Converting to Islam.... Please click, I am so lost!

[Just_A_Girl13]

I am a young Christian woman. A few months ago I fell deeply in love with a Muslim man (a friend of mine) and began researching Islam so that I could learn more about his culture. Recently, I have been very drawn to the idea and am seriously thinking about reverting to Islam. However, I am unsure of whether this is the right path for me-- I don't have any problem with Christianity, so I would feel as if I were letting myself and others (like my church) down if I reverted to Islam. I would feel as if I were doing something terribly wrong. I am happy being a Christian, but for some reason I cannot get my mind away from the idea of Islam. I am also concerned that this man might be the only reason that I am reverting, and that reverting might hurt our friendship somehow. I am also concerned about the support of my family-- they are all Christians and they treat me like a child. I am worried that they won't support me. Please help me brothers and sisters, I am so lost!

Please don't just tell me that Islam is "the right path" or try to prove that your religion is the better religion. Please help me know what to do based on my situation! Thank you, and may Allah bless you! :D

[superfpfp]

Slmz .. On your situation what i'd advise you to do is take that man out of the equation .. imagine he's not in the frame of the picture .. would your feelings towards Islam and the religion still be the same ? .. Why dont you try living life as a muslim for a couple day's .. experience it for your self .. imagine your a muslim and stay away from haraam and do whats halal .. See if you can see your self as a muslim .. I/Allah Allah gives you hidayah ..

Also approach your family and talk to them about it .. talk to them and see how they'd react .. Talk to your loved one's around you and see what they would think ...

And a final point if you were truely content with christianity you wouldn't look into other religions .. maybe your hearts guiding you somewhere .. dont let your mind stop you ..

[YM Usrah Umar]

hello sister, may peace be with you and i hope all well for you. im not that really smart but heres what i take from what you said:

in my opinion sum1 would convert to another religion in order to find the truth.

its only natural for someone to feel like this if you are a christian for a very long time...yes of course! but i believe there is of course...room for compassion from our mothers,fathers etc. for example especially mothers...regardless of what the child is or what they have done....the love and mercy is so huge we can never ever ever repay our mothers, they will continue to love us regardless.

but i do say to you sister please explore islam abit further, god willing you may see it differently and might convert not for your boyfriend but if u are drawn to islam...then i please suggest looking into it abit further

i hope i hav helped you sister...if i said sutn to upset you then plz forgive me.

[al yunan]

Salam dear sister,

The first rule in Islam is that there is "no compulsion", what ever you decide should be by your own and unbiased free will.
It is honourable that you do not wish to betray your present beliefs.
It shows that you're sincere and don't, take the matter lightly.
To commit to a marriage is easier a decision to make, compared to changing your outlook on life and the world.
There is no one in this world who can make the decision for you, whether to accept Islam or not, it is a matter between you and Allah S.W.T solely.
It may take you a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade or it may never happen but as long as your search is sincere you will never regret your decision and that's what counts the most Peace of Heart and Mind.
Considering the dilemma before you and the time needed, would your future husband accept you as you are and give you the time to make up your mind ?
It should be noted though that this option has its own set of barriers and complications as per Islamic law and tradition.
Should you opt for this solution you should first sit with a Qadi or any person thus qualified to explain to you the rules and regulations of marriage in Islam.
Again sister what ever you decide to do, make sure you understand and comprehend the issues involved.
On a personal note listen to your heart and not your head and by heart I don't mean love-wise but rather your soul- creator wise !

May Allah S.W.T guide you to the truth.
Masalam

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[Samiro]

Hmmm thats a pretty hard request for us to not tell you Islam is the right path seeing as how we think it is. You should follow what you feel is right and as for many converts it doesnt have to be easy. I think you should go for it if you think Islam is the truth and may Allah make it easy for you and guide you inshaAllah. I dont think it is that easy to think an entire religion is the truth based on love, but rather he was just the motivation for you to look up stuff that in the end appealed to you, regardless of being in love or not.

[Riana17]

Salam, I hope you can read it:

Well you see:
1st bear in mind that a Christian woman can marry a Muslim Man – which means being Christian is not a hindrance of being you & him together, so pls do not hurry anything about converting. It’s a big process.

2nd you cannot be Muslim with intention of pleasing him bcoz that would be totally hypocrite. As I can see you an intellectual person, the best thing you do is study Islam and have a better knowledge about its teaching. You will understand his mentality, his belief, you will have good conversation and so forth.

