I wanted to join but there are somethings i think i would like to share:
quote=Riham;1449382]3. They have to battle it out alone. Such is not the case with people who are born into Muslim families.... where the structure is already established: prayers are done, the Qur'an is recited and read, intermingling with the Muslim community, participating in Eid celebrations, fasting, ways of dressing, growing a beard for men, wearing the hijab for women..... [/quote]
Believe me this is not true at all if it was true then why would 9 out of ten born Muslims leave Islam in America.
Being born a Muslim doesn't necessarily mean you are a Muslim. Islam is not a definition you put on your ID card.
The Truth comes from it's source so , if you haven't been in the situation it's better not to comment on it.
Most Born Muslims today force their children to engage in Un-Islamic things, they actualy force them, or else the person will be under severe pressure from the surroundings, many want to wear the Hijab , Be good Muslims but everyone around them will either call them a hypocrite or they wall starts calling them things like OH there's Mr.Taliban or Al-Qaeda.Their parents tell them that they don't know religion better than they do.. they also have it hard you know, May God ease the pain of every human being who is suffering. We should consider the fact that most born Muslims today are either on the extreme(things like the little girl wearing the Hijab before she's 6 years old , let alone not even reaching the age of puberty , very strict laws toward the female , very lenient towards the males.. also culture plays a big role , most Islamic communities are cultural ones i first place then what is compatible with culture from Islam can be followed). We have to be careful, because most born Muslims today including my self are not religious , nor do they have much religious guidance they are very ignorant of their religion i will be speaking of my self , i said it before and i will say it again I had absolutely no knowledge of Islam at all, The society used to tell us that Pray, Fast ..of course as a routine , then when you get older , you know a little into your 60's maybe that's even too early you know get into your 70's then you can be religous hermit and then God is All-Forgiving All-Mercifull , at least you have the Key to Salvation (LA illah illa Allah Muhammad Rasoul Allah) little did i know that this key has absolutely no benefit if there was no sincere action based on faith done. I'll tell you one thing the born Muslim will not be a respected family member everyone will mock them and laugh at them because Now He/She is Mr/Mrs Religious they don't even treat them as brothers and sisters in humanity any more because now they are different and all, of course loosing all your friends is garunteed -----Let me please notify all that i mentioned happened happens to Born Muslim
- But they are trying to practice or implement their religion and all this "Hostile"* treatment is also from Born Muslim
s, Not Non-Muslims :)
Let me tell you something , in my country there's a big majority of Muslims ruled by culture and Society hardly any women could have gotten to go to school before the British left our country and Sadly i say that -There was a guy in one of the secondary schools in the capital he used to live in America for a very long while so he didn't even speak a word except English , He had to take the Islamic studies class so the teacher told them a story about one of the Sahabah , and at the end of the class the guy asked the teacher if the story she narrated was a True story and if it really happened? See it's Ignorance we can't blame or compare because it's everywhere. I was exactly like this guy i mentioned....
The celebrations in many born Muslims communities are not seen except as merely nothing but a social gathering there is no significance to it at all, would you like to see come and visit any Muslim Country in Ramadhan did you know that the amount of spending is much more higher than the normal months of the year?.Open the Tv and let's see how everyone is celebrating Ramadhan OO well you have to have big time Money in order to survive this month in some Islamic countries,From my small simple experience Ramadhan has hardly anything to do with God in those materialistic or superficial societies as they don't focus on its spiritual significance except of course Allahuma observing not putting anything into your mouth but other than that Materialism at it's best!!
Being a Muslim is something strange to all people whether they are born Muslims or New Reverts, But No one can really blame them , especially because we know that almost everyone Today is hugely affected by the Western Media, we are all weak and we all fall into mistakes, the situation is the same for everyone, anyone who wants to live by a moral code that the people around him/her do not really recognize then they will be hurt , and to be honest it doesn't only happen with Muslims it happens with followers of other religions as well.
Originally Posted by Riham
Well , I think that you don't have to unlearn everything you have been taught in your life , it brings with experience and there is nothing better than Empirical Knowledge , you know you can benefit and feel related to many people because of your past experiences and you would give/ have a better understanding than those that didn't go through similar experiences.
Originally Posted by Riham
Criticism is every where , the moment i say I don't like this --- This would be an expression of criticism by most people. But Saying that Muslims criticise alot, is not fair because it is a part of human nature, so every one else will also say the things they like and don't like in their religion or it's people , in many stories i've read many ex-christians said that they didn't like the hypocrisy they saw, is that criticism yes it is even if someone doesn't realise it . But to be honest Muslim are very caring towards those that reverted to Islam because they like it when they see that some one was guided to the Path of God. Infact Born Muslims have Big respect and Non of them would actually dare to "criticise" a new revert , because they beleive that reverts are more favored and loved by God Almighty----This observation is from my surroundings and things may not be like this every where.
I think we shouldn't be whinning about how bad we get treated because of Islam , If someone thinks Islam is hard and they are going to complain the whole time about it then it is not a good thing at all.
We must always think of how many people out there are suffering from things that we can't even bear for a second. For example:
Every 6 seconds/ not minutes someone is dying out hunger.
The amount of victims of rape in Africa , or any other part of the World.
There 800 million illiterate people in our world.
There are Children being treated in the most brutal way by their bullies only 6 and 7 years old , they either end up being killed or suicide.
You will get the same rejectful reaction from most people IF:
- you were afflcited with Cancer: As i was watching this program and a little 8 year old was afflicted with cancer and all the children of the school left her, not only that but they kept posting in her locker that Cancer Kills ----Heartless and Cruel true but this brave child suffered more than most of us.
- You lost all the wealth you had , many so called "friends" will leave you and treat you in a hostile manner.
- pretty much if anything happened to you that isn't convenient, you will get rejectful reactions from people, but these are things we have to accept , if we did it for God then other things shouldn't matter , but we should always have sympathy and compassion towards people, because the Prophet PBUH used to say when people hurt him : God please forgive my people because the don't know.
*I wanted to share a story as well: There was a guy who used to serve in the military for a long time , and after the long war he decided to come back to his family on Thanks Giving Day , but before he arrived he decided to call them
The Son: Mom Dad i missed you so much , you can't imagine how much i longed to see you
The Parents: You can't imagine how much we missed you , when are you coming over?
The son: I'm coming this Thanks Giving weekend , but i have a friend and i want him to come over , is that okay?
The Parents: Of course son we would be delighted!
The Son: But i have one problem....
The Parents:What's the matter son,...?
The Son: My friend had lost and eye, and a an arm , and also leg and he is in a wheeling chair....
The Parents: But my dear you know that this might cause some type of discomfort to us is it okay if you apologised and made an excuse...
.................................................. .....................The Phone hang up...
2 weeks later the parents receive a phone call , that informs them that they found a dead body and they identified it as their son's body.
When the parents arrived to the station they found the body covered with blood , but little did they know the friend their own son was speaking of , was their own son
and he decided to call 2 weeks before to see if his own parents would have accepted his new state, but the poor guy was devastated after the last phone call he had with his parent's and he decided to suicide.
I have nothing to comment on , but to me this is one story that withholds me from speaking about the so called " Hostile" treatment one may get from people. Because there it fails in comparision with many sad things happening in this world.
As for your Question -Is Islam the Hard or Easy way?Or in between?
I am in position to answer this as i have no knowledge nor am I a strong practicing Muslimah, But i think It depends.
Salaam P.s- Please don't ask me to explain why i joined this thread , i know i said i was going to leave but i am a person that has no determination and consistency in what they do.