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serena77
01-18-2012, 07:36 PM
salaams yall

i don't normally post threads like this... I've made some mention of things in some posts w/o really saying much.. but.... I don't have a lot of other peopke to "talk" to either...

about i dunno now.. 8-10 months ago.. my hands started really bothering me... keep in mind I work in a call center for a living one that insists on us typing fast no matter what... and at first it was just some swelling and a little aching if the weather was drastically changing... finally when it was pain for two days straight i went to my normal doctor.... who referred me to a rhuematoligist once the blood work all came back normal for the immune disorders... i've been seeing the rhematoligist now each month since sept. He stated I needed to get the FMLA paperwork done which i did.. which was denied as he wasn't "specific" enough. Now i know it meets FMLA standards cause i spent this last weekend going over the us dept of labor webistes. but i asked my boss today what else needs to be done as them telling me i could have my doc appts approved no matter what as long as i requested it in advance. Sadly thats no longer enough. Some of the meds cause pretty nasty side effects. I've been on prednisone for months .. love the side effects....

they have tentatively dxed... fibromyalgia, shjogrens and rheumatoid arthritis. I will not consider disability at this point.. my parents don't want me to cause then i wouldn't have as much money to help w/ things.. and part of it is pride... i want to work as long as i"m able to cause i know at some point either one of these illnesses... or the bipolar disorder ( or related conditions ) may make it so i don't have a choice... right now i still feel I have a choice.

I'm frustrated.. I'm praying a lot.. begging for help between that and my insurance company trying to give me the run around on my therapist... who is out of network... BUT i have benefits for that... so today was ANOTHER call to the insurance company and a call to my doctors nurse... to get them to fax my company more information..

jakazallah khair to anyone who read to the end.
Serena
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Muhammad
01-18-2012, 10:09 PM
Wa Alaykum Assalaam sister,

I'm sorry to hear about this difficulty you are going through. This life is certainly a test and such tests and trials help to expiate our sins and raise our ranks. May Allaah (swt) give you complete shifaa and protect you, Aameen. Keep praying and making du'aa and never underestimate their power.
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serena77
01-19-2012, 01:36 AM
jakazallah khair brother for taking the time to reply i do appreciate it..
Serena
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Riana17
01-21-2012, 04:30 PM
Asalam Sister
I am sorry to hear your difficulty
Last week I had two colleague, one diagnosed with Kidney failure and he needs transplant immediately, he is 40yrs old and alhamdollellah we gather good donations for him and inshallah it is possible for him to make transplant soon

The other colleague left the country without us knowing (i dont know them both, we are thousands so we dont know everyone), he has lung problem

I have learned something from our company doctor, he said the guy with kidney failure is very much lucky, we can replace his kidney, but the other one has no more cure, there is no lung transplant

May Allah ease your difficulty and grant you good health. Amen

I can understand you want to be independent, Ive been working myself since very young age and inshallah I will be able to support myself, my parents and people I wanted to help from my own pocket till my last breath.
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Riana17
01-21-2012, 04:34 PM
be strong sister,,, we can always depend from our CREATOR, always make duaa,, inshallahevrything will be alright
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serena77
01-21-2012, 07:06 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Riana17
Last week I had two colleague, one diagnosed with Kidney failure and he needs transplant immediately, he is 40yrs old and alhamdollellah we gather good donations for him and inshallah it is possible for him to make transplant soon
jakazallah khair sister
I do appreciate the email. I feel for your collegues.. I will say that lung transplants are done and can be very sucessful... maybe not in his case but I hope he will find a good doctor who may be able to find a transplant a good chance at a better life.
Inshallah they will both recover.
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Snowflake
01-21-2012, 09:45 PM
May Allah grant you shifa kaamil ameen. Do you know surah al Fatiha also known as the surah of shifa? Recite it a few times a day 7x blow on your hands and wipe all over yourself as well as your hands. Also recite al Fatiha over black seed, olive oil and honey and use them daily. Use fenugreek at least a couple of times a week. The Prophet (pbuh) said if people knew the benefits of this herb they would pay its weight in gold.



