greater then Mohammad .
Mohammad has provided solutions of all type of problems which are available in this world except homosexuality according to me . But again I believe its my foul in my search that, I didn't get solution about homosexuality . I don't think Mohammad has missing it . I am the person who is not able to find out . That is why I am here .Trust me , nothing can stop my search except death. Trust me I will not accept homosexuality is a normal , even if the entire world consider it as a normal because its prohibited in the Quran .

cat eyes

03-07-2011, 08:08 PM

i hope u get cured for your disease inshallah because thats exactly what u have is a disease

marwen

03-07-2011, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by

I didn't get solution about homosexuality

What solution do you want to find ? The solution is : Stop it by any means.

Look bro, if you really don't wont to be gay, just stop being gay, it's up to you.
I'm sure you know many things about your self better than all of us, but you must understand that no one is gay by nature : you chose to act as a gay, or you can stop doing these acts and be straight.

As for Islam, it says that you should stop this behaviour, but how you do it, it's up to you. It's like you stop drinking alcohol. Islam says you should stop drinking it, but how you will get over drinking it's up to you : you can join clean communities, do prayer, change your environment or your friends etc.

hopeonallah

03-07-2011, 09:16 PM

my dear friend " MARWEN " , Its very easy to say stop it . Do you think telling stop can make it real stop . If its so easy then you could not have seen any gay in this world .If some one say " Oh! you have brain cancer ; you are feeling pain , why your feeling pain ; why you have brain cancer ? Don't have brain cancer then don't feel pain " . This sounds is very funny . I can give you one more example : If some one say to a poor man ; why you wary about your daughter's study ? If he reply because he does not have money for it . Then ' I hope your respond should not be like this such as " why you are poor ; why don't you stop become poor ; why don't you become rich ; what solution you want ? you should become rich your problem will be solve automatically .

Here I would like to tell you one universal truth ; that is , Not giving any suggestion is better then making fun on it .

For your kind information Islam not only for DO and DON'T , Islam has provided the way how to achieve those DO and DON'T .

Thank you .

جوري

03-07-2011, 09:28 PM

Greetings hope,

have you read the story in post # 4 and taken a look at the link Br. Qatada provided?
I must disagree with you on the notion that you can't stop it, for the simple reason that love and sex are two separate issues.. where you are free to love, you're not free to act on it in an unlawful manner.. anyone who has ever been in love and couldn't be with their love understands that feeling all too well so it isn't exclusive to homosexuals.. question is how to live with those miserable feelings? Giving up something you love for your love of God will grant you rewards beyond your expectations though you may perceive it not..

all the best

marwen

03-07-2011, 09:43 PM

First I ask Allah to help you solve all your problems. I just want to reply to your post, because I think you have a lot of misconceptions, and I think that's why you find it hard to come over this problem. Mainly because you think it's your destiny to be like that and you can do nothing to it.

Originally Posted by

If its so easy then you could not have seen any gay in this world

That's mainly because most of them don't think they are wrong or they want to stay like that, not because they don't want and they can't.

Originally Posted by

.If some one say " Oh! you have brain cancer ; you are feeling pain , why your feeling pain ; why you have brain cancer ? Don't have brain cancer then don't feel pain " . This sounds is very funny . I can give you one more example : If some one say to a poor man ; why you wary about your daughter's study ? If he reply because he does not have money for it . Then ' I hope your respond should not be like this such as " why you are poor ; why don't you stop become poor ; why don't you become rich ; what solution you want ? you should become rich your problem will be solve automatically .

All the examples you metioned are good. But they are different from this subject. Being gay is behaviour not a destiny. It's your own actions that define if you act as a gay or not. You can stop your actions, it's difficult for some people to stop a habit or a desire or an attraction, but it's not impossible. Not like a poor who can't be rich.

Originally Posted by

For your kind information Islam not only for DO and DON'T , Islam has provided the way how to achieve those DO and DON'T .

The main key for your problem is to make a courageous decision that you want to stop and you don't like to stay in that bad way. Second, you should close any door that takes to that sin again : like quiting bad friends, trying to change your ambiance.

Seriously bro, you're asking for something really unthinkable. For example if Islam tells you you shouldn't kill an innocent person, will you ask if Islam gives also a way how to not kill this person? come on.

S.Belle

03-07-2011, 10:13 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I am extremely sorry for disagree with you . I am not at all happy being a gay . second thing still I am not a Muslim . How do I think being a gay and stay as a True Muslim . Islam never accept gay . I wish, I could be a true Muslim then definitely I would not be a gay . That is what Islam says . But the fact is there are many gay who are Muslim .

Islam was sent to mankind (including homosexuals) your homosexual actions are haraam but to have desires is not haraam in fact if that was the case then we all should be on our knees at this moment begging to Allah to forgive us. We are judged on our intentions if you have the intention in you heart to please Allah and to try to be a good muslim then you will be judged/rewarded by that intention no matter what your sexuality is Allah does not discriminate and judges people according to their actions.

Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said : “Allah has forgiven my Ummah of the whisperings of their souls so long as they do not talk about it or act accordingly.”

take this into account bro and dont act out your homosexual desires and pray to Allah to help and guide you for His mer.

I know someone who is muslim and gay and the experiences that they have shared with me how their own bro/sisters in Islam have treated them sickens me and in my personally opinion instead of criticizing their desires some of us should be helping them bc as a muslim that is one of the rights that they have over us.

hopeonallah

03-08-2011, 12:10 PM

Thank you for reply me , my dear friend " Marwen "

Yes Islam has given the solution " how to not kill innocent person " . Its a different issue that you don't have knowledge about it .
Do you think , Islam has those solution ; whichever you know only ? My dear friend this is one of the biggest general problem of human being that, human being think what they know that is only true . what ever other know that is does not exist.
But a true Muslim never believe superstition . A true Muslim believe in prove . Here I don't want to talk some other issue rather then my main topic . If you really want to know " How to not killing innocent people " then post a topic from your sides , God willing I will try to reply you .
thank you .

tigerkhan

03-09-2011, 03:42 AM

i suggest u, if u r not muslim , then study and search islam. if Allah swt open ur heart for islam, i am hopeful that the light of eman is such a great power in islam that its wake up person in cold morning from its bed, then he make wudu with cold water and go to masjid even in snow. eman make it easy for a person to leave his desires and addictions (no matter how intense they are) and follow the commandment.

Amat Allah

03-09-2011, 05:17 AM

Allah says:"Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. " Surat Arra`ad

My respected brother start to change yourself and Allah will help ya by His willing and mercy...

what are you waiting for? believe me saying : I can`t, its hard, I don`t know how...etc; won`t ever help you , those words are for losers and you are not one of them, don`t disappoint yourself by convincing yourself about these things and by leting satan fool ya...you are much stronger than that...as long as you have the flame of repentance desire then take all the chances you are getting and learn how to hold yourself back and face difficulties...

it is not enough to say that you want to change cause words are nothing like deeds and Stop is not hard but satan is harden it for ya...you can stop just try...whenever you are about to do those bad things remind yourself of Allah Al Mighty Who Is seeing you doing them and think what if death comes ? what if I died? what to do and say when I stand before Allah in the Day of Judgement? what are your excuses? what force ya to do this while you know that Allah Is watching? haven`t you had many chances to change? haven`t you lived so long to rethink of your deeds of the purpose of being alive? Is what you are doing is the purpose of living of being created? are you a slave of Allah or this worldly life? what is more difficult leaving those things you do or the torment of Hellfire?....ask yourself, think deeply and remind yourself...

the first you improve your relationship with Allah; you will see wonders and then the changes will happen and be occurred ...

return to your Lord, get closer to Him and be a good slave to Him and then you will find what you are seeking for and more...

Allah waits for His slaves to return to Him in repentance Allah always calling: Is there someone to ask me my forgiveness so I forgive him? Is there someone who wants to repent so I accept his repentance?...then why are you away from the Most Merciful..?

never look back ever, change everything, everyone and every place that would remind you of your problem...try your best sincerely and you will see in shaa Allah...

you need to know your way to Allah then His guidance will know its way to you by His Willing...

you are in our prayers my respected brother in shaa Allah...

May Allah ease everything for ya and guide your way always and forever Ameeeen

please take care of yourself...

Humbly, your sister no matter who you are and what you are:

Amat Allah.

hopeonallah

03-10-2011, 06:02 AM

thank you my dear sister " Amat Allah "
I guess you are the first Muslim person who talk to me such a nice way . God will surely give you heaven .
I want to share a wonderful thing with you . I don't know how much I am right or sure about it . the mater is I was studying the translation of surah HUD as I don't know Arabic . I have seen a sign at that surah; about how to over come from homosexuality . I don't know how much I am right . But I am applying that sign on my self . And I am feeling some change . I don't know its the true change or my false feeling . No doubt Allah always listen to true Muslim. No doubt you people are all true Muslims . and also no doubt you people are prying for me . I hope Allah is listening to you so that, I may got that secret sign which can help me to over come from homosexuality .

I want to share one more thing , I face many problem . you know I stay alone since I was 14 years . I always crying because I have the mountain of problem . And the interesting thing is I always overcome from my problems no mater how tough it is . I pray, I cry to Allah . You may not believe me one miracle was happen with me , it was the exam time . I didn't study properly . my exam was very close it only 6 days remaining . I was crying a lot to Allah . And after all I start study . within that period memorizing was far thing simple reading the whole subject was very tough within the 6 days . But any how I just finished the reading only , i didn't memorize . believe me all answer was common , I was surprise because I was just simply answering my questions, and I thought my hand is automatically moving to the right answer without using my brain . " Now hold your breath " . You cant believe it I scored 1000 out of 1000.
Allah is great .....

Amat Allah

03-10-2011, 11:43 AM

You are very welcome at anytime my respected brother...May Allah lead your way to His path of peace and real endless happiness Ameeeeen

why not to believe you while I as a Muslim and slave of Allah The Exalted believe that Allah Is The All-Hearer and All-Seer...why not to believe you while I feel I know and believe that when Allah decrees a matter, He only says to it: "Be!" - and it is.

and Allah The Creator of everything; Is The One Who decides if He wants to accept someone`s prayer or not; not us who know not what in Allah`s inner-self while He does know what in ours...and none of us knows what Allah plans for us or this world...we are His slaves and shall remain His servant and slaves no matter what...

when you return to Allah then be sure that He Is listening and when you take one step to Allah; He will take many and when you walk to Him; He runs to you...then why to be called and named The Most Merciful and Most Compassionate if He Is not? all Praise and Glory be to Allah...

I am not surprised cause I allready saw so much of Allah`s wonders and mercy on earth for everyone not only Muslims cause we are all His creatures not only Muslims my respected brother...

return to Allah in everything my brother..when you are happy thank Him and praise Him when you are sad return to Him and ask Him for His help and support and when you sin ask His forgiveness and His guidance ask Him for what ever you want and always remember that you are the slave of the Most Generous The Most Merciful always...

May Allah show you the way and help ya to be His true slave and give you the best of this life and of the Hereafter Ameeeeeeeen

take care of yourself and never give up cause when everyone in this earth turn away from you and gives you their backs then remember that you have Allah the Only One Who can benefits you and gives you what you wish for and the Only One Who listens to you till the end and knows you from inside and have all the perfect answers for you because He Is The Perfect One, ok?

Indeed, laa ilaha illa Allah.

May Allah be with you Ameeeeeeen

With all my respect, your sister:

Amat Allah.

hopeonallah

03-10-2011, 08:59 PM

My dear sister " Amat Allah " ,
assalamu aliQum .

I have very limited knowledge about Islam . And many doubt about Islam . But I love Islam from my inside and I disbelieve too . Very frequently I lost my believe . But I want constant believe in Islam . What to do for it ?
1 ). For my problems I went to church , temple and many pleases which are Allah don't like . I went to mosque . Am I became qafir now ?
2 ) since few days I stop going gym because I find difficult to control my gay feeling . Did I take right action ?
3 ) I start going mosque for Salah . I don't sleep whole night because I may lost the Jamat of Fajar .
4) I found enjoying Salah . But the problem is there are many handsome guys are coming to the mosque for salah . You know what I do ! I dont look at their face , I just enter the mosque and I keep my gaze in lower . I just keep watching floor only . My question is : Am I enjoying Salah Because I love Allah Or many guys are there in the mosque Or I am not feeling lonely , some one ( Allah) is there for take caring me ? Which is the actual reason ?

I need your more help . You can suggest me any lawful thing which can help me to over come from my Sin ...
Can you inform me that , which are the Quranic verse are talking about LUT (PBUH ) " I know only Surah HUD " . It will be more helpful for me If you give me a link of those verse in English translation .

Your brother . sorry for not mentioned my name .
Bangalore .

Hamza Asadullah

03-11-2011, 02:56 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Sir / Madam,

Assala mu aliqum...

I am extremely sorry for not to disclose my name . I am a male . my age is 32 years . I am a Gay . As far my knowledge from child hood I feel attraction towards to male only . I have countless no of encounter with guys . But I do not want to be a gay . Its not my choice . I am help less . I try a lot but every time I fail . I know according to Islam its a Sin. I had sex with Islamic priest also . I had sex with many general Muslim people along with non Muslim people . I fond its a very common practice among the all type of males. I did fasting every alternative day for years . but no answer . I have been taking treatment from many psychiatrist since I aware that I am a gay( more then 15 years) . Still I am under treatment by psychiatrist; continuously since 2003 , But the surprise thing is all the psychiatrist are giving me counseling about accepting my sexual orientation that is homosexuality . Including Muslim psychiatrist .

I heard homosexuality is prohibited in the Quran and sahi Hadid . As per my survey Islam has all solution for the life then, why not in homosexuality ? I had sex with many Muslim married guy; that is the reason I do not believe the marriage is the solution for homosexuality . And still I am not married .

I do active role on bed , means I am top on bed ( I am not passive means I am not bottom on bed ). I do not act like a girl . I am handsome and muscular behave . In general people may think gays are act like a girl, but its not true at all . most of the gays are not act like a girl . there are very few gay people who act like a girl .

honestly speaking I am not happy . I do not want to live a gay life . I want to live a straight life . I do not want to go to hell . I hate my life . I tried to do suicide many times but I fail . Now I am thinking homosexuality is one of the biggest sin as well as suicide also . So, two wrong thing cant make correct a wrong . Then what to do ? I can not stop my homosexual feeling . What to do ?

Do u know any solution regarding my problem ? Do you know any psychiatrist who is giving treatment for reorientation within a reasonable price ? Can you ask to Allah for make me a normal human ? I am too tired . kindly help me . Its my request for Allah sake kindly help me .

from : I am sorry for not to disclose my name .
from : India . Bangalore.

Asalaamu Alaikum, jazakallahu khayran for having the courage to share your issues with us. Please e mail the following organisation as they specialise in helping and supporting Muslims who are going through what you are going through with regards to attraction to the same sex.

Al_Tawbah@yahoo.com

Hope that helps inshallah. Meanwhile my brother know that Allah is with you so strive to be closer to him and beg of him to help you with this matter. Surely this is a test for you so be patient and continue to persevere. Never give up hope for that is what shaythan wants. Allah is wanting you closer to him so do everything in your daily life to please him and refrain from anything which angers or displeases him.

Therefore you must refrain from ever having any same sex relations again no matter how hard it maybe. Just like you find attraction in the same sex and that is your test then surely those who are attracted to the oppossite sex also have desires but they still refrain from having haraam relations with them.

You must fear Allah and imagine him watching your every move because he is actually watching you and everything you do. You must persevere through this test by patience and determination. Many who have the same trials as you have overcome this issue so there is nothing stopping you from being of those people who conquered these trials.

With Allah by your side ANYTHING is possible and Allah is with those who are patient and the reward of patience is Paradise!

Here are some tips for you to help you overcome your issues:

1. Avoid watching innappropriate programs on TV and movies as these will ignite passions inside of you. Instead get the knolwedge package on Sky and watch programs where you can learn from as well as Islamic channels as there are plenty on Sky.

2. Avoid going to the mall and the market place as much as possible and ONLY go if it is absolutley necessery as these places are teeming with shaythan and are places where much passions are ignited especially those who cannot keep their gaze low.

3. Always keep your gaze low and imagine that Allah is watching you and when you lower your gaze then imagine Allah rewarding you everytime and you will feel the sweetness of imaan. It will not happen overnight but anyone can master it eventually if they really want to and put the required effort into it.

4. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Shaythan plays with the minds of those who sit around idle and not doing anything. Find good company and stay in this good company. Spend time with your family and close ones(Not Non mahrams) Find good company and stay in this good company.The best company are those who lead you towards good and not those who lead you in the wrong direction. Avoid bad company as they are poison for you and will cause you to have more desires.

5. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things.

6. Never read pornographic material especially on the internet as these images will be stored in your head and it will make your problem worse. Try to keep your gaze low at all times. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act inshallah. But be patient and with patience will come victory. This is a test so you will be rewarded as long as you are patient and persevere. Allah is with those who are patient and the reward of patience is Paradise!

7. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read good Islamic books, the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and his seerah, the life after death. There SO many interesting topics to read and learn about. Make a daily habit of reading at least one juz(Chapter) of Qur'an with its meanings.

Reading the Qur'an everyday with its meanings will bring countless blessings and rewards and bring you closer to Allah as well as keep you busy and occupied therefore keeping your mind off this problem.

8. Make much dua. But when you make dua don't just make dua about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever. Make dua for increase of your iman(faith), Make dua for understanding of the Islam and the Qur'an, Make dua for your family and ALL Muslims especially the ones that are being oprressed, Pray for the sick and that we all unite as one. keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever --not in conversation with others, not inso much in your dua's. keep it out of your mind because if you keep mentioning it then it will stay in your mind!

9. Fast. You may have tried it before and it did'nt work but how can it work if we don't change our eating habits? If we eat little just to satisfy our stomachs then our fasting will be effective and restrict our sexual urges and capability's. But if we carry on over eating after our fasts then that food will impact on the stomach which will impact on our desires. So restrict the amount you eat before and after fasting and you will feel the benefits of fasting to stop your urges.

10. Finally the best solution of all- GET MARRIED. Give some urgency to your family about the need for you to get married sooner rather than later. You may think you are not ready but marriage is the solution to these problems and i have heard of many cases where those with the same sex tendancies like yourself have "given up" these thoughts forcefully and married and are now happy and with children. Yes it may not be easy but with striving you will get there.

Tell your family of the benefits of getting married early and that it is a sunnah as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) recommended it as it will help avoid haraam(Forbidden) relations with non mahrams and getting married early will help eradicate this problem and mean that one can indulge in their sexual urges and desires legitamatley as well as recieve reward for it. The main reason why there is so many haraam relations out there is for the fact that our families are not getting their children married early enough as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) advised.

May Allah keep us away form anything that angers and displeases him. Ameen

These articles wil help you to Maximise the amount of good deeds you do everyday inshallah:

Solutions Of How To Get Through Hardships, Stresses and Problems in life!

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...lems-life.html

How much we will regret the precious seconds we wasted in this world!

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...ted-world.html

10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...man-faith.html (10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith))

30 ways the youth should spend everyday of their lives!

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...eir-lives.html (30 ways the youth should spend everyday of their lives!)

Easy Dhikr which is light on the tongue but heavy on the scales!

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...vy-scales.html (Easy Dhikr which is light on the tongue but heavy on the scales!)

My Daily Ibadah (worship) check!

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...hip-check.html (My Daily Ibadah (worship) check!)

10 steps to getting closer to Allah

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...ser-allah.html (10 steps to getting closer to Allah)

Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html (Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!)

VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html (VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!)

Have You Ever Tasted Jannah?

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...ed-jannah.html

Wasting Time is worse than Death!

http://www.islamicboard.com/general/...han-death.html

The Effects of Good deeds will remain forever!!!

http://www.islamicboard.com/general/...n-forever.html

Want to see the REAL appearance of Almighty Allah everyday?

http://www.islamicboard.com/general/...-everyday.html

12 Ways We Can Maximise Our Worship Each Day

http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...-each-day.html

Here are some very beneficial lectures to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:

AMAZING short speech -"The Goodly Life"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fugf1DcNyc

Remembrance: ask Allah for his forgiveness

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-EK9r3rMzQ

Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA

HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM

Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU

Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U

Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc

Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE

Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo

How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg

If you need any help, advice or anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.

And Allah knows best in all matters

Amat Allah

03-11-2011, 05:55 AM

I have very limited knowledge about Islam . And many doubt about Islam . But I love Islam from my inside and I disbelieve too . Very frequently I lost my believe . But I want constant believe in Islam . What to do for it ?

its ok, you are still at the begining of the road to Allah and you need not to try to be a scholar from the first time, try your best my respected brother to learn about Islam gradually and slowly and step by step , never push yourself so hard cause that would frustrate you and force ya to give up early...May Allah never make you give up ever and May He increase you in piousness and righteousness and keep you firm on the right and straight path always and forever Ameeeeen

1 ). For my problems I went to church , temple and many pleases which are Allah don't like . I went to mosque . Am I became qafir now ?

Don`t disappoint yourself like that, you are still searching and trying to find the truth and the peace of your heart and soul and as long as you went to the mosque then be happy; cause you have found the first stopping place which will lead your way to Allah and makes you get closer to Him in shaa Allah...

you just need to be patient with everything you will face and as I see ; you are trying your best and I am praying to Allah to help ya and give you the strength to bear all difficulties you would face till you grab the rope of Allah strongly and stand strong on your feet like a steel wall against all temptations and difficulties by Allah`s Willing...

2 ) since few days I stop going gym because I find difficult to control my gay feeling . Did I take right action ?

Yes, of course you did, well done my noble brother walk to Allah and never stop cause surely you will find Him when you look for Him sincerely...May Allah be with you Ameeeen

3 ) I start going mosque for Salah . I don't sleep whole night because I may lost the Jamat of Fajar .

see, you are a Muslim; cause this is the deed and act of the Muslim; someone who loves Allah someone who cares of the satisfaction of his Lord May Allah keep you firm on His path Ameeeen I am happy for you...really happy and can not express how I do feel right now....

4) I found enjoying Salah . But the problem is there are many handsome guys are coming to the mosque for salah . You know what I do ! I dont look at their face , I just enter the mosque and I keep my gaze in lower . I just keep watching floor only . My question is : Am I enjoying Salah Because I love Allah Or many guys are there in the mosque Or I am not feeling lonely , some one ( Allah) is there for take caring me ? Which is the actual reason ?

The real reason is: as long as you are having that fear of losing the Jamaat salat, enjoying Salat, trying to lower your gaze and burden yourself by gazing at the floor to not let those feelings attack you then you are a good slave of Allah who is trying his best to please His Lord, fighting withing himself to stay a way from what Allah had forbade him to do...you are not there to displease Allah but to worship Him right doing your best to win His pleasure and love...go a head and never stop you are on the right path by Allah`s Willing...

you are managing it amazingly and I am feeling your beautiful determination and your strong desire to improve yourself; can you feel now that you can do it? it is not hard when you start trying and give yourself a push to be better...you have an amazing white heart so, let that whiteness reflect on you and never let anyone disappoint you ever cause you are better than those who knows not the mercy and knows not how Allah Is full of Kindness to (His) slaves and servants...

I need your more help . You can suggest me any lawful thing which can help me to over come from my Sin ...
Can you inform me that , which are the Quranic verse are talking about LUT (PBUH ) " I know only Surah HUD " . It will be more helpful for me If you give me a link of those verse in English translation .

Your brother . sorry for not mentioned my name .
Bangalore .

our respected and noble brother Hamzah wrote what you asked for beautifuly so, please read what he has posted and try to learn and put them into effect by Allah`s Willing...

here you are a link about Lut (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) story:

http://www.islamicboard.com/prophets...t-lut-lot.html

and here you are where you can find Lut (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) in Qur`aan:

"And [We had sent] Lot when he said to his people, "Do you commit such immorality as no one has preceded you with from among the worlds? (80) Indeed, you approach men with desire, instead of women. Rather, you are a transgressing people." (81)But the answer of his people was only that they said, "Evict them from your city! Indeed, they are men who keep themselves pure." (82) So We saved him and his family, except for his wife; she was of those who remained [with the evildoers]. (83) And We rained upon them a rain [of stones]. Then see how was the end of the criminals. (84)"

Surat Al Aaraaff

"And when the fright had left Abraham and the good tidings had reached him, he began to argue with Us concerning the people of Lot. (74) Indeed, Abraham was forbearing, grieving and [frequently] returning [to Allah]. (75) [The angels said], "O Abraham, give up this [plea]. Indeed, the command of your Lord has come, and indeed, there will reach them a punishment that cannot be repelled." (76) And when Our messengers, [the angels], came to Lot, he was anguished for them and felt for them great discomfort and said, "This is a trying day." (77) And his people came hastening to him, and before [this] they had been doing evil deeds. He said, "O my people, these are my daughters; they are purer for you. So fear Allah and do not disgrace me concerning my guests. Is there not among you a man of reason?" (78) They said, "You have already known that we have not concerning your daughters any claim, and indeed, you know what we want." (79) He said, "If only I had against you some power or could take refuge in a strong support." (80) The angels said, "O Lot, indeed we are messengers of your Lord; [therefore], they will never reach you. So set out with your family during a portion of the night and let not any among you look back - except your wife; indeed, she will be struck by that which strikes them. Indeed, their appointment is [for] the morning. Is not the morning near?" (81)So when Our command came, We made the highest part [of the city] its lowest and rained upon them stones of layered hard clay, [which were] (82) Marked from your Lord. And Allah 's punishment is not from the wrongdoers [very] far. (83) "

Surat Hood

"And tell them about the guests (the angels) of Ibrahim (Abraham). (51) When they entered unto him, and said: Salaman (peace)! [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "Indeed! We are afraid of you." (52) They (the angels) said: "Do not be afraid! We give you glad tidings of a boy (son) possessing much knowledge and wisdom." (53) [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "Do you give me glad tidings (of a son) when old age has overtaken me? Of what then is your news?" (54) They (the angels) said: "We give you glad tidings in truth. So be not of the despairing ones." (55) [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "And who despairs of the Mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?" (56) [Ibrahim (Abraham) again] said: "What then is the business on which you have come, O Messengers?" (57) They (the angels) said: "We have been sent to a people who are Mujrimun (criminals, disbelievers, polytheists, sinners). (58) "(All) except the family of Lout (Lot). Them all we are surely going to save (from destruction). (59) "Except his wife, of whom We have decreed that she shall be of those who remain behind (i.e. she will be destroyed)." (60) Then, when the Messengers (the angels) came unto the family of Lout (Lot). (61) He said: "Verily! You are people unknown to me." (62) They said: "Nay, we have come to you with that (torment) which they have been doubting. (63) "And we have brought to you the truth (the news of the destruction of your nation) and certainly, we tell the truth. (64) "Then travel in a part of the night with your family, and you go behind them in the rear, and let no one amongst you look back, but go on to where you are ordered." (65) And We made known this decree to him, that the root of those (sinners) was to be cut off in the early morning. (66) And the inhabitants of the city came rejoicing (at the news of the young men's arrival). (67) [Lout (Lot)] said: "Verily! these are my guests, so shame me not. (68) "And fear Allah and disgrace me not." (69) They (people of the city) said: "Did we not forbid you to entertain (or protect) any of the 'Alamin (people, foreigners, strangers, etc. from us)?" (70)[Lout (Lot)] said: "These (the girls of the nation) are my daughters (to marry lawfully), if you must act (so)." (71) Verily, by your life (O Muhammad SAW), in their wild intoxication, they were wandering blindly. (72) So As-Saihah (torment - awful cry, etc.) overtook them at the time of sunrise; (73) And We turned (the towns of Sodom in Palestine) upside down and rained down on them stones of baked clay. (74) Surely! In this are signs, for those who see (or understand or learn the lessons from the Signs of Allah). (75) And verily! They (the cities) were right on the highroad (from Makkah to Syria i.e. the place where the Dead Sea is now). (76) Surely! Therein is indeed a sign for the believers. (77)"

Surat Al Hijir

" And to Lot We gave judgement and knowledge, and We saved him from the city that was committing wicked deeds. Indeed, they were a people of evil, defiantly disobedient. (74)"

Surat Al Anbiyaa

"The people of Lot denied the messengers (160) When their brother Lot said to them, "Will you not fear Allah? (161) Indeed, I am to you a trustworthy messenger. (162) So fear Allah and obey me. (163) And I do not ask you for it any payment. My payment is only from the Lord of the worlds. (164) Do you approach males among the worlds (165) And leave what your Lord has created for you as mates? But you are a people transgressing." (166) They said, "If you do not desist, O Lot, you will surely be of those evicted." (167) He said, "Indeed, I am, toward your deed, of those who detest [it]. (168) My Lord, save me and my family from [the consequence of] what they do." (169) So We saved him and his family, all, (170) Except an old woman among those who remained behind. (171) Then We destroyed the others. (172) And We rained upon them a rain [of stones], and evil was the rain of those who were warned. (173) Indeed in that is a sign, but most of them were not to be believers. (174)"

Surat Ashuaraa

"And [mention] Lot, when he said to his people, "Do you commit immorality while you are seeing? (54) Do you indeed approach men with desire instead of women? Rather, you are a people behaving ignorantly." (55) But the answer of his people was not except that they said, "Expel the family of Lot from your city. Indeed, they are people who keep themselves pure." (56) So We saved him and his family, except for his wife; We destined her to be of those who remained behind. (57) And We rained upon them a rain [of stones], and evil was the rain of those who were warned. (58)"

Surat Annaml

"And (remember) Lout (Lot), when he said to his people: "You commit Al-Fahishah (sodomy the worst sin) which none has preceded you in (committing) it in the 'Alamin (mankind and jinns)." (28) "Verily, you do sodomy with men, and rob the wayfarer (travellers, etc.)! And practise Al-Munkar (disbelief and polytheism and every kind of evil wicked deed) in your meetings." But his people gave no answer except, that they said: "Bring Allah's Torment upon us if you are one of the truthful." (29) He said: "My Lord! Give me victory over the people who are Mufsidun (those who commit great crimes and sins, oppressors, tyrants, mischief-makers, corrupts). (30) And when Our Messengers came to Ibrahim (Abraham) with the glad tidings they said: "Verily, we are going to destroy the people of this [Lout's (Lot's)] town (i.e. the town of Sodom in Palestine) truly, its people have been Zalimun [wrong-doers, polytheists and disobedient to Allah, and have also belied their Messenger Lout (Lot)]." (31) Ibrahim (Abraham) said: "But there is Lout (Lot) in it." They said:"We know better who is there, we will verily save him [Lout (Lot)] and his family, except his wife, she will be of those who remain behind (i.e. she will be destroyed along with those who will be destroyed from her folk)." (32) And when Our Messengers came to Lout (Lot), he was grieved because of them, and felt straitened on their account. They said: "Have no fear, and do not grieve! Truly, we shall save you and your family, except your wife, she will be of those who remain behind (i.e. she will be destroyed along with those who will be destroyed from her folk). (33) Verily, we are about to bring down on the people of this town a great torment from the sky, because they have been rebellious (against Allah's Command)." (34) And indeed We have left thereof an evident Ayah (a lesson and a warning and a sign the place where the Dead Sea is now in Palestine) for a folk who understand. (35) "

Surat Al Ankaboot

I hope that would help ya my respected brother and as our noble brother Hamzah said:

If you need any help, advice or anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.

