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anonymous
Salaam,
Can someone please tell me what's marriage contract? I am a sister and want to know if the following conditions are valid:
1. For him to marry only one wife
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Yes, this condition can be made before the marriage contract takes place. However know that if your husband breaks this contract than your marriage with him is still valid and it is not Islamically permissible to ask for a divorce in such a case.
2. Provide my own housing (even if it be a small place)
This is a right he has to provide for you. However I advise you to be patient. Whatever the eventual case between you and him, be the best wife you can be.
3. Daily spend time with me for a few hours and weekend for us to spend time together
Why would a husband not do this? Men feel excited about their wedding and look forward to spending time with their spouse just as much as women do. We have to work hard to keep ourselves chaste, distancing ourselves from the other gender just as women do; and we want to fully enjoy the benefits of a person who is Islamically permissible for us just as much as you do. We, as you, have the feeling of needing companionship creep up on us every now and then and we want to enjoy having someone there just as much as anyone.
You'll probably have your husband spend a lot more time than just a few hours or a weekend with you so don't worry about it.
Now he is really family orientated , and wants to me serve inlaws daily which is gy I ask for time daily.
Now can he stipulate me helping inlaws in the contract?
He can and, if you agree to it, it will be of benefit to you in your next life to work hard maintaining family ties. But again the extent of serving the in-laws depends on the culture. Whatever the case, be the best wife you can be.