Recite this dua insha Allah sis:

(O Allah, O Lord of Mankind, remove the affliction and send down cure and healing,for no one can cure but You; so cure in such a way that no trace of illness is left Ameen)


Allahumma rabba an-nas adhhibi al-ba’s wa ishfi anta shafi la shifa’a illa shifa’uka, shifa’an la yughadiru saqaman


I wouldn't rely on drugs in the long term. As you said yourself the side effects are nasty and often worse than the condition itself - not to mention highly toxic and bad for your liver. I have fibromylgia and can tell you that other sufferers on drugs are not any better than me and sometimes are even worse off. Get yourself the Prophet's Book of Medicine and use the remedies form it. Most important of all, be patient insha Allah. Suffering is purification for the believer. Don't work if it's making your hands worse. Your body is a trust from Allah and has rights over you. So treat it well insha Allah.
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Hamza Asadullah
01-23-2012, 03:17 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by serena77
salaams yall

i don't normally post threads like this... I've made some mention of things in some posts w/o really saying much.. but.... I don't have a lot of other peopke to "talk" to either...

about i dunno now.. 8-10 months ago.. my hands started really bothering me... keep in mind I work in a call center for a living one that insists on us typing fast no matter what... and at first it was just some swelling and a little aching if the weather was drastically changing... finally when it was pain for two days straight i went to my normal doctor.... who referred me to a rhuematoligist once the blood work all came back normal for the immune disorders... i've been seeing the rhematoligist now each month since sept. He stated I needed to get the FMLA paperwork done which i did.. which was denied as he wasn't "specific" enough. Now i know it meets FMLA standards cause i spent this last weekend going over the us dept of labor webistes. but i asked my boss today what else needs to be done as them telling me i could have my doc appts approved no matter what as long as i requested it in advance. Sadly thats no longer enough. Some of the meds cause pretty nasty side effects. I've been on prednisone for months .. love the side effects....

they have tentatively dxed... fibromyalgia, shjogrens and rheumatoid arthritis. I will not consider disability at this point.. my parents don't want me to cause then i wouldn't have as much money to help w/ things.. and part of it is pride... i want to work as long as i"m able to cause i know at some point either one of these illnesses... or the bipolar disorder ( or related conditions ) may make it so i don't have a choice... right now i still feel I have a choice.

I'm frustrated.. I'm praying a lot.. begging for help between that and my insurance company trying to give me the run around on my therapist... who is out of network... BUT i have benefits for that... so today was ANOTHER call to the insurance company and a call to my doctors nurse... to get them to fax my company more information..

jakazallah khair to anyone who read to the end.
Serena
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My sister surely this is a test for you and you are being tested to see if you will become closer to Allah or further away from him. The result of this test thus far is that you are becoming closer to Allah for Allah only tests those he wants good for so surely these trials and hardships are a blessing in disguise for you.

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Trials will continue to befall the believing man and woman, with regard to themselves, their children and their wealth, until they meet Allaah with no sin on them.”

And what is more beautiful than coming before Allaah with all our sins extinguished? Is this life not but a taste and a short term home? Or would we rather live in short luxury for an eternal suffering? If cleansing of all of our sins is not enough then what is?

My sister internalise in your mind that this life is a test ground and we are in an examination but we do not know when this examination will end but whilst the examination is taking place we are being rigorously tested and at times we are tested until breaking piont just to see whether or not we will turn towards Allah or go away from him.

Also internalise in your mind that Allah ONLY tests those who he wants close to him. Therefore the tests that we go through in our lives clearly show Allah is wanting us to turn towards him and be closer to him. This is in fact a great privelage. The greater the tests we go through the more Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hereafter.

Therefore if we really want to know the best way to approach huge trials and tests then we should simply realise that the bigger the tests we are going through then the higher Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hererafter. Trials are a truly blessing in disguise. All Allah wants from us is for us to turn towards him in meekness and humbleness and for us to be patient and to turn to him in prayer and dua. Picture that fact that Allah loves it when his servant is in desperate need, crying to him for help for Allah tends to those who cry and sob to him immediatley just as a mother tends to its baby promptly when it is crying.

We should also internalise the fact that tests actually differentiate us believers from one another in terms of ranking in the eyes of Allah and therefore we should know that those who are tested and are patient are forgiven of their sins as sins falls off a person who is patient through trials just. Therefore we should realise that us being tested with trials and tests will NEVER go unrewarded for Allah rewards how much he wants to those who are patient through trials and those who turn towards him in humility and meekness.