And Allah knows best in all matters

May Allah lead your way to the path of the endless happiness Ameeen

please take care of yourself and remember that you are so precious to us and we will take your hand and help ya after Allah and you got to know that there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is:

MY BROTHER no matter what you are...

leaving you under Allah`s sight and care...

Amat Allah

03-11-2011, 01:19 PM

I forgot to ask you if you have took the Shahadah or not? if you don`t mind telling us with all our respect...

hopeonallah

03-11-2011, 07:11 PM

assala mu aliqum ! my dear sister " Amat Allah "

Thank you for supporting me . Allah will surely give you Jannah .
please done leave me alone after knowing my truth . The truth is : I born in a Muslim family but I was not Muslim . I always opposed Islam .
I was using Toxin such as Alcohol , weed, etc , I did not mingle with Muslim people. And I was born in a non Muslim location means there are no Muslim family surrounding my birth place . Only 5 houses are there in my birth city that also not together , there are far distance between each houses . hardly we know each other. No body using Hijab in that city ( female muslim nor male muslim ) including my family .
My father believe in " Pir Majar " ( death people ) whereas Majar are not available in that city . He use to go other city to pray Majar . He always talk about Majar which I don't like .
My elder brother is a sexual addict he is 4 years elder then me and he is married even .
I didn't like my mother because I feel shame when I see her bally and upper part of breast . Al-tho I was bounded to leave my house when I was 14 years old . But still I can see my mother's bally and upper part of breast whenever I remember her . I am extremely sorry for it . And she is no more now , she expired . And many extreme incident has happened in my life which are related with sex only .
many guys had sex with me which are come into my relatives when I was child .
People say I was very joyful guy till the age of 10/11 years . I was looking very cute and healthy .still I remember few incident and I thought , I could not be a gay if those incident might not be happened with me . One of my Uncle ( which is not close relation ) had sex with me when I was 12 years old and that uncle was studying in degree he must be 21 or 22 years old . after that one of my cousin he was around 19/20 years old . after that another cousin he was also 20/21 years old . It was happening frequently . I could not complain with any one . I remember initially I felt very odd and irritating and dirty .

I was scaring at night , i could not sleep alone . I was sleeping in my brother room till my age of 11 years after that my brother didn't allow me to sleep his room . But I could not sleep alone in my room . So every sun set brings me a lot of fear . I still remember that fear how strong it was . So I always waiting for guest . And I wanted to go my relatives places which are in another state for that most of the time I insist my parents . Most of the time my parents beating me when they cant control my insist . and most of the time they bounded to send me any relative houses because I was start creating problem in the house .
It was became every day problem in my house . Finally my parents decided to send me in the hostel . I went to hostel at the age of 14 years. And the hostel I found same sex is very common . I didn't like it . when I told to my parents that, I dont want to stay in the hostel . I want to stay with you . But they were not agree to keep me in home . Because I was crazy . I told to my father if you dont allow me to stay some were else then I will kill my self . after that my father send me to his another house with one of a old lady as a maid (when I was 15 years old) ; which is located in another state and that house is very close to one of my uncle house only 3 km distance . But my homosexual activity was not stop because one of my another cousin he use to come my place he was around 22years old .
after my graduation I came to Bangalore which is 3000( three thousand) km far from my native . since 2004 I am here only .after that I visited my native 4 time only that also for 3 or 5 days only .

Now you tell am I still Muslim ?

I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . I cant accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ?

I really didn't understand about your this statement :-
" you got to know that there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is: "
You mean to say , you know me ? How did you know me ? If you know me even please don't disclose my identity please . its my humble request . For Allah sake please don't disclose my identity please

hopeonallah

03-11-2011, 07:51 PM

assalamu aliqum " Amat Allah "

I am wary that , may give you more trouble by asking so many question . please let me inform If I do any misbehave !
1). In generally start crying means my tear falls automatically whenever I listen about Islam about Mohammad (PBUH) about Allah no mater where I am . I may be at home alone , may be in mosque may be in public place . which is embarrassed me . Why its happening with me ? how did I stop it ?

2). I feel sleep after reading Quran or offering Salah . I don't even have energy to move that place , I feel to sleep over there where I reed or listen Quran or offering Salah ( some time while listing ). Why is happening with me ? Am I very weak in physically ? Is there any thing wrong with me or with my body ?

thank you .....

hopeonallah

03-11-2011, 08:05 PM

assalamu aliqum " Amat Allah "

I am giving you trouble after trouble . This time my question is How to do Shada ? Am I need to go any places , Am I need to declare Shada in officially ?

hopeonallah

03-11-2011, 08:12 PM

assalamu aliqum my dear brother " Hamza81" ,

Thank you very much . Allah will surely give you Jannah .And please pray for me to Allah keep me as well as all in his path .

hopeonallah

03-11-2011, 09:04 PM

My dear sister assalamu aliqum " Amat Allah "

I am sorry to mentioned here about my Mother . please pray for her . she is no more . she expired long back ago . But my mom was wearing Hijab after offering Haj . So please pray for her . It is my mistake so that I think wrong way . She was a very good lady . I love her .
But Allah is great . Allah has given me another mom . My father got another marry after my mom . you may not believe me She is a very good lady , she is nice in talking , I didn't meet her due to distance and mismatching time . But we talk over the phone . And she loves me . very soon I will meet her .
so please forgive me , and please pray for my mom who is no more in this world .

Amat Allah

03-12-2011, 01:43 PM

why to leave your side my respected brother, you are my brother our brother and everyone here is wishing you guidance and happiness...

and we are all part of each other and The Prophet said, "A faithful believer to a faithful believer is like the bricks of a wall, enforcing each other." While (saying that) the Prophet clasped his hands, by interlacing his fingers.

and also Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The similitude of believers in regard to mutual love, affection, fellow-feeling is that of one body; when any limb of it aches, the whole body aches, because of sleeplessness and fever.

and says:" The believers are like one person; if his head aches, the whole body aches with fever and sleeplessness.

"Muslims are like one body of a person; if the eye is sore, the whole body aches, and if the head aches, the whole body aches".

we won`t leave ya ever by Allah`s willing...and May Allah have mercy on your precious mother and all the Ummah Ameeen

your past is not your fault, you have been used and abused but now you are mature can defend yourself and can correct your mistakes and more aware of wrong and right ...try your best to be good and I am sure that you are....

you are a Muslim as long as you believe that there is no god but Allah and Muhammad is His messenger and I know that you have this in your pure heart May Allah preserve you Ameeeeeeen

if you want to renew you faith just say the Shahada:

Ash`hadu anna laa ilaha illa Allaah wa ash`hadu anna Muhammadan Rasullah...say it loudly and you will feel something happening to your heart say it over and over till you feel comfortable...

and you are not bothering me or burdening me or troubling me at all my noble brother I am happy helping a brother of mine Alhamdulilah...in shaa Allah will come back again to answer your other Qs cause now I am tired and feeling sleepy cause I took the pill of Allergy which causing me weakness and make me sleepy...

please forgive me...

take care of yourself please...

May Allah be with you Ameeeen

Amat Allah

03-13-2011, 11:55 AM

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

what are your fears my respected brother? tell us and empty your heart and we may find a solution by Allah`s Willing and Mercy...

1). In generally start crying means my tear falls automatically whenever I listen about Islam about Mohammad (PBUH) about Allah no mater where I am . I may be at home alone , may be in mosque may be in public place . which is embarrassed me . Why its happening with me ? how did I stop it ?

why to stop this my respected brother? this is a great proof that your heart has been softened by the Qur`aan and the rememberance of Allah and became alive again cause you returned to Allah and cause you are striving for His sake now...cry my respected brother as much as you can cause those tears may save you after Allah from hellfire...

The Prophet of Allah Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him )said:"Seven people will be shaded by Allah under His shade on the day when there will be no shade except His. They are: (1) a just ruler; (2) a young man who has been brought up in the worship of Allah, (i.e. worship Allah (Alone) sincerely from his childhood), (3) a man whose heart is attached to the mosque (who offers the five compulsory congregational prayers in the mosque); (4) two persons who love each other only for Allah's sake and they meet and part in Allah's cause only; (5) a man who refuses the call of a charming woman of noble birth for an illegal sexual intercourse with her and says: I am afraid of Allah; (6) a person who practices charity so secretly that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given (i.e. nobody knows how much he has given in charity). (7) a person who remembers Allah in seclusion and his eyes get flooded with tears."

2). I feel sleep after reading Quran or offering Salah . I don't even have energy to move that place , I feel to sleep over there where I reed or listen Quran or offering Salah ( some time while listing ). Why is happening with me ? Am I very weak in physically ? Is there any thing wrong with me or with my body ?

There is nothing wrong with you body, this is the comfort you feel for hearing and listening to the words of Allah; Who says:"Who have believed and whose hearts have rest in the remembrance of Allah. Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest! (28) Surat Arra`ad

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

really didn't understand about your this statement :- " you got to know that there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is: " You mean to say , you know me ? How did you know me ? If you know me even please don't disclose my identity please . its my humble request . For Allah sake please don't disclose my identity please

I don`t know your real identity , read again what I have said, read the whole line... let me quote it for ya:

Originally Posted by Amat Allah

there is no need to tell about your name cause I allreday knew it and all of us here ; it is: MY BROTHER no matter what you are...

this is your name that all the members here know about : OUR precious and dear BROTHER

May Allah be with you , increase you Iman and Taqwa and keep you firm on the staright path and guide your way and your family way to the path of truth and real happiness always and forever Ameeeeen

hopeonallah

03-13-2011, 05:55 PM

assalamu aliqum my dear sister " amat Allah "

I am waiting for you reply regarding my this Query which one I already posted you :

[ I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]

second thing :- I have thrown out all toxin such as weed from my house yesterday . I have been not drinking alcohol nor even using any other toxin since one and half months . I am not having sex since one month .

But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.

I have many profiles in the many gay dating sites . But I don't have dare to log on those sites for deleting my profiles. I am thinking if I log on those sites for deleting my profile I may involve on it rather then delete my profile .

I don't have any straight friends . I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month. But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :

1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .

Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .

similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .

A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].

B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows .
[ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].

C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].

D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].

Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths ?

Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...

Thank you a lot of your patience .

hopeonallah

03-13-2011, 06:13 PM

assala mu aliqum my dear sister " Amat allah "

I have seen, After after a certain time the administrator close threads . we user don't know about their closing time of threads. They may close my threads at any time . then what I will do to contact you ?

Woodrow

03-14-2011, 02:22 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

:sl:

As long as a thread is not violating any forum rules or resulting in personal attacks, numerous off topic replies, we do not close it.

We have no time setting for closing threads. Some threads have been open for several years and some threads get closed almost as soon as they are started..

Amat Allah

03-14-2011, 04:21 AM

assalamu aliqum my dear sister " amat Allah "

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

I am waiting for you reply regarding my this Query which one I already posted you :

[ I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]

Thats why I asked you above about your fears my respected brother; to answer that part of your Qs...to know if the fears you have are those kind of fears which needs medications or the kind of fears which a normal person may have?

to be honest with you, I believe that there is nothing wrong with you and you have no mental disorders... but what I believe that; your childhood and being away from Allah had affected your life and made you so confused, lost and puzzleheaded feeling that you are ill...so, you turn to those psychs to solve your problems and to end your suffering but instead of studying your situation deeply and understand your problem and its causes; they pushed you to the abyss by convincing you of something that you are not and feeding you drugs to make you numb and to believe that you are a gay and that it is pretty normal to be...AstagferoAllah...

if it was from the nature of human to be gay then Allah would never punish the people of the Prophet Lut (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sodomy is nothing but a sin and I know that you believe in that cause this is what Allah made from our nature ; to hate wrong things and to be aware of them to feel and stay away from them...

those psychs act with you as psychs but not as humans and that won`t surprise me cause they know not Allah and fear not His wrath...

you said:

Since one and half month I am not taking medicine, It may come back at any time

you left your medications for one month and a half and fearing that you may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again?

my respected brother, if you are really sick as those people said then why you didn`t have OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION uptill this moment? why not having them before a month from now or let me say before few days from now? tell me why; while you left your medications since one month and a half? are you sure that you are sick?

I don`t think you need those medications which left you drugged and increased your sufferance and dragged you to the edge of hell...

my respected broether Allah saved you now and gave you so much of chances to change so ,don`t let anything stand in your way and stop you ever...

your cure now and always is Allah and the way of life He made for us so, run to your Lord and I am sure that you are running now cause from what I read I can feel that you are not running to Allah but flying , May Allah help you more and more and be your guide to lead your way to Him Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

second thing :- I have thrown out all toxin such as weed from my house yesterday . I have been not drinking alcohol nor even using any other toxin since one and half months . I am not having sex since one month .

But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.

May Allah be pleased with you for doing those things Ameeeeeen everytime I read your posts I become happier and that from the grace and mercy of Allah...all Praise , Glory and Thanks be to Allah....

ask Allah for His forgiveness and you allready knew How Allah Is Merciful to us and try your best to avoid sining and do much good deeds as much as you can bear in shaa Allah...its ok you are trying and still improving Ma shaa Allah, keep going and never stop , you are amazing my respected brother...May Allah bless ya Ameeen

I have many profiles in the many gay dating sites . But I don't have dare to log on those sites for deleting my profiles. I am thinking if I log on those sites for deleting my profile I may involve on it rather then delete my profile .

don`t go there just delete those sites from you PC and forget about them , there is no need to enter them for any reason just leave them May Allah be pleased with you Ameeen

I don't have any straight friends

don`t worry , in shaa Allah you will find them soon and you already have us all here not only as friends but as brothers and sisters supporting you after Allah The Most Exalted.

I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month. But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :

1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .

Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .

similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .

A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].

B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows .
[ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].

C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].

D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].

Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths ?

Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...

Your Qs above are so detalied and it is so hard for me answering such Qs and also I don`t have the proper knowledge about them but surely most of what you have mentioned above are lies , in shaa Allah one of the brothers will answer your above Qs ...

Thank you a lot of your patience

You are very welcome my respected brother and never hesitate asking help whenever you need it in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

assala mu aliqum my dear sister " Amat allah "

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I have seen, After after a certain time the administrator close threads . we user don't know about their closing time of threads. They may close my threads at any time . then what I will do to contact you ?

as our respected brother Woodrow said May Allah love him Ameeen they won`t close anything till someone breaks the rules
...

May Allah guide you more and more and keep you firm on the straight path and all the Ummah Ameeen

and Allah knows the best...

Amat Allah

03-14-2011, 05:02 AM

just to let you know my respected brother, I am neither a scholar nor a doctor and I am only one of Allah`s slave trying to help one of her brothers....

take care of yourself in shaa Allah...

Hamza Asadullah

03-14-2011, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Asalaamu Alaikum, I think you should urgently seek out a Muslim physician, psychologist and counsellor rather than non Muslim who will only give you advice contrary to the truth. They will only tell you things from their own perspective as non Muslims. Therefore you must seek out Muslim practisioners and with a little research you should be able to find one inshallah. Here is one in Delhi which i have found: http://jmi.nic.in/Fsoc/mhusain_ps.htm

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Good for these are major sins and if you were to die whilst intoxicated then you would die without imaan for intoxiation and imaan cannot stay in the body together. Intoxication will only make your mental condition worse as well as making you more lustful and closer to shaythan. Therefore you must eradicate these evils from your life not for the meanwhile but FOREVER!

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.

You must rid your life of pron for this is a disease which will only ever make your lust worse. Think whenever you arw about to watch porn that "Allah is watching me right now so why should i not have shame in front of my lord". Please read through this thread for tips on how to stop Masterbation:

How to overcome Masterbation

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...terbation.html

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

You do not have to delete them or ever log into them again. Do not even think about them again. Change your E mail address/es and delete your current ones. Make a fresh start to your life now and leave your past behind you learning lessons from your mistakes so that you can do things better now and the future.

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I don't have any straight friends . I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month.

The first thing a person should do when they want to change is give up ones bad friends. Even though they may not be bad people in their hearts but what they are doing is bad and as long as you keep them as company then their bad influence will continue to rub off on you. Therefore you must change your number immediatley and ONLY give your number to those people whom you know will ONLY be a good influence on you.

When you change your number then Do NOT give your number to any gay person because this will not help you but you will only get back into old habits. The sameway a drug user who is wanting to give up drugs does not hang around with a fellow drug user otherwise they may slip back into bad habits.

Try to find good company. If not then best to be alone than to have such company that will lead you towards destruction. When the time is right you will find good company inshallah but for the meanwhile change your number immediatley.

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :

1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .

Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .

similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .

A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].

B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows .
[ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].

C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].

D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].

Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths?

Those indulging in evils such as homosexuality and other evils will obviously try to find loop holes and try to twist and change Islamic teachings to justify their evil actions.

I used to know a weed smoker who once said: " The Qur'an does not forbid weed, so its ok". The sameway those indulging in homosexuality will try to find a way in which they can still indulge in their lustful desires and they would even go as far as to say that as long as they do not do "this or that" then it is ok. There will always be people like this but they must be rejected and disregarded and they must be taught the truth. If they only want to believe their own "truth" then they will have to answer to Allah for twisiting and changing his laws to suit their own desires for which they will have to pay a heavy price for.

There is NO place in Islam for any relations or contact with a women outside marriage unlesss out of necessity. There is also NO place in Islam for any kind of homosexual contact or relations. This includes everything you have mentioned and any other contact between two members of the opposite sex who are attracted to each other. The ONLY solution is to AVOID such men and ONLY talk to them out of necessity.

Anyone who says otherwise is clearly trying to change Allah's laws to suit their own desires and these are the people who will suffer a terrible punishment unless they change their ways.

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...

Thank you a lot of your patience .

Again those indulging in such vile practices will say anything to try and justify their evil. There has been a lot of scientific research done in order to establish whether a human is born with "Homosexual genes" or not and NO scientific test has proven that ANYONE is born with these genes. Therefore scientists conclude that homosexuality is not something a person is born with and it is certainly not genetic. So Science also disaproves what these people are saying.

A lot of the times homosexuality is a learnt behaviour and may have been acquired throughout ones early years and because of a lot of other external matters. You case is clear that what you went through in your early years may well have been what caused you to develop such feelings.

Some cases may also be a test just like women are a test for straight men then men may also be a test for gay men. Our test is that we do not act on our desires but rather we resist them for the pleasure of Allah and do not listen to the evil whispers of our eternal sworn enemy shaythan.

Eunachs were also around in the time of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) and were protectors of his blessed grave and were given a lot of high positions and honour in those days. Nowadays they are known a lot more for prostitution and dancing/singing etc. These people may also be tested as so many of us are tested in many different ways in our lives. You cannot ever think or say that you are being tested the most because you do not know what another person may be going through in life. Therefore you should be grateful for what you have. You should also thank Allah for he is wanting you to ebcome closer to him and of his obedient slaves.

You have got it in you to become a pious servant of his and the only one stopping you now is yourself. So strive and fight everyday to become closer to Allah and do EVERYTHING in your daily life to please Allah and refrain from anything which angers or displeases him.

Please check my last post in this thread for the tips i gave you to help you overcome this issue as well as many links which will help you to increase your good deeds and worship of Allah.

If you have anything else you want to share or ask then please do not hesitate to ask.

And Allah knows best in all matters

hopeonallah

03-14-2011, 08:48 PM

assala mu aliQum " Amat allah " ,

thank you for your supports .
Most of the people are using " Slave " word here such as your statement :
I am neither a scholar nor a doctor and I am only one of Allah`s slave .

I really don't understand the words of " Allah's Slave " . Trust me whenever I heard this words I feel Allah is using us . Second thing : Is Allah's Slave is greater then scholar and doctors ?

Actually I started meeting with doctors after knowing that, I feel attraction towards to male . I thought some thing wrong is happening with me . But Doctors discovered( not invented ) that my problem is not Homosexuality because Homosexuality is not a problem at all (according to doctors ), Its a normal .

They found I have OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION . At the some extent I am agree with them .Because I have repeated thoughts problem like eg: If I am thinking I want to buy a shirt , I will not get relax my impulse become high until unless I don't buy it, no mater how much shirts I have already . I am very much conscious about my looks that is why I always keeping clean myself (my external body not soul) applying costly cosmetics wearing latest dresses. maximum time I expend for this only . I give first privilege to my looks and comfortableness; for this some time I miss very important mater, such as I may miss train etc . I want to become better for other not for my self . I cant say "NO" to any one. Even if I don't have capacity to resolve others need. Such as: if some one asking money as a loan ( without interest) I cant say NO. Take one more example: suppose some one want to use my system or may be my room I cant say NO to him whereas I may have more impotent task to do with my system then him .

I have advance fear for any mater . Such as : I starting shivering before attending the exam because of this fear I may avoid exam . suppose I need to go some ones house I started shivering Before knocking the door . Suppose I extremely need money but I cant have dear to ask to my father. What people will think about me that is more important then what I need. this is the reason many times I used by other . and many time people using me . I always feel guilty . I always feel some thing wrong with me . I always feel lonely and insecure no mater how much I am in the crowd. I feel more uncomfortable and insecure when I am with my family or my family member or members or relative or relatives ( specially my parents most specially my father ). This is the reason I avoid them.I always feel inferiority complex .

some time I feel sad without any reason , some time I feel happy without any season also . here I would like to share one more experience of my life's . I was studying at class 11 stander. I may 17years old that time. Suddenly I was started crying why I am crying that I don't know . I tried to find out the reason but I could not . I was just crying and crying not loudly just dropping tears and tears from my eyes . I went to my parents home When IT was unbearable, but I just shocked when my mom was asking why you are crying what you have done, whom you killed? Why you are crying tell me , did you murder any one? Are you crying for girl's mater etc . All those stuff she was asking to me which I never can think . They started scolding me like I have done any big mistakes. I may create problem for them. and they tried to avoid me. believe me I was so insecure, and my fear was become double. I was not seeing any solution. I was help less. finely I have asked to one of my parent's servant take me to hospital. After hospital doctor give me medicine . After medicine I was in deep sleep for few days and after that I become normal . But the surprise thing was my mother told me that from child hood I am giving trouble to them because of me they cant enjoy their life; after investigation that, I didn't do any crime. And they told me it was my drama .

[ Here People may think, my problem is not HOMOSEXUALITY; my problem is drugs addiction. I would like to tell that, my homosexuality started from child hood and I have been thinking my homosexuality is a problem from child hood only . My drugs and alcohol started after involve with GAY organization, Gay society s and mingle with many Gays only . Alcohol started from 2005 and drugs started from 2006 only . I hardly took alcohol may be few times in my life before 2005 . First time I took alcohol when I was 14 years old when I was in hostel . That was also not my wish . Senior students was arranging a party and I was the youngest student of that hostel. I saw all guys were drinking alcohol I influence by them but after that I repent for it . I stopped alcohol until I reach to Gay society. ] ( here my intention is not blaming any one . not even my hostel guys . I am just researching my self and I am trying to find out the solution and become a batter human. trust me this the only intention of mine here and its truth. )

That is the reason I some sort of believe my psychiatrist .

Here again I would like to share few more thing with you:

My father always behind the money only . he is least bother about his children. I could not remember any incident where my father told me ; Oh ! my son this is for you " with smiling face". I never have seen him without wary about money whereas he is not so rich. He become very sad when money mater has acquire. Three time he got third marriage. His one of the wife was only 27 years old when he was 65 years . In the Indian culture its very odd . But trust me I was not at all bother nor feel bad, because Allah has given permeation as will as Indian law too . But when he gave her divorce, he was not ready to give her Meher( marital gift ). Finally he was agree but not full amount. That time I have asked him, why you don't want to give back her Meher ? this is her right . He replied, he dont have money . I said no problem , my mother has given me some gold jewellery before her death . ( she distributed her all jewellery to her all children including me before she expired ). Every one took their jewellery but my share of jeweler still in my mother's locker . So you can take it and sale it and give her MEHER . That time he said ,no need to sale it he can manage. I shocked! And I asked him to come alone with me , I need to talk to you . WE went to a lonely place and I asked him , how you manage it within a short period, His replied was more shocker then before . He blamed me why I show him the way for pay her MEHER in front of so many people . Because he didn't want to pay her MEHER. That was his excuse , actually he didn't want to pay MAHAR. I told him what you will do with your money , you are already more then 65 years , you may expire at any time I may too . what we will do with our money or jewellery after our life . I thought its our duty to pay her MEHER so I told you . So, he replied don't be so religious be practical, you don't know any thing abut the world. He asked me , do you think all people are Virtuous here . YOU have to learn how to live in this world. Earning money is very tough. And I realize that, yes he is correct all man are not Virtuous. At that time I saw my self that I am one of the biggest sinner person. I do homo sex . AT least no body here ( at that meeting ) homosexual. They are far batter then me .

[ I am waiting for my last Post Quick reply's answer . I hope some one will reply me soon ].

{My dear sister " Amat Allah " If you get answer regarding my last post please reply me soon if not then help me to get answer for it } .

I would like to thank you about yours patience . I need your pray for me to Allah .

hopeonallah

03-14-2011, 11:10 PM

assala mu aliqum " Hamza81 " ,

thank you so much . Allah will surely give you JANNAH .

As you said :
Asalaamu Alaikum, I think you should urgently seek out a Muslim physician, psychologist and counsellor rather than non Muslim who will only give you advice contrary to the truth.
I want to take help from true Muslim doctors but I am not getting it . I have search a lot . I met few Muslim Doctors but all doctors are giving same treatment as like as non Muslim . All are telling Homosexuality is a normal . That is the reason I am in the internet .and I am in this site. My problem is such think I can not share it directly with any one . I didn't find or know any doctor who can give me or counseling me regarding reorientation . I am in the middle of the ocean .

Delhi is very far from me . I stay in Bangalore.

I have quieted intoxicant for life time . I don't think it will take place any more in my life Inshah Allah .
Porn is not a big deal for me Inshah Allah . I want to conform my self, that porn should be my last porn movie in my life Inshha Allah .

But I don't understand why masturbation is prohibited in Islam ? As par my knowledge masturbation is not harmful . why should Allah don't want it ? Doctors saying its not harmful.
I request you please dont take it it wrong way . Because I know my self very well I cant obey any role until unless I convince my self. I get convince when I get prove only. And here I would like to tell you that I believe you . So I request you please let me know if you have any scientific prove regarding masturbation then please tell me in very easy way and briefly .

I have separate email ids which I never used for Gay purpose. So, I wont get any problem if I don't delete or log in those email ids which are related with Gay issues. Inshah Allah.

Yesterday I went to PEACE FOUNDATION which is related with Dr.Zakir Naik . I guess you must know it . I have expend few hours over there . But the problem is I cant discuss my problem with any body until the person is so faithful as well as suitable with my problem . I enjoyed their company . But I don't know they enjoy my company or not. Most probably not because they are very high level in the case of IMAAN .

I will change my phone no very soon but the problem is one of my Gay friend knows my brother phone no . If he is not able to contact me then he may be contact my brother . He may create problem for me . So that I am thinking slowly I will quit talking to him first then change my phone no . Although he stay in Tamilnadu ( neighbor state ) he is a doctor. I talked to him more then 15 days over . He does not know whats going on . I dont want to inform him . Not only him but also no one in this world ( directly ). And this Gay world is some time very aggressive too . If any gay knows that some one quitting homo sex then gay society do all possible things which can brings him again into homo sex . This is another open secret.

