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Salahudeen
12-02-2011, 09:21 PM
I don't have an interest in anything lately, I don't feel passionate about stuff either :hmm: and I don't feel motivated to do anything at all. I don't know how to get my motivation back. Any idea's?
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Flame of Hope
12-02-2011, 09:32 PM
Originally Posted by Salahudeen
I don't have an interest in anything lately, I don't feel passionate about stuff either and I don't feel motivated to do anything at all. I don't know how to get my motivation back. Any idea's?
:sl:

When you come to a standstill like that Shaytan has got a lot to do with it.

Fight him.
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Snowflake
12-02-2011, 09:38 PM
Get one of these insha Allah! I've been so sleepy these past few weeks. I only get up because I have to pray. Otherwise I'd stay in bed, order in takeaways and live like a slob til the feeling passed.

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Salahudeen
12-02-2011, 09:41 PM
Originally Posted by Dying Rose
Get one of these insha Allah! I've been so sleepy these past few weeks. I only get up because I have to pray. Otherwise I'd stay in bed, order in takeaways and live like a slob til the feeling passed.

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Light levels determine the sleep / wake cycles of both animals and humans. The desire to sleep is brought on by the secretion of Melatonin and the bright natural light. The light from a SAD lamp significantly reduces Melatonin, greatly improving our energy levels. Typical symptoms of SAD are depression, lethargy, anxiety, craving, social problems, sleep problems and loss of libido. These symptoms can be commonly resolved through the use of light boxes.
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I'm a bit skeptical about these things, I bought a panisonic one, it omitted a blue light which was supposed to be like a blue sky, but it didn't have any effect on me.

Have you got experience with device? has it helped you??
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Abz2000
12-02-2011, 11:22 PM
+ lots of hot showers with cold at the end, hot gets your blood circulating, and cold re-conditions you for the atmosphere and prevents sweating.
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'Abd-al Latif
12-03-2011, 12:02 AM
Originally Posted by Salahudeen
I don't have an interest in anything lately, I don't feel passionate about stuff either :hmm: and I don't feel motivated to do anything at all. I don't know how to get my motivation back. Any idea's?
a) Go out and play with your friends, basketball, football etc.

b) Fight depression, it causes a loss of interest in things.
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Snowflake
12-03-2011, 04:23 AM
Originally Posted by Salahudeen
I'm a bit skeptical about these things, I bought a panisonic one, it omitted a blue light which was supposed to be like a blue sky, but it didn't have any effect on me.

Have you got experience with device? has it helped you??
I am thinking of getting one. A sister said it benefited her, and I believe it would as the lack of natural light does you harm. I'm not sure the blue light is the same thing? I do know blue light bulbs are used by embroiders and crafters who need to work in natural daylight. As far as I know they just mimic natural day light, that's all. But I've not heard of any health benefits from it, sorry.
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Muslim Woman
12-03-2011, 07:59 AM
:sl:


may be u need healthy foods & vitamins ??
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Khadijak
12-03-2011, 08:47 AM
1. Depression - which is a lot more common that we might think but it often solvable. You don't have to live like that, there are ways out of it. You also need to be physically active as this releases 'happy' hormones. You might also consider seeing a therapist - sometimes we can reoccurring depression because there are issues we haven't dealt with.
2. Make sure you are taking Vitamin D3 tablets. This is very important since a lot of people, of both sex, don't get enough. You can check out Dr. Mercola's website for more about it.
3. Remove things from your life that bring you down - like T.V./movies/images and music.

I pray you feel better soon inshAllah,
Khadija.
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Snowflake
12-04-2011, 04:51 AM
Funny how Dr Mercola with all his health tips looks quite unhealthy and as pale as a ghost himself ;D
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syed1
12-04-2011, 05:18 AM
Originally Posted by Salahudeen
I don't know how to get my motivation back.
lets start with this.. you want to get your motivation back so you must of had it for something before, correct? so what is it you liked to do were passionate about before you fell into this rut?
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Salahudeen
12-04-2011, 01:18 PM
Originally Posted by syed1
lets start with this.. you want to get your motivation back so you must of had it for something before, correct? so what is it you liked to do were passionate about before you fell into this rut?
This is going to sound silly but I really used to enjoy playing games on my PC, I found it a great stress relief, and I'd play an hour of that then feel like I'd been given a charge to do other things :hmm: I haven't played since 2009 cos my PC became too outdated for the latest updates, :hmm: I think also stress is the problem, I can't do stuff when I feel under stress and pressure, and right now I have loads of deadlines to meet for uni, I don't know why I can't perform under stress or pressure :hmm:
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Snowflake
12-07-2011, 01:40 AM
You gotta get out and exercise. The hardest move is that first step. But once you start, you'll enjoy it, feel energized and better off mentally. How about squash? Or cycling? Or some kind of martial arts? It doesn't matter what it is, as long as your getting the sufficient amount of exercise your body needs, it will help insha Allah.
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♥ Sofia ♥
12-07-2011, 05:59 PM
:salamext:

another poster may have mentioned all the points i am about to cover, but nevertheless, i'm going to re-enforce them. :)

work on your mental health. khalas. make sure you get enough rest. do things you enjoy doing.

whatever helps you feel closer to the deen, engage in such an activity - i'm suggesting this on a personal level because i know that anything to do with the deen gives me a spiritual boost like nothing else. socialise with GOOD people. it may be hard to distinguish bad from evil in your peers, but someone's actions speak novels about them. if they do bad things but seem like good people personality wise you should at least take a break from them and hang around with righteous company as this will keep you motivated in the deen.

i know what you're going through and i'm sort of going through it myself. i've been told it's to do with depression. you may not think you're depressed, and i thought depression was a far fetched idea, as well - but many people with depression sincerely don't know they have it. people say do things you do which is obviously good to keep your spirits up but if you're a person who's addicted to the internet then please, insha'Allah, cut your time on it. i'm not saying stay away from it, because i'm on the internet myself right now, but i've found myself to be less cut off from society and personal feelings when i engage in a vast array of activities involving other people and also spending time with my family. human interaction is the key.

if all else fails, do what i've suggested but also make sure you drink plenty of water and take multivitamins and insha'Allah you'll feel perky in no time. i hope i helped somewhat, brother.
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♥ Sofia ♥
12-07-2011, 06:01 PM
Originally Posted by ♥ Sofia ♥
people say do things you do
correction; people say 'do things you LIKE to do'

my keyboard had a spazz attack, lol :D
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syed1
12-07-2011, 06:15 PM
Originally Posted by Salahudeen
This is going to sound silly but I really used to enjoy playing games on my PC, I found it a great stress relief, and I'd play an hour of that then feel like I'd been given a charge to do other things I haven't played since 2009 cos my PC became too outdated for the latest updates, I think also stress is the problem, I can't do stuff when I feel under stress and pressure, and right now I have loads of deadlines to meet for uni, I don't know why I can't perform under stress or pressure
You know what I've realized, a lot people that come on here who are seeking some kind of help or advice they usually state their problem but they do not provide the full context of the situation that might be causing the problem in the first place. As a result, you get a lot of answers which are general, for example, in this case, exercising, eating properly, getting out more, etc etc... but the fact of the matter is your sitting there thinking yeah, I already knew that and since we'll never really know what exactly it is that is making you feel down or lazy, lathargic , no one can really help you... The reason I am saying this I because I know from experience and I've done the same thing...

none the less, you mentioned you like playing pc games..what did you use to play? World of craft? and comon get with the times, computers/laptops are relatively cheap now a days go get your self a better machine:p
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Amat Allah
12-08-2011, 12:36 PM
Sometimes, When I have such feelings; I just go for along walk and say Athiker while walking and also going to the masjid praying in Jama`ah, sitting in one of the corners making Athiker and reading Qur`aan are just amazing. that would help ya alot in shaa Allah...

walking along the shore all alone or with someone you trust, walking in a forest, climbing a mountain and sitting on the top of it, talking to a friend, drawing, writing down your feelings and thoughts on some paper or note book, laying down and dive in imaginations, cooking something new, making someone happy, playing with kids, telling my problem to a kid and Sub`haan Allah you sometimes get strange answers and reactions sometimes they are so deep and wise and even eating Ice cream help alot for me but I don`t know about others cause we are not alike ...

the best thing is; laying and darkness speaking to our Lord about everything and be whatever you want with Allah, laugh, cry or whatever just tell what you wana tell and after that an amazing feeling of happiness will fill your heart after a deep breath you will take and a long sigh you will exhale; feeling the vanishing of the heavy burden and stress from your chest...in that time you just wana fly cause you are free...Sub`haana Rabbi Al 3atheem.