It may be that a person who has experienced great trials in the world faces Allah on the day of judgement with little or no sins. So tests are a way of Allah forgiving a person of their sins so that on the day of judgement they have a much lighter load. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has called the day of judgement a "terrible" day and surely on this terrible day we would want as less sins as possible in our accounts if we are to be successful. Therefore these trials and tests are very important for us because they enable us to be forgiven for countless sins that would be a huge burden on us if it were in our accounts but due to the huge tests we faced with patience turning to Allah then it may be that we have very little or no sins at all on that day. The greater the trial the more sins fall off us. So know that even a prick of a thorn expiates ones sins.

We should also approach hardships and tests as in that it is the decree of Allah so we should NEVER ask Allah "Why" has he given us such trials? For questioning Allah why he has decreed something will mean that not only have we gone through so much grief and torment from these trials but that we have actually added to our sins by questioning Allah and we will be accountable for that.

Patience is one of the greatest attributes a person can acquire and Allah is with those who are patient and the reward for Patience is Paradise!

If one is patient, and is among the ones described in the following manner in the Qur’an (Baqarah, 2: 256)

Who say, when afflicted with calamity: “To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return”:-

Then here are the rewards Allah will give that person (2:157):

The Rewards of Patience are the folowing:

1. Blessings from Allah: The patient person is blessed by Allah.

2. Mercy of Allah: When Allah gives someone His Mercy, He will let him enter paradise with His Mercy.

3. Guidance of Allah: A patient person will be guided by Allah in this world until he meets Him on the Day of Judgment.

Referring to those who are tested and endure with Sabr or patience all of the above three rewards are mentioned by Allah Himself in the Qur’an in Surah Baqarah (2: 157):

“They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.”

In Surah Hud (11:11), Allah (S.W.T.) again promises to reward those who are patient in adversity.

Therefore let us realise that patience is the main thing Allah is looking for in us when we are going through trials and tests.

Here are two wonderful examples of patience through trials in the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) :

‘Ata ibn Rabah related that he heard Ibn ‘Abbas say: “Shall I show you a woman of Paradise?”I said: “Yes, indeed.” He said: “A black woman came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, and said: ‘I suffer from epileptic fits, and because of these, (at times) my body becomes uncovered. Would you invoke Allah, the Exalted One, to cure me of this disease? ‘ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: ‘If you wish, you can be patient and you will attain Paradise (for this suffering). But if you prefer, I will pray to Allah, the Exalted, to cure you of it?’ The woman said: ‘I will be patient,’ then added: ‘I become uncovered (when I have fits), so invoke Allah for me that I do not become uncovered. ‘ So the Prophet, peace be upon him, prayed for her.” [Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1a]

Story of ‘Urwah Ibn Al Zubair

‘Urwah Ibn Al Zubair had an operation, and the doctor amputated his leg. One friend came to visit him. ‘Urwah thought that the fried came to pacify him for the loss of his leg. So ‘Urwah told the visitor: If you came to give me condolence for the loss of my leg, I already submitted to Allah with patience to reward me for its loss. The guest told him, I came to inform you that your son fell down in a stable, and the animals stepped over him, and he died one hour ago. ‘Urwah said: O Allah! You took one child, and left me many…You took one organ from my body, and left me many organs…O Allah! You tested me with my body, and you were kind to leave me with good health. You tested me with the loss of my son, but you were kind in leaving me the rest of my children.


We should also approach tests as in we should look at those who have less than us. We have clean tap water and food on our plates everyday. We have clean clothes washed regularly and shelter from the harsh weather. Whereas there are those who walk miles just for a sip of water and even then it is dirty. There are those who have the same clothes for years and cannot even wash them. There are those who go days without proper food and even then they have scraps and end up being malnourished. There are those like in the flood disaster recently who have no shelter and are exposed to terrible diseases. Those who have little or no money to buy even basic things aswell as medication for their sick family members. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) always told us to look at those who have less than us.

Sometims when we go through great trials we get decieved into thinking that other people that we see around us must be living a life happy and content. We are wrong to think in this way for we do not know what goes on in peoples lives. There are many examples of those who seemed as though they have SO much and seemed so happy but when certain things were revealed then it was clear that those people were living miserable lives full of torment! We may look at a person with a smile on his face but he may be going through trials we can never imagine.

Therefore when we are going through difficult times and trials then we should not look at others and think they are happy and living fulfilled lives for we do not know what any person on the street is going through on a day to day basis.

