The Danger of Pornography series by Pyrrhic

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Assalaam Alaikum everyone.

A very good friend of mine, a brother of mine i should say, made this series about pornography. It is an entirely original work and I recommend you watch it for the sake of educating yourselves and others about this issue that has almost taken the idea of shame and modesty out of our modern vocabulary... and worse... Put many of us directly in the path of fire.

I won't go into details but I will let the series speak for itself. And request that you show others to create more awareness for this remarkable work. Thanking you in advance.








Part 7 (Television Statistics) Pyrrhic Series.






Please subscribe to bro Pyrrhics channel, he will be releasing another groundbreaking series this year insha-Allah. personally, I can't wait to see what he has planned.

Scimi

[Who Am I?]

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I found this in your other thread and am going to watch the whole series in a bit. This is an issue that I myself have struggled with over the years. It is something that has become ingrained in our culture and society and is almost unavoidable.

It very nearly destroyed me, and is something that I am still dealing with.

[MustafaMc]

It is something that has become ingrained in our culture and society and is almost unavoidable.

Yes, particularly what can be called 'soft porn' permeates the Western world with plenty of more serious temptations if one has that inclination.

On the first video there was a hadith about Dajjal making tawwaf. Isn't he prevented from entering Mecca and Medina?

[Abz2000]

On the first video there was a hadith about Dajjal making tawwaf. Isn't he prevented from entering Mecca and Medina?

he may be prevented from attacking them but the visions of the prophets are clear prophecy.
maybe he was following behind out of fear that people might swear allegiance to Jesus (pbuh),

the porn was bad enough, but the gay agenda was just sickening, thanks for the vids,
the actually read them gay books,
i homeschool my kids and have gotta put more time in.

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Walaykum salaam, the series is definitely worth the watch, I'm just surprised that not many people have actually done so. It's a very serious issue, yet we find ourselves turning a blind eye (pun intended) to it. Well done for watching some of it... let me know what you think when you've finished it. :)

On the first video there was a hadith about Dajjal making tawwaf. Isn't he prevented from entering Mecca and Medina?

Yes, but that doesn't mean the fitna of masih ud dajjal cannot enter these cities. As bro Abz mentioned above, these visions are prophecy, and as we know, the dreams of the believer are 1/46th of prophecy.

But to elaborate further on what I mentioned about the fitna entering the holy cities... there is this hadeeth:

Bukhari book 30 hadeeth 105

Narrated by Anas bin Malik. The Prophet pbuh said "There will be no town in which ad dajjal will not enter except Makkah and Madina. And there will be no entrance (road/entry point into Makkah or Madinah) but the angels will be standing in rows, guarding it against him (ad dajjal), and then Madinah will shake with its inhabitants thrice (three earthquakes) and Allah will expel all the non believers and the hypocrites from it."


Having been fortunate enough to have visited both holy cities on different occasions, I can testify that the fitna is there... and as you can imagine, it's even worse in cities like Jeddah and Riyadh. Makkah, on two occasions I witnessed gay stuff happening, once to a hafiz that I know and was travelling with... Some people just have no shame left. The hafiz is a pious man and very soft hearted and some tour guide with a beard and all, tried it on him BIGTIME. Poor hafiz was left a bit disturbed for a while... true story. So many poor people flock to Makka and Madina and the police kick them down, I mean - literally kick them down with their big boots... If this was the Prophet pbuh's time, that would never have been the case. I could go on and on, but I don't wanna go offtopic too much... however, underneath I do go slightly offtopic again... sorry in advance

i homeschool my kids and have gotta put more time in.

I need to ask you about this. Wonder if you can help me. I need some info on good Islamic home-schooling for a child 5 yrs of age. ofcourse, I'd want all the regular subjects too like math English science etc... Any info would be appreciated bro

Scimi

[MustafaMc]

Assalamu alaikum, Brother Scimi, jazak Allahu khair for posting these videos. They are an excellent reminder and warner. I have watched up to and including part 3.

[ILuvAllah]

Brother Pyrrhic is Brilliant. MashAllah.

[~Zaria~]

Assalamu-alaikum,

JazakAllah for posting this bro Scimi.

I havent been able to watch further than part 1 - as I realise that personally, too much of this type of information is not good for me.
Over the years, I have developed a mindset that almost all men are into this sort of filth (is this not true?) esp. as a result of its easy access - and to know any more details about this issue, is probably going to be destructive for me.

I am at a stage where I am actually affected by seeing semi-nude billboards, going to malls and seeing women with very little on......its the reason that I often wish I could withdraw myself completely from society and head for some cave far away.....:(

However, I do hope more parents and men, esp. watch this series - and understand how it has become a source of broken hearts, marriages, psychological scarring and the immense displeasure of Allah.

This dunya is heading towards a very dark place.
It has been for a long time.....since our beloved Nabi (sallahu alaihi wasalam) took his last breathe.

The temptations around us are just going to get stronger, and holding onto our imaans only harder.

May Allah make it easy on us all.