I am conform now that homo sex is not allow in any form In Islam . So, I am sure I will quit it Inshah Allah from know , although I am not having it now . If its not removing from my mind even I will not do any homo sex activity by my eyes , hand , lags , body and all . (All means All only nothing left ). But for that I need guidance of Allah and Rasul and you all people . I hope you are there for help me Allah sake .

I may need to change my accommodation very soon . So that I need your help . Help means very strong DUAH which DUAH can directly reach to ALLAH and Allah provide me all resources or direct accommodation to me . Because its also one of my weapon to fight with the SATAN'S of Homo sex .

I am still not clear about EUNUCH. What they are . They are human or Gin ? What is their sexuality ? please make me clear . please educate me .

I am extremely happy that I am improving my self . I have being trying it since a long long time . psychiatrist(Doctors) were make me poor . The statement of Psychiatrist " ENJOY YOUR LIFE " is irritating me . I don't want to hear it again . I dont want to lose the test of Salah . I want to increase the test of Salah . I want to become very close to ALLAH . I want to stand with MOHAMMAD ( PBUH) in the next life . So please be with me . please don't leave me .
Thank you .

جوري

03-14-2011, 11:31 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I want to take help from true Muslim doctors but I am not getting it . I have search a lot . I met few Muslim Doctors but all doctors are giving same treatment as like as non Muslim . All are telling Homosexuality is a normal . That is the reason I am in the internet .and I am in this site. My problem is such think I can not share it directly with any one . I didn't find or know any doctor who can give me or counseling me regarding reorientation . I am in the middle of the ocean .

doctors aren't allowed to pass judgment and according to the latest DSM-IV homosexuality is categorized as a normal variant. However the opinion in the book and I assure you no scientific method went into said designation is the guideline for the American society of psychiatrists and may or may not reflect the personal opinion of the doctor. Homosexuals often present with other co-morbid psychological conditions so it isn't a surprise that you were diagnosed with conditions that are otherwise unrelated to your sexual orientation!
If you went with the desire of being treated out of your homosexuality, I am sure after a host of questions a doctor will help you if that was truly your desire. Medicine is designed for patients autonomy and respect of wishes. For instance a large busted woman may present to her surgeon requesting 750cc prosthesis in his personal opinion and perhaps a large population of society it may seem absurd, and adding extra implants might in fact exacerbate her back problems and give her bad posture. But in the end if the doctor went to the business of plastic surgery, and psych. declared her mentally competent, then he'll have to give her the implants or secure her a doctor who will. That is the law and Ethics of medicine as practiced in the U.S.

So if you fear that ALL doctors believe that homosexuality is a normal variant, I assure you a large number of them view is it as a sexual deviance. Whatever the case medicine isn't concerned with the law.. so whether deviant or normal there isn't much that can be done to criminalize or applaud it within the confines of academia and practice!

all the best

Amat Allah

03-15-2011, 04:45 AM

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I am neither a scholar nor a doctor and I am only one of Allah`s slave . I really don't understand the words of " Allah's Slave " . Trust me whenever I heard this words I feel Allah is using us .

Allah using us??? in what way my respected brother....??

Allah doesn`t need us at all , if the whole world would disappear then nothing would happen to Allah ; He the Most Exalted will remain Allah...we are who need Allah and all what we do from acts of worship are for our own good and benefit...

we should be very proud and thankful to Allah for making us His slaves, for giving us this honor and this high status my respected brother, cause Allah Is not like any king...kings use their slaves to feed them to clean for them to benefit them in all ways but Allah The King of all kings doesn`t need us at all and He Is not benefited from us at all ....He Is The One Who created us so, He Has the free will to do whatever He wants to do with us....

let me clearify for ya by this ex:

if you made a beautiful wooden box by yourself then took it , used it or hid it or threw it in the sea or burned it or whatever...then does anybody have the right to object? does anybody have the right to stop you from doing whatever you want with something you created by yourself ? I don`t think so my respected brother....

then why to object being called Allah`s slave while you are His creature and He can do whatever He wants with you...Allah Is not like any creator or any king my respected brother, He Is the Most Just and not only Just but Merciful to us ; giving us more than what we deserve ; He Is The Only King Who wants you to ask Him for everything you want for 24/7and never ever stop asking Him for everything and anything and more than one thing at the same time ...He is The Only One Who rewards you with soooo much more than you deserve...if you would work for someone then you would only take a specifec mount of money daily or monthly or whatever but with The Most Generous you will take more rewards and He will increase them for ya and that won`t ever affect Him or what He has...The Only One Who feeds you and blesses you with soo much of things daily with no return... the Only One Who would cure your illnesses without asking you for a return...The Only One Who if you would face Him with sins filling the heavens and earth ; He would meet you with forgiveness and mercy filling the heavens and earth and more and would never care with whatever you done when you return to Him in repentance...The Only King Who feeds and send His blessings and mercy upon His slaves who sined against Him ; insulted Him and worshipped someone else than Him such as disbelievers...can`t you see them and see the blessings of Allah which are sent to them...a human king would torture them and would never ever give them a chance but Allah Is giving us more than one chance...laa ilaha illa Allah

Sub`haan Allah, you are worshipping Allah to benefit your self and He rewards you for that no but promised you of Al Jannah for that...laa ilaha illa Allah...

don`t you want to be a slave of such king?

Second thing : Is Allah's Slave is greater then scholar and doctors ?

if you are a scholar or a doctor but not a slave of Allah then you are nothing...now you will know who is greater in shaa Allah...

neither your degree nor your rank or the knowledge you have would make you good in the sight of Allah if not being His slave...but surely, you will be a greater slave of Allah if having all of these for His sake and to please Him...

in shaa Allah you will understand, May Allah make you amongst the best of His slaves and servants Ameeeeeeeeen

you are in my Duaa my respected brother and all Mankind and Jinn in shaa Allah...

and never be worried many of our brothers and sisters are here for help...don`t panic in shaa Allah we won`t leave your side and will be with you till you stand on your feet after Allah...

leaving you under Allah`s sight...O slave and servant of Allah...

*charisma*

03-15-2011, 10:14 AM

Sorry I didn't read all of the replies, but what I don't understand is what makes it ok to commit zina or have sex before marriage despite whether you are gay or not? You shouldn't have sexual relations with anyone before marriage, even if you think you'll never get married or want a woman. You shouldn't do things like watch porn to excite yourself because you know it will lead you to want to commit unlawful sex or fantasize about it.

I believe it's possible to become straight if you really wanted to just as it is possible for straight people to become gay/bisexual simply because they are bored with the same sex. Your mental state is not what's haram or unacceptable, it's your actions.

You know you're doing something wrong otherwise you wouldn't be asking for advice. You know yourself better than we know you, so I suggest you do things the right way or at least stay away from the things that make you want to wrong yourself, it's not worth it. You can live a healthy and happy lifestyle if you focus your attention towards better things and not so much that you're a homosexual...It's possible to live single happily, and in fact, the way you're being with a lot of men sexually as you claim doesn't even seem like you want a serious relationship anyway! You're just doing it to fulfill your lower desires.

Anyways may Allah make things easy for you and may you be guided toward what is best for you.

hopeonallah

03-15-2011, 01:25 PM

assala mu aliqum " Charisma "

thank you for your response .

you have told me :

in fact, the way you're being with a lot of men sexually as you claim doesn't even seem like you want a serious relationship anyway! You're just doing it to fulfill your lower desires.

I guess we need to know more about homosexual people . Here I would like to share my experience that, I never ever have seen any GAY or BISEXUAL guy; who don't have sexual contact with more then one guy . And in average, one 20 years old GAY or BISEXUAL guy have minimum 10 different sexual partner . And ts every year its multiply into different amounts. I have seen GAY or BISEXUAL people have 50 to 500 different sexual partners at the ages of 25 years to 30 years , and those guys may or may not be have permanent sexual partner . IF they have permanent sexual partner then most of them do group sex with a new guys . Because finding a sexual partner is not difficult for GAY or BISEXUAL guys . for that only need one hour . Just log on the gay dating sites . Now a days its very common in the society . I don't understand why people least bother about it . In the bus stop, shopping mall, theater college , school , every where, religious places hospitals. Trust me some time I think is there any straight people ?

Trust me,I could not have knowledge that, Homosexuality is wrong. If I could not read Surah HUD. But I had feelings that some thing wrong going on with me . But I was not sure what is it ? I am feeling very difficult to quit it after knowing about it . And I am trying . And I will success INSAH ALLAH .

INSHAH ALLAH you will help me for it .

thank you .

Amat Allah

03-15-2011, 01:32 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

And I am trying . And I will success INSAH ALLAH .

Surely you will in shaa Allah...do your best and you will be an amazing Muslim by Allah`s Willing...I trust your ability in that so much my respected brother...May Allah be with you Ameeen

hopeonallah

03-15-2011, 02:34 PM

Assala mu aliqum " HAMZA81".

I am bit disappointed regarding reply of the "THE VALE'S LILY " can you help me to understand about her reply please ?

thank you so much .

hopeonallah

03-15-2011, 02:51 PM

assala mu aliqum my dear and dear sister " Amat Allah " ,

I am still waiting for your reply whichever I have already posted to you . I hope you will educate me regarding my all post whichever I have already posted to you by mentioned your name as well as without mention your name too which you have knowledge . I hope will be benefited by your knowledge and I will apply it on my life . Inshah Allah .

I am your brother only . I also want to become Allah's slave not only slave but also Pure Slave of Allah like you .
So I expect your support as much as possible .

Your brother .

Hamza Asadullah

03-15-2011, 04:33 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Assala mu aliqum " HAMZA81".

I am bit disappointed regarding reply of the "THE VALE'S LILY " can you help me to understand about her reply please ?

thank you so much .

Wa Alaikum Asalaam,

Our dear sister Vales lilly is actually a physician. She is bascially saying that homosexuals can often develop unrelated mental issues so it isnt a surprise that you have been diagnosed with such mental conditions.

She also states that although the doctors you may come across may view homosexuality as “normal” there are a large number of doctors who view it as “not mormal” to have such a sexual inclincation towards the same sex.

Also my brother you have us here to help you by the will of Allah but it is Allah you should thank for wanting to get you out of the situation you are in now and bring you closer to him. He picked you out of so many others in your position and is wanting to guide you so that you may become his pious servant. So grab this opportunity and strive as much as you can to do EVERYTHING in your daily life to become closer to Allah and refrain from anything which angers or displeases him.

Although we are here for you it is you who has to put in the effort required in order for you to go further from where you are now. So put in the effort by praying all of your Salaah on time and in the Masjid if you can and also try to sit with some good local scholars who will be able to give you guidance towards the right path. Get involved with Islamic courses and learning and recite the Qur'an as much as you can. Do as much dhikr of Allah as possible night and day and make dua to Allah as much as you can for him to guide you and help you overcome your issues. Thank him all of the time and repent to him and beg of him for mercy and forgiveness.

And Allah knows best in all matters

hopeonallah

03-15-2011, 10:02 PM

assala mu aliqum my dear brother and sister ,,

thank you for your patience and supports .

I am facing one more new problem which may keep distance or push me far from my goal . " But I think, I have already posted many queries which are still waiting for answer " . I don't want to give overburden to my self otherwise I may lose all whatever I gain . So I am telling to my self " wait, lat the answer come first then post again . as well as I am requesting to all " please" reply my queries as soon as possible which are still waiting for answer. I really thanks all of you . I cant explain how much you are helping me (positive way ). trust me I am very much thankful to all of you . I need more and more help . I hope; I will get .

Thank you .
your beggar ,
********** .

Hamza Asadullah

03-15-2011, 11:18 PM

Asalaamu alaikum which queries my brother please state them.

GuestFellow

03-15-2011, 11:56 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

:sl:

There is no such thing as a "Islamic priest"...

If your having sex with random men, then you are committing a sin and your likely to get STD. There is also A strong possibility you might get raped, there are sexual predators out there, with disgusting intentions.

I heard homosexuality is prohibited in the Quran and sahi Hadid . As per my survey Islam has all solution for the life then, why not in homosexuality ? I had sex with many Muslim married guy; that is the reason I do not believe the marriage is the solution for homosexuality . And still I am not married .

All you need to do is not engage in a sexual relationship with men.

honestly speaking I am not happy . I do not want to live a gay life . I want to live a straight life . I do not want to go to hell . I hate my life . I tried to do suicide many times but I fail . Now I am thinking homosexuality is one of the biggest sin as well as suicide also . So, two wrong thing cant make correct a wrong . Then what to do ? I can not stop my homosexual feeling . What to do ?

Suicide will lead you to hell...

Your homosexual attraction itself is not the sin. It becomes a sin when you have sex with men.

Do u know any solution regarding my problem ? Do you know any psychiatrist who is giving treatment for reorientation within a reasonable price ? Can you ask to Allah for make me a normal human ? I am too tired . kindly help me . Its my request for Allah sake kindly help me .

Don't have sex with men. That is your solution. Fasting and praying will help you control your sexual urges. These feelings might stay with you for the rest of your life, so you must learn to control them.

from : I am sorry for not to disclose my name .

from : India . Bangalore.

There is no need to disclose your name or your location.

I hope I do not sound harsh but your 32 years old. You should be more responsible than sleeping around with random men.

hopeonallah

03-16-2011, 05:01 AM

assala mu aliqum My brother and sister ,

Today I would like to share some experiences of mine . I request you all , please don't misunderstand me . I would like to conform you that, my intention is not to hurt any one. I am asking advance apologizes If any body get hurt by me . Please forgive me .

I would like to tell you one verse from Quran before I start telling my experiences :

Quran in Surah Nisa Ch. No. 4, V. No. 135:
You have to fight for justice even if it is against your own interests. You
have to stand out for witnessing Allah (swt) and for witnessing the truth of
Almighty God even if it is against yourself, against your parents and against
your relatives.

Actually I am fighting against of my self . I am itself is the biggest enemy of my self . My queries are my enemy's weapons. And answers are Weapons of the MOMINS ( True Muslims ) . I am the person who don't want to win of the war . I want to defeat in my war.

I have learn from my experiences that , most of the scholars are aggressive and most of the time I get arrogant answer . ( again I am apologize for it, I just sharing my experiences . and I hope my experiences are should be wrong ). I found whenever they don't want to answer me or may be they don't have answer or may be not the right time of answer of my queries , either they use to tell , I don't have right to ask this type of questions otherwise I will be Qafir . I have to stop asking them. Or they moved from me , or some time they made me move from them . They don't tell that , don't know the answer regarding my queries, so and so the person is perfect for you . Or they don't tell its not the right time to answer you wait till time will come . Or they dont tell; did not understand my queries .

I have another problem that , neither I know Hindi Nor Urdu . I little bit understand English and my mother tongue and few more language . But here most of the scholars are knows only Hindi and Urdu . In fact I feel more comfortable with English whereas my mother tongue is some thing else which I don't want to disclose it here.

According to Islam : if some one doing some thing wrong being a Muslim they should try to rid it . They suppose to try on me how to overcome from my problems . They suppose to try to bring me the right track . they suppose to convince me .And give me solutions. But here some thing opposite happening . Here I have to convince them that, I am thinking my mater is the against of Islam and against of nature and I want to Rid it . So, here I need to do two job, first I have to convince then follow the solutions . Its make me more tough .

I would like to share one more thing . I am 32 years old its true but I think I have lesser knowledge then a 15(fifteen) years old person . And my mentality is childish . A Small rudeness can hurt me like any thing . My this pain can compare with a raped girl .

As per my knowledge : I think Mohammad was get revaluation at the age of 40 years . I have seen many people accept Islam at the age of their end . because of my age I can not give up my hope .

Again I am asking your apologizes . I know I have given you more trouble . But trust me, my intention is not to hurt you .

please forgive me .

Amat Allah

03-16-2011, 05:29 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

your beggar ,

you are not our beggar my respected brother we are all equal please don`t call yourself of such names...you are higher than what you have said...and about scholars (ask me about it) I once met a scholar who was waiting for others Qs to answer them then he treated me in unrespectful way...but trust me my noble brother not all scholars like that . there are many amazing scholars which you don`t want even want them to stop talking ...those hrash are few and may be Allah is testing you in some way ; you don`t know...just be patient and Allah will make you understand....also, some scholars are really have no knowledge of some Qs ...and everyone can give what he/ she is able to give , and the person can not give what he/ she doesn`t have....

and please Akhi , if I was late answering your Qs then you gotta be patient cause I my self do not have soo much of knowledge and I always need to search , read and understand to not give you blind answers... we must be honest and truthful to others and false answers may lead others to the wrong way and make their situation even worse....

Humbly, please quote for me the Qs you want me to help ya with and I will try my best in shaa Allah, ok?

please be happy and forget about your past and go ahead not thinking of things had happened and done... past will only make us misery and destroy our future and first oue relationship with Allah...

I am really happy and honored having you as my brother , May Allah love you and guide your way always and forever Ameeeeeen

I promise you in shaa Allah, I won`t leave your side and Allah Is my witness...

May Allah be with you Ameeeeeen

Amat Allah

03-16-2011, 06:18 AM

Here you are some info about Mastribution :

Masturbation in Islam is Haram. Its harms are great and it has disastrous consequences as established by doctors who have attested to its gravity and detriment. Allah Ta'ala says in the Noble Qur'an concerning the qualities of the people of Iman: 'And those who guard their modesty - save from their wives or the (slaves) that their right hands possess, they are not blameworthy. But whosoever craves beyond that, such are transgressors.' (Mu'minoon 5-7)

It is apparent that this act is contrary to that with which Allah Ta'ala has described the people of Iman - and it entails transgression and injustice upon one's self. Therefore, it is incumbent to abstain from it and take recourse to what Prophet (Pbuh) has prescribed for bachelors wherein he said, 'O members of the youth, those of you who have the means to get married then surely do so, because therein lies the greater protection of ones eyes and private parts. And as for those who do not have the means, then let them hold onto fasting because it weakens and breaks the passion (and desire within a person).'

It is hoped, Insha Allah, that by means of this Nabawi (prophetic) prescription you will finally be able to discard and leave this abominable and wicked act. However, there is no harm in referring to a doctor as well as seeking guidance on this matter for those who are not able to fast and for those who are not able to subdue their passions by fasting as Prophet (Pbuh) said, 'Allah Ta'ala has not sent down any sickness but together with it he sent down a cure as well. Those who have knowledge will be cognisant of it and the ignorant will remain ignorant of it.'

The Prophet (Pbuh) said, 'O servants of Allah! Treat one another with medication. However, do not resort to unlawful means.'

It has been proven medically that masturbation causes numerous illnesses. From among them are:

1.. It weakens the eyesight and decreases its sharpness to a great extent.

2.. It causes the private part to become frail and feeble and it creates a partial or total laxity in it, resulting in the person becoming more resembling to women, due to the loss of his distinctive manliness by means of which Allah Ta'ala has granted man virtue over woman. He is thus unable to get married. And in the event of him getting married, he will not be able to fulfil the responsibilities of marriage as required. This will cause his wife to cast her gaze on other men, resulting in such harms which are apparent.

3.. It creates a weakness in the nerves and sinews due to the physical exertion involved in this act.

4.. It disrupts and upsets the digestive system, thus impending this process.

5.. It creates an impediment in the growth of the body organs, the penis and testicles in particular, thus they do not grow to their natural limit.

6.. It causes an inflammation in the testicles resulting in premature ejaculation to this extent that by mere frictional contact of the penis, ejaculation occurs.

7.. It causes pain in the vertebral column (spine) - the place from which sperm originates - due to which crookedness and bending occurs in the back.

8.. Due to constant ejaculation, the sperm no more remains thick and dense as it normally occurs in males. This results in a deficiency in sperm and in many cases leaving it faint and thin which is not 'mighty enough' to impregnate. This is the cause for such children to be more prone to disease and illness as against those who are born from natural sperm.

9.. It causes trembling and instability in some parts of the body like the feet.

10.. It weakens the cerebral glands, thus weakening the faculty of perception. It also decreases one's intellect and can even lead to mental disorders and insanity.

11.. Finally, we beseech of the Almighty Allah Ta'ala for protection from all evils, for us and all Muslims.

(Abdul Aziz bin Abdullah bin Baaz, Grand Mufti and Head - Department of Islamic Research, Iftaa and Propagation - Saudia Arabia
Extracted from: 'Whither O Youth' Sheikh Muhammad bin Saleh al-Uthaymin published by Madrassa Arabia Islamia - Azaadville)

and a chinese medicine said:

20 percent of male semen is composed of cerebrospinal fluid. Frequent ejaculation thus causes a chronic drain of the vital fluids that the brain and spine require to function properly.
The resulting deficiency of cerebrospinal fluid can cause such increasingly common conditions as premature senility, inability to concentrate, chronic depression, loss of sexual drive and a host of other related symptoms.

and Allah knows the best

Amat Allah

03-16-2011, 06:33 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

EUNUCH

here we are talking about the human being who lost his interest and desire for women because his testicles been cut off ...

... and Allah knows the best...

Amat Allah

03-16-2011, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC... I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " . I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]

I am sorry for asking such Qs but I have to to help ya so, are all medications you take cause you lust? if not then which ones?

Astagfero Allah...

May Allah help me in this Ameeen

hopeonallah

03-17-2011, 10:34 AM

Firstly: Thank you for your reply regarding masturbation . lots of time I had masturbation in my life then, how will I recover from my lose now , physically as well as spiritually?

second thing : doctors keep changing my medicine . currently doctor's advice are: 1). Liofen XL 20mg. one tablet at night .
2). Attentrol 25mg. one tablet at morning .
3). Nexito 10mg. one tablet at night.
But as i told I stop having medicine since one and half months.

hopeonallah

03-17-2011, 10:47 AM

assala mu aliqum . Amat Allah ,

I am desperately waiting for your reply regarding my queries which are still pending . I request you that , please tell to your all members not to response me if they dont have right answer, and if they dont know how to present it . They can forward you the answers and you can send me, because I hope and think you know how to present in a diplomatic way .

thank you .

Ramadhan

03-17-2011, 11:05 AM

Originally Posted by

Firstly: Thank you for your reply regarding masturbation . lots of time I had masturbation in my life then, how will I recover from my lose now , physically as well as spiritually?

Did you read my offer of advice on the other thread about muslims and homosexuality?
In it I wrote some practical steps that maybe helpful for you will restore you, physically and spiritually Insha Allah:

1. Stop associating with other gay people. This may be hard for you at first because they might be the only friends you have or they are your closest friends, but this is very important step to make. You don't have to stop at once, but lessen your interaction with them step by step. Let's not kid ourselves and think that we are strong enough that other people do not affect us. From ahadeeth, from our life experiences, from history and from science we know that our perspectives, our opinions, our views of life are heavily influenced by people we surround ourselves with.
So that means you need to make new friends with good people with strong eeman who implement Islam in daily life. How? Search for Islamic courses in your area and enroll in those classes. Start to offer shalah fard and spend more time in mosque, whether in your neighborhood, your school or work place. Smile to people in there, introduce yourself and make friends with them. You can offer to help doing something for the mosque, no matter how small it is. That will lead you to make friends with them. I am not quite sure how old you are, but if you are still a youth, you may join some youth muslim organizations.
Slowly but surely you will have a shift of paradigm of life.

2. Do not do anything that will only incite your homosexuality. This means, never ever go near any pornographic materials, gay or otherwise, Be firm and strong and do not surrender yourself to the whispering of shaytan.

3. prophet Muhammad SAW prescribed fastings for those who are ready but cannot marry yet. So start doing sunnah fastings. If you are able to, you can do sunnah prophet Daud (pbuh) which is fasting every other day (one day fasting - one day break - and goes on), or you can start with the monday-thursday fastings. There are sooo many barokah, blessings, and hikmah in fastings. First, fasting is the only ibada for Allah (there's a hadith Qudsi about this I think). Second, fasting is proven very beneficial in helping controlling libido and reset physical, emotional and psychological health. So do this, and do not delay.

4. Start implementing sunnah in your daily life. The more you implement sunnah, the more you will feel easier to manage your homosexuality.

5. Always pray to Allah for guidance, ask for forgiveness (the du'a from prophets Adam or yunus (pbut) who asked for forgiveness is very powerful - Laa Ilaaha illa anta, Subhanaka innee kuntu minadzholimin - "There is no God that I worship but you, You are the Most High, so forgive me for I have wronged myself). Increase your sunnah prayers such as tahajud and dhuha, and be positive btu still patient that Allah accepts your du'a.

5. If one day you slip and perform homosexual act or even watching porn for example, do not despair and do not surrender and think that Allah make you that way. You must repent to Allah SWT as soon as you do that, ask Allah for forgiveness with every sincerity and promise yourself to never do it again. Remember, always repent. Allah SWT will forgive our sins no matter if it fills earth and sky as long as we are sincere in our repentance. Do not despair from the hope on Allah

Muhaba

03-17-2011, 11:19 AM

i am not sure what your solution is. you can try solitude for some time, say 40 days, during which you won't encounter another human being, but watching nature and animals are ok. don't lock yourself in a dark room. i think a place in the wilderness might be best because i read that being alone in a natural surrounding has a calming effect. during this time do only zikr and istaghfaar (repentence to Allah) but don't think of homosexuality etc. just do zikr and astaghfaar. the aim is to get rid of all homo thoughts for as long as possible so that you can come back with a fresh mind. after your time in solitide i hope that you will no longer get gay feelings. i hope this method is successful but am unsure of its effects. let us kjow after youve done it. May Allah make you successful. ameen.

hopeonallah

03-17-2011, 09:14 PM

assala mu aliqum " naidamar and WRITER "

thank you for ur advice .

I stay alone only . and I have join Islamic center for getting Islamic knowledge . I visited a Islamic library but i could not found any book or audio or video CD which can help me regarding homosexuality . I do Salah . Let see what Allah want me to do .

hopeonallah

03-17-2011, 10:43 PM

assala mu aliqum brother and sister .

I would like to share some thing here . before that I am asking advance apologize from all , if any body get hurt by me please forgive me . My intention is not to hurt any one .

Before that I would like to remind one hadith ,

(Sahih Al-Muslim Vol. 1 The Book of Faith Chapter 21 Hadith No. 79)That means a Muslim, whenever he sees any evil, if he can, he should strive to stop it with his hand. If he cannot stop it with his hand, he should at least open his mouth to strive to prevent that act or to warn or dissuade. If he is even afraid to open his mouth, the least he can do is to curse that evil deed in his heart, and if he does that, he is on the lowest level of a believer.

Now look at my experience :
Can you guess how strong the gay world . If you want to know the strength of Gay world then, You just need to log in the GOOGLE and just type gay dating , you will get many gay sites . Choose any site and make a profile and forward a message that, you are a straight but want to have homo sex . within one hour your mail box will be full . No mater where you are located . You can post a message like you are a gay or bi or straight but you are disturb you need help. you are not satisfy about homo sex etc . you need help for understand about homo sex . or may be you can ask, you want to become gay . then you can see how strong the gay world .

Gay world provide you 24/7 free help line , phone help line , internet help line . You will get 24/7 instant support . You just call within 5 mints they will come to you . they will provide you all possible support . free medical , free lawyer , free counseling by professional psychologist . In India psychologist are charging In average Rs. 300.00 per session . they will provide you free as much as you need . free good quality condoms which price comes in average Rs. 10.00 per 3pic pack . they will provide you free lubricant which cost comes Rs.250.00 per 50ml. They have weekly general meeting in a good place . and there you can get many high profile people . weekly 3 to 4 times Party in a luxurious places . In generally those luxurious places charges Rs.500.00 to Rs.1000.00 per head but they provide within Rs.200.00 only . In Bangalore party dead line time is 11.30pm but they will carry it till 2am to 4am . Now you can guess how much bribe they provide to police . In the party hall you will get 5 to 10 percents middle east Muslim Arabs guys . Only for homo sex those people are coming to India. They can ready to expend Rs.4000.00 to 10000.00 for one night ( here don't misunderstand me because I never charge money but I know about this ) . If you are a job less the gay society will helps you to get a batter job.

Now if you look 10 years back , you can easily understand how much homo sex has increased . few times ago homo sex was illegal in India. But now its not a problem here . This is the another reason I am very much confuse . Because I have seen all type of people are involve in home sex . I have seen many many many married people are involve in homo sex ( Muslim as well as non Muslim ).I think every body wearing straight mask only . I know GAYS are very few not more then 10%. But I don't have any idea how much percentage of BISEXUAL practicing people. Now a days its become very popular into teen ages guys .

*** Now look at me , I am desperately searching help for overcome from homo sex . I am not getting any help line . I have send many messages to many Muslim sites but only one site responding me that is this site only . I am not asking any free help , infect I have capacity for pay also INSAH ALLAH. Still no body able to give me a psychiatrist's or any doctors or any reliable person contact in Bangalore which can help me for reorientation .

Now you can compere ..... What Muslim world doing for saving their next generation as well current generation ?

Don't you think homo sex is affecting our society as like as WOODWORM destroy the wood ? Or its already destroyed ?

ALLAH shuld save us help us . Ameen,

Amat Allah

03-18-2011, 03:40 AM

Akhi quote for me the question you want me to help you with , please would ya?

you said that you don`t want see doctors anymore, and what should you do?

honestly, I don`t know...