3rd and the last, I hope that even if you are not meant for each other, you will continue to discover Islam and we must remember the fact that nomatter how much you study Islam, even if all the prophets gather and explain you what is Islam all about, being Muslim is not in anyone’s hand or the amount of knowledge you got, being a true believer is with the permission of Allah alone.

So goodluck inshallah, I also converted to Islam and later on I got married to a real Muslim man. No man on earth is better than a REAL MUSLIM man :D, so if this guy is really Muslim, you will understand what I meant later on if you get to know him better or inshallah be his wife.

[May Ayob]

May Allah bless you too and grant you happiness , with whom i hope is you future husband.

Before taking any steps , please take the time in understanding islam from the right sources , not from the internet or media go to a mosque or a good islamic center , Ask them questions and i hope you will find them helpfull.

Sister if you only want to become a muslim to please the man you are speaking of , i would sadly say this is not going to work , changing your religion is a seriuos thing and it shouldn't be taken as a compliment for marriage, Ask yourself what are the differneces you found in this man and in other men you've had past relationships* with (* if you had any) and honestly i can no longer tell you that Ask yourself , and please Choose a suitable time at night purify your soul and bow down to the God you believe in ( Because Muslims, Jews , and Christians worship the same God and Ask Him Guidance and He will Guide you :)

That's all i can say and i beg you if you converted for this man the result will be a disaster.



Salaam
i hope this helped.

[Munda Pakistani]

I am a young Christian woman. A few months ago I fell deeply in love with a Muslim man (a friend of mine) and began researching Islam so that I could learn more about his culture. Recently, I have been very drawn to the idea and am seriously thinking about reverting to Islam. However, I am unsure of whether this is the right path for me-- I don't have any problem with Christianity, so I would feel as if I were letting myself and others (like my church) down if I reverted to Islam. I would feel as if I were doing something terribly wrong. I am happy being a Christian, but for some reason I cannot get my mind away from the idea of Islam. I am also concerned that this man might be the only reason that I am reverting, and that reverting might hurt our friendship somehow. I am also concerned about the support of my family-- they are all Christians and they treat me like a child. I am worried that they won't support me. Please help me brothers and sisters, I am so lost!

Please don't just tell me that Islam is "the right path" or try to prove that your religion is the better religion. Please help me know what to do based on my situation! Thank you, and may Allah bless you! :D

Sister, the way I see it there's only one reason to convert to Islam, and that is that you know it to be the truth. You say you are "drawn to the idea", but you need to ask yourself what exactly it is that you're drawn to. If you do feel that Islam is the truth, then you probably should have 'a problem with Christianity'.

You're concerned about people not approving of your decision to follow what you think is right; firstly,you'll be committing a much graver wrong by not converting even after the One who Created you, Sustains you, Protects you and Cares for you has Shown you His path, and secondly, people have no justification for being offended by you finding the truth and following it, and if they are, it's a waste of time worrying about them.

People don't support you; God does. As long as He is Pleased with you, it does not really matter whether people adore you or abandon you. Every breath of yours, every morsel of food and drink and every moment of comfort has always and will always come to you from God. Even if all people team up to help you or harm you, they can not do any help or harm which God has not already ordained for you. They are powerless even in regard to their own selves; dependent upon God for their very next breath, so it is futile to think that they can help you.

At the end of the day, I think the best way forward is to bow down to God and ask Him to Guide you to whatever path leads to Him. I hope and pray that He makes it easy for you and you find whatever is best for you. Please do let us know how it goes. :sunny:

[Who Am I?]

I know I am late to this party, but I thought I would add something of my own.

I recently had to come to the conclusion that I can't pick a religion just to find a partner. That's the wrong way to do it. Believe me, I have tried that and it doesn't work. All that did was make me angry at God for letting me down, when the fault was my own for not being in the right place. I had to decide that I am doing this for ME, and me alone. This decision should be about your relationship with God, not your search for someone to share your life with.

I know what you're going through. I am tired of being alone, I will admit, and while I do want to find someone to share my life with, that cannot be my primary motivation here. You have to do what is best for YOU. That is what I had to come to learn for myself. I prayed last night that God would lead me to the right place. Where that is I cannot say right now. Only He knows, and I have to be patient and wait on His timing.

