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Blooming.Flower
Assalomu Alaykum,
I am very sorry it took me so long to reply.
I overheard why, but you might say, "Oh just tell her that a man will love to marry a woman with hijab."
She said that it would be hard for me to get married. In my country(which I prefer not to tell), women wear the hijab after they are married so if you wear a hijab, the first thing a man will think is, "Oh, she is married." She thinks no one will want to marry me.
BUT.
I want to tell her that is Allah(SWT) wants me to marry someone, I will and if He doesn't, then I won't. I can't tell her that though.
She said I can wear after I get married, but I want to wear it now:cry:
This is common in my culture also lol, they tell men not to grow beards and wait till after marriage cos it will be hard to get married with a beard :hmm:
It's hard situation to be in, perhaps you could play lectures around her that talk about the importance of hijaab so she understands how important it is. Part of being a Muslim is realizing if someone/something is decreed for you then no matter how hard you try to avoid it, it will come to you, and if something is not destined for you, no matter how hard you try to achieve it you won't be able to.
Tell her you want a pious man and good pious men want women in hijaab but I think the best way is to make her aware of the importance of hijaab, show her what the prophet (saw) said about it etc you can do it indirectly by just playing lectures on hijaab around her in her native language.
I don't mean to intrude and if I am tell me, but how come you can't tell her what you said about Allah will make you marry someone if he wants to, because its the truth you spoke. Will she take it as disrespectful coming from you? If so, is there not any knowledgeable person in your family who could possibly advise her to let you wear it? An aunty or uncle? A good righteous aunty and uncle not a gossiping one ;D
Don't be sad, Allah see's and hears everything and he understands your situation is hard, have sabr inshaAllah :) The Muslim empire wasn't built overnight :)
How about your father, fathers find it hard to say no to their daughters requests I've heard lol, so maybe if he knew how you felt he'd convince her to let you wear it?