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format_quote Originally Posted by
anonymous
"She who has no one has Allah."
That's me. I consider myself the most fortunate person on planet earth..... for whosoever has Allah has need for no one else.
So don't feel disheartened or sad because you have no one in your life who seems to care. It's enough to know that Allah cares. Say, "Alhamdulillah" ! And put on a real big smile.
format_quote Originally Posted by
anonymous
Sorry, I need such practical help - I'm really not a people person.
When I was growing up, I had a motto that I followed: "It's better to be alone than to be in the company of fools." Because of that motto, I was never afraid of being alone. I preferred to be alone than mix with people who would only make matters worse for me.
I can understand the difficulties you are facing right now. Having gone through similar experiences myself, I believe I can offer you some practical advice:
1. Realize that you are going through a phase and this phase isn't going to last forever. So look ahead and hope for a better tomorrow. Remember Allah's promise: With every difficulty there is relief. Believe it with all your heart and look forward to receiving relief. Until then, be patient.
2. Count your blessings. Think of the biggest blessing you have received..... Islam. If you have that, you have everything. That's what I tell myself whenever I face any hardship. I'm always on Cloud Nine, no matter what situation I may be in.
3. As for how to deal with your mother.... never forget that she is your mother. Treat her with kindness and affection, no matter how she might behave. Be tolerant and forgiving if she is unkind to you or doesn't understand you. At the same time, try to express how you feel about her man friend. It's important that you communicate to her about this. If she doesn't know that you are uncomfortable around him, she won't be able to do something about it, would she?
4. Keep busy. Do the things you love. This will help to keep your mind off the problems you are facing at home. An idle mind is indeed the devil's workshop.
Hope this helps in some way.