May Allah fill your heart with happiness always and forever Ameeeeeeeeeen
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Masuma
12-08-2011, 01:48 PM
Asalamu alikum wr wb!

Bro Salahudeen! I asked this same question in sister's section! happy to know someone's feeling as crappy as me :D (with no offence)

As I've also suffered from LOP (Lack of Passion) Syndrome, so i can like REALLy advice you here. So my advice is to just let it be BUT keep praying to Allah. THIS is the ONLY ONLY way (to emphasise it properly). You HAVE to start finding something of your INTEREST!!! :hiding: And i know this syndrome kills all that so now you neeed to FORCE yourself into something! Look, I know that i enjoy reading science articles, but the moment i think of reading anything, i feel really lazzy and keep wasting time here and there. But then i started to FORCE myself into doing somethning of my interes (i know it doesn't sound right but you know what i'm talking about ^o) )

Still remeber, maybe this forcing thing isn't gona work either. ONLY ALLAH can. be 100% sure He is going to help you the moment you finish reading thi post. :D believe me bro, SUPPLICATE! And your time starts NOW.... :D

Now why do one suffers from LOP?
This might b because of "uncertainty" of the future or life in general. You might be going through a phase where the things are really undecided and you are the one who has to take a decision and still you are the one unable to. Maybe your future carreer isn't getting started or some other problem. But this will pass away when your job or studies will start again. :)
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ardianto
12-08-2011, 04:04 PM
Everyone has interest and the desire to achieve an achievement. Someone who has interest in cooking want to be able to cook delicious food, someone who has interest in photography want to be able to take amazing photo.

But unfortunately, not all people know how to start to active in their interest. It makes them try to forget their interest and try to find other interest. But then they are facing the same problem, do not know how to start. Finally, it makes them lose their passion to carry out their interest.

So, what should we do if we have an interest but do not know how to start and carry out our interest ?. Simple, joint those who know.

Join in club or community will make us meet those who know. Join in cooking club will make us know how to start cooking and how to make delicious food. Join in football club will give us a chance to start a career as footballer.

And also, atmosphere in club or community will make us always have motivation to achieve an achievement in our interest.
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falls
01-07-2012, 05:25 AM
Salam, im suffering the same as salahudeen and i just want to ask you hows it going brother? I really need some help to get motivated too, lack of passion, i only play videogames, thats my passion.. But i pray namaz and so but still i cant get motivated and i lost interest in football also and so.. ive become unsocialized, i talk less and listen much dont like to have guests when my mom brings her friends or cousins.. subhanallah.

So salahuddeen hows it going?
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CosmicPathos
01-07-2012, 05:30 AM
salahudeen: how long have you had these symptoms for? Do you have other symptoms like increased/decreased appetite? weight loss? decreased concentration? suicidal ideation? feelings of guilt/worthlessness? Does your family have history of depression? or other mental illnesses? If yes, then you need to see a doctor immediately, you could be having a major depressive disorder.
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syilla
01-07-2012, 08:13 AM
salams akhi that is normal. i suggest to stop having deep thinking too much.

firstly do something you think that doesn't stress you much thats strained you. like spending time with family, reading books, cycling, outing and etc.

InshaAllah you energy will come back and you will start having interest again :)
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Salahudeen
01-08-2012, 11:17 PM
Originally Posted by CosmicPathos
salahudeen: how long have you had these symptoms for? Do you have other symptoms like increased/decreased appetite? weight loss? decreased concentration? suicidal ideation? feelings of guilt/worthlessness? Does your family have history of depression? or other mental illnesses? If yes, then you need to see a doctor immediately, you could be having a major depressive disorder.
Since 15/16, just don't want to do anything, nothing captivates my interest, and without interest its impossible to learn, so just scraping through in uni, I don't have an appetite, I don't get hunger pains, I only eat cos its the normal thing to do :hmm: I do find it impossible to concentrate on a specific task without my mind wondering off also, feeling of worthlessness exists quite often, my mother is bi polar she's on medication, when she stops it she has days where she's really happy and others where she's really low, the really happy days are more than the low days but eventually she'll have a psychotic episode if she stops her medication.