I also understand your hesitance with regards to friends and family. All of my family are Christians and most of my friends are as well (with the exception of a few atheists). I am not sure they would understand if I chose Islam as my religion. But remember, this is about YOU and your inner peace. Both the Bible and the Qu'ran talk about being persecuted for your faith. This WILL happen. God Himself has already said it will. Your friends and even your family might turn on you. But remember, this life is only temporary. Sure, you want to be happy here. So do I. But in the end, this life will end and this world with it.

[Just_A_Girl13]

Peace be with you brothers and sisters,

Thank you for your support :) I have spoken with a sister who is a good friend of mine to gain information and she is glad to hear that Allah is guiding me towards the right path. I have seen now that Islam is the truth and I plan to revert very soon, inshallah. :)

[brmm]

I am a young Christian woman. A few months ago I fell deeply in love with a Muslim man (a friend of mine) and began researching Islam so that I could learn more about his culture. ......... I am also concerned about the support of my family-- they are all Christians and they treat me like a child.

Please help me know what to do based on my situation! Thank you, and may Allah bless you! :D

Hi,
My concern is that if you are only 13-14 years old & talking about love, accepting new faith.

Your family, for sure, they will not feel good, neither about having a relation with a Muslim man nor about the idea of converting to Islam.

And how old is your man ? I am just assuming he is in the same age as u!

If you & your man are over 18 then it is different.

I can tell u 2 things for now:
1. If u wish to worship ur God according to Islam, that should not be related to any other human, man, father, mother, friend, ...etc.
2. Only the marriage is an acceptable relation between any man and any woman in Islam.
NO boy friends, NO girl friends.

BRMM

[brmm]

I am a young Christian woman. A few months ago I fell deeply in love with a Muslim man (a friend of mine) and began researching Islam so that I could learn more about his culture. Recently, I have been very drawn to the idea and am seriously thinking about reverting to Islam. However, I am unsure of whether this is the right path for me-- I don't have any problem with Christianity, so I would feel as if I were letting myself and others (like my church) down if I reverted to Islam. I would feel as if I were doing something terribly wrong. I am happy being a Christian, but for some reason I cannot get my mind away from the idea of Islam. I am also concerned that this man might be the only reason that I am reverting, and that reverting might hurt our friendship somehow. I am also concerned about the support of my family-- they are all Christians and they treat me like a child. I am worried that they won't support me. Please help me brothers and sisters, I am so lost!

Please don't just tell me that Islam is "the right path" or try to prove that your religion is the better religion. Please help me know what to do based on my situation! Thank you, and may Allah bless you! :D

Are you 13 years only ?
BRMM

[YM Usrah Umar]

mashallah go on sister, ur the best and may Allah bless you iA

[peaceandlove]

I am a young Christian woman. A few months ago I fell deeply in love with a Muslim man (a friend of mine) and began researching Islam so that I could learn more about his culture. Recently, I have been very drawn to the idea and am seriously thinking about reverting to Islam. However, I am unsure of whether this is the right path for me-- I don't have any problem with Christianity, so I would feel as if I were letting myself and others (like my church) down if I reverted to Islam. I would feel as if I were doing something terribly wrong. I am happy being a Christian, but for some reason I cannot get my mind away from the idea of Islam. I am also concerned that this man might be the only reason that I am reverting, and that reverting might hurt our friendship somehow. I am also concerned about the support of my family-- they are all Christians and they treat me like a child. I am worried that they won't support me. Please help me brothers and sisters, I am so lost!

Please don't just tell me that Islam is "the right path" or try to prove that your religion is the better religion. Please help me know what to do based on my situation! Thank you, and may Allah bless you! :D

Sister, what i can suggest share all your feeling about men and Islam with your family, you and your family better know your situatins and I think they can better guide you to.

[Just_A_Girl13]

Are you 13 years only ?

No, I'm not quite that young :P

[Just_A_Girl13]

Salam brothers and sisters,

I noticed that a lot of you have mentioned the man who I mentioned in my first post. Let me assure you that this decision is completely independent of him. I'm not really looking into any kind of relationship with him at the moment, marital or otherwise. I mentioned him only for background information. Thank you again for all your thoughtful responses, I appreciate it greatly.

Peace be with you :)

[HamzahA]

I'd recommend reading and investigating much more about Islam before converting - because in Islam apostates are to be killed. So please think twice, and read both sides regarding any issue in your life.
Good luck!

[Galaxy]

I'd recommend reading and investigating much more about Islam before converting - because in Islam apostates are to be killed. So please think twice, and read both sides regarding any issue in your life.
Good luck!

Only in an Islamic State, and there is not Islamic state!!