format_quote Originally Posted by
anonymous
And why not ? Its is lying for a good cause of avoiding attending party and I was going to tell them i fell sick and avoid attending it .
Whats wrong with that ?
Look at it this way. This is one office party. Let's imagine you make an excuse or lie to get out of this one.
This probably won't be the only office party. There may be one later in the year, one next year etc. Let's say you think up some excuse for each one.
Soon it will be really obvious to them. They'll work out that you're never there and that something always miraculously happens that you can't be there, and that will make you look anti-social/unreliable. The more you don't attend, the more pressure your boss will put on you to attend, because you didn't attend previous ones. And you'll find yourself in a hole that you then can't dig yourself out of. If you then tell him why, he'll say why didn't you just say so in the first place, and did you lie on the occasions before? That will threaten your job far more than being truthful from the start.
format_quote Originally Posted by
anonymous
There are several non practising muslims at work who attend such parties and they will think i am lying.
Let's say at some point another practising Muslim joins the staff of your office. He gets told by the bosses to go to one of these parties, but says he can't due to religious reasons. The boss says to him, but the other Muslims never objected, but he stays firm and explains as below. After that, they don't ask him to the parties but continue to ask you and the other Muslims. Imagine that that Muslim considers you to be non-practising because your boss says you never objected. And imagine if that was the first time that your boss heard about Muslims not attending such things, from the other Muslim in your office. In effect he has learnt something about Islam, whether he likes that thing he learnt or not, from the other Muslim in your office. How bad will you feel inside? You'll still get asked to these parties and still have to lie, while the other Muslim enjoys peace of mind knowing that he's doing the right thing.
Nip this in the bud now. Tell him that you feel uncomfortable in areas with drinking and dancing and the like, and that Muslims should avoid such atmospheres. If they ask why, and you don't want to go into details, just say it's for religious reasons, or Islamically it's not allowed, or that it's the command of God and His Prophet. Or that when something is forbidden in Islam, any avenues that might lead to that thing are also forbidden.
I know this is not easy thing to say to a boss in some work environments, but ask Allah to make it easy for you and to help you in something you are doing for His sake.
May Allah help you and keep you steadfast, ameen.
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