I don`t want to cause you any harm...but I believe that what you have from issues could be cured without doctors and this is my own opinion...

I believe that all mental problems have one cure...and its is to submit to Allah completely and that by reading Quraan and following its commandments and you will never ever find a doctor like Qur`aan ever...

Allah says:"O mankind, there has to come to you instruction from your Lord and healing for what is in the breasts and guidance and mercy for the believers. (57) " Surat Yunus.

and says:"And We send down of the Qur'an that which is healing and mercy for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in loss. (82" Surat Al Israa.

and about the fears you have; they won`t be cured with medications but with you yourself after Allah; you need to face all your fears by yourself to be freed from them all...in shaa Allah...

hopeonallah

03-18-2011, 05:14 PM

assala mu aliqum .

I am feeling very lonely . I am not able to see any bank , I am middle of the ocean. I am feeling help less . my head is spinning . I lost 5kg within two months . I am thinking suicide is the only solution for me . I don't know what to do . I am tired . I need to sleep . But I cant . I am not feeling hungry .

S.Belle

03-18-2011, 05:27 PM

hope this helps it has some nice tips for overcoming depression

As-salamu `alaykum.

I know that this is a bad thing to say, but I feel like it is inevitable that I will die by suicide. It is not that I want to, but depression runs in my family. Two of my uncles committed suicide and I am often very depressed for no reason. Please tell me how I can avoid this fate. When I am depressed I feel like I have no control over myself. I am quite a good student, but I have become so depressed lately that I am not going to school or doing my homework. Please give me some advice as soon as possible
Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear brother in Islam, we are pleased by receiving your question, for it reflects your conviction of the fact that Islam offers workable solutions to the world’s complicated problems. May Allah guide the perplexed people to the light of Islam!

As for your question, a Muslim should never surrender to depression, despair, or evil thoughts. A Muslim should resort to Allah and seek His help against these evils. At the same time, medical treatment should not be ignored.

Responding to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:

It is most likely that you are suffering from a serious form of depression; it is important that you seek immediate medical help. Get in touch with your family doctor and he will refer you to a specialist in this field.

Islam teaches us never to despair of Allah’s mercy. So do not ever lose hope, but do what is necessary in order to take care of your health. This involves consulting doctors, obtaining treatment and taking medication. Since Allah has ordered us to take care of our health, it is our religious duty to seek medical attention in order to save ourselves from self-destruction. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Verily your body has rights; your soul has rights and your Lord has rights… so give each one his/her due.”

Depression is a very serious condition and unless treated correctly it could be fatal, so do not wait to obtain proper treatment: While doing so, you should also be consistent in resorting to spiritual healing. Here are a few things you may practice on a consistent basis:

1) Be diligent in performing your salah; Salah, when done consciously and with full awareness, will prove to be a true source of spiritual healing and it is the best way to obtain relief from stress.

2) Before retiring to bed every day, read surat Al-Fatihah and the last three surahs of the Qur’an and blow into your hands and wipe over your whole body, preferably three times. You may also repeat the same at other times of the day or night as you wish.

3) Try to read at least ten verses of the Qur’an every day.

4) Listen to the Qur’an as much as possible; try to play a recording of the Qur’an at all times.

5) Keep yourself busy doing something beneficial, for a mind that is not occupied with good things will most likely be occupied with idle matters; remember if you do not keep yourself busy with good works, Satan will make sure to keep you busy with his negative and destructive work.

6) Say the following supplications (du`a's) while believing in their efficacy, and expecting cure and relief from Allah:

Allahummarahmataka arju fala takilnee ila nafsee tarfata `ayn; wa aslih lee sha'nee kullahu, la ilaha illa anata(O Allah! I implore Your grace and mercy; so do not leave me to my own devices even for a single instant!)

La ilaha illa Allah al-`azeem al-haleem, la ilaha illa Allah rabbu al-`arshi al-`azeem, la ilaha illa Allahu rabbu al-ssamawati wa al-ardhi wa rabbu al-`arshi al-kareem(There is no god but Allah, the Great, the Clement; there is no god but Allah, Lord of the Mighty Throne; there is no god but Allah, Lord of the heavens and the earth, and Lord of the Mighty Throne.)

Allahummainnee `abduka, ibnu `abdik, ibn amatik, nasiyatee bi yadika, qadin fiyya hukmuka, `adlun fiyya qada'uka; as'aluka bi kull ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fee kitabika aw `allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista`tharta bihi fee `ilmi al-ghaybi `indaka an taj`ala al-Qur'ana rabee`a qalbee wa noora basaree wa jila`a huznee wa dhahaba hammee(O Allah! I am Your servant; son of Your servant, son of Your maid-servant; my forelock is under Your firm grip; Your decree is firmly established in my case; Your rule is just in my case. I ask You, invoking every single name You possess, with which You have called Yourself, or You have revealed in Your scripture, or instructed any of Your creation or You have kept hidden in the realm of the unseen with You, to make the Qur’an the spring of my heart, the light of my eyes, and an alleviator of my grief and a dispeller of my worries!)

May Allah grant you a complete recovery and healing, for He is indeed the Healer and the Curer-ameen.

hopeonallah

03-18-2011, 05:47 PM

I don't have any family . I stay 3000km far from my family . I have only father and stepmother and they have their own life . My brother and sister stay far from us . they have their own life . NO body has time .

S.Belle

03-18-2011, 06:15 PM

you have your brothers and sisters on this forum and most importantly you have Allah so no need to feel like all hope is lost

Since you feel all of these negative emotions I am sure there are many that are in your shoes as well
so instead of complaining about how noone helps why not change that?
you could try to start a group/organization...it could even be an online group of some sort to help muslim homosexuals?...maybe even heterosexuals can join.
You all can help each other stay on the straight path and support one another as muslims.

It would help you personally and others as well.

But if you cant start one find one online (im sure theres a few) and join there

hopeonallah

03-18-2011, 06:15 PM

assala mu aliqum . " Amat Allah "

I don't want to meet any doctor who support homosexuality .
I am ready to meet a doctor who can help me to over come from homosexuality , who don't advice me or counseling me to enjoy my life in wrong way .

I need to meet a person or doctor or any thing which can help me to overcome from homosexuality rather then supporting it . Who can understand me .

hopeonallah

03-18-2011, 06:24 PM

to S.belle,

where I have to join .

S.Belle

03-18-2011, 06:39 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

to S.belle,

where I have to join .

I dont know try google and search for a support group
brother qatada posted a link on the first page to a blog you should check it out as well.

if your not able to find one then start your own to help others and yourself.

hopeonallah

03-18-2011, 11:47 PM

my dear friend " S.Bele"

I have search at GOOGLE about gay support . I got many more support group for accepting homosexuality not overcome from homosexuality . Where should I go? What to do ? Do Allah want me to stay as a GAY ? Why I am not getting any solution whereas I am trying it since I aware ?

S.Belle

03-19-2011, 12:41 AM

just a thought bro but dont u have to accept something before you can overcome it?
u have desires for the same gender accept that but dont act out those desires (Allah does not punish us for our desires but by our intentions). once u have accept overcome ur homosexual desires by praying to Allah to take those desires out of ur heart
surround urself with good muslims who can help u stay on the right path and teach u more about islam

hopeonallah

03-19-2011, 01:41 AM

my dear sister " S.Belle "

How do I know who is good Muslim or bad Muslim ? if you mean to say who is keeping beard and offer Salah those are good Muslim then, I request you to think once again . keeping thoughts about same sex not act on it and stay with full of same sex interested people ,its almost impossible.

I guess I need professional help . I am just riding without knowing direction .

Amat Allah

03-19-2011, 06:11 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

assala mu aliqum . " Amat Allah " I don't want to meet any doctor who support homosexuality . I am ready to meet a doctor who can help me to over come from homosexuality , who don't advice me or counseling me to enjoy my life in wrong way . I need to meet a person or doctor or any thing which can help me to overcome from homosexuality rather then supporting it . Who can understand me .

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

we all understand what you want my respected brother and I have told ya who the best doctor for ya...just if you would listen and act upon what we have told ya to do....

my respected brother return to Qur`aan and surely, you will find the cure...Allah doesn`t want or love evil for His slaves, but the evil is from ourselves within ourselves and we need to beat it by the fear of Allah`s punishment and the desire of His pleasure and love...

satan is seeing now how you are trying and striving to please Allah and he is trying to disappoint you in all possible ways...my noble brother please don`t listen to him; he only wants to drag us all with him to hellfire...

read Qur`aan and understand it and follow its commandments and in shaa Allah you will find happiness ...your soul is hugry and you already have its food my respected brother and it is the rememberance of Allah, Qur`aan, paryers and repentance so, feed it before it dies...

what would you win from suiciding?...do you want to lose this life and the Hereafter life? I tried in the past many times to suicide , and what i have gained? nothing but more misery and deppression...the happiness path was always in front of my eyes but I used to choose the losers path...depression and thinking of ending my life which Allah gave me as a trust and ordered me to mantain it till He takes it again...

I used to be alone in the darkness, lost, depressed, hating my self and lost in sinning away from my Lord for years...and none was there to help me, none stood by my side , none took my hand and others were wishing me harmness and accusing me with things that I am not...telling me that I am a mistake ...Astagferoullah...

who wrapped me with his mercy and kindness? who is the one who was my protector? who is the one who used to watch me listen to me?............none but Allah...and when? He was always there for me but I was blind to see and feel ; giving my self many excuses striving to get people`s help and forgot about the Lord of people and what i have got? nothing but loss...

in the past; it was hard for me to shed tears and I was suffering from chest pain because of this; moving on my bed paining and feeling rage and feeling like my head and my heart are going to explode from anger from depression and used to spit on mirror when I see my face...Astagrefoullah... but when I started praying, when I left all my past sins behind me when I started reading Qur`aan understanding it following its commandments , when I left the whole world all its pleasures and everything in it; heading to my Lord with repentance crying for His help I found Him full of mercy and kindness waiting for me...laa ilaha illa Allah...I changed 180 degree, whom will see me in the past won`t believe that I am the same person and Alhamdulillah for that and May Allah keep us all firm on His straight path of Al Haqq Ameeeeeeeen

what are you waiting for? why not running to Allah The One Who will cure all your illnesses and heals all your pain? why to connect your fate and happiness to mortal people and things while you have The Ever-living the One Who knows you well and Knows all your needs? why to wait from human to draw for ya the guidance lines while Allah had drew them for ya in Quraan and Sunnah?

my respected brother, I got the help from none but been beaten, used and insulted and none gave me his/ her hand to pull me out from the hell pit but The One indeed laaa ilaha ill Allah...

and you now have many people here supporting you my respected brother many people care for you and this is out of Allah`s Mercy, this is a great blessings from Allah so, take the cahnces you have in your hand and make them useful for Allah`s sake....

yes, we are here to help ya but after Allah my noble brother...everyone here gives you his/ her advice and support .. they are so lovely trying their best to take the hand of their beloved brother whom they treasure respect and wish him all happiness...and we will never stop trying to help but you my noble brother have to know that Allah comes always first always and forever and nothing would happen but by His willing...want success, the peace of mind and heart ; run to your Lord; return to Him; complain to Him; cry and tell Him everything; ask His help; ask His mercy and guidance and never let satan deceive you ever...seek Allah`s refuge from satan and keep walking in Allah`s path ; the straight path in shaa Allah...

May Allah guide you and make you from His righteous and pious slaves Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

take care of yourself and never give up cause you are not a loser as I believe...

humbly, your sister who wishes you all happiness:

Amat Allah

S.Belle

03-21-2011, 05:49 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

my dear sister " S.Belle "

How do I know who is good Muslim or bad Muslim ? if you mean to say who is keeping beard and offer Salah those are good Muslim then, I request you to think once again . keeping thoughts about same sex not act on it and stay with full of same sex interested people ,its almost impossible.

I guess I need professional help . I am just riding without knowing direction .

I mean good muslims by their character and how they behave just bc someone has beard or wears hijab doesnt mean they are good muslims.
Once you meet people (maybe at masjid) and you hang outside of masjid then you will see if they are the type of people that you need in your life.
For example those who incourage you to do what is right, to remember Allah, etc. would be helpful in your life.

When I said accept the fact you have homosexual desires....its kinda like an alcoholic when they go to AAA meeting the first thing they have them to do is introduce themselves and have them acknowledge the fact that they are an alcoholic that is what i meant by accept it.

acknowledge the fact that you have homosexual desires and accept it to the point where you will not beat yourself up for having them and yet at the same time you dont act upon those desires. We all have desires and the only way we can overcome them completely is by turning to Allah and asking him to help us.
Dont even allow yourself to become too attracted to those of the same sex if you find yourself thinking in your head those thoughts then stop yourself and lower your gaze so that it can not even began.

hopeonallah

03-24-2011, 02:18 AM

assala mu aliqum my brothers and sisters !

I would like to give you special thanks to " Amat Allah and S,Belle "

I am sorry to say you that, I could not control the tendency of suicide, So I have forced to meet my old psychiatrist . He give me medicine . I am feeling relax now . But the problem is; I am becoming very horny . I am again extremely sorry that I could not safe my self from masturbation . There are high possibility to have illegal sex If I could not done masturbation . What to do ?

second thing , I like to keep myself very neat and clean . I do aroma bath , I do trimming my underarms and pubic areas , I wear very attractive underwear . And I feel good and happy . I would like to share my happiness with some one. And guys are likes my body shape because my body is very much proportionate and macho muscular , my manly aromatic body , they like my attractive underwear. But now I am thinking whom do I share my this feeling . Because girls are may not like all those things . I have seen in generally females likes very ordinary, passionless guys only . Whom do I share my those felling If I could become straight ?

Third thing, I often forget my goal, I often forget to lower my gaze . And I feel some thing is pooling me towards to male . In my case lower gaze is working like a magic . My same sex attraction cant harm much if I keep lower my gaze , but the problem is I often forget to keep lower my gaze . And I keep remembering my past which are regretting me and make me sad .

forth thing, My willpower is very less . Environment and situation are very much affecting me. I start flowing my self according to environment . If I get Islamic environment I start becoming a pure Muslim. If I get wrong environment I start becoming wrong . I guess this is not good . How can I make strong willpower ?

fifth thing, Whatever improvement happened on me that is for your supports Insha Allah . I need your supports continuously . So please forgive me if I have done any mistake or if I do any mistake . please let me know if I do any mistake . I hope you understood what I mean .

Thank you . Please pray for me . so that Allah accept me . I believe , if Allah accept me; who has dare to ignore me .

Ramadhan

03-24-2011, 04:56 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Thank you . Please pray for me . so that Allah accept me . I believe , if Allah accept me; who has dare to ignore me .

There is no question that Allah forgives our sins and accepts our repentance if it is sincere. The only question is: do we want to ask for forgiveness and repent?

Say, “O My (Allah’s) servants who have transgressed against themselves, Do not despair of the (thought that you have lost the) mercy of Allah because Allah forgives all sins (if you repent, correct yourself and ask forgiveness). He (Allah) is forgiving and merciful. (QS 39:53)

On the authority of Anas (Radiyallaahu `anhu) who said : I heard the Messenger of Allah (Sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) say :
Allah the Almighty has said : O Son of Adam, as long as you invoke Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and you then asked forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the Earth, and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it [too].
It was related by at-Tirmidhee, who said that it was a Hasan hadeeth.

hopeonallah

03-28-2011, 10:03 AM

I am still waiting for my reply . I hope I will get my all pending queries . I hope any body will read my all queries .
thank you

hopeonallah

03-28-2011, 10:17 AM

I may keeping a vain hope . I may wasting my as well as your time . I don't know whats going on with me . I just tell you that I am really tired . I cant bear any more . I am too tired . I want to sleep . I want to a long sleep . long and long sleep . I don't want to wake up any more . I don't want to see any more this painful world . I need relax . Living alone is very painful. By hearing this pain cant understand . It can be understand by experience only . All human being have company , all type of animal also have company . I am the only one species who does not have any company . No one can understand my pain . No one has time for it . every body have their own problem . some one busy for their happiness . some one busy with their needs . I am a very funny . I should understand why people give attention towards me . Who I am ? I am really funny . I am worst . I am waste . I am itself a hell .

Amat Allah

03-28-2011, 11:28 AM

assala mu aliqum my brothers and sisters ! I would like to give you special thanks to " Amat Allah and S,Belle "

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

you are very wellcome my respected brother...

I am sorry to say you that, I could not control the tendency of suicide, So I have forced to meet my old psychiatrist . He give me medicine . I am feeling relax now . But the problem is; I am becoming very horny . I am again extremely sorry that I could not safe my self from masturbation . There are high possibility to have illegal sex If I could not done masturbation . What to do ?

do some sport instead of masturbation or go for a run outside the house and please read here May Allah be pleased with you Ameen:

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...terbation.html

second thing , I like to keep myself very neat and clean . I do aroma bath , I do trimming my underarms and pubic areas , I wear very attractive underwear . And I feel good and happy . I would like to share my happiness with some one. And guys are likes my body shape because my body is very much proportionate and macho muscular , my manly aromatic body , they like my attractive underwear. But now I am thinking whom do I share my this feeling . Because girls are may not like all those things . I have seen in generally females likes very ordinary, passionless guys only . Whom do I share my those felling If I could become straight ?

who told ya that? girls love neat and clean men and The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and his Sahabah (May Allah be pleased with them) used to take care of themselves for their wives...if you are ready for marriage; ask your precious stepmother to find you a wife in shaa Allah...May Allah grant you the perfect match who will make you the happiest after Allah Ameeeeeen

Third thing, I often forget my goal, I often forget to lower my gaze . And I feel some thing is pooling me towards to male . In my case lower gaze is working like a magic . My same sex attraction cant harm much if I keep lower my gaze , but the problem is I often forget to keep lower my gaze . And I keep remembering my past which are regretting me and make me sad .

its ok, we all forget sometimes, just try your best to be better and better andtry to carry in your pocket a small Mus`haff (Qur`aan) and whenever you feel something take it out , open it and read, that surely will help in shaa Allah as a reminder...May Allah be with you Ameen

forth thing, My willpower is very less . Environment and situation are very much affecting me. I start flowing my self according to environment . If I get Islamic environment I start becoming a pure Muslim. If I get wrong environment I start becoming wrong . I guess this is not good . How can I make strong willpower ?

let your honesty and sincerety of becoming a real and pure Muslim lead your way after Allah, my respected brother pull yourself together and try your best to concentrate on the real purpose of you being created and if you would let all of this world and what in it out of your head then you will never care for the world and everything in it, my respected brother let the fire inside you take you directly to Allah, walk on the straight path and don`t left or right just a head and you can do it in shaa Allah, you are strong enough to do it, you were so brave coming here talking about your proble and taking many steps to change your self so, keep going and never let anything or anyone stop you ...May Allah help you and give you more strength Ameeeeeeen

fifth thing, Whatever improvement happened on me that is for your supports Insha Allah . I need your supports continuously . So please forgive me if I have done any mistake or if I do any mistake . please let me know if I do any mistake . I hope you understood what I mean . Thank you . Please pray for me . so that Allah accept me . I believe , if Allah accept me; who has dare to ignore me

whatever improvement happens with you then it is from Allah and out of His Mercy may Allah accept you , be pleased with you and make you amongst His best righteous and pious servants and slaves Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeen.
you are forgiven always and forever tho you hurt none of us but always were to kind and respected May Allah bless you and protect you from all harms Ameeeeeeen

take care of yourself my noble brother in shaa Allah...

leaving you under Allah`s sight, care and protection...

Humbly:

Amat Allah.

Amat Allah

03-28-2011, 11:55 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Astaghfero allah Al Atheem...

don`t say this about yourself my respevted brother , WaAllahi you are so precious to usand you try to visit your stepmother so much stay with her talk to her and tell her that you feel lonely, she might find you a wife ...

please we are here with you in shaa Allah, sometimes I don`t reply to you directly because I don`t have any Idea in how to help ya and how to answer your Questions in a helpful way trying not to give you false advices...by Allah, be strong ; you are not lonely you have Allah before everyone and everything... my respected brother, what is your hobby? what do you like to do??

look for example : I love drawing and specially for those whom I love , treasure and respect and surely you are one of them May Allah be pleased with you....Ameeen

Humbly here you are the link: http://www.islamicboard.com/creative...ml#post1422625

so, what is your hobby? tell us about it? there must be something...and what are your interests? what your fave colors , places , fruits..etc...

try your best to utilize of what you have ,what you love and what you fave too

share with us and talk with us more about things you love to have and to do...empty your heart and feel free in shaa Allah...tell us how do you feel about Allah Islam and the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings of Allah be upon him...explore your self from inside and you will find so much wonders in shaa Allah and believe me after Allah and trying to be His true slave and what I have mentioned above you will be happy in shaa Allah...

May Allah protect you from all harms Ameeeeeen and don`t say such things about yourself and never think about such bad things , you are higher than what you are thinking and your life and soul are so precious to be wasted just like that....

we all love you unconditionaly, deeply and endlessly for the sake of Allah and never think that we don`t care for you and you said you are feeling lonely and we don`t know how you feel...but I am telling you that we know how you feel and we have felt that before but after knowing Allah we are not anymore... try to fill your days with Allah`s rememberance and also with what Allah has blessed you with...

May Allah help us to help ya right and be good brothers and sisters to you Ameeeeeeeeen

Woodrow

03-28-2011, 05:05 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

No you are not being ignored. Just keep in mind people here are from all over and live in different time zones. Often a person will not be on line until maybe 12 hours or longer after you post.

hopeonallah

03-28-2011, 05:07 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! Amat Allah ,

I cant marry a girl . Because I have seen many married guys having homo sex . For the name sake those people are getting marry with girl for showing the society including Muslim guys . Now I am doing one Sin by having homo sex . I don't want to become double Sinner like those people who are getting marry being a gay and having sex with other males .Very Rear those people are having sex with their wife . But they are not missing any opportunity to having sex with any other males. I don't have any right to spoil some others life . I am not that kind of guy who are not giving any value to the women . I cant destroy any girl's life .

Second thing : I don't have any hobby . I don't play any game . I don't watch movie nor listen to music . I was liking to do gardening When I was child; But my elder sister and mother did not allow me to do gardening so I have stop it long back ago . Because I was a crazy guy that is the reason my family did not allow me to do any thing which I liked . It was my punishment . If I want to do gardening now I cant, because I stay in a rental house its in second floor where don't have any place to do gardening. [ here I would like to mention that I watched gay porn movies ]

Third thing : I have seen women are very much dominating nature . They cant be friend . I have seen my mother my elder sister my aunties they are always doing competition with their husband . Their main intention is how to dominating their husband . I don't need a sex partner only . I need a sex partner as well as good friend . who can understand me , who can help me , who can love me , who can take care me, who can bother about my problems, who can support me , I don't want to become one of those husbands . I have many conception about woman .

forth thing: unfortunately I saw my mother's and my sister's vagina and accidentally I have touched my elder sister breast when I was child . here I don't want to disclose the reason of those incident , Just keep in your mind that, it was not happen by my wish . I was very young that time . I could not understand even what was going on . I am sorry for discussing all those thing . But the problem is I cant think about any woman . whenever I try to think about any woman those incident comes in front of my eyes . I love my mom and my sister but at the same time I hate them .

Neither I want to go to my parents house nor my other family member's or relatives house . Infect I will get a luxurious life over there. Even I don't have dare to stay there . Now I stay in a very small place . But my past life was very luxurious . I leave all those thing . Now I am poor . I don't have dare to make my self more insecure . I am still insecure . I know poor people does not have any respect in this world . People may say that Islam has equal value to all but in practical its not true . Recently I got one more prove regarding different between poor and rich Muslim . Discrimination is there between Muslims whereas Islam strictly prohibited discrimination , you can imagine now what about other religions people . I just know the life is very painful .

Here people may ask me question that all wrong things happened with me only, How come its possible ? Honestly speaking I don't have answer . I cant give you only one answer that, I am a bad person or it is my luck only.

Amat Allah

03-29-2011, 03:35 AM

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh.

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I cant marry a girl . Because I have seen many married guys having homo sex . For the name sake those people are getting marry with girl for showing the society including Muslim guys . Now I am doing one Sin by having homo sex . I don't want to become double Sinner like those people who are getting marry being a gay and having sex with other males .Very Rear those people are having sex with their wife . But they are not missing any opportunity to having sex with any other males. I don't have any right to spoil some others life . I am not that kind of guy who are not giving any value to the women . I cant destroy any girl's life .

and is it a must to do that after marriage? you are not like those men, you stopped being with men, didn`t you?
getting married would help ya so much my respected brother, to live with someone who can take care of you and serve your needs and love you legaly and according the Shari`aa...why not?

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Second thing : I don't have any hobby . I don't play any game . I don't watch movie nor listen to music . I was liking to do gardening When I was child; But my elder sister and mother did not allow me to do gardening so I have stop it long back ago . Because I was a crazy guy that is the reason my family did not allow me to do any thing which I liked . It was my punishment . If I want to do gardening now I cant, because I stay in a rental house its in second floor where don't have any place to do gardening. [ here I would like to mention that I watched gay porn movies ]

and are they still there to prevent you from doing what you like? and gardening is not the only thing in world to do, you can discover so much in you , just don`t think about yourself so low then you will be able to find so much...

I don`t see movies and I don`t listen to music either cause I don`t need such haraam things to entertain me...I am talking about halaal things brother...can`t you just get out of the house and find you a place where you feel peaceful and comfortable...sitting there and thinking of Allah, looking around you and reflecting on Allah`s creation, have you tried reading Qur`aan and understand it?there is so much dreariness inside of you Akhi , because your soul is hungry and you are not feeding it with Athiker and Qur`aan...thats why you are feeling lonely and depressed...I really wana know what r you waiting for? why not taking the cure before you fall on your face? I really don`t understand...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Third thing : I have seen women are very much dominating nature . They cant be friend . I have seen my mother my elder sister my aunties they are always doing competition with their husband . Their main intention is how to dominating their husband . I don't need a sex partner only . I need a sex partner as well as good friend . who can understand me , who can help me , who can love me , who can take care me, who can bother about my problems, who can support me , I don't want to become one of those husbands . I have many conception about woman .

and are all women the same? are you the same as your father? none like the other so, stop imagining and believe your imaginations...
why not having a wife who will take care of you, love you, respect you, help you and be your friend and soulmate? there are many great women who are better than what you are thinking and you by judging all for the deeds and manners of some; wronging us my respected brother...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

forth thing: unfortunately I saw my mother's and my sister's vagina and accidentally I have touched my elder sister breast when I was child . here I don't want to disclose the reason of those incident , Just keep in your mind that, it was not happen by my wish . I was very young that time . I could not understand even what was going on . I am sorry for discussing all those thing . But the problem is I cant think about any woman . whenever I try to think about any woman those incident comes in front of my eyes . I love my mom and my sister but at the same time I hate them .

and what if I saw man`s private parts ? what if I was raped and abused sexualy? am I stupid to ruin my whole life for the past, for something ugly had happened and ended? am I going to judge all men the same for the deed of one beast? where is justic in that then?

I would surely build my future and try my best to make it bright and happy forgetting about past and bad things had happned by the grace and mercy of Allah by returning to my Lord and asking Him for His aid and help by reading His book and following His commandments to increase my Imaan and taqwa to get closer to Allah...what is wrong with you brother? satan is playing with your mind and you are listening to him while he is weaker than you and have no chance ever to be in Jannah and you O son of Adam have all the chances to correct your mistakes and have two paths to choose ...want him to drag you to hell with him? go, follow him, listen to him and be miserable.. let him control you and then he wins and what you have got? nothing but Hell and more torments...

and thats too which made you feel low, lonely and depressed, thinking of things had happened and done...and this is won`t ever benefit you by any mean or in any way, you are just driving your self insane killing yourself so slowly by tying yourself to past ; losing both of your present and future...you are the one whom causing yourself all those troubles and misery with all my respect....Allah showed you the way and opened your eyes then why are you trying to close them and all the doors which have been opened for ya by ignoring all what The Most Exalted taught you and blessed you with? you already have His Noble Book but what benefit you took from it? I swear by The Owner of heavens and earth and all living and non; as long as you feel like this and thinking this way then with all my respect; you took nothing...

you always giving excuses to justify all things you do and all what you are feeling...stop deceiving yourself and be a man enough to face your troubles , get rid of them all and be a good servant...you are not wasting our time Akhi ; you are only wasting your time in useless things and thoughts which taking you to no where but to the edge of a horrible grave...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Neither I want to go to my parents house nor my other family member's or relatives house . Infect I will get a luxurious life over there. Even I don't have dare to stay there . Now I stay in a very small place . But my past life was very luxurious . I leave all those thing . Now I am poor . I don't have dare to make my self more insecure . I am still insecure . I know poor people does not have any respect in this world . People may say that Islam has equal value to all but in practical its not true . Recently I got one more prove regarding different between poor and rich Muslim . Discrimination is there between Muslims whereas Islam strictly prohibited discrimination , you can imagine now what about other religions people . I just know the life is very painful .

if something is forbidden in Islam then it is my brother no matter how many Muslims you see violating Allah`s limits and life is painful for those who make it painful...and want respect from people? then respect your Lord and His limitations, respect His Book which you have but not letting it control your life...when you please Allah then all of His creation wil be pleased with you even non living things ... and I know many and many poor people whom are respected in this world and others see them as kings ...

open your eyes and wake up for Allah`s sake, I am so sorry if being harsh with you my respected brother but you always say that we don`t understand you while you are the one who understands us not and if bad things happening with you then cause you are letting them...change yourself then you will see how your life would be...

take care of yourself...

