format_quote Originally Posted by
Just_A_Girl13
Peace be with you brothers and sisters,
As of now, I am a young Christian woman. A few months ago, I fell deeply in love with a young Muslim man and began researching Islam to learn more about his culture. Recently, however, I have become very drawn to the concept of Islam for whatever reason. I am seriously thinking of becoming a Muslim.
You are most welcome here sister in humanity,
Allah guides and brings near to him whoever he wants and it is clear that he is wanting to guide you so that you may be closer to him. What a true honour.
format_quote Originally Posted by
Just_A_Girl13
However, I am concerned about three things:
First, I am worried that I won't be a good Muslim because I was raised Christian so I will have to learn a lot of things by myself. I am worried about messing up and disgracing my fellow Muslims.
I don't quite see where the issue is here? It does not matter what background you came from or what you were before that does not make a difference at all.
You will find many Muslims in this forum and across the world who have come from so many diverse backgrounds and faiths a lot of them being from former Christian backgrounds like yourself.
So there is absolutley nothing to worry about. Learning is a life long process. We will never know "enough"about Islam.
So my advice to you is to just learn steadily at your own pace. Put your faith and reliannce with God and know that everything will fall into place.
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Just_A_Girl13
Second, I am worried about the reason why I am reverting. I don't exactly have a problem with Christianity, so I am afraid that I will let myself and others (i.e. my church, my family) down by reverting. I was wondering, would it be okay to try being a Muslim (i.e. making salaat, visiting a mosque) for a short period of time before officially converting? Or would that be wrong?
When one has full faith in their creator then nothing is more important. You do not need to tell your family straight away. Many reverts wait for a while for the best time to tell their families as you kow your family better than anyone else knows them. However they may feel at the beginning know that they will eventually accept it. They will even see the good in Islam rather than the false portrayal of Islam in the media.
As soon as you realise in your heart that there is NO God but Allah who has NO partners and that you accept the final Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) as being the messenger of Allah then all you have to do is affirm this in your heart and say it with your tongue and you are a Muslim. It is as simple as that. Faith comes from the heart and that is what is most important.
It is not wrong to practise as a Muslim does but if faith i affirmed in the heart then it should be proclaimed by the tongue because we must know that life is short and death can overcome us at any moment. But you should certainly visit your local mosque. If you need help locating one then i can help you with that.
format_quote Originally Posted by
Just_A_Girl13
Third, I am worried about one small thing in Islam, and that is about the Islamic view of homosexuality. As a Christian, I am also a big supporter of gay rights and I do not want to change this about myself. Would there be any possibility at all of me becoming a Muslim and still supporting gay rights? Please no hateful remarks and please don't try to convince me that homosexuality is wrong, I am just trying to learn. Please could you just say whether or not I could, as Muslim, support gay rights as I do now?
I think you should take one step at a time. There is no doubt that when a change occurs in ones life then it does take time for the changes to settle in ones heart. One should not overburden oneself with so much that one cannot handle it. Therefore you should let the changes sink in slowly rather than start burdening yourself with too much change and things to learn etc. Just take things slow.
After faith has been accepted and affirmed in the heart and proclaimed by tongue then you should learn how to pray and learn the foundations of Islam and build your knowledge up from the foundations.
You should definately join a sisters group as this will be a vital support network for you and that way you can get to know sisters who are also reverts to Islam and have been through similar experiences etc and you will be able to relate to them and get involved in local activities and learn about Islam aswell as make new friends.
I can also help you try and locate a sisters group as there are many all over the place it is just a matter of looking in the right places.
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Just_A_Girl13
Because of these three things, I am very uncertain as to whether reverting to Islam is the right path for me. Please help me brothers and sisters, I am so lost!
There is no need to feel lost. I hope our responses have helped you in some way in making you find your way. Open your heart to God sincerely and ask of him to guide you to the right path. Once you know without doubt in your heart of his oneness and the finality of his Prophet then proclaim so by tongue and you are on your way on the right path.
“Whom Allah does guide, he is on the right path. Whom He rejects from His guidance, such are the persons who lose.”
(7:178)