Therefore whenever we are going through difficult times and trials then we should put our full trust, hopes, faith and reliance in Allah for he will NEVER let us down but is only testing us because he wants us to turn towards him in humility, humbleness and meekness and he wants us to get much closer to him. He tests a person because he wants good for them and wants to forgive them and raise their ranks in the hereafter.

In reality how lucky is a person who is being tested greatly and is still patient and turning towards Allah night and day. How hig must Allah be raising his ranks and forgiving his sins on a daily basis until he is like a new born baby who has little or no sins on him at all. So the way to approach this is to realise that a person who is being tested greatly is in fact lucky but shaythan is wanting one to think opposite.

Shaythan is our eternal sworn enemy and ONLY wants us to lose hope and faith and to go away from Allah. He wants us tobecome disillusioned and lose all hope so that we go away from Alah and our deen. But we should reject our enemy who only wants our destruction. We should disregard his evil whispers and know that they are only lies and deciet.

Shaythan will try to make us think that there is no way out of this and this is because he wants us to give in and lose hope. But we must realise that if we continuously strive and keep turning towards Allah and be patient then the final victory WILL be ours! We will taste the sweetness of victory but in order to taste this victory we need to fight and strive through the tests and trials that life throws at us!

Imam Ibn'l Qayyim (Rahimahullah) said:

The divine decree related to the believer is always a bounty, even if it is in the form of withholding (something that is desired), and it is a blessing, even if it appears to be a trial, and an affliction that has befallen him is in reality a cure, even though it appears to be a disease!

Unfortunately, due to the ignorance of the worshipper, and his transgressions, he does not consider anything to be a gift or a blessing or a cure unless he can enjoy it immediately, and it is in accordance with his nature. If he were only given a little bit of understanding, then he would have counted being withheld from as a blessing, and the sickness as a mercy, and he would relish the trouble that befalls him more than he relishes his ease, and he would enjoy poverty more than he enjoys richness, and he would be more thankful when he is blessed with little than when he is blessed with a lot.

If one who is going through great trials continues to turn towards Allah in humility, meekness and in humblenes then know that the reward one will gain will be unimaginable. On the day of judgement once we see the reward of being patient through great trials turning towards Allah in humility then we would want Allah to have tested us even more so that we could have wreaped the rewards of being patient and turning towards Allah through trials and hardships. It is only on the day of judgement will we truly realise how much we have missed out on and how much more we wished we were tested by Allah so that our ranks were even higher.

So the Reward of going through terrible trials and hardships immense!

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "On the Day of Resurrection, when people who have suffered affliction are given their reward, those who are healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world." (Al-Tirmidhi #1570)

So remember: Victory, relief and ease comes with patience through distress and hardship

So surely any hardships and suffering you go through will be rewarded abundantley so long as you are patient and NEVER question Allah "Why"? but accept his decree as he knows what is best and in the hereafter you will see the abandant rewards for your patience and you will wish you had gone through so much more suffering just so that you could gain the immense rewards and pleasure of Allah through such hardships and trials.

Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress and ease with hardship.” (Reported by Ahmad)

Therefore let us realise that the bigger trials and hardships we go through in this life then the more rewards we will gain in the hereafter as long as we are patient and are constantly turning towards Allah.

In the hereafter when we see the rewards of going through trials and hardships then we will all wish that we wen through the WORST trials possible for the longest amount of time!

No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah's decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere it will never come your way but if it is yours by destiny from you it cannot flee. (Umar Ibn al-Khattab Radiyallahu Anhu)

May Allah make us patient through adversity, trials and hardships. Ameen

Finally: " Do not detest the misfortunes that befall you, for what you detest may be the cause of your salvation and what you like may be the cause of your ruin." Al-Hasan Al-Basree

If you need any help or advice with anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask us as we are here for you and most of all Allah is there for you and is close to you as he is close to those who are patient.
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serena77
01-25-2012, 10:56 PM
jakazallah khair brother for taking the time to post this. It is a very good thing to remember and one i try to often. Allah (swt) has given me a lot of blessings since i reverted... I had someone... over something entirely different ask me if i ever get mad at Allah... the concept to me is foreign.... even when I was catholic... (rolls eyes... 12 year mistake ) .... I never got angry w/ god.... to do so... i dunno.. just not something i could do.

may Allah (swt) bless you for the information and the reminder.
Serena
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