May Allah be with you...Ameeen

hopeonallah

03-29-2011, 07:20 AM

assala mu alaiqum ! my dear sister " Amat Allah "

Thank you for your reply . I really want to overcome from my current situation . But how ? My up side down . I have to turn it completely . I really need a guidance . Where from I start , how I start , How I continue , I really dot know.

I am becoming aggressive and horny, Its happen If I use those medicine. My suicide tendency is increase if I don't use those medicine . What to do , what not to do . I am confuse .

I have inferiority complex, I have some revenge feeling towards to male ;Whenever I see any guy who is superior to me ' I want to take revenge from them . I want to take off their manliness . I want to show them that, I am superior then you .I want to show them that, I am a man , I am not the things which you can use . But the thing is they likes my wildness on bed . And my revenge is endless . Its going on only . day be day it increasing only . I know its not right . But I cant control it . I discussed it with my doctors but doctors told its one kind of sexual felling and many people have this feeling, and many people likes their sex partner should be wild on bed . But I don't like my this feeling . Its hurting me . I have feeling that, all men are my enemy and I should show them my power . And its going on and on . I could not control it . Here I may not explain my feeling towards to man . My feeling is more harder then my explanation .

I have many thoughts towards to woman too . But I don't know that, should I share it or not.

People may think its my excuses . May be those are my excuses but those excuses are really influencing my life . Its destroying my life . My life is very complicated . I don't know how do I correct it . Trying to change my life is equal to searching a mustered seed from the desert . How it possible ? I don't think any body was there or is there who has complicated life such as me and he change him self and become happy and safe and living a normal life . Allah knows better .

hopeonallah

03-29-2011, 09:15 AM

my sister " Amat Allah "
Assala mu alaiqum !

You have told : " and is it a must to do that after marriage? you are not like those men, you stopped being with men, didn`t you?
getting married would help ya so much my respected brother, to live with someone who can take care of you and serve your needs and love you legaly and according the Shari`aa...why not? "

I dont have confident about my self , because I have seen many people who are offering 5 times Sallah keeping beard and having versed knowledge about Islam and married and having kid even they are having homo sex , their age may be any thing (25 to 65 years ) . Not even this much , I have seen many middle east including Saudi Arabians Muslim married guys are coming to India for having homo sex only . They stay such a Muslim environment even they cant stop homo sex , How come I success about it . I am nothing in frond of them . How come I expect not having homo sex after married whereas those great country's Muslim people are not able to control them self ?

Secondly you told : " and are all women the same? are you the same as your father? none like the other so, stop imagining and believe your imaginations... "

I have asked to my psychiatrist that, I am not same as my family , I am different from my family . My psychiatrist told its correct , my family is not Gay but I am Gay . Its the different between my family and me .
I never ever seen any women who is doing respect or friendly behave with their husband. It would be my imagination if I think there are such women who is offering friendly behavior with their husband . I only heard it not see it .

Third think : How come I think to have a sexual relation with any female ? I cant think it . My mother and sister's face and body come to my eyes Whenever I try to think it. Infect I cant look at any woman's face and I never look at any woman . Because its remind me my mother and sister . I am sorry . I cant ....

I have many conception about woman . What to do ? I am help less ...

Amat Allah

03-29-2011, 12:25 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

assala mu alaiqum ! my dear sister " Amat Allah " Thank you for your reply . I really want to overcome from my current situation . But how ? My up side down . I have to turn it completely . I really need a guidance . Where from I start , how I start , How I continue , I really dot know. I am becoming aggressive and horny, Its happen If I use those medicine. My suicide tendency is increase if I don't use those medicine . What to do , what not to do . I am confuse . I have inferiority complex, I have some revenge feeling towards to male ;Whenever I see any guy who is superior to me ' I want to take revenge from them . I want to take off their manliness . I want to show them that, I am superior then you .I want to show them that, I am a man , I am not the things which you can use . But the thing is they likes my wildness on bed . And my revenge is endless . Its going on only . day be day it increasing only . I know its not right . But I cant control it . I discussed it with my doctors but doctors told its one kind of sexual felling and many people have this feeling, and many people likes their sex partner should be wild on bed . But I don't like my this feeling . Its hurting me . I have feeling that, all men are my enemy and I should show them my power . And its going on and on . I could not control it . Here I may not explain my feeling towards to man . My feeling is more harder then my explanation . I have many thoughts towards to woman too . But I don't know that, should I share it or not. People may think its my excuses . May be those are my excuses but those excuses are really influencing my life . Its destroying my life . My life is very complicated . I don't know how do I correct it . Trying to change my life is equal to searching a mustered seed from the desert . How it possible ? I don't think any body was there or is there who has complicated life such as me and he change him self and become happy and safe and living a normal life . Allah knows better .

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Ya Akhi you are rushing things and want everything to be done at once and that is so hard and impossible, you are making things hard to yourself... why not taking it step by step....

first : start with Salaat, try to pray constantly, never neglect your prayers this is the first thing you should do and mantain...pary and feel that you are praying to Allah and understand every word you say in salaat...Ya Akhi you are confusing yourself by yourself and the solution is in your hands after Allah...

second: try to read Qur`aan and understand it as much as you can, that would change so much in you...don`t sit aside putting hand over the another and wait for things to be solved and done by themselves...work hard to improve yourself and your life...nothing in life comes without a price or freely, we should work hard and sincerely to get what we want...Ya Akhi get up and be effective WaAllahi letting misery controling you won`t benefit you ever but would make you feel worse...

feeling horny then go for a run and do some sport to get rid of these feelings...you are always taking the easy ways to solve this problem, watching bad things, doing masterbation...etc, why to return to wrong solutions? tell me? instead of being patient and return to things which would help you to get over your feelings legaly; you make things worse to yourself...

try to take the right decisions instead of displeasing Allah to comfort yourself...you can please Allah and at the same time comfort yourself just think right and correct your mistakes...

and your excusese are influencing your life because you are letting them, stand strong and face all these worthless things instead of being weak and letting them control ya...and none is your enemy, you are the enemy of yourself so, try to make a truce with yourself and try to love yourself to make things better and clear for ya and to walk in Allah`s way easily...

I dont have confident about my self , because I have seen many people who are offering 5 times Sallah keeping beard and having versed knowledge about Islam and married and having kid even they are having homo sex , their age may be any thing (25 to 65 years ) . Not even this much , I have seen many middle east including Saudi Arabians Muslim married guys are coming to India for having homo sex only . They stay such a Muslim environment even they cant stop homo sex , How come I success about it . I am nothing in frond of them . How come I expect not having homo sex after married whereas those great country's Muslim people are not able to control them self ?

you don`t have confident?

cause you didn`t feed your soul thats why cause you are away from Allah thats why...before I know my Lord I was a shoe in everyone`s feet so humiliated, used and have not a spot of self confident..miserable lonely and living in darkness I bet animals were better than me at that time...but when I start praying and knew my way to my Lord , I gain all respect , love and self confident in this world and I am a human again...

and seeing people like this will never ever make you like them, then why not saying : I saw many good people in my life beating up their parents to death and I have no confidant so, I am going now to beat up my mother and take her eyes out of her head ( may Allah honor Ummi and protect her from all harms and may Allah break my hands if I ever think about this Ameeeen)..does that make sens? are we connected to others? are we robots or what? are others controling us and moving us with a remote control?don`t you have a brain to think with?...is the action and deeds of people what you take as a moral base in your life are those the source you are taking your knowledge and teachings from? Sub`haan Allah, where did the book of Allah and Sunnah of His prophet go? where did the greatest example for humanity ; The prophet (peace and blesings of Allah be upon him) go?

and being from Saudi won`t make you better than others my respected brother, cause good and bad are everywhere and not all the Saudi people are good nor all are bad and the same for all the people around the world...

I know people whom are from Arabs, born Muslims, from an old royal family and related to the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) but they are not even compared to one non Arab person who reverted to Islam to Allah from a short time...

a country, race, some rank or a kinship would never make us better than others my respected brother and won`t elevate your stauts in the sight of Allah ever but your sincere good deeds and submission to Allah...

Secondly you told : " and are all women the same? are you the same as your father? none like the other so, stop imagining and believe your imaginations... " I have asked to my psychiatrist that, I am not same as my family , I am different from my family . My psychiatrist told its correct , my family is not Gay but I am Gay . Its the different between my family and me . I never ever seen any women who is doing respect or friendly behave with their husband. It would be my imagination if I think there are such women who is offering friendly behavior with their husband . I only heard it not see it .

I think your psyc will only lead your way to a bad end...we are all have our own personality, shape, color, intersts...etc. huh, and they out of smartness gave you the super brilliant and only true answer in world which there is nothing like it...for Allah`s sake stop believing such ugly lies and be yourself..and never let others tell ya who you are...you are not stupid to believe whatever been said to you, you have a brain to think with for Allah`s sake...

I have never ever seen so much in this life but heard of them, does that mean they are not exists? and you don`t know every single woman in this world , do you? May Allah guide you Ameeeen

Third think : How come I think to have a sexual relation with any female ? I cant think it . My mother and sister's face and body come to my eyes Whenever I try to think it. Infect I cant look at any woman's face and I never look at any woman . Because its remind me my mother and sister . I am sorry . I cant .... I have many conception about woman . What to do ? I am help less ...

you are doing this to yourself my respected brother, and I know many people from men and women have been raped and abused sexualy in the past but now that have a normal life living happily with their wives , husbands and families, why? cause they refused to be losers , forgot the past reutrn to Allah and were so smart to have a bright future under the remebrance of Allah....May Allah make you from them Ameeeeeeeeen

hopeonallah

03-29-2011, 05:25 PM

my dear sister " Amat Allah "

assala mu alaiqum !

I dont know how to stop seeing my past? . And how to stop imagine my mother and sister face on other woman ? How do I correct my self ? I dont know .

As you said I have to start step by step . I am offering Sallah regularly . And I enjoy it . I can read Quran . I will start it from tonight only before bed .

You have told me that I have to find out my hobby . I have to find out my interest . I thought a lot about it . And I found that, I like to expend time in the mosque . I like to offer Sallah and I like listen to recitation Quran not through audio but from direct recitation from people . I like to do Uddu . But the thing is why I like all those things ? Because I feel peace and secure and Uddu give me relaxation and it glows my face . So I am thinking I am not doing all those things because of Allah's order but for my pleasure and satisfaction which is not correct . Allah watch my intention , and my intention is satisfy my self which is not fair . I am feeling guilty . Please correct me ...

Please advice me step by step ...
I will follow ...

Amat Allah

03-30-2011, 03:19 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

my dear sister " Amat Allah " assala mu alaiqum ! I dont know how to stop seeing my past? . And how to stop imagine my mother and sister face on other woman ? How do I correct my self ? I dont know .

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

you will know how my respected brother; when you realize that there is no benefit from remembering past and it is a great reason behind our failure and its is really preventing us from improving and deprive us from happiness and living a normal life...past would also give chances for satan to control us cause it is making us weak and depressed my Brother...if you want to improve your self successfully then try your best to forget those useless things and go on...life is not all about what happened for us in past , life has the present and future and if we lost the past then we must try our best to live our present and build for a bright future and never let past ruin our entire life this is not wise and it is a great waste...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

As you said I have to start step by step . I am offering Sallah regularly . And I enjoy it . I can read Quran . I will start it from tonight only before bed .

that a great and amazing thing to know , just keep going and walk ahead and never look back, try your best to be like that always and forever...you are doing great Ma shaa Allah, May Allah bless you and keep you firm Ameeeen
you will see how this will effect your soul and heart in shaa Allah just never give up trusting Allah and be strong always cause you are in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

You have told me that I have to find out my hobby . I have to find out my interest . I thought a lot about it . And I found that, I like to expend time in the mosque . I like to offer Sallah and I like listen to recitation Quran not through audio but from direct recitation from people . I like to do Uddu . But the thing is why I like all those things ? Because I feel peace and secure and Uddu give me relaxation and it glows my face . So I am thinking I am not doing all those things because of Allah's order but for my pleasure and satisfaction which is not correct . Allah watch my intention , and my intention is satisfy my self which is not fair . I am feeling guilty . Please correct me ...

and you tell me, who guided you to all of what you love? Isn`t He Allah? and none would feel the pleasure and satisfaction when hearing Athiker and while being in Allah`s houses but whom has a beliving heart, none find peace in the rememberance of Allah but whom loves Allah, and your love for Allah and your great desire of pleasing Him The Exalted drove you to all of this so, you are not a hypocrite, you are a good believer and slave of Allah when doing this in shaa Allah ... Maybe you feel like that because you are in the begining of your way to Allah, but later you will realize how much you are attached and connected to your Lord my noble brother in shaa Allah...so, never feel guilty, you are still new and you will learn so much in shaa Allah...as all of us did and still learning...May Allah guide us all to Him always and forever Ameeen

Allah says:" O mankind, there has to come to you instruction from your Lord(I.e. Qur`aan) and healing for what is in the breasts and guidance and mercy for the believers. (57) " Surat Yunus

and says:" Say, "It is, for those who believe, a guidance and cure." And those who do not believe - in their ears is deafness, and it is upon them blindness. Those are being called from a distant place. (44) " Surat Fussilat

you enjoy listening to Qur`aan, feel comfort, peace and satisfaction so, you are not deaf or blind and what does that mean? it means you are a believer whom his heart filled of love for his Lord and what His Lord loves...

May Allah be with you always and forever and all the Ummah Ameeeen

hopeonallah

03-30-2011, 07:01 AM

Assala mu alaiqum ! sister " Amat Allah "

You have asked me : " don`t you have a brain to think with?...is the action and deeds of people what you take as a moral base in your life are those the source you are taking your knowledge and teachings from? "

My answer is : I have brain but in that brain I have only Evil thoughts, Ego, Angry , Revenge feeling, Inferiority Complex , Injustice , Laziness , Cowardice ,Doubts and Suspect , Fear and Impatience many more Evil thoughts are available only . My brain is a Garbage only. As you said nothing comes without price . I don't have capability to pay the price for good things . So I request you , kindly help me to gain my capability to paying any price for any good deeds or good things . Show me the way how to gain it as fast and as easy as possible . I want to over come from my all evil thoughts and I want to clean my garbage brain and fill it with good thoughts and good deeds and love of Allah and Sasul and all human and jinn .

Few years back one of my lady psychiatrist asked me few questions to find out my sexual orientation , in those questions one of the question was ; do I like to keep my personal hygiene ? And I replied yes ; I like to keep neat and clean my self and I like to do Uddu its make me refresh and bright . Then she told this is one of the symptoms of homosexual people; like to keep them self hygienic and looking batter . So now I am confuse , please clarify me ....

My honorable sister ; I am very lazy , please show me the way how do I over come from my laziness .
I am feeling bad because I am giving you trouble after trouble but I am not giving any money to you . In generally people lost interest if they don't get any rewards from any job . Please don't take it in negative way . I don't know what to say now . please forgive me if I have done any mistake .

I really feel happy about your suggestion which you tell step by step . I am ready for it . please don't leave me

Woodrow

03-30-2011, 09:47 AM

:sl:

Let us look at just one issue at a time. The best way to handle problems is to break them down into small steps and work on just one at a time. when we attempt to solve all of our problems at one time we tend to overwhelm our selves and only add an additional problem. Let us us narrow your last post down to just one workable step.

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

My answer is : I have brain but in that brain I have only Evil thoughts, Ego, Angry , Revenge feeling, Inferiority Complex , Injustice , Laziness , Cowardice ,Doubts and Suspect , Fear and Impatience many more Evil thoughts are available only . My brain is a Garbage only. As you said nothing comes without price . I don't have capability to pay the price for good things . So I request you , kindly help me to gain my capability to paying any price for any good deeds or good things . Show me the way how to gain it as fast and as easy as possible . I want to over come from my all evil thoughts and I want to clean my garbage brain and fill it with good thoughts and good deeds and love of Allah and Sasul and all human and jinn .

That can be reduced to one thought:

I want to over come from my all evil thoughts and I want to clean my garbage brain and fill it with good thoughts and good deeds and love of Allah and Sasul and all human and jinn .

That can be further simplified to:

I want to over come from my all evil thoughts

Now we have a single goal, that can be worked on and once accomplished will make it possible to move onward.

It is attainable to overcome our evil thoughts. The first step you have done is recognizing you have them. the second step is to have a desire to remove them. You have already taken the first 2, So now we begin in learning how to remove them.

Of course frequent Duas are the most important. Learn to be more specific in your duas and what is truly needed. The first is sabr, sabr is all important. These thoughts did not build up in one moment, they are the result of a long time of choices. Have sabr and know it will take time to remove them. So first made dua for sabr.

Attaining sabr is like catching a butterfly, the more you chase after it the faster it flies away from you. Learn calmness, learn to sit still and learn to enjoy making duas and then like a butterfly sabr will come to you.

Relax, be calm in your trust of Allaah(swt). Know that Allaah(swt) is the best of planners. Let Allaah(swt) run your life, he has been doing so for a long time and is more capable of it than you or I or any others.

Learning to fully trust Allaah(swt) is a good way to let sabr come to you.

Amat Allah

03-30-2011, 12:47 PM

May Allah love you my respected brother Woodrow always and forever and give you all the khayer of this life and the after life Ameeeen

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Few years back one of my lady psychiatrist asked me few questions to find out my sexual orientation , in those questions one of the question was ; do I like to keep my personal hygiene ? And I replied yes ; I like to keep neat and clean my self and I like to do Uddu its make me refresh and bright . Then she told this is one of the symptoms of homosexual people; like to keep them self hygienic and looking batter . So now I am confuse , please clarify me ....

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was always clean and neat always and was always teaching his companions (may Allah be pleased with them) to be, does that mean he was a homo (Astaghfero Allah, FAR BE it FROM HIM ), sub`haan Allah then I should jump in a muddy swamp and take no shower for years to prove to others that I am not homo cause who keep him/her self clean and neat are homo...what kind of thoughts are these? for Allah`s sake...you are clean and neat cause you are a good person taking care of yourself and Allah says:"Truly Allah loveth those who turn unto Him, and loveth those who have a care for cleanness. (222)" Surat Al Baqarah...so, Allah loves those who keep themselves clean and neat and those who always return to Him in repentance my respected brother...

and the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)said:" Cleanliness is half of faith and al-Hamdu Liliah (Praise be to Allah) fills the scale, and Subhan Allah (Glory be to Allah) and al-Hamdu Liliah (Praise be to Allah) fill upwhat is between the heavens and the earth, and prayer is a light, and charity is proof (of one's faith) and endurance is a brightness and the Holy Qur'an is a proof on your behalf or against you. All men go out early in the morning and sell themselves, thereby setting themselves free or destroying themselves".

Cleanliness is the half of the faith not a sign of homo, whom you would believe now? The Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) or your psyc?

keeping oneself clean and neat is the manner and deed of Messengers, Prophets (peace and blessings of Allah be upon them all) and righteous people too so, don`t let others put another wrong Ideas in your head...you are an amazing clean and neat believing person my respected brother ....May Allah bless you Ameeeen

you said you love Wudu so, look what the rewards of what you are doing my respected brother:

Abu Huraira reported: Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: When a bondsman-a Muslim or a believer-washes his face (in course of ablution), every sin he contemplated with his eyes, will be washed away from his face along with water, or with the last drop of water; when he washes his hands, every sin they wrought will be effaced from his hands with the water, or with the last drop of water; and when he washes his feet, every sin towards which his feet have walked will be washed away with the water or with the last drop of water with the result that he comes out pure from all sins.

Uthman b. 'Affan reported: The Messenger of Allah (way peace be upon him) said: He who performed ablution well, his sins would come out from his body, even coming out from under his nails.

and there are many Hadeeths about cleanliness and Wudu showing how important are these and how they are increasing the Imaan (faith) inside the heart of the believer not to make him homo...laa hawla wa laa qowata illa bellah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

My honorable sister ; I am very lazy , please show me the way how do I over come from my laziness . I am feeling bad because I am giving you trouble after trouble but I am not giving any money to you . In generally people lost interest if they don't get any rewards from any job . Please don't take it in negative way . I don't know what to say now . please forgive me if I have done any mistake . I really feel happy about your suggestion which you tell step by step . I am ready for it . please don't leave me

as our respected and dear brother Woodrow said: Duaa and Sabir (patience), Make a sincere Duaa to Allah to help you and give you Sabir and trust Allah and surely, you will never regret it my respected brother, the prophet Muhammd (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:" endurance is a brightness " what brightness my respecetd brother? the brightness which makes you see things clearly, showing you the right way and let you after Allah obtain what you are looking for successfully...

with Duaa try to teach yourself how to be patient not only making Duaa and wait with out doing your best to obtain it and that by rushing not and hasten not things ; step by step till you meet Allah while He is pleased with you Ameeeen

try to remind yourself always of Allah`s mercy and that He Is The One Who gave you the rope of surviving and now you have to hold it so strong and pull it so hard to reach the straight path of success and of Allah`s satisfaction Ya Rabb Ameeeeen

and don`t say this again, we believers seek not this dunya and its pleasures , we only seek Allah`s satisfaction and His special love for the believers, we love our brothers and sisters unconditionaly for Allah`s sake and you are not troubling me at all...and I told ya before by Allah`s Willing ; I won`t leave your side neither me nor everyone here...

May Allah be with you, give you Sabir , knowledge , Imaan , Taqwa and wiseness and May He The Exalted make you from the best of His righteous and pious slaves and servants and all the Ummah Ameeeen

hopeonallah

03-30-2011, 06:13 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! " Woodrow "

Thank you for your valuable suggestion . I am sorry I could not understand your advice properly . can you make it more easy for me please .

hopeonallah

03-30-2011, 06:50 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! " Amat Allah "

I have no word to give you thinks . You all are great . You know my eyes started crying means tears automatically start dropping from my eyes whenever I read your reply .

So,Again I will start keeping hygienic my self . Again I will start doing Halal things for batter looks . I will do 5 to 10 times Wudu in a day with minimum water .

I believe in Allah and Mohammed ( pbuh) more then any body but some time I lose my believe , many confusion and doubt are often coming to my mind . And I have many questions . How do I over come from it?

I am waiting for your reply that, how do I overcome from laziness ?

I didn't understand properly the reply of " WOODROW " , Can you make it more easy for me ?

One important mater is : long back age I went to an endocrinologist and he took some test , he found I have little bit hormonal imbalance in my body . But he didn't give any treatment , He said there are few people have such type of hormonal imbalance its not require any treatment . After that I didn't take another opinion . I heard from general people that, hormonal imbalance also a cause for homosexuality . So, please advice me about this ...

And I am confuse that my Job's intention is not for praise to Allah , its for my satisfaction and peacefulness ; which is not fair . Please correct me ....

Amat Allah

04-01-2011, 01:21 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

May Allah increase this love in your heart Ameeeen . everybody has his/her ups and downs my respected brother none is saint or an angel and we all sometimes have Qs need to be answered...if you have many Qs just ask them and by Allah`s Willing we will try our best to help ya...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I am waiting for your reply that, how do I overcome from laziness ?

First of all : Make sincere Duaa to Allah for patience and guidance and trust Allah %100 and be patient in shaa Allah...

Second: try to follow these tips:

1- you have to find the reasons behind this laziness? what makes you refrain from doing a specefic thing and what is preventing you from going on and reach your goal? and I think your past is playing a role here once you forget about it then many of your troubles will be solved in shaa Allah...

2-think about how important to you is that thing you wana do or goal you wana reach; and see if it really deserves to be ignored and also seek others help if you need it to reach your goal to be able to do what you wana do, and if the way you are taking to make you reach that goal is hard then try to use another one and never try to make all things perfect from the first time, be patient always...

3-try to encourage yourself to do what you wana do and try to convince yourself that you can really do it and never let past ruin everything for you cause there is no need to dig old things out; there is no benefit of that, be creative and trust yourself after Allah and Say it loudly: I can do it , I can be productive, I can be a good slave of Allah by His Willing and Mercy...

4-don`t let anything disappoint you and try to do what you are able to do; not burdening yourself or affording yourself overloaded...

5-take all your time to do what you wana do and don`t do it all at once but step by step in a relaxed and controlled way and don`t take the second step till you attain success with the first one and till you are sure that you can take the second one, try always to focus in one thing at atime to neither distract yourself nor confuse it and never stress yourself...

6-when you finish one step successfuly, cheer yourself up and tell yourself how good you are for attaining this and say loudly : Al Hamdulillaaaaaaaah I done it by the grace and Mercy of Allah and encourage yourself to start with the new one determining to success and to go on till the end in shaa Allah and always know that big successes are just made up of many little continuous successes...May Allah give you success always and forever Ameeeen

7-never forget the rewards you will gain when you are trying and striving for Allah`s sake and also try to reward yourself for each successfull step with something you love and that would encourage you to go on and walk ahead taking the second step happily ...

8-when you finsih step one ; don`t delay taking the second one cause delaying this would make your energy decreases and fade away. The longer you delay re-starting, the harder it will be to re-start. But the sooner you re-start, the more confident you will feel and that will reinforce the positive behavior that leads to feeling that you can do anything in shaa Allah...

9-Never give up. It's one thing to find your motivation. But, it's another thing to keep it going when the going gets tough; especially when it's an unforeseen problem! The more avoidant you are, the more you will feel like giving up. How to get past the tough point? Tell yourself over and over: "I really want to get past this; I really want to overcome this", until you believe that you actually don't want to give up in shaa Allah...

10- try to take a break and when you do ; try to involve yourself in some activities like, doing some kind of sports, reading books, cooking...etc to avoid being bored...

11-make a board or hang up a small paper to write down your achievements and that will remind you how successful you are strong and can do anything you want in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

One important mater is : long back age I went to an endocrinologist and he took some test , he found I have little bit hormonal imbalance in my body . But he didn't give any treatment , He said there are few people have such type of hormonal imbalance its not require any treatment . After that I didn't take another opinion . I heard from general people that, hormonal imbalance also a cause for homosexuality . So, please advice me about this ...

Allah knows about this but I am advicing you not to listen to all what people say and I know that hormonal imbalance cure is water after Allah, drink water as much as you can and you will see how alive and refreshed your body will be, Allah says:"And We have made from water every living thing". Surat Al Anbiyaa. water will solve after Allah so much of your body problems and will protect you from so much too after Allah and in shaa Allah you will see the difference with your body and you will feel so relaxed cause water cleans the body and help it to get rid of the toxins and be balanced in everything...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

And I am confuse that my Job's intention is not for praise to Allah , its for my satisfaction and peacefulness ; which is not fair . Please correct me ....

this is satan trying to disappoint you and make you sad so, never give him your attention; he is under our feet and animals feet too so, let him be there and seek Allah`s refuge and protection from him whom Allah The Exalted said to him:"Then get out of it( Paradise), for indeed, you are expelled. (34) And indeed, upon you is the curse until the Day of Recompense." (35)" Surat Al Hijr so, never listeb to him he is in hell and he wants to drag us with him May Allah protect us all from him and all harms Ameeeeen

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I didn't understand properly the reply of " WOODROW " , Can you make it more easy for me ?

Our respected brother Woodrow`s said:

Originally Posted by Woodrow

Let us look at just one issue at a time. The best way to handle problems is to break them down into small steps and work on just one at a time. when we attempt to solve all of our problems at one time we tend to overwhelm our selves and only add an additional problem. Let us us narrow your last post down to just one workable step.

then he (May Allah be pleased with him) summed up a part of what you wrote above at one point to work with it and find solutions to help you my respected brother step by step...and believe me he knows much than I do and he is wise and have much experience May Allah bles him Ameen

he said:

Originally Posted by Woodrow

Now we have a single goal, that can be worked on and once accomplished will make it possible to move onward It is attainable to overcome our evil thoughts. The first step you have done is recognizing you have them. the second step is to have a desire to remove them. You have already taken the first 2, So now we begin in learning how to remove them..

and then he May Allah love him Ameeen started telling you that it is possible to overcome our evil thoughts and continued to teach you how in steps:

first step: to recognize that you have those evil thoughts.
second step: to have the desire of removing those evil thoughts.
third: to learn how to remove them in shaa Allah.

and then he told ya that you already have taken the first and second steps ; you already recognized that you are having evil thoughts and you are already have the desire to remove them and now we have to work on the third step which is : how to remove them...

then he the respected said:

Originally Posted by Woodrow

Of course frequent Duas are the most important. Learn to be more specific in your duas and what is truly needed. The first is sabr, sabr is all important. These thoughts did not build up in one moment, they are the result of a long time of choices. Have sabr and know it will take time to remove them. So first made dua for sabr.

here he is telling you how important is to return to Allah in Duaa and never stop making Duaa( prayer and supplication) and he is advicing you to be specifec in your Duaa like: if you need guidance you make Duaa to Allah for guidance saying O Allah guide me and if needing patience you make duaa to Allah to give you patience and so ; the point is that you have to mention what you need in your duaa specifically and to insist making that Duaa over and over and over and never give up making Duaa plus trusting Allah...

and first thing and most important thing you need now and forever to solve all your problems is patience so, make Duaa to Allah to gain Sabir(patience) as much as you can and that is the begining of your way in solving your all troubles in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by Woodrow

Attaining sabr is like catching a butterfly, the more you chase after it the faster it flies away from you. Learn calmness, learn to sit still and learn to enjoy making duas and then like a butterfly sabr will come to you.

then he is telling you that Sabir needs some time to be gained and obtained and you need to learn how to be calm and wise and how to enjoy making duaa and supplicate to Allah, then you won`t be forced to run after patience but you will gain it and taught to be patient in shaa Allah easily...

