As'Salaamu Alaaykum
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"no one cares about the rights"
Allaah granted these rights, so that husband and wife would be fair with each other. From reading this it is clear his emaan level is low, perhaps he needs a emaan booster. when you listen to Qur'aan be sure he is there, when reciting Qur'aan be sure he is there, when listening to a lecture be sure he is there with you. when you do all of this, ask him always to join in with you. It may take time, just continue to do it insha'Allaah. When you decide you are going to do some cleaning, start of at a place where he is sitting or standing, ask him to join in a few times, if he declines ask again the next day. So if he declines, decline anything he asks for you to do, be firm, if he becomes angry then maybe you should change your way of doing it, maybe not cook for him for day maybe and if he asks why let him know that you follow the law of Allaah and nobody else, to be equal and fair and just is part of his law, and see how it goes, if it ends bad maybe you should change your way again. I apologise if i sound silly :s, but i guess maybe its worth a try. But keep your self in a good happy mood is what the aim should be so that it doesnt make you feel down later. Think of it as a 'fun time' maybe :S.(not the best use of words i guess so i do apologise.) but if it makes him angry then forget what i said or you may know beforehand.
Sister, you can only do what is in your ability, you cant do more than that, just dont fall short in your emaan insha'Allaah, because if it wasnt for you, who else would it be right now?
Indeed in the time of hardship a believer smiles and says alHamdulilaah! sister make yourself feel happy inside, remembering the ayah of Allaah 'Surely with hardship there is ease'..
Also regarding the financial situation, perhaps if you helped find him a job? maybe then he manages to stand up on his own feet insha'Allaah, be be firm with him.
I think the words of Allaah should comfort you inshaa'Allaah
"If you help him (Muhammad SAW) not (it does not matter), for Allah did indeed help him when the disbelievers drove him out, the second of two, when they (Muhammad SAW and Abu Bakr) were in the cave, and he (SAW) said to his companion (Abu Bakr): "Be not sad (or afraid), surely Allah is with us." Then Allah sent down His Sakinah (calmness, tranquillity, peace, etc.) upon him, and strengthened him with forces (angels) which you saw not, and made the word of those who disbelieved the lowermost, while it was the Word of Allah that became the uppermost, and Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise." [Al Qur'aan 9:40]
The time when the prophet Muhammad (Sallaahu 'Alaayhi wa Sallam) was in the time of danger, he Sallaahu Alaayhi wa sallam trusted in Allaah SWT alone "Be not sad, Surely Allaah is with us." that he Allaah sent down his peace, mercy. subhaan'Allaah
The verses below show you what abilities you have, the ability to turn to Allaah when you are down or even when you are not.
"Therefore remember Me and I will remember you…" (Qur'an 2:152)
Therefore do thou hold Patience,- a Patience of beautiful (contentment). [Al Qur'aan 70:5]
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest." (Qur'an 13:28)
"So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief: Verily, with every difficulty there is relief." [Al Qur'aan 94:5-6]
notice how Allaah mentions 'verily with every difficulty there is relief' twice.
i apologise for the use of my words if they sounded bad or silly.