Originally Posted by jimbo123
You can try to find spouse in matrimonial sites, or you can request your parents, your relatives, your friends, to find someone for you. But the result is depend on yourself. If you don't have an enough confidence to meet your potential spouse, and you don't know how to be a gentleman in front of women, and you are too selective, maybe you will not find anyone.
So, whatever method that you use to find your potential spouse, it's better if you learn how to appreciate woman first.
And, did I use matrimonial sites ?. No !, my mommy is beautiful woman and she passed down her beauty to me, Alhamdulillah. My problem when I was young in my 20's age was not "how to find a girl" but "how to say no to girls who fell in love with me", although it's not easy, one of them was crying when I told her, there's someone with me.
But let me reveal a truth, especially for brothers here who feel they are not physically attractive. Mature women look at physical attraction only in the first moment, and in next moments they look at the character. But if women still attracted to the handsome, that because attractive men usually have better self confidence than 'average men'. Self confidence is really important in building character.
So, brothers, if you are (excuse me) not physically attractive but you have good character, you have a chance that (almost) same with the handsome to get spouse. However, you must meet your potential spouse for at least few moments to give a time for her to look at your character. I don't lie about it. I have several friends who physically not attractive, but they have beautiful wives. It's because they have good characters.
My advice, if you have two choices, a good looking woman with bad character, and a woman who not good looking but has good character, I suggest you to choose the second one. Good looking woman with bad character will not make you happy, but a woman who not good looking but has good character can make you happy, and if you feel happy with her, you will really love her, and if you really love her, trust me, she will be the most beautiful woman in your eyes.
And my special advice to brother Jimbo. It's okay if you joint in matrimonial sites, but do not expect too much. Believe me, you will have a bigger chance to get a wife if you use an active matchmaker who knows you personally. You can make a request for it to your relatives or to your friends. Don't be shy, they must be understand.