Understanding the male brain

[Cabdullahi]

Sexual cues are interpreted by a man (at least subconsciously) as an invitation to sexual intimacy, with all of it pleasures. This invitation makes us feel desired and desirable, and causes us to anticipate the pleasures of a sexual relationship. No wonder we like to look. Some sexual cues are probably naturally programmed into a man's brain. These include such things as

very smooth skin with uniform tone as is typical of glamour photography;
a flirtatious look or facial expression, such as parted lips or a longing gaze;
flirtatious body language, such as cocked hips or thrust out chest;
partially or barely hidden parts of the body that are not normally seen (e.g. cleavage, very short skirt, etc.)

Men are generally more responsive to visual sexual stimuli (cues) than are women ("Men and women differ in amygdala response to visual sexual stimuli." Nature Neuroscience 7:411-416 [2004]), and natural sexual cues have a beneficial function in a healthy marriage: to turn a man on at a time that is convenient for his wife. Consider, for instance, that the time a woman's skin looks most like the silky skin in a glamour photo is when the lights are low and you are so close to the woman that your eyes can't quite focus. In a primitive culture without artificial lighting, this would be in the late evening or early morning as you are lying next to your wife: a good time to get turned on for sex. Similarly, the flirtatious looks and body language, and the teasers with intimate body parts, are a natural way for a woman to communicate to her husband that she is in the mood for love play. These cues help the husband to get in the mood when the wife is in the mood, and thus avoid frustration for both.

In a world without pornography, where a man's wife is the only woman he would typically see in sexual situations, this process of conditioning would probably serve to make him more turned on by her particular features and habits, thus strengthening his attraction to her even as her body changes with age. In our highly sexualized western culture where a man sees many sexualized images of other women, sexual cues are created that have little or nothing to do with a man's wife, and are more likely to detract from the marriage relationship.

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[al yunan]

Salam brother,

A person's Iman and their spiritual standing determines everything about them, from character to their body's chemical balances.
To give priority and importance to any chemical substance is as to say the substance has it's own agenda free of divine will.
Like those who say which part of a food is the most beneficial as if one could know where the Baraka of something was.
Undeniably science has cause and effect as it's rule also, but we as humans who submit to Allah S.W.T see our total being under His control and management and not as beings bontroled by the rules of science.
We thank Him for all that is good about us and blame ourselves for our shortcomings and not some chemical substance which our body produced due to our lacking Iman or Thulum.
It may seem a small and insignificant matter but nothing stays small for ever and it may grow to engulf our Iman.
Knowledge of any kind without Islamic guidelines is a veil and while one thinks they are been enlightened the very opposite is taking effect and this is true whether one is learning Biology or Ahadith as the problem is never with the knowledge but rather the person and their Aqida, Iman, Ahlaq e.t.c.
The reason why Islam produced so many great scientists and pioneers in the past was because all had to learn Islam first then study on to other subjects.
Tawakal Allah after ofcource we tie our camel.

Masalam

[DippedinJannah]

Very interesting, thequietone. I agree with this.

In America, we are saturated with pornography. Television, billboards, advertisements in stores, your email spam, etc. I don't think it's possible to go a day here without seeing a half-naked woman (or a fully naked one) or some kind of sexual innuendo.

[Who Am I?]

Very interesting, thequietone. I agree with this.

In America, we are saturated with pornography. Television, billboards, advertisements in stores, your email spam, etc. I don't think it's possible to go a day here without seeing a half-naked woman (or a fully naked one) or some kind of sexual innuendo.

Very true, and that is my biggest struggle right now, even more than drinking. It is almost impossible not to go somewhere and look at a girl and start thinking she's cute. Sometimes I can lower my gaze and not worry about it. Other times it is impossible not to take a look at her. Then of course other thoughts come into my head. It doesn't help that I am perpetually single and often lonely either.