Originally Posted by Woodrow

Relax, be calm in your trust of Allaah(swt). Know that Allaah(swt) is the best of planners. Let Allaah(swt) run your life, he has been doing so for a long time and is more capable of it than you or I or any others. Learning to fully trust Allaah(swt) is a good way to let sabr come to you.

at the end he is reminding you: to be relaxed and calm and never give up trusting Allah The Exalted and that you gotta know and remember that Allah Is the best of planners so, let Him run your life but not others or things which happened and done and Allah Is the one who knows you and knows all you need and how to solve all your troubles you are suffering from perfectly and that when you fully trust Allah; Sabir and patience will be from your characters...

Humbly, this is what I understood from the precious advice of our noble brother Woodrow and I am asking you my respected brother Woodrow please to forgive me if I misunderstood anything or explained it in a wrong way and Allah knows the best...

Humbly:

Amat Allah.

hopeonallah

04-03-2011, 10:06 PM

Assala mu alaiqum !

Thank you for your supports .

Today I have surprised that , I saw an add on this site about gambling . There are one gambling add at your home page on the right hand side . How come you allowed a gambling add on your sites ?

hopeonallah

04-03-2011, 10:39 PM

Assala mu alaiqum !

My dear brother and sister . I am not seeing any ways to resolve my problem . I am feeling helpless :-

1) I am thinking : My problems are not so easy that , It can solve by the enter net . I need constant and continues support and guidance , which is not possible through internet . I don't think it can run . I will reach the same place from where I started .

2) I can do suicide for getting relive from my pain but I will loose this world as well as life after death . But this life's pain also not bearable .

3) I can give up my hope and I can live a gay life , which I don't want . It can not provide me real mantel peach . But I can get artificial peach which can help me to forget my pain and I may expend this life in a artificial way . Because there are enough resources enough organizations which can provide me unlimited practical as well as physical and psychological supports (24/7). But I will loose my life after death .

So, I request you kindly suggest which one I should choose .

Woodrow

04-03-2011, 11:11 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

If you see only those 3, the only choice becomes:

1) I am thinking : My problems are not so easy that , It can solve by the enter net . I need constant and continues support and guidance , which is not possible through internet . I don't think it can run . I will reach the same place from where I started .

Which does shows you recognize the most help has to come from people you can talk to face-to-face.

hopeonallah

04-04-2011, 12:38 PM

Assala mu aliqum ! " WOORDROW "

Thank you for your replay . But I did not get any reply from my last Query , You just repeating my question only with your answer . such as :

" If you see only those 3, the only choice becomes: "

" Which does shows you recognize the most help has to come from people you can talk to face-to-face."

I request you kindly review my query once again . Thank you ...

Woodrow

04-04-2011, 04:20 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Each of us, is our own best source at finding the answers to our problems.

Typically we all know the answers to our problems. But we do not like the answer and seek to find other sources to give us more acceptable choices. Your queries give strong evidence that you already know what needs to be done. It is a very difficult thing to do, so you are hoping we can find alternate choices.

The only one who knows you better than you know yourself is Allaah(swt). No human outside of you knows the inner pains you feel or the even exactly what you see as being the problem.

Look deep into yourself and see exactly what changes you must make to resolve your problem. The answer really is within your own thoughts. Once you understand that only you can resolve your problems pray for Allaah(swt) to give you the strength and sabr to push forward with doing so and never look back.

hopeonallah

04-04-2011, 06:36 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! my dear brother and sister ,

I would like to give you a great thanks to all of you .
After that I am asking apologize from all of you . Because some time I could not control my emotion and I get angry . I may used bad word or arrogant conversation . I need to work on it .

Here I would like to tell you that , till now I liked only " Amat Allah's " replies . I don't know why . I don't even know how much expert she is . But her replies are really attract me . I feel inspiration while I red her replies . I have no knowledge about her, but her replies are affecting me . Allah knows batter the reason . I think Allah want it . It does not mean I hate other . I don't hate any body over here but some time I didn't find softness of theirs replies except " Amat Allah " .

I cant give any burden to any one . I cant force any one . I don't have any rights for it . I should not .

Your help is a charity for me . here you are providing charity and I am taking you charity . So , I always try level my best to maintain my position . However I often misbehave with you .

I have many problem to shot it out . But how ? I am not seeing any ways . My head is paining a lot .my head is spinning . Some time suddenly darkness come to my eyes and then not able to see any thing for a while . I am not able to sleep since few days . not even feeling hungry . Two days ago suddenly I felt dizziness and about to fall down on the floor.

I don't know what to do .

Amat Allah

04-05-2011, 03:21 AM

Originally Posted by Woodrow

Each of us, is our own best source at finding the answers to our problems. Typically we all know the answers to our problems. But we do not like the answer and seek to find other sources to give us more acceptable choices. Your queries give strong evidence that you already know what needs to be done. It is a very difficult thing to do, so you are hoping we can find alternate choices. The only one who knows you better than you know yourself is Allaah(swt). No human outside of you knows the inner pains you feel or the even exactly what you see as being the problem. Look deep into yourself and see exactly what changes you must make to resolve your problem. The answer really is within your own thoughts. Once you understand that only you can resolve your problems pray for Allaah(swt) to give you the strength and sabr to push forward with doing so and never look back.

very true...

Amat Allah

04-05-2011, 06:47 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Assala mu alaiqum ! my dear brother and sister , I would like to give you a great thanks to all of you . After that I am asking apologize from all of you . Because some time I could not control my emotion and I get angry . I may used bad word or arrogant conversation . I need to work on it . Here I would like to tell you that , till now I liked only " Amat Allah's " replies . I don't know why . I don't even know how much expert she is . But her replies are really attract me . I feel inspiration while I red her replies . I have no knowledge about her, but her replies are affecting me . Allah knows batter the reason . I think Allah want it . It does not mean I hate other . I don't hate any body over here but some time I didn't find softness of theirs replies except " Amat Allah " . I cant give any burden to any one . I cant force any one . I don't have any rights for it . I should not . Your help is a charity for me . here you are providing charity and I am taking you charity . So , I always try level my best to maintain my position . However I often misbehave with you . I have many problem to shot it out . But how ? I am not seeing any ways . My head is paining a lot .my head is spinning . Some time suddenly darkness come to my eyes and then not able to see any thing for a while . I am not able to sleep since few days . not even feeling hungry . Two days ago suddenly I felt dizziness and about to fall down on the floor. I don't know what to do .

Jazakum Allahu khayran my respected brother and May Allah make me worthy for your trust and never make me see my self better than anyone in this world Ameeeeeeeeen

but my respected brother ; our noble brother Woodrow`s advice is very true , it is the truth by itself...

we always know the right thing to be done , we always know how to solve our problems and we have all the answers deep within our hearts, minds and souls...but sometimes the best choice and solution to be taken is the hardest one for us...

and I didn`t see and still don`t see any harshness or rudeness in our respected brother Woodrow advice no waAllahi, but I saw respect, care, wiseness, patience and kindness...

we all know that you are suffering now and feeling so bad and so confused and we all know that you are seeking our help after Allah and we are trying to help ya as much as we can but you my respected brother need to work harder and take choices which you think that they are the hardest but right...if you wana save yourself then work hard to get your goal and don`t say I can`t or I don`t know...deep within yourself you know the right thing to be done but everytime you try to find yourself and to be someone better ; satan comes in your way and starts playing with your head and controling you...so, why letting him from the first place? is he worthy to be your guide?

where is Allah and his rememberance? where is your trust in Allah? are you satisfied of the way you are living now? of course you are not but why not working hard on changing yourself? have you taken what we told ya from advices or just reading them and say I can`t....

you are neither helpless, useless nor a loser so, why not showing how good you are ? why not striving for Allah`s sake on and on? why when you start doing fine and walking in the right way suddenly you collapse and be so negative, depressed and shaky?... laa ilaha illa Allah...

where did the meaning of your nickname which you have chosen go? isn`t your name :hopeonallah? then where did this hope go? now get up and leave all this nonsens you are living and try your best to be a good slave to Allah cause when you do; everything in you and around you will change, just take the first step bravely and don`t be shaky...you are a man enough to face all your fears and difficulties for Allah`s sake....

trust Allah more and be patient and whenever satan whispers for you then say: Aothobellah minashaytani irrajeem...seek Allah`s refuge and protection from satan, otherwise you will be his slave but not Allah so, becarefull and try your best to never leave Duaa ever and never leave Qur`aan ever and always when sinning rightaway return to Allah and ask His forgiveness always no matter what you would do or say my respected brother...

May Allah be with you and help you to be a slave of nothing and none but Him Ameeeeeeen

and again, I swear by the One Who Has the souls of all Jinn and Mankind in His Hand; I am not a doctor , I am not a scholar , I am not expert and waAllahi there are many and many people here and out in real world away better than me my respected brother and everyone comes first and I am the last...

May Allah be with you...

Humbly:

Amat Allah (slave of Allah).

hopeonallah

04-05-2011, 11:09 AM

Assala mu alaiqum " Amat Allah "

Thank you very much for your reply .
Why I like your reply ? If you look at your reply then only you get to know . Look at your last reply how inspirational ! Its amazing !
Another thing is : you never blame me for my mistakes or bad deeds . You aware me that Satan is the enemy of mine not I am . Which encourage me a lot to fight with my bad deeds and thoughts . I don't think any body is there who can uplift the enemy . I also don't want to let leave or uplift my real enemy ( Satan ) .

Second thing : You told you are neither a doctor nor scholar not any expert . As per my knowledge Mohammad ( PBUH ) was a illiterate person . Why Allah made him prophet ? Allah could have made prophet a literate person ? But he didn't . Here I found one sign that Allah can does any thing by any one . If Allah wants; he can provide me benefit from an insect . If he don't I can not get benefit from the most heights expert person of this world . My this example does not show any less respect to you same as if some one says Mohammad(PBUH) was a illiterate person But surely you are less then Mohammad(PBUH) . I hope you understand what I mean to say .

Third thing : you have advised me to drink more water . So my question is how much litter I should drink water in a day ( minimum to maximum ) ?

Forth thing : I went to a general physician because of my weakness . the doctor strongly suggested me to visit a psychiatrist if possible today itself before my problem become so severer . He gave me a psychiatrist address . and he suggest me one protein supplement and one pill for five days which can help me to get relax but he told ; I can use that pill until meet the psychiatrist . Now I am thinking what should I do . shell I meet the psychiatrist or not ?

fifth thing :My enter life I have tried a lot to resolve my problems by myself but I could not . So I have decided , I will not use my brain to resolve my problem . Because I have failed for it . That is the reason I need a guidance not only spiritually but also in practically .

Sixth thing : Since a few years My past life was ,
1) Once in a week I went to gay society and expend enter evening over there for general meeting, dinner and find a partner from there and having sex with him at night .
2) week days going gym and hunting guy from there try to convince guy and having sex .
3) going swimming pool and catching guy from there .
4) roaming in the shopping mall and many different places and hunting guys .
5) most of the evening go to gay bar and picked guy form there .( there are no certified gay bar in this city ;all are straight bar only but few bars and pubs are there where people verbally knows as a gay bar but straight guys are also coming there and enjoy homo sex ) .
6)Me and my friends are always busy to make attractive our body and looks going gym doing shopping etc .
7) at least once in a week meeting a psychiatrist for counseling for over come from depression ( not along with other friends here ,I am alone only )
8) Chatting in the gay sites . etc .
9) I was very busy with all those stuff . I didn't have a time to think any thing beyond of this . Most of the Saturday and Sunday I was very busy to having sex with many guys . some time I had sex with three and four different guys in a day . In average 5 different guys in a week since 8 years .

Now I have stopped all those things since few months . I am feeling very bore . I am only doing five times Salah . little bit reading Quran, and browsing www.islamicboard.com only . I need to do something more but what and how ?

I have asked you about my laziness :
A). I don't like to go out of my house I am very lazy .
B). I don't want to cook even if I cook I don't want to eat , eating alone is very painful for me . its remind me Dog . Dogs are like to eat alone only . Not a human . restaurant food are not tasty neither healthy . Even there I have to eat alone only which make me odd .
C). I don't cleaning my accommodation properly felling lazy .
D). Not cleaning my cloths properly .
E). I suppose to do one more exam for my upgrowth . But I am not even felling to open my books . feeling lazy .
I am not doing any thing now a days . It seems to no color in my life . No energy , No interest .
D) Only offering 5 times Salah and reading little bit Quran thats it and smoking 30 to 50 cigarettes in a day .
So , please suggest me how to over come from my laziness and quit smoking .

One more problem : My old friends are keep calling me . some time they come to my house and try to have sex with me . and my old gay friends are discussing about me that, some thing wrong happening with me. And they try to help me . I know their help lead me to hall .

I am seeking your advice . please .....

Amat Allah

04-07-2011, 06:09 AM

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Third thing : you have advised me to drink more water . So my question is how much litter I should drink water in a day ( minimum to maximum ) ?

about 13 cups but this changes according to your activity, your weight and the place you are living in and its weather...so, now just try to drink as much as you can; water is great and will make wonders in your body after Allah in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

fifth thing :My enter life I have tried a lot to resolve my problems by myself but I could not . So I have decided , I will not use my brain to resolve my problem . Because I have failed for it . That is the reason I need a guidance not only spiritually but also in practically .

if not using your brain then nothing would benefit you my respected brother...and you need to work on yourself from inside first to see the results in everything , your body, your life and everything around you....Allah says:"Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. " Surat Arraad so, you really need to work hard on your inner side to fix it and then your ourside will be fixed according to that...in shaa Allah...

and the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:"Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good but if it gets spoilt the whole body gets spoilt and that is the heart. " Sahih Al Bukhari , the book of faith...so, now you need to change whats inside of you, your heart and yourself...the once your heart changed and that won`t be but by submitting to Allah, trusting Him and be patient and by feeding your heart and soul with the rememeberance of Allah...try to hold the Qur`aan between your hand more; means: try your best to recite it a, understand it and put its commandments into effect and adhere to the teaching of Allah which are in His Book and in the Sunnah of His prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Sixth thing : Since a few years My past life was , 1) Once in a week I went to gay society and expend enter evening over there for general meeting, dinner and find a partner from there and having sex with him at night . 2) week days going gym and hunting guy from there try to convince guy and having sex . 3) going swimming pool and catching guy from there . 4) roaming in the shopping mall and many different places and hunting guys . 5) most of the evening go to gay bar and picked guy form there .( there are no certified gay bar in this city ;all are straight bar only but few bars and pubs are there where people verbally knows as a gay bar but straight guys are also coming there and enjoy homo sex ) . 6)Me and my friends are always busy to make attractive our body and looks going gym doing shopping etc . 7) at least once in a week meeting a psychiatrist for counseling for over come from depression ( not along with other friends here ,I am alone only ) 8) Chatting in the gay sites . etc . 9) I was very busy with all those stuff . I didn't have a time to think any thing beyond of this . Most of the Saturday and Sunday I was very busy to having sex with many guys . some time I had sex with three and four different guys in a day . In average 5 different guys in a week since 8 years .

we don`t need al of these things , they are all from past and past now means nothing and remembering it won`t benefit you but would make you lazy and not able to improve your life and yourself...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Now I have stopped all those things since few months . I am feeling very bore . I am only doing five times Salah . little bit reading Quran, and browsing www.islamicboard.com only . I need to do something more but what and how ?

I know that you are feeling low because your life has changed for losing so much of activities which were keeping you busy but I am sure not happy cause all are Haraam and forbidden things may make you happy in certain time or while you are doing them but later they leave you depressed cause so much of burden(sins) has weighted upon your back...

want to do more things?

try to worship Allah more...how?

read in Sunnah and follow what you like from what you are reading, there are many amazing and beautiful optional acts of worship you can do...and surely, they will fill your heart with joy and light, read here:

http://www.islamicboard.com/general/...our-lives.html

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I have asked you about my laziness : A). I don't like to go out of my house I am very lazy . B). I don't want to cook even if I cook I don't want to eat , eating alone is very painful for me . its remind me Dog . Dogs are like to eat alone only . Not a human . restaurant food are not tasty neither healthy . Even there I have to eat alone only which make me odd . C). I don't cleaning my accommodation properly felling lazy . D). Not cleaning my cloths properly . E). I suppose to do one more exam for my upgrowth . But I am not even felling to open my books . feeling lazy . I am not doing any thing now a days . It seems to no color in my life . No energy , No interest . D) Only offering 5 times Salah and reading little bit Quran thats it and smoking 30 to 50 cigarettes in a day . So , please suggest me how to over come from my laziness and quit smoking .

I told ya above how to get over laziness here you are:

Originally Posted by Amat Allah

Originally Posted by hopeonallah I am waiting for your reply that, how do I overcome from laziness ?

for smoking , I think you should decrease the number of cigarettes you are taking in a day gradually to get over this issue you have till you stop, that would be good for ya so you don`t take them again in shaa Allah...like you said:

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

smoking 30 to 50 cigarettes in a day

so, decrease this number to 15 to 25 then next time from 7 to 12 and so on...till you leave smoking completely in shaa Allah and Allah knows the best...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

One more problem : My old friends are keep calling me . some time they come to my house and try to have sex with me . and my old gay friends are discussing about me that, some thing wrong happening with me. And they try to help me . I know their help lead me to hall .

change your number, take the important numbers of your family then change your number...and when they try to drag you to hell again be a man to say NO...and be serious to mean it; tell them the truth: I am not longer like this so leave me alone please...and no matter how they would try to convince ya say loudly: NO, I am now the slave of Allah and won`t yield my soul to you to throw me in Hellfire...go away and try to remind them of Allah no matter how hard it would be and how much you are sure that they won`t listen ...just tell them that the way you used to live before and they are living now is ugly and won`t benefit you ever but you will lose everything and be a game in others hands...

tell them I am higher than this and won`t do it while knowing that Allah Is watching me and hearing me, won`t do it while I know that oneday I will stand before Allah with this ugly deed which is for animals not for us, we are human and Allah honored us and I won`t be like the people of Lot (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) but from those who followed him and all the prophets and Messengers message, which to submit to Allah completely and do my best to please my Lord to meet Him clean and pure, to meet Him while He The Exalted pleased with me, Allah opened my eyes and showed me the way and won`t let anyone ever take this from me...I WANA WIN MY AFTER LIFE AND ALLAH`S SATISFACTION AND LOVE...then make Duaa for their guidance and Make Duaa first for yourself...and May Allah be with you my respected brother...Ameeen

hopeonallah

04-11-2011, 11:27 AM

Assala mu alaiqum ! sister " Amat Allah "

Thank you for your supports . I am really grateful to you .

As you said , in average I can drink 13 cups of water . I generally drink 3 to 4 liter water in a day which is bigger quantity then your advice even I am sick.

2). I have mentioned that I don't want to use my brain . Actually here I mean to say ; I don't want to use my brain to fix my problems without Islamic methods . Because I already tried a lot to fix my problems by without Islamic methods , so I need Islamic method now which I have no knowledge . And here I would like to mention that getting a proper Islam knowledge is very very very tough , there are no crisis to misguide people by telling Islam . There are vast contradict between different scholars and Islamic knowledgeable people. This is another problem for me . I am confuse ...

3) You suggest me to recite Quran , but unfortunately I cant recite Quran not even I understand a single word of Arabic . I read only translations . Once upon a time I tried to learn Arabic that's why I went to a Muslim school ( Madrasa ) and I saw a pathetic & disgusting scenarios over there . Most of the students are orphans and belong to very poor families . Their parents are not able to feed them that's why they leave their kid in the Muslim school . Those small small kids are not getting three times proper food . They provide them only two times food that also very cheap only boil rice or few vegetable which is boil in the water name sake they put little bit chilly and salt and turmeric powder . They sleep on the floor . they don't have proper cloths. Milk, chocolates, biscuits , fruits all those things they can see in their dreams only . And there teachers are very wild , they don't understand those kids mentality not even bother to understand . Those teachers are always busy to find out the mistakes of those kids . Those teachers are biting them like animal . And evening time they send them to the market for begging . I shocked ! this is Islam ? After that I never tried to learn Arabic . And I don't want to learn Arabic or Quran from those teachers now. Because I know them and their characters too . I may Punch them while I learn Arabic from them because I am healthy enough now . Those nonsense teachers are telling , Gibril(angel ) crashed Mohammad's bones for learning Arabic so without bashing no body can learn Quran . They says what are the body parts get mark by bashing those part of the body will not burn in the hell fire . I really hate them . But its true I want to learn Arabic .

4) . What Quran and Mohammad (PBUH ) and Sahabas providing suggestions , tricks and methods for overcome from laziness ? Please tell me those orders, suggestions , tricks and methods . I think those will help me rather then general techniques . Same thing about over come from smoking too .

5) I cant change my phone no because one of my gay friend knows my brothers phone no . If he will not able to contact me then definitely he will contact with my brother . That gay friend is a medical surgeon . And he is crazy about me . My gay friend will not stop coming my home Even if I change my phone no . I have to change my phone no as well as my accommodation too which is not easy . Its not my anxiety . I already faced so may black mailing .

I am bit wary and confuse , still I am not able to realize whats going on with me . Am I in the right path or not ....
Allah help me ............

Amat Allah

04-11-2011, 02:00 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

then try my respected brother to drink early in the morning ; one cup of warm water after mixing it with one table spoon of honey and one tea spoon of nigella sativa (the black seeds or cumin) and take this for one week then tell me whats new with ya in shaa Allah....

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)said:"There is healing in black cumin for all diseases except death." Sahih Bukhari.

The prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him )said:"There is no disease that Allah has created, except that He also has created its treatment.". Sahih Bukhari . So, no matter what you will have then there is a treat of it and this is the saying of the messenger of Allah who neither speaks of (his own) desire nor lie (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

2). I have mentioned that I don't want to use my brain . Actually here I mean to say ; I don't want to use my brain to fix my problems without Islamic methods . Because I already tried a lot to fix my problems by without Islamic methods , so I need Islamic method now which I have no knowledge . And here I would like to mention that getting a proper Islam knowledge is very very very tough , there are no crisis to misguide people by telling Islam . There are vast contradict between different scholars and Islamic knowledgeable people. This is another problem for me . I am confuse ...

whenever you are confused about something just ask and we will try to help ya in shaa Allah and give you answers according the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) which the companions of the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) put into effect and had agreed upon them , the scholras of Islam and the Muslim Ummah in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

3) You suggest me to recite Quran , but unfortunately I cant recite Quran not even I understand a single word of Arabic . I read only translations . Once upon a time I tried to learn Arabic that's why I went to a Muslim school ( Madrasa ) and I saw a pathetic & disgusting scenarios over there . Most of the students are orphans and belong to very poor families . Their parents are not able to feed them that's why they leave their kid in the Muslim school . Those small small kids are not getting three times proper food . They provide them only two times food that also very cheap only boil rice or few vegetable which is boil in the water name sake they put little bit chilly and salt and turmeric powder . They sleep on the floor . they don't have proper cloths. Milk, chocolates, biscuits , fruits all those things they can see in their dreams only . And there teachers are very wild , they don't understand those kids mentality not even bother to understand . Those teachers are always busy to find out the mistakes of those kids . Those teachers are biting them like animal . And evening time they send them to the market for begging . I shocked ! this is Islam ? After that I never tried to learn Arabic . And I don't want to learn Arabic or Quran from those teachers now. Because I know them and their characters too . I may Punch them while I learn Arabic from them because I am healthy enough now . Those nonsense teachers are telling , Gibril(angel ) crashed Mohammad's bones for learning Arabic so without bashing no body can learn Quran . They says what are the body parts get mark by bashing those part of the body will not burn in the hell fire . I really hate them . But its true I want to learn Arabic .

I saw such people with my own eyes my respected brother and somepeople read Qur`aan and recite it without letting it affecting their hearts and never following its commandments...those kind of people fear not Allah and woe to them for treating others like this especially kids ; cause they plant in their hearts the haterd for Qur`aan and its language and alson the Deen of Allah...alas!

the prophet Muhammad said:"There will rise in the final period a people, young of age but poor of intelligence. They willrecite the Qur’an but it will not get past their throats. They will mention from the sayings of the best of creation (the Prophet -peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) but will come out of religion as an arrow comes out of the game.” Jaami Attirmithi and Sunan Ibn Majah.

and its ok if not knowing Arabic now , in shaa Allah you will learn it later with time and I know many non Arab Muslims who are reading the translation of the Qur`aan and at the same time they are away better than milion of Arabs...May Allah guide us all Ameeeen

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

4) . What Quran and Mohammad (PBUH ) and Sahabas providing suggestions , tricks and methods for overcome from laziness ? Please tell me those orders, suggestions , tricks and methods . I think those will help me rather then general techniques . Same thing about over come from smoking too .

there is this supplication which the prophet Muhammad(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)used to say; Anas b. Malik reported that Allah's Messenger (peace abd blessings of Allah be upon him) used to say:" O Allah, I seek refuge in Thee from incapacity, from indolence, from cowardice, from senility, from miserliness, and I seek refuge in Thee from the torment of the grave and from trial of the life and death." Sahih Muslim

you always make supplications and always ask Allah`s rfuge from laziness and be sincere and try to remind your self of death and that you done not enough to meet Allah with and try to find yourself a specefic optional act of worship to do it daily to not make your body get used to laziness like saying the morning and evening supplications which you will find here:

http://www.makedua.com/display_dua.php?sectionid=27

and try to pray and fast optional prayers and fasting as much as you can bear and never burden yourself to not give up in shaa Allah...this is the Islamic way I know and Allah knows the best...

and for smoking ..I don`t know if you do know that it is forbidden cause by smoking you are ruining and killing the body which Allah gave to you as a trust and reminding yourself of the punishment of Allah and of the bad things would happen for ya becuase of smooking and is it worthy to make you suffer all that sufferness...think about it ...if you want to go on and walk your way to Allah then try your best to get over small wrong things you do...

and I have never heard of the cigarettes in the time of Allah`s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) or his companions May allah be pleased with them but what I know that it is forbidden to do something with your body that would harm it ...and Allah knows the best...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

5) I cant change my phone no because one of my gay friend knows my brothers phone no . If he will not able to contact me then definitely he will contact with my brother . That gay friend is a medical surgeon . And he is crazy about me . My gay friend will not stop coming my home Even if I change my phone no . I have to change my phone no as well as my accommodation too which is not easy . Its not my anxiety . I already faced so may black mailing . I am bit wary and confuse , still I am not able to realize whats going on with me . Am I in the right path or not .... Allah help me ............

read again what I have said before...and believe me you are not chicken or coward to not face them...face them and be strong enough to walk in your way to Allah...

Originally Posted by Amat Allah

and when they try to drag you to hell again be a man to say NO...and be serious to mean it; tell them the truth: I am not longer like this so leave me alone please...and no matter how they would try to convince ya say loudly: NO, I am now the slave of Allah and won`t yield my soul to you to throw me in Hellfire...go away and try to remind them of Allah no matter how hard it would be and how much you are sure that they won`t listen ...just tell them that the way you used to live before and they are living now is ugly and won`t benefit you ever but you will lose everything and be a game in others hands... tell them I am higher than this and won`t do it while knowing that Allah Is watching me and hearing me, won`t do it while I know that oneday I will stand before Allah with this ugly deed which is for animals not for us, we are human and Allah honored us and I won`t be like the people of Lot (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) but from those who followed him and all the prophets and Messengers message, which to submit to Allah completely and do my best to please my Lord to meet Him clean and pure, to meet Him while He The Exalted pleased with me, Allah opened my eyes and showed me the way and won`t let anyone ever take this from me...I WANA WIN MY AFTER LIFE AND ALLAH`S SATISFACTION AND LOVE...then make Duaa for their guidance and Make Duaa first for yourself...and May Allah be with you my respected brother...Ameeen

in shaa Allah you will understand what I have said above...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I am bit wary and confuse , still I am not able to realize whats going on with me . Am I in the right path or not .... Allah help me ............

don`t be my respected and noble brother , you are in your way in shaa Allah to happiness and Allah`s satisfaction just be patient, make alot of Duaa and get up show the world the real you in shaa Allah and prove for Allah that you desire Him and His satisfaction.....

and humbly, this is a small simple gift from me to you, I drew this strange drawing for ya my respected brother...

the verses are from Surat Azzumar:" Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." (53) And return [in repentance] to your Lord and submit to Him before the punishment comes upon you; then you will not be helped. (54)"

this is a rock which the remembarnce of Allah and His love made it change from inside ...giving it the reasons of life so the heart of the rock became soft and full of life that a rose grew up inside and the remeberance of Allah started affect the out side too so the rock start transforming to a blossoing life and fresh flower and this is you from inside and when you my respected brother will let the rememberance of Allah affect your heart your inside and stay firm on this only for Allah`s sake patiently then your outside which is your deeds and life will be affcted too just like this hard rock... may allah guide you always and forever and all of us Ameeeeeeen

Ramadhan

04-12-2011, 03:02 AM

Brother hopeonAllah,

I am not sure if someone has given you this advice before. I know it sounds cliche, but It will require a lot of patience, and A LOT of time to "reverse" your condition and make it right in the straight path that Allah has provided for us.
From your story that you told us, you have been living homosexual lifestyle for many years, since you were very young. Hence, in order to diminish and rid of your homosexual tendency, it will require more than few months, you may even need a lifetime to do it. There's no quickfixes, there is no pill or potion that instantaneously rid you off from your homosexual desires.
HOWEVER, if you you implement the wealth of advice that many brothers and sisters have given you in this thread, be discipline about them, and constantly ask Allah for help, I am sure that you will be able to at least manage your life so that it does not deviate from the straight path.

hopeonallah

04-12-2011, 05:12 PM

Assala mu alaiqum " naidamar "

My dear friend thank you very mush for your response . I am really thankful to you .

