Muslim in Catholic Family - Funeral?

[Ami]

I am a Muslim in a Catholic family. I was just wondering if someone died in my family and there was a catholic funeral what does Islam say about attending it?

[Woodrow]

I am a Muslim in a Catholic family. I was just wondering if someone died in my family and there was a catholic funeral what does Islam say about attending it?

If at all possible you should not attend the funeral Mass. If you are a minor, this could prove to be difficult. If you are forced to attend the Mass do not participate Be a passive but polite observer.

The traditional wake is usually free from any religious meaning unless you get there for the Rosary. Generally you can avoid the Rosary by visiting with family out in the parking lot. The biggest danger at the wake is there will often be some people bringing alcohol. But this can be avoided.

[Ami]

Thanks for the answer Woodrow that makes sense now but I would have liked a bit more information like does it say anything about this in the hadiths..I dont think I came across it in the quran though

[muslimah nicola]

asalaamu alaikum brothers and sisters

I have a similar question. I'm a revert and with a very elderly mother who I care for, and a niece who is getting married in May, both of whom are Christians and will be in the church, is it ok for me to attend the service. I feel that if I dont go then I will be avoiding my duty of care to my mum, and also I feel that I want everyone there to see me as I am, and that I havent become this *monster* since I reverted to Islam ( as one of my sisters seems to think). I am the only muslim in the family and therefore it is essential that they dont feel I am shutting them out etc, and I dont want them speaking to my husband and putting him under any pressure as I am sure this sister will ( she has already but it was text and I answered it)
I do take my mum to church, but dont stay myself, but usually there is someone else there to look after her, there wont be anyone *willing* and that she trusts apart from my husband if she stays at the wedding on her own. I dont want to take part int he service, but would like to see my niece married an dmum happy and cared for.