Originally Posted by falls
Salam, im suffering the same as salahudeen and i just want to ask you hows it going brother? I really need some help to get motivated too, lack of passion, i only play videogames, thats my passion.. But i pray namaz and so but still i cant get motivated and i lost interest in football also and so.. ive become unsocialized, i talk less and listen much dont like to have guests when my mom brings her friends or cousins.. subhanallah.

So salahuddeen hows it going?
It's the same, yeah I'm the same with regards to the video games lol, same here with the football and unsocizalized thing,
I don't talk at all in social gatherings.
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joyous fairy
01-09-2012, 06:30 PM
Assalam alaikum,

I feel the same sometimes. You know how I get motivated? When I see my friends. Sometimes I dont go out for days, just when I need to, but then when I meet up with my friends, we end up talking a lot about things we could do. And then we arrange them and meet up. Like sometimes we talk about cooking/baking and we meet up and cook. Or talk about watching a movie and then it happens. Ok sometimes (mostly) the plans dont always work out but we still end up meeting and talking.

I think socializing with people is a big motivator. A few years back I would not have said this, I hated meeting people and I didnt see the need to meet friends unless it was to do work, but now I have changed my mind :D
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Reflections
01-10-2012, 05:09 PM
I think I'm becoming a little like this, I have deadlines to submit work, and a couple of tests to take but I feel really really demotivated to do any of it. I just look at the pile and get put off and abandon it even more. I know I'm going to regret this later on (or not) if I don't do it now but I just...can't be bothered =/
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falls
01-18-2012, 01:15 PM
So i see many of us has that problem.. I hope we can all work together somehow :/.. May Allah help us all! Ameen.
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ardianto
01-18-2012, 02:12 PM
Originally Posted by falls
So i see many of us has that problem.. I hope we can all work together somehow :/.. May Allah help us all! Ameen.
Do you forget your thread in Advice and Support section?

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...d-version.html
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$tr@wB3rRy
01-18-2012, 02:47 PM
PROCRASTINATION is NOT an excuse for a MUSLIM *wags finger*

IF you feel demotivated, laxing, then watch anthony robbins vids on utube,

heres one for u :) http://youtu.be/Pw9agjhCqyE
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Who Am I?
01-18-2012, 04:51 PM
:sl:

Brother Salahudeen, you already know that you and I are similar in a lot of ways.

I am a chronically lazy individual. I am very much the stereotype of the "lazy American" that is perpetuated in popular media (even among us Yanks ourselves). I have always been this way, as far back as I can remember. My favorite pasttime is to do nothing. When I am not at work (and sometimes when I am), I find ways to do as little as possible.

I despise any semblance of physical activity. When I was younger, I played basketball and socer. I hated practicing. I hated learning plays. I hated conditioning. The only reason I was involved was partly because my parents "encouraged" me to play (they signed me up for it) as a way of getting me out of the house. While I did enjoy those activities, it was mainly a way for me to spend time with my friends after school, and not because I had a passion for the game.

After high school, I hardly did anything for almost a decade. I used to have really bad anxiety issues about being around other people, and would hardly leave the house. Depression is something I have battled off and on for almost 20 years, and it was really bad in my teens and 20's.

There is a phrase in Chinese which of course I don't speak, but the rough English translation is "grief over fat thighs". In other words, depression from a lack of activity. Maybe that's what we are dealing with here. I don't know. Even when I was active, I still never had much motivation or passion for anything.

I still hate exercise and don't work out, but I am currently seeing a therapist for my self-esteem and depression issues. I also try to pray daily and ask God to help me get out of this funk and become the man I am supposed to be.
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serena77
01-18-2012, 06:21 PM
salaams
from someone who does have bipolar disorder.. if this is a constant problem lasting more than a few days.. i would suggest even running things by your regular doctor... thyroid issues and diabetes can cause some of the problems.. and so could major depressive disorder, chronic depression.. the start ( allah forbid) of bipolar disorder.. only said cause i would wish it on anyone.

Please be easy on yourself.... and be safe....
Serena
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Who Am I?
01-18-2012, 06:32 PM
:sl:

I probably should have been medicated for my issues when I was younger, but I wasn't. I was too afraid to say anything to my parents because I didn't want to be labelled as a "crazy person".

I did a pretty good job of hiding my unhappiness from my family. They knew that I was unhappy at times, but I don't think they realize even today just how deep my anger and depression was in those days. I thought of suicide for a while, but I was (thankfully) always too afraid to try anything.
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