I partially agree with your this statement : " it will require more than few months, you may even need a lifetime to do it. There's no quickfixes, " .

Here I agree that there are no quick fixes But I don't think it will take lifetime to fix it for me Insha Allah . But the thing is; first I need to convince my self completely that homosexuality is a wrong . For that I need to remove all misunderstanding from my mind, so that some time I am repeating same questions . And I have less believe in Islam means my Emaan is very weak . Still I have few doubts about Islam . I will give my complete efforts Once I get rid from my doubts . I have confident that once I give my all efforts I can achieve my goal like a magic Insha Allah !

2) I have very strong EGO . I don't follow or do any thing If some one force me or some one order me rather then inspiration , No mater I am wrong or right . I need to rid my EGO too .

3) I have a very bad habit that whatever I do in my life I do perfectly or I try to do perfectly, No mater its right or wrong . And I wont get relax if I could not do that perfectly . Even My queries too . I start getting angry If I don't get perfect answer of regarding my queries . In fact I start doing opposite or wrong activity while I get angry . This was the reason some time my school principal bounded to provide me different teacher for my lessons in extra classes for me only (for one student) if I could not understand the lessons . I have changed four schools because of this reasons only . In the college I often argue with my principal and other professors in their common or office rooms . I threaten them to launch case in the court if they don't make me understand the topics .
I have to work on it to rid my angry .

If you know any technicians to rid my all those problems please awarded me by informing those technicians ( I hope that will be from Quran and Sahih hadith ) .

Pray for me please ...

hopeonallah

04-12-2011, 07:09 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! " Amat Allah "

I hope Allah keeping you happy and Allah providing you rewards against of your helps which you are giving me INsha Allah !

1). Few days ago you have told me that : " you are higher than what you are thinking and your life and soul are so precious to be wasted just like that.... " .
I didn't understand where is my position ? How come my life and soul are so precious ? I am not able to see any value of mine , seriously ! here I am not praising my self . I don't do any thing which can make benefit for this world or for others . I don't even go out from my home . I don't do any thing in my life . How come I am precious ?

2) You said : " then try my respected brother to drink early in the morning ; one cup of warm water after mixing it with one table spoon of honey and one tea spoon of nigella sativa (the black seeds or cumin) " .
Here, should I make powder of black cumin seeds and mix with water or shall I use it in a solid form ?

3). you mentioned : " The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)said:"There is healing in black cumin for all diseases except death." Sahih Bukhari. ;
The prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him )said:"There is no disease that Allah has created, except that He also has created its treatment.". Sahih Bukhari . So, no matter what you will have then there is a treat of it and this is the saying of the messenger of Allah who neither speaks of (his own) desire nor lie (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)... " .

I really didn't understand this . There are many diseases does not have cure example : Cancer , AIDS etc ... How come black cumin is the cure for all diseases ? Can you make me understand it ?
Can you mention the Hadith Numbers as you have mentioned only the Hadith name " Sahi Bukhari " ? Because its difficult to find out the Hadith without the Hadith Numbers if possible then mention the page numbers too . .

4). I would like to ask you one question I hope you will not mind it . The question is : We often watch many Islamic scholars In the TV and internet , Which are the scholar you like most ?

5). I request you, as well as all the members that , It would be more comfortable for me if you mention references and quotations as much as possible , so that I can find out that particular statement very easily example : Book name + page number + chapter number + verse number etc . Its my request only . I hope you understand what I mean to say .

Please pry for me ....

Amat Allah

04-13-2011, 03:56 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

1). Few days ago you have told me that : " you are higher than what you are thinking and your life and soul are so precious to be wasted just like that.... " . I didn't understand where is my position ? How come my life and soul are so precious ? I am not able to see any value of mine , seriously ! here I am not praising my self . I don't do any thing which can make benefit for this world or for others . I don't even go out from my home . I don't do any thing in my life . How come I am precious ?

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Wa Iyakum and all the Ummah Ameeeeen

you are higher than what you are thinking cause Allah says:"And We have certainly honored the children of Adam and carried them on the land and sea and provided for them of the good things and preferred them over much of what We have created, with [definite] preference. (70)" Surat Al Is`raa.

and says:" We have certainly created man in the best of stature; (4)" Surat Atteen

so, you are higher than what you are thinking cause Allah created you that way and then because you have the love of Allah in your heart and you are treating your self so low; destroying the higher meaning of you and what you are ; you are a slave of Allah but not others and destroying yourself from inside and ignoring the ability that Allah blessed ya with; the ability of changing yourself the ability of proving for others that you have your independent personality so none can control ya but Allah...got me now?

and of course your soul and life are so precious to be wasted cause both of them belonging to their creator and you are not free to waste them just like that, you don`t have the right to do that with something you are trusted to;this is from one way and the other way is: have you ever seen a mother love her lil baby for a benefit it may give to her or to the world? the love of the mother is unconditional and like that Allah taught us to love each other ; brothers and sisters in Islam; unconditionaly and only for His sake so, surely your life and soul are precious to us no matter what you are...got this too?

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

2) You said : " then try my respected brother to drink early in the morning ; one cup of warm water after mixing it with one table spoon of honey and one tea spoon of nigella sativa (the black seeds or cumin) " . Here, should I make powder of black cumin seeds and mix with water or shall I use it in a solid form ?

No, don`t make it as a powder cause that may make it lose the useful volatile oils it has just take them solid and try to crush them by your teeth...in shaa Allah...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I really didn't understand this . There are many diseases does not have cure example : Cancer , AIDS etc ... How come black cumin is the cure for all diseases ? Can you make me understand it ?

it does my respected brother when used in some specefic ways and added to another substances , I only know what the science descovered about the black seeds till this moment and we don`t know what wil happen later and Allah`s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) took His knowledge from His Lord so, if he said that black seed or cumin is the cure for all illnesses except death then surely it is and till this moment there are many things are not descovered yet...

check this out: http://www.kitchendoctor.com/herbs/black_cumin.php

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Can you mention the Hadith Numbers as you have mentioned only the Hadith name " Sahi Bukhari " ? Because its difficult to find out the Hadith without the Hadith Numbers if possible then mention the page numbers too . .

of course and I am really so sorry for being so neglegted, here you are:

both of two hadeeths are in Medicine book of Al Bukhari:

Volume 7, Book 71, Number 582:

Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "There is no disease that Allah has created, except that He also has created its treatment."

Volume 7, Book 71, Number 592:

Narrated Abu Huraira:
I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "There is healing in black cumin for all diseases except death."

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

4). I would like to ask you one question I hope you will not mind it . The question is : We often watch many Islamic scholars In the TV and internet , Which are the scholar you like most ?

No, I don`t mind at all , its ok...

I like many and from them Abdurraheem Green, Khaalid Yasin, Bilal Philips...etc (those whom you can understand their language) and there are many from Arabs like Ibn Baz, Ibn Uthaymeen, Muhammad Al Areefi, Abdulazeez Al Fuzaan...etc

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

5). I request you, as well as all the members that , It would be more comfortable for me if you mention references and quotations as much as possible , so that I can find out that particular statement very easily example : Book name + page number + chapter number + verse number etc . Its my request only . I hope you understand what I mean to say . Please pry for me ....

in shaa Allah from now on I will remember, again forgive me for being so neglected my noble brother, May Allah show ya the way and guide you to Him always and forever and cure you from all illnesses Ameeeeeeeeen

Humbly, your sister:

Amat Allah.

hopeonallah

04-13-2011, 07:31 AM

Assala mu alaiqum ! "Amat Allah "

You must have many works even you are making time for supporting me to resolve my problems , Subhan Allah !

1). You have suggested me : " you always make supplications and always ask Allah`s rfuge from laziness and be sincere and try to remind your self of death and that you done not enough to meet Allah with and try to find yourself a specefic optional act of worship to do it daily to not make your body get used to laziness like saying the morning and evening supplications which you will find here:

http://www.makedua.com/display_dua.php?sectionid=27

and try to pray and fast optional prayers and fasting as much as you can bear and never burden yourself to not give up in shaa Allah...this is the Islamic way I know and Allah knows the best... " .

Here I would like to tell you that , I don't feel any laziness for offering Salah in fact I always waiting for call ( Azaan ) since few times . I do Obligation Salah ( Nafil ) . In Fazar 2 + 2 raqat , Zahar 4+ 4+ 2+2 raqat , Asar 4+4 raqat , Magrib 3+2+2 raqat , Ishah 4+4+2+2+3 raqat . I pray to Allah for my laziness too .
Actually I need some thing activity or tricks which can prevent me from laziness and make me smart and active . example : for controlling my same sex attraction one of the best tricks is lower the gaze which Allah tell in the Quran . You believe me or not its works like a magic for me . I am sure some thing should be in Quran and sahih hadith for laziness . Please awarded me by that knowledge .

2) . you told me : " and I have never heard of the cigarettes in the time of Allah`s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) or his companions May allah be pleased with them but what I know that it is forbidden to do something with your body that would harm it ...and Allah knows the best... " .

According to my knowledge Islam for all time . Islam has all solutions for all problems . Islam not only do and don't religion its do and don't and how to achieve that do and don't . In Islam all things mentioned , some things may mentioned directly some thing mentioned indirectly , some thing has signs some things straight forwardly . So I believe, in Islam might be not mentioned straight forwardly or directly about smoking ; But may be mentioned about tobacco .
As you said that , those things are forbidden which are harms our body . Here one question arise ; Why Allah forbidden it ? Definitely some one there who was harming their body or Allah knew that people will harm their body , So Allah forbidden it . Allah not only forbidden it but also should shown the way how to stop harming our body . Because Islam is not only Do and Don't . Islam is Do and Don't and how to achieve that Do and Don't .
So I need that tricks or method or way or techniques which Allah provided us through his book and messenger ( Prophet ) .

Please enlightening me by those knowledge .

I will discuss later about changing my phone no etc ...
I need strength and help and more and more knowledge . please help me and pry for me .....

hopeonallah

04-15-2011, 01:00 PM

ssala mu alaiqum , brother and sister !

I would like to share one more feeling of mine : As I told that, I have inferiority complex . It is there and its hurt me a lot . When I was child ; my elders and my mother and father are always reminding me that I am a looser , so and so guys are getting 90% marks , why you cant get ; because of me my mother feeling shamed in front of others . Now also same thing going on with me . My mother is not there but my elder sister , brother , father and other relatives are still there and they will be there . They always remind me that I am a looser . So and so guy are getting new car , new house etc . they use to indicate some guy who are my ages or below my ages that, look at him; he is younger then you and he bought a new luxurious car , new House etc . They always insulting me , they always shows me how poor I am ! Its still hurting me a lot .Whenever my sister and father call me I feel very pain and scare and sham etc .
They never try to know neither they are interested to know that whats going on with me, What I am struggling. I cant explain my pain by writing , I don't even explain by any ways . I am always avoiding my family members . In fact I don't want to make them feel sham because of me in front of other .
Some time I am thinking , what is the value of material things for that person who is suffering from cancer ? They don't know what I am struggling since child hood . They cant understand that this world cant carry any value for me . Some time I hate earning money . In fact I scare money . may be its my excuse because I coward . I am useless . So whenever I saw any better guy I started hating him and I want to show him My power, that is the one more reason's I do sex with male and take off their manliness .
Yesterday MY elder sister called me but I didn't pick her call because I don't have energy to face her greedy and proudly , arrogant , comparative , harsh , insulting etc voices . I always running from my family . BUT...........

My revenge feeling is hurting me a lot . I am feeling looser because I am not talking any revenge from any male by having sex with them since few months .Consciously I am loosing opportunities.

I cant even explain ; who much I am struggling ! I can say that , I would be happy if some one provide me death penalty besides my struggling .

Muhaba

04-15-2011, 01:18 PM

this sort of thinkng is really sick. you need to stop it. why take revenge on other males who didn't do anything to you? you should have the courage to straighten your family instead of wanting to take it out on other males and then wrongly feeling good about yourself, when actually the only one you destroy is your own self. if your family is making you feel low, get the strength to tell them to stop pickin on you.

as long as you don't feel that homosexuality is wrong, you won't be able to stop it. i think all these are your excuses to continue with what you want to do deep down. it is really terrible of you. In the Quran it is written that homosexuality is wrong (in the story of the nation of Prophet Lut AS). If youbelieve that the Quran is God's Book and is correct, then you will believe that what it says about homosexuality is right. if you don't then you aren't a true muslim.

you should get away from your homo friends, whether it is by moving or by telling them to stop contacting you. you will have to do whatever is in your power to stop anything that gives you homo tendencies if you want Allah to help you overcome this.

Amat Allah

04-15-2011, 01:39 PM

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Here I would like to tell you that , I don't feel any laziness for offering Salah in fact I always waiting for call ( Azaan ) since few times . I do Obligation Salah ( Nafil ) . In Fazar 2 + 2 raqat , Zahar 4+ 4+ 2+2 raqat , Asar 4+4 raqat , Magrib 3+2+2 raqat , Ishah 4+4+2+2+3 raqat . I pray to Allah for my laziness too . Actually I need some thing activity or tricks which can prevent me from laziness and make me smart and active . example : for controlling my same sex attraction one of the best tricks is lower the gaze which Allah tell in the Quran . You believe me or not its works like a magic for me . I am sure some thing should be in Quran and sahih hadith for laziness . Please awarded me by that knowledge .

Obligation means Farz (the prayers which you are obliged to perform) and Nafil is the optional ones and I am so sorry cause I couldn`t understand the numbers you wrote above totaly:

Al Fajir prayer: two Sunnah + two Farz and after ending your prayer; you may stay where you are making Athiker till the sun rises and perform two optional Rak`aat...and before Zuhur paryer with an hour and a half is the best time to pray Salatu Aduhaa and it starts from 2 Rak`ah to as much as you want...

Zuhur: 4 sunnah+ 4Farz+ 2 Sunnah.

Asir: between the Azaan and Iqaamah of Al asir prayer you may perform 4 optional Rak`aat then after The Iqaamah the Farz which 4 Rak`aat .

Al Maghrib: between the Azaan and Iqaamah of Al Maghrib prayer you may perform 2 optional Rak`aat and after the Iqaamah comes the Farz which is 3 Rak`aat then 2 Sunnah.

Al I`shaa:between the Azaan and Iqaamah of Al I`shaa prayer you may perform 2 optional Rak`aat and after the Iqaamah comes the Farz which is 4 Rak`aat then 2 Sunnah.

after Al I`shaa you may pray the night prayer or Tahajud but the best time for it after the middle of the night in the last third of the night, and Tahajud is divided to two parts : Ash`shaff`e and Al Watr and it is 11 or 13 Rak`aat as narrated about the prophet Muhammad peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, Ash`shaff`e is to pray 2 Rak`at then end it with the Tas`leem then pray two Ra`kat and so on ; the number you wants then praying the Watr which is one Rak`ah to seal your night prayer and that must be before Al Fajir Azaan...

and there is 2 Rak`aat you may pray after each wudu you do which call Sunnat Al Wudu...

Allah knows if you will understand what I wrote ...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

According to my knowledge Islam for all time . Islam has all solutions for all problems . Islam not only do and don't religion its do and don't and how to achieve that do and don't . In Islam all things mentioned , some things may mentioned directly some thing mentioned indirectly , some thing has signs some things straight forwardly . So I believe, in Islam might be not mentioned straight forwardly or directly about smoking ; But may be mentioned about tobacco . As you said that , those things are forbidden which are harms our body . Here one question arise ; Why Allah forbidden it ? Definitely some one there who was harming their body or Allah knew that people will harm their body , So Allah forbidden it . Allah not only forbidden it but also should shown the way how to stop harming our body . Because Islam is not only Do and Don't . Islam is Do and Don't and how to achieve that Do and Don't . So I need that tricks or method or way or techniques which Allah provided us through his book and messenger ( Prophet ) . Please enlightening me by those knowledge . I will discuss later about changing my phone no etc ... I need strength and help and more and more knowledge . please help me and pry for me .....

if Allah made some things forbidden then they are for testing His slaves and whom avoids them will be suerly a winner as Allah promised us...and if falling in them then Allah The Most Merciful opened for us the door of repentance till the day of the hour...Alhamdulilah...

and the deen have mentioned for us many things in general then the Shar`eeah which Allah gave to us has came to explain everything for us depending on the proofs from Qur`aan and Sunnah and surely Islam is for all times and there is no need for the religion to name for ya every lil thing to prove for ya its prohibition but one general proof is enough to include many things under one specefic category...

like drugs there is no specefic Ayah or hadeeth talking about drugs but there are many proofs in them telling us not to eat Intoxicants and things which make you lose your reason...

and the general hadeeth The Shai`aa used to tell us that smooking is prohibited is the saying of the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him:"there is no injury nor return of injury" hadeeth number 31 found in the book of 'Judgements' of Malik's Muwatta.

and no another proofs from Qur`aan and Sunah which ordering us not to waste our money on useless things: Allah says:"Indeed, the wasteful are brothers of the devils, and ever has Satan been to his Lord ungrateful. (27) " Surat Al Is`raa and says:"and do not spend wastefully. (26) " Surat Al Is`raa and spending money to buy cigerates is a waste for the money and not only a waste but buying something harmful for the body which is you ar etrusted on it....

and Allah says in Surat Al Baqarah, verse 195:"and do not throw [yourselves] with your [own] hands into destruction " and by smooking you do...

Amat Allah

04-15-2011, 01:49 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

ssala mu alaiqum , brother and sister ! I would like to share one more feeling of mine : As I told that, I have inferiority complex . It is there and its hurt me a lot . When I was child ; my elders and my mother and father are always reminding me that I am a looser , so and so guys are getting 90% marks , why you cant get ; because of me my mother feeling shamed in front of others . Now also same thing going on with me . My mother is not there but my elder sister , brother , father and other relatives are still there and they will be there . They always remind me that I am a looser . So and so guy are getting new car , new house etc . they use to indicate some guy who are my ages or below my ages that, look at him; he is younger then you and he bought a new luxurious car , new House etc . They always insulting me , they always shows me how poor I am ! Its still hurting me a lot .Whenever my sister and father call me I feel very pain and scare and sham etc . They never try to know neither they are interested to know that whats going on with me, What I am struggling. I cant explain my pain by writing , I don't even explain by any ways . I am always avoiding my family members . In fact I don't want to make them feel sham because of me in front of other . Some time I am thinking , what is the value of material things for that person who is suffering from cancer ? They don't know what I am struggling since child hood . They cant understand that this world cant carry any value for me . Some time I hate earning money . In fact I scare money . may be its my excuse because I coward . I am useless . So whenever I saw any better guy I started hating him and I want to show him My power, that is the one more reason's I do sex with male and take off their manliness . Yesterday MY elder sister called me but I didn't pick her call because I don't have energy to face her greedy and proudly , arrogant , comparative , harsh , insulting etc voices . I always running from my family . BUT........... My revenge feeling is hurting me a lot . I am feeling looser because I am not talking any revenge from any male by having sex with them since few months .Consciously I am loosing opportunities. I cant even explain ; who much I am struggling ! I can say that , I would be happy if some one provide me death penalty besides my struggling .

in shaa Allah will come back for this later...

and btw, I used to be called loser and worse huh like I care about others, someone would say I am bad then I will believe that I am bad stupidly I am not the shoe for others they wear me whenever they want and thraw me whenever they want...and they tell me something low then I out of smartness rightaway prove for them that they are %100 right...what kind of nonsens is this ? WAKE UP WAKE UP WAKE UP...

you are letting others control ya and taking you identity form ya being their slave and Robot...what kind of life is this? stop it for Allah`s sake....

sorry for being so harsh but you are making thing bad for yourself by yourself...chosing to be so negative and lazy cause this is the simple way you can take ...go a head be like this till meet your Lord and see...what excuses will save ya then....

hopeonallah

04-15-2011, 08:06 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! " WRITER "

Thank you very much for your reply . You are right that I cant overcome from Homosexuality until I don't believe it wrong . That is the reason I am searching counseling that, some one make me understand that Homosexuality is wrong . Still I have many queries about it . I need to clarify it completely then, follow the instruction to overcome from homosexuality . Till that time I can control it . I am controlling it by lower my gaze ! Here I need to mention that, I am just controlling my homosexuality for a curtain time ; I am not give up my homosexuality until clarify my doubt completely .

You may say , I am Hypocrite ( Munafic ) . I think I am . You may say I am not Muslim . My answer will be yes . I have doubt about it ! I may not be a Muslim . You have full rights to call me Qafir . trust me I wont feel bad about it . Because most probably I am a Qafir .

*** " I don't rape any body . please remember it ".

I don't know about you but I am sure that, I am not enough strong as like as you . You come to my position then..........

How Allah help me to overcome from Homosexuality ? By sending Holy sprite ?

Look honorable scholar, I got more then thousands time counseling in favor of homosexuality with medication . I asked many cross question to them . And I have many cross question to non favorable people of homosexuality too.
I defeated favorable people of homosexuality . But I need to defeated my self from non favorable people of homosexuality . I am in the neutral position now . neither is wrong nor its right . That the reason I have been controlling homosexual act since few months . It does not mean I have stopped it for forever . If I don't get proper answer against of homosexuality then, I will choose my further steps . Any how I am a Qafir ! Right ?

hopeonallah

04-15-2011, 08:17 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! " Amat Allah "

I want to tell you that : I have stopped working for living ( earning money ) long back ago .
You may ask then, how you are managing your expenses ? Answer is I have money to survive a certain time . But its almost over .

Now you may ask then, how you will be survive ? My answer is I don't need and want to survive . I will live until my money get over .
Because I don't want to work for money . I will not accept any economical help from any body . Because I dont want to live . I want to sleep and sleep and sleep ...........

Amat Allah

04-16-2011, 04:25 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Assala mu alaiqum ! " Amat Allah " I want to tell you that : I have stopped working for living ( earning money ) long back ago . You may ask then, how you are managing your expenses ? Answer is I have money to survive a certain time . But its almost over . Now you may ask then, how you will be survive ? My answer is I don't need and want to survive . I will live until my money get over . Because I don't want to work for money . I will not accept any economical help from any body . Because I dont want to live . I want to sleep and sleep and sleep ...........

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

first of all I want ya to know that we are all know that you are suffering and none here know your real pain and how much you been tortured and also you said to sister writer :

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

You have full rights to call me Qafir

while none in earth have the right to call ya that cause this is forbidden to be said to someone who believe in Allah and His messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)

second: I won`t say how you will be survive ever, cause I already know who is Allah and I trust Him to death...

don`t you know what Allah says in Qur`aan:"And how many a creature carries not its [own] provision. Allah provides for it and for you. And He is the Hearing, the Knowing. (60)" Surat Al An`kaboot

and says:"And there is no creature on earth but that upon Allah is its provision, and He knows its place of dwelling and place of storage. All is in a clear register. (6)" Surat Hood

and says:"And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me. (56) I do not want from them any provision, nor do I want them to feed Me. (57) Indeed, it is Allah who is the [continual] Provider, the firm possessor of strength. (58) " Surat Athaariyaat

and says:"Say, "Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands] that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, good treatment, and do not kill your children out of poverty; We will provide for you and them. And do not approach immoralities - what is apparent of them and what is concealed. And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed] except by [legal] right. This has He instructed you that you may use reason." (151) " Surat Al An`aam... if Allah telling people not to kill their children for a poverty and that He can provide them and their children then is it impossible to Allah to provide you Ya Akhi? (Astaghfero Allah Al Atheem)...

and says:"And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out (2) And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent. (3) " and says:"And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease. (4) That is the command of Allah, which He has sent down to you; and whoever fears Allah - He will remove for him his misdeeds and make great for him his reward. (5)" Surat Attalaaq

and says:"And We have made for you therein means of living and [for] those for whom you are not providers. (20) And there is not a thing but that with Us are its depositories, and We do not send it down except according to a known measure. (21) " Surat Al Hijir....

have you forgot that Allah Is the One Who created everything and that He has the depositories of everything? have you forgot that Allah is The Provider?

and in Jami Attirmithi , the book of Zuhd (piety), in a sahih hadeeth number: 2351

Allah`s messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:"If you trust in Allah observing a true trust in Him, then, indeed, He will give you provision as - provides the birds who emerge hungry in the morning and return with a full belly in the evening.”

and you want to sleep and sleep and sleep because whenever you are on the right path walking and heading to Allah; you yourself start putting past as a Stumbling block in your way ,why?

how many times we; your brothers and sisters told ya that there is no benefit fom past but pain? but you are not listening to us but to the satan who is whispering in your ears to depresse you and make your life up side down...

if you want to change then don`t look back or to others, just walk a head and never take side paths...

May Allah be with you Ameeeen

hopeonallah

04-16-2011, 08:43 PM

Assala mu alaiqum " Amat Allah "

I think , I should not live in fairytale . We should be in practical . As you said Black cumin has capacity to cure all diseases , Don't you think its the history of wonderland ? Please give me a brake from such fairytale . Thank God ! I don't know Arabic otherwise I could have read those fairytale .

2). woodworm live inside the wood and they eat their food from there only . Birds live in the nest and they fly and search food and they eat . Human being making money by working and they eat . I don't live in middle east where liquid gold ( patrol ) are inside the land , So that people come to us and giving money for the patrol without work . My dear sister I live in India here you cant get a fresh air without money and for money people has to struggle . Every day hundreds of people are dying without food . Be practical please ...
No doubt religion's give us psychological satisfaction . But for food and other necessity we have to work . Please be practical ...

Amat Allah

04-17-2011, 04:27 AM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Assala mu alaiqum " Amat Allah " I think , I should not live in fairytale . We should be in practical . As you said Black cumin has capacity to cure all diseases , Don't you think its the history of wonderland ? Please give me a brake from such fairytale . Thank God ! I don't know Arabic otherwise I could have read those fairytale . 2). woodworm live inside the wood and they eat their food from there only . Birds live in the nest and they fly and search food and they eat . Human being making money by working and they eat . I don't live in middle east where liquid gold ( patrol ) are inside the land , So that people come to us and giving money for the patrol without work . My dear sister I live in India here you cant get a fresh air without money and for money people has to struggle . Every day hundreds of people are dying without food . Be practical please ... No doubt religion's give us psychological satisfaction . But for food and other necessity we have to work . Please be practical ...

stop right there ya Akhi, till this limit and stop cause I will not allow you to insult Allah The Exalted and the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)...behave yourself please , if that insult was directed to me then I would never care but at this point your are crossing the lines...so, I with respect recommending you to calm and watch your fingers which are typing, ok?

May Allah guide you before you stand in His court and the whole world Ameeeeeeen

hopeonallah

04-17-2011, 08:08 AM

Respected Sir/Madam,

I am begging your apologize for my misbehave . But according to me , there are no evidence where people get cure from severe disease such as cancer, AIDS, diabetes etc by using Black cumin . And also there are no evidence where people get food without work or inheritance property or natural assets .

Any body have any prove regarding this . And If you people are thinking that, I should not post any genuine question which are arises after knowing Islam means I should not open my mouth , I should seal my mouth ; then let me know because I don't want to hurt any one's feelings whether its logical or not . And let me know how to delete profile from this site . I have search but I didn't get any option for deleting profile from this site . Kindly help me .

Thank you very much . and sorry for asking questions and wasting your valuable time . I hope you all are great . Forgiveness is the nature of great people . All the best for your spiritual journey . Once again Thank you !

Amat Allah

04-17-2011, 01:37 PM

Bismellah Tawakkalna ala Allah

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Respected Sir/Madam, I am begging your apologize for my misbehave . But according to me , there are no evidence where people get cure from severe disease such as cancer, AIDS, diabetes etc by using Black cumin . And also there are no evidence where people get food without work or inheritance property or natural assets . Any body have any prove regarding this . And If you people are thinking that, I should not post any genuine question which are arises after knowing Islam means I should not open my mouth , I should seal my mouth ; then let me know because I don't want to hurt any one's feelings whether its logical or not . And let me know how to delete profile from this site . I have search but I didn't get any option for deleting profile from this site . Kindly help me . Thank you very much . and sorry for asking questions and wasting your valuable time . I hope you all are great . Forgiveness is the nature of great people . All the best for your spiritual journey . Once again Thank you !

who is the all knower here, you O son of Adam (came from dust and will return to it someday) or Allah the One Who created you and taught the prophet everything he knew? have you done your scientific tests and found that balck cumin doesn`t cure the deseases you have mentioned above , you know nothing and have no proofs while I have the words of one of Allah`s messengers which is enough for me to take as evidence cause I believe in him as Allah taught me and commanded me I the slave of Allah and many thing of what the prophet said ; the science came later to give evidences of their truth and existence and were reasons after Allah of others to embrace Islam...

none told ya to be lazy and not work but you just misunderstood the verses of Allah my respected brother and btw lazy people who waits for things to be done for them are losers.... and none told ya to seal your mouth and never ask...but there is a difference between asking in a respected way and insulting The Most High and His prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)...

you asked so much before and none told ya a word or rejected but everyone tried his /her best to help ya ; and now when I told ya not to insult Allah and his messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) you take it as if I said: don`t ask questions cause Islam means to not open your mouth?...where is the justice in this and honesty my respected brother? to say something that I have never said...May Allah forgive you for doing this Ameeeen

if Allah wants to send ya food from heaven like He did with the sons of Israel which is an evidence where people got food without work then He will; cause Allah Is not a human like you to limit His ability Ya Akhi :"Allah is very Gracious and Kind to His slaves. He gives provisions to whom He wills. And He is the All-Strong, the All-Mighty. (19) " Ashurah

and if you would read Qur`aan sincerely and with an understanding mind and heart you would never say what you have said before...

and if Allah is The Provider and the Owner of all the doors of everything and has the depositories of everything then He can provide you with a job which you are so concenred about ...everything is in Allah`s hand ...

if I would ask you:"Who provides for you from the sky and from the earth? Or who owns hearing and sight? And who brings out the living from the dead and brings out the dead from the living? And who disposes the affairs?" what will you say ? Isn`t He "Allah."? then "Will you not then be afraid of Allah's Punishment for limiting His ability and not believing in some of His names and attributes?"

do you know what your statement (

No doubt religion's give us psychological satisfaction . But for food and other necessity we have to work

) mean?

Suerly we have to work but the first part of what you have said means that the words of Allah are not true and they are only to give us the psychological satisfaction as you said; to make us only feel the peace of mind and heart while Allah will make us believing in something which is not exist; how could you say something like that against Allah...Laa ilaha illa Allah...

Jami Attirmithi, chapter 48, hadeeth number: 2503

Sayyidina Abu Dharr (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) narrated the saying of Allah. He said, “O My slaves all of you are astray except those whom I guide, so ask Me for guidance. I will guide you. And all of you are poor save whom I enrich, so ask Me. I will give you provision. And all of you are sinners except those whom I save. Hence, he of you who knows that I am able to forgive and seeks forgiveness from Me, I will forgive him and I do not care about it. And if the first of you and the last of you, the living among you and your dead, the fresh of you and the withered among you gather together to have hearts as the heart of the most righteous that will not increase My dominion by even so much as the wing of a mosquito. And again if the first of you and the last of you, the living among you your dead, the fresh of you and and the withered among you, gather together to have hears as the heart of the cruelest of My slaves that will not diminish My kingdom even so much as the wing of a mosquito. And, if the first of you and the last of you, your jinns and your mankind, the living among you and the dead of you. And if the . fresh among you and the stale among you gather together in one field and each one of you prays to Me for his desire I will give every seeker among you That will not diminish from My kingdom except like when one of you passes by an ocean and after immersing a needle in it withdraws it to him This because I am Jawwad Wajid Majid. I do what I will, My grant is a word and my punishment is a word. My only command to anything when I intend it is that I say to it ‘Be’ and it is."

[Ahmed 21425, Bukhari 490, Muslim 2577, Ibn e Majah 4257]

and saying:

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I think , I should not live in fairytale . We should be in practical . As you said Black cumin has capacity to cure all diseases , Don't you think its the history of wonderland ? Please give me a brake from such fairytale . Thank God ! I don't know Arabic otherwise I could have read those fairytale .

I gave you a correct hadeeth as a proof on this which is the words of the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and you said what you have said above about it (fairytale and history of wonderland) and that an acusation of lying against the prophet Muhammd (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then how could you and dare telling such things about him? don`t you fear Allah saying such things? and now you are upset cause I rejected and allow you not to insult Allah and His messenger?

O Allah please do not destroy us for the deeds of the foolish ones among us? It is only Your Trial by which You lead astray whom You will, and keep guided whom You will. You are our Protector, so forgive us and have Mercy on us, for You are the Best of those who forgive...Ameeeen

don`t apologize from me Ya Akhi but to Allah whom you insulted and degraded Him and His messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) by saying what you have said...Astagh`fero Allaha Al Atheem wa A3othobellahi mina ashaytani irrajeem...

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we are as Muslims are encouraged and ordered to work in many proofs in Qur`aan and Sunnah and many proofs told us not to stay a side and wait for things to be done for us but we have to work to gain what we want and in many of our advices for ya we were telling you that it is not enough to want your problems to be solved while doing nothing and you have to work hard to change yourself...then how come we now tell ya not to work? return to that reply which I wrote and read again with an opened mind...

and whom guided those animals you mentioned to their food and to how to find it and get it but Allah and who taught human how to work and serve himself but Allah... its right that you have to rely on Allah completely but aslo have to work to cause when you do trust Allah , depend on him and rely on him in everything; you must work to show Him that you are not lazy and show him how honest you are and that you are trying sincerely... then you will be a winer with no doubt ....understand please ...

in the book of Jami Attirmithi, chapter 60 ,hadeeth number 2526:

Sayyidina Anas ibn Malik reported that someone asked, “O Messenger of Allah, shall I tether it and trust in Allah or untie it and place trust in Allah”? He said, “Tie it and trust in Allah."

chapter 13, hadeeth number 2333:

Sayyidina Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, faces poverty and he approaches people (for redress) then his poverty is not removed. And if anyone is faced with poverty and he turns to Allah with it then Allah will provide him sustenance sooner or later.”

[Ahmed 4219]

"And say (O Muhammad SAW) "Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds, and (so will) His Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen. Then He will inform you of what you used to do." (105)" Attawbah...

1_Narrated Al-Miqdam: The Prophet said, "Nobody has ever eaten a better meal than that which one has earned by working with one's own hands. The Prophet of Allah, David used to eat from the earnings of his manual labor."

2_Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "The Prophet David used not to eat except from the earnings of his manual labor."

3_Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "One would rather cut and carry a bundle of wood on his back than ask somebody who may or may not live him."

4_Narrated Az-Zubair bin Al-Awwam: The Prophet said, "One would rather take a rope and cut wood and carry it than ask others)."

all the above a hadeeth in Sahih Al Bukhari, the book of Sales and Trade.

5_Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "No doubt, you had better gather a bundle of wood and carry it on your back (and earn your living thereby) rather than ask somebody who may give you or not."

Sahih Al Bukhari, the book of Distribution of Water.

I don`t know if you would understand what I wrote cause you didn`t understand what I wrote before turning it to another meanings and in shaa Allah someone can explain for ya what I was trying to say...

take care of yourself and be careful cause satan is an excellent player and he is older than you with thousands of years so, he is very expert and knows all the ways to lead you astray...

May Allah guide you and all of us Ameeeeeen

Amat Allah

04-17-2011, 01:45 PM

Originally Posted by Amat Allah

No doubt religion's give us psychological satisfaction

thats why you are getting no where because religion to you is a source of only a psychological satisfaction ...

hopeonallah

04-18-2011, 04:53 PM

Assala mu alaiqum , Sir/ Madam ,

you have told me : who is the all knower here, you O son of Adam (came from dust and will return to it someday) or Allah the One Who created you and taught the prophet everything he knew? have you done your scientific tests and found that balck cumin doesn`t cure the deseases you have mentioned above , you know nothing and have no proofs while I have the words of one of Allah`s messengers which is enough for me to take as evidence cause I believe in him as Allah taught me and commanded me I the slave of Allah and many thing of what the prophet said ; the science came later to give evidences of their truth and existence and were reasons after Allah of others to embrace Islam...

My question here : Allah and Mohammad (PBUH ) said about Block Cumin have cure for all diseases . Is it only for advertisement OR its for taking benefit from Black cumin ? Can pronouncing by mouth prove that, you believe in the particular mater Or should act or activate on that particular mater which you have pronounced ?

If doing act or activate on the particular mater which you have pronounced is call real believe then , why should Muslim don't act on it ? Muslims can build Taj mahal which does not carry any real benefit , they can build luxurious apartment on the sea , they can build stadium on the desert for watching luxurious game But more then 1 Billion (one) Muslims cant do research for benefit of humanity since 1400 ( fourteen hundreds) years about black cumin ?
What exactly you want to show to the world ? Is it call real believe ?

Non Muslims are expending Millions of money for research for one particular problem and spreading benefit to all human being . In practically, if any Muslim face any disease he/she has to depend on those treatment which invented by NON MUSLIMS . Not only this much ; In the modern world Muslims cant move without Non Muslims help , starting from Morning to night and night to morning , from drinking water to toilet , wake up to sleep , cloth to house , doctors to medicines , home to hospitals .
Make me understand what do u mean by believe ? Or you are lying to me ?

Same case is happening in the mater of homosexuality , All Muslims are telling its strictly prohibited in Islam , Even they are having it and simultaneously they are getting married with girl being a gay and blaming to the western world . Because western world's people are bit open minded they don't like to hide truth . But the case of Muslims its need four witness . They forget most of the time sex happen inside the four wall and its happen in privacy . Each Muslim male knows how many types of sex they do in their life .

I am thinking now . What exactly all those mater? What exactly Muslim want to show to the world ?

hopeonallah

04-18-2011, 07:10 PM

Assala mu alaiqum ! Sir/Madam,

Whenever I met to doctor regarding overcome from Homosexuality ( reorientation ); they pose the question that , whats wrong with homosexuality? I used to reply that, its not allow in Islam; whenever I didn't get any proper logic to reply them .My psychiatrists told me that, we (doctors) never believe in chop off the head if some one have headache. We (doctors) try to solve the problems; if not possible we try to teach them how to live happy with problem by reducing the effect of the problems . They use to tell Homosexuality is not at all a problem , the problem is the environment which are created by homophobia's . They use to tell we( doctors) don't know God is there or not ,there are any life after death or not , but homosexual/Bisexual people's life become hell because of Homophobia's . Homosexual people's are facing different type of psychological and physical problems because of external pressures . And their life become upside down not for God's punishment but for homophobia people . And they says that, The biggest sin in Islam is Sirqe( associate partner with God ) rather then homo sex , even there are many Non Muslims have pleasant life .If God punish the Sinner then definitely He should punished Non Muslim first . But its not happening . So, My problems is not Homo sex , My problem is not accepting homo sex according to my doctors . According to doctors all human being have Homo sex in their life may be partly may be fully , some people stop from a certain time, some people do only homo sex , some people do both , most of the people do Both sex . there are very few people may be 10% are doing only homo sex, and may be 10% people are doing only Hetero sex (that also after a certain time after homo sex ) , rest of the people doing both. However bisexual people's sexual encounter can vary some people may 10%, 20%, 30%, 50%, 70%, 90%, 95% times in their sexual life . Then all people are Sinner , All people should be punished . All people's life should be upside down but its not . Nothing wrong to do Homo sex . Nobody has right to stop pleasure which is getting not hurting by other .

And they says , the story of Lut was million of years ago , how old the story no body knows . What was the situation that also difficult to explain . May be there were very few people , may be the story within a family . May be they were raping each other . May be they needed population . May be it was a coincident, because they need population and their people are homo so that their leader was wary at that time coincidentally natural disaster happen, most of the people infected by disaster and very few people save their life and they make the story about it . But now time has changed . there are no crisis of population . Infect world need to decrease the population . If 75% people do only homo sex even nothing will happen in this world infect people will get batter life . I asked them then why people against of us ? they says because of Homophobia , superstition, and old mentality. Again I asked them , why I am not able to accept it , why I feel guilty, why I am not happy ? They reply , I scare the society , and I have homophobia too, jealousy of the other people, influence by the society bla bla bla ....

Whatever the reason in case of me , BUT I am **** sure ( more then 10000000000.....%) that I am not happy . Infect I feel guilty from my inside after having homo sex by some time using intoxicant also.

If I don't use medicine which are provided by my doctors then, my all problem become start . Even If I control my self without medicine but I forced to use medicine because my whole body become some thing different my eyes start burning and some thing sparkle sound started inside my head . I can give you one example : have you seen sparkle of two electric wire ? how it sparkle ? same sparkle happen inside my head if I stop medicine for few days . How is The sparkle sound ? Its like zzezzzz zzzezzz zzzezzz . Right ? same thing happen continuously inside my head . I bound to use those medicines .
Once I use the medicines within a short time I feel relax and happy and horny , I become colorful . And again after a certain time I started feeling guilty, sad, angry on me and the society , started hating people start crying etc . in between the time come for next dose and I take the dose ( medicine ) again I feel happy . Means immediate I take another dose after goes off the affect of the taken dose .

I don't know How it will Rid ?

Amat Allah

04-19-2011, 04:03 AM

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

My question here : Allah and Mohammad (PBUH ) said about Block Cumin have cure for all diseases . Is it only for advertisement OR its for taking benefit from Black cumin ? Can pronouncing by mouth prove that, you believe in the particular mater Or should act or activate on that particular mater which you have pronounced ? If doing act or activate on the particular mater which you have pronounced is call real believe then , why should Muslim don't act on it ? Muslims can build Taj mahal which does not carry any real benefit , they can build luxurious apartment on the sea , they can build stadium on the desert for watching luxurious game But more then 1 Billion (one) Muslims cant do research for benefit of humanity since 1400 ( fourteen hundreds) years about black cumin ? What exactly you want to show to the world ? Is it call real believe ? Non Muslims are expending Millions of money for research for one particular problem and spreading benefit to all human being . In practically, if any Muslim face any disease he/she has to depend on those treatment which invented by NON MUSLIMS . Not only this much ; In the modern world Muslims cant move without Non Muslims help , starting from Morning to night and night to morning , from drinking water to toilet , wake up to sleep , cloth to house , doctors to medicines , home to hospitals . Make me understand what do u mean by believe ? Or you are lying to me ? Same case is happening in the mater of homosexuality , All Muslims are telling its strictly prohibited in Islam , Even they are having it and simultaneously they are getting married with girl being a gay and blaming to the western world . Because western world's people are bit open minded they don't like to hide truth . But the case of Muslims its need four witness . They forget most of the time sex happen inside the four wall and its happen in privacy . Each Muslim male knows how many types of sex they do in their life . I am thinking now . What exactly all those mater? What exactly Muslim want to show to the world ?

Is it only for advertisement OR its for taking benefit from Black cumin ? what do you think?

my respected brother; if you were the one or anybody in this world was the one who said that black cumin cures all desease then surely , I won`t believe till I have evidences but whom taught me this but one of Allah`s messengers (peace and blessings of Allah be upon them all) whom are taught by Allah and I believe in all of what they had said and I need no proofs; as I believed that the torment of Allah`s hellfire is too painful without tasting it because it was the words of Allah, or should I desire to be in it to believe? (May Allah never make me and the whole Ummah taste it Ameeeeeen)

if you want the answers for the Qs you asked above then ask those whom you talked about; not me...ask them what exactly they want?

to many Muslims including me; we want nothing Alhamdulillah but Allah...no luxurious apartment on the sea and no stadium on the desert for watching luxurious game; nothing from this worldy useless things but Allah and Alhamdulilah we are satisfied with what Allah provided us with which helping us to gain the enough strength to worship Allah right...May Allah accept us...

and look at you; whom you are taking as examples ...some sinners; what great examples!!

why didn`t you take Rasool Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) as an example and asked what did he want to show the world and teach Allah`s slaves? instead of talking about such people...
and if you are really thinking O brother then you wouldn`t ask those Qs while knowing that good and bad are everywhere......Sub`haan Al lathee khalaqak...

we are not angels , we do mistakes Ya akhi and some can wake up and find his way and some remain sleeping and when the promised day comes ; their eyes will be opened on the truth and they will believe but when? after its too late and there is no time to repent and no benefit of believing ...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Because western world's people are bit open minded they don't like to hide truth . But the case of Muslims its need four witness . They forget most of the time sex happen inside the four wall and its happen in privacy . Each Muslim male knows how many types of sex they do in their life .

all what you have posted above and this part especialy showing how much knowledge you have about the deen of Allah my respected brother...go and search about sinning in public in Islam and if you really seek Allah then seek the knowledge of His religion and fear Him instead of wasting your time which you will be asked about in the day of Judgement in asking such nonsense...

my respected brother; when I first came here to post; my purpose was to help a brother of mine for Allah`s sake which I am concenred about ; seeking nothing from you ever but Allah`s satisfaction and giving my advice according to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) as much as I can...I seek no arguing my respected brother cause I hate to argue and especialy about nonsense..
only to help and give my humble advice...

if you want it then humbly and happily take it but if not then thraw it against the wall and go on in your way...I wish that you did take our advices seriously and work on them...I have nothing to say more than what I have gave to you from the first post till the last one... and btw, I didn`t waste my time on you but in pleasing my Lord as I hope...May Allah be with you Ameeeen

take care and fee amaanillah

Insecured soul

04-23-2011, 12:48 AM

Originally Posted by

I am extremely sorry for not to disclose my name . I am a male . my age is 32 years . I am a Gay . As far my knowledge from child hood I feel attraction towards to male only . I have countless no of encounter with guys . But I do not want to be a gay . Its not my choice . I am help less . I try a lot but every time I fail . I know according to Islam its a Sin. I had sex with Islamic priest also . I had sex with many general Muslim people along with non Muslim people . I fond its a very common practice among the all type of males. I did fasting every alternative day for years . but no answer . I have been taking treatment from many psychiatrist since I aware that I am a gay( more then 15 years) . Still I am under treatment by psychiatrist; continuously since 2003 , But the surprise thing is all the psychiatrist are giving me counseling about accepting my sexual orientation that is homosexuality . Including Muslim psychiatrist .

I heard homosexuality is prohibited in the Quran and sahi Hadid . As per my survey Islam has all solution for the life then, why not in homosexuality ? I had sex with many Muslim married guy; that is the reason I do not believe the marriage is the solution for homosexuality . And still I am not married .

I do active role on bed , means I am top on bed ( I am not passive means I am not bottom on bed ). I do not act like a girl . I am handsome and muscular behave . In general people may think gays are act like a girl, but its not true at all . most of the gays are not act like a girl . there are very few gay people who act like a girl .

honestly speaking I am not happy . I do not want to live a gay life . I want to live a straight life . I do not want to go to hell . I hate my life . I tried to do suicide many times but I fail . Now I am thinking homosexuality is one of the biggest sin as well as suicide also . So, two wrong thing cant make correct a wrong . Then what to do ? I can not stop my homosexual feeling . What to do ?

Do u know any solution regarding my problem ? Do you know any psychiatrist who is giving treatment for reorientation within a reasonable price ? Can you ask to Allah for make me a normal human ? I am too tired . kindly help me . Its my request for Allah sake kindly help me .

from : I am sorry for not to disclose my name .
from : India . Bangalore. .

Remember when lut alaysalam when to his people who were committing homosexuality, he said to them are you committing sins which your forefathers didnt do?

by this verse we can understand that this wasnt something in the human genes, this was something inspired by the shaitan and they acted upon it.

shaitan will also ask people to eat ****? would they do?

remind yourself of the punishment of allah just like how he punished the people of lut with a disaster.

stop acting on the waswas of shaitan and you wil be saved insha allah

hopeonallah

04-24-2011, 12:49 AM

Sir/ Madam,

I am not in mood to listen your lecture now a days . And moreover , According to me all statements are lie if it does not have logic , science and evidence and proper answer about the queries which are arise regarding the statements .

I am taking back my request which I have posted regarding homosexuality .

For your kind information : I was not a Muslim . I tried to become a Muslim but now I am on my way . Yeah its true that I born in a Muslim family . I would like to tell you that, I am still not circumcised . In my child hood my parents didn't get time for it . Now I am the owner of my self .

Thank you all great men . congratulation for your heaven ! enjoy your heavenly life . Don't forget God made hell too . If every one goes to heaven then, who will go to hell ? lets feed my self for hell . once again thanks ....

Hamza Asadullah

04-24-2011, 01:45 AM

Asalaamu alaikum. My brother can you summarise for me in one paragraph what your main issues are in your life so that i can try and understand. Jazakallahu khayr

Amat Allah

04-24-2011, 02:45 AM

May Allah give you a speedy recovery and guide you before the day of Judgement and all of us Ameeeen

hopeonallah

04-24-2011, 11:48 AM

Sir/Madam,

NO, I am sorry . I don't want to summarize my issues . Its not in position to summarize it . you can read my all threads and conversations, you will get hundreds or queries over there , If you want to know those issues . If you don't want then, leave it .

Amat Allah

04-24-2011, 12:13 PM

May Allah guide you and give you a speedy recovery Ameeeen

Hamza Asadullah

04-24-2011, 02:22 PM

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

Asalaamu Alaikum, my brother the reason why i asked is because you have so many varying complex issues that the only solution i can see is as i have mentioned to you in one of my earlier posts in this thread and that is for you to get the help of a Muslim psychiatrist. Your issues are too complex to be resolved on a forum like this and you really do need direct psychological help ONLY from a Muslim practicioner.

Contact this organisation in India and they will put you in touch with Muslim psychologists:

http://www.iosworld.org/contact.htm

If there is anything else you need or want to ask then please do not hesitate to ask. Ma'asalaam

Amat Allah

04-26-2011, 03:09 AM

Assalaamu Alikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

before I leave this precious place ; I am here only to tell ya how sorry I am for failing in helping you ; you thought that I am the good one for ya to help ya while I was the worst...please forgive me...
and I know that you don`t really need me but I am telling you ; you are my brother no matter what you are; whether being a Muslim or not; you still our brother...I wish I was better and helpful for ya...

take care of your precious self and May Allah be with you and all of us Ameeeeen

and again I am really so sorry if I hurt your feelings by any way or been unrespected with you...

leaving you O my brother and everyone here under Allah`s sight, care and protection...

Humbly:

Amat Allah.

hopeonallah

04-27-2011, 01:51 AM

My dear sister ! " Amat Allah "

Its true that, I got hurt by your response since few times . I found you are not reading my replies properly since few days . You are ignoring my questions since few days as well as before also . I found this Junnah Network is not so faithful. Its not complete Muslim network also .

Here I would like to share you some thing that, M not only computer engineer but also I have done graduation in Philosophy too. I have few basic principles for reaching the truth . those are : Before reaching any conclusion about any mater ; I stay in a very neutral place without any emotion such as love, hate, angry, revenges,EGO, partiality, seniority,juniority, own people, outer people, attraction , distraction , good , bad, ugly, beautiful etc...... . And I see all the evidences , analyzing all Logic, I see all proves , I measure all by sciences , I do cross examine , I do all possible activity without any previous thoughts ; and then I reach to the best thing .
After reaching the best thing I start to finding how truth that best .

I have studied about Hinduism , Christianize m before studying the Islam . I have done all those process to reach the best religion . In my judgment I found Islam is the best . But it does not mean its true according to me . Now I am doing trial about Islam . If I find any illogical or unscientific in Islam then, I will select my own wish . Because according to me religion means : It should cover all maters such as social, economical, political,physical, psychological, material , spiritual, emotional, wake up to sleep and sleep to wake up , this life and life after death, means A to Z should be cover by my religion, by my God , I should get all solution from my religion . If any religion missing any thing and telling any lie then, its not true religion for me . Because I believe If almighty is there and if he made me then, he should provide me all resources and all solution for me . If any thing is missing then, that is not true religion as well as that is not my almighty . No mater how best that religion . Then, I wound not feel bad to choose atheism .

That is the reason I always asking about prove . That is the reason I tell religion is not only Do and Don't . It should be Do and Don't and how to achieve that Do and Don't . It should be practical not in fairy tell not in wonderland .
But you didn't understand me while I pose the question about Black cumin . I think You didn't read my that query where I am talking about black cumin . Neither you tried to make me understand or clarify my query .

For name sake telling that, I am belong to so and so religion . I don't want to hide truth, I don't want to make fool my self by telling belong to so and so religion for the sake of people.

According to me Believe means: Not pronouncing by mouth . it means pronouncing by mouth and act on it , show it , prove it by physically or any other method . NOT LIKE other people . Other people says they believe in Islam but they don't act or activate or taking benefits from which are said by Mohammad(*PBUH) as par their capacity . example: Mohammad(PBUH) said honey is very good , it has many features . So as a MUslim they should find out the features of honey and take benefits from there . If Muslim are don't find out the features of honey and not taking benefits from honey as par their capacity ; that means they are telling lie that, they fully believe in MOhammad(PBUH), actually they are insulting Mohammad (PBUH) if Mohammad(PBUH) is truth . Because Mohammad(PHBU) didn't say all those thing for the time pass ! Why he said? because we human being should utilize it and taking benefits from it . All statements by MOhammad(PBUH). here I am not talking about Honey only, all other things such as Salah, sleep , wake up all mater . I have just given you an example only . If Mohammad (PBUH) is truth and messenger of GOD .

I request you please read this reply into several times if you don't understand what I mean to say . if require ask me several times to understand my this reply . I will try more n more harder to make you understand . once you understand please reply back to me .

hopeonallah

04-27-2011, 02:05 AM

Sir/Madam,
I have mentioned to my last reply that Jannah Network is not a fully Muslim network , because I got another web site which is not belong to Islam but claiming they are true MUslim . that web site belong to same Jannah Network . The name of the site is www.sunniforum.com

if I am wrong then correct me .

Amat Allah

04-27-2011, 12:24 PM

My respected brother,

I know that I hurt your feelings and I am so sorry and believe me by Allah I don`t wana hurt your feelings and I really wanted to help ya ...

and please tell me which Qs I ignored, waAllahi my mind and heart are busy thinking of you and of how to help ya I even didn`t sleep last night and before it too I even cried feeling helpless and useless ; knowing not how to help ya and how to make you understand...I did my best but it seems like my best is nothing but a shameful failure...

and I know what you mean and all of us need not only words but proves and Islam is the truth and it covers all matters such as social, economical, political, physical, psychological, material , spiritual, emotional, wake up to sleep and sleep to wake up , this life and life after death from A to Z and has all solutions too... but I told ya before I am neither a scholar nor from the people of knowledge to know all the answers for your Qs to answer them rightly, completely and properly...

you need to ask the people of knowledge and scholars cause I am not good enough to help ya here I tried but my trying was nothing ...

for the black cumin , post in google search and even in youtube and you will find many things about it in shaa Allah and I have told ya before that Science didn`t discover everything about it and there are many things which the prophet Muhammad (peace abd blessings of Allah be upon him) told us about then Science came after 1400 years and more to prove its reality and still there are many things which our beloved prophet Muhammad told us about but the Science didn`t discover them and only Muslims know about them from the hadeeths and Qur`aan...

and you are right Muslims should work so hard to benefit from what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said and taught us and should work so hard to benefit others and the whole world too and I won`t tell ya that they are not trying; they do and if you would search for the Muslim`s inventions and discoveries you will find many and in fact mostly ,all the inventions and discoveries of the west world are based on the Islamic Sciences, inventions and discoveries...search and read about the previous Muslim Scientists and you will know what I meant...

and recently, you will find Muslims not active like before cause most of us took the knowledge which Allah gifted us and put it under the pillow and slept , why? because when you give up the religion and Allah`s commandments then success will give up being in your way and that what happened with some Muslims...

as you see in news these days; many of the Muslim rulers are eating the money of their subjects and not feeding their people ; taking the money for themselves then how would they spend money on Sciences, inventions and discoveries...and if they are exists then they are rare and you will see that many of the Muslim Scientists return to the west to help them in supporting their studies and their inventions; cause they didn`t find that support and the important equipments which help them to complete their studies and to be creative in their home country... now you know why Muslims are not benefited of what the prophet taught us and of course not all of them...

Originally Posted by hopeonallah

According to me Believe means: Not pronouncing by mouth . it means pronouncing by mouth and act on it , show it , prove it by physically or any other method

you are true and this is what Allah taught us my respected brother , if you would read in Qur`aan you will find that Allah taught us this and His messenger too "O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do? (2) Great is hatred in the sight of Allah that you say what you do not do. (3)" Surat Assaff

Allah Is true ,Muhammad is true and Islam is true..wana know more then read about Science and Qur`aan and Science and hadeeth...and will know in shaa Allah if all of them are true or not...

if I understood you wrong then correct me for I am not an angel my respected brother but a human from flesh and blood, weak and I do mistakes...

If I am not concerned about you and if you are not important to me then I wouldn`t be here replying to you...you are so precious to us and will be till the last breath in shaa Allah...

I left this place cause I have to finish many suspended matters of my life but you dragged me back and before I wanted to leave but was thinking about you...May Allah help you and be with you always and all of us Ameeen

and never think that we may hate you ever , you are part of our hearts and will remain till we meet our Lord...

and Allah knows about Jannah Network, I don`t use this site so, I know nothing about them and can`t say something which I don`t know so, Allah knows the best...

take care of your self Akhi...

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