Ameen

[MustafaMc]

I havent been able to watch further than part 1 - as I realise that personally, too much of this type of information is not good for me.
Over the years, I have developed a mindset that almost all men are into this sort of filth (is this not true?) esp. as a result of its easy access - and to know any more details about this issue, is probably going to be destructive for me.

Assalamu alaikum, I can understand your perspective about distancing yourself from this topic as indeed it is disgusting. However, I am not sure that ignoring the problem or being judmental towards men is a healthy thing either. If it is possible to escape to a remote area without internet and the chance of being contaminated with Western decadence, then that is probably the thing to do. Perhaps there are men who would not be tempted to be involved in this as they have reached a higher plane of spirituality, but this is also something that I perceive men have a tendency toward. Why else do you think that women are commanded to cover themselves if not for this very reason?

If you had watched these videos, you would have learned that teenage boys are the most likely to watch porn over the internet. The purpose of these videos in my opinion is to educate people so they can avoid this fitnah and to protect their children from it as well. A teenage boy who is exposed to pornography is much more likely to become addicted (in my opinion) and affected by it for the rest of his life. If a sister never plans to get married and to never have children, then, yes, it is probably best to avoid these educational videos. However, if a sister plans to get married, then I think it would be good to understand what is going on. You are exactly correct that the temptations are getting stronger, but I think it is good to become educated about this fitnah as the last time I checked we all live in 'the real world' and not the environment of Muhammad (saaws) and his companions.

Earlier I mentioned 'soft porn'. I live in USA and it is almost impossible to watch a movie without at least some partial nudity and sex scenes. Just last night I watched a movie that I had to fast forward through a scene and look away. Today, I went to the store and at the checkout counter was an array of magazines with women in bikini swimsuits and otherwise scantily clad. Again I had to look away. As you mentioned also about billboards, there are those such as advertise 'Hooters' so-called retaurant where the waitresses are scantily clad. These temptations are all around us and I can attest that it is a struggle for men and boys in particular to be vigilant against.

[SFatima]

I wana know more about homeschooling too, and as for the videos, I await the repair of my broken sound system.

May Allah swt save everyone from this fitnah, it has completely ripped all humanity of all shame, sense and respect, not to mention that it has degraded women to the lowest level possible, any women being portrayed like this makes my blood boil and makes me want to carpetbomb all these evil people in one go! Idiots from hell :@

[Signor]

Earlier I mentioned 'soft porn'. I live in USA and it is almost impossible to watch a movie without at least some partial nudity and sex scenes. Just last night I watched a movie that I had to fast forward through a scene and look away.

Asslamo Alaikum Brother Mustafa

Why you even watch those movies?For entertainment,a superb documentary on nature,animals or a research cannot do the job.there are various there anything on sci fi to the real technological advancement.My purpose isn't to jump on your back but i don't see a point in watching movies.

Regards

[MustafaMc]

Why you even watch those movies?

I watch movies for entertainment and a lot of them are historical and war movies. I don't ever watch what is considered as 'soft porn', but even normal movies like 'Braveheart' have at least one scene where I feel the need to fast forward. You can be judgmental of me, but by doing so you completely miss the point of my post. I live in the USA and I was illustrating the fitnah of sexuality that is constantly tempting men to start down that slippery slope towards pornography that leads to degradation of women's status in the mind of men to the point where they are no more than objects to use for their pleasure and then discard.

[cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn]

Assalamu-alaikum,

JazakAllah for posting this bro Scimi.

I am at a stage where I am actually affected by seeing semi-nude billboards, going to malls and seeing women with very little on......its the reason that I often wish I could withdraw myself completely from society and head for some cave far away.....:(

However, I do hope more parents and men, esp. watch this series - and understand how it has become a source of broken hearts, marriages, psychological scarring and the immense displeasure of Allah.


Ameen

I think that perhaps we shouldnt assume of what is contained in this series. It is exactly the thought that its a man's thing and then men are inclined towards this that is wrong. Women are affected just as bad, but from a different angle. Its not about the naked women (and if u think that this is what this series has, that isn't true), that isn't even what porn is about, porn is the last of it, porn itself is a tool used for the main agenda here. To think that by making naked pictures and billboards go away, is making pornography go away, it is a misconception and for that reason alone I as you to reconsider and give this series an opportunity. You need to understand orchestration behind all of this properly, the more you turn away from what u need to know the more u blind yourself. How can you protect your future children and your future husband from this if you don't know how it works? Tell them too look down any time they see a woman? That won't work because that is not the only way we are exposed to this. You may not watch porn and have never been one to do so in your life, but that doesn't mean u don't have the mentality to an extent, that these people do, because everyone is exposed to it, on a daily basis. You cannot know white without black, and as I said if you don't know how this works exactly, you cannot fix it. You are in the medical field as you have mentioned several times, modern medicine and pharmaceuticals are involved here.

Watch the series ukhti. You will benefit from it, I promise. :)

-cOsMiC

[cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn]

I wana know more about homeschooling too, and as for the videos, I await the repair of my broken sound system.

Asalaam Aelikum :) How many kiddo's do you have? I myself have been looking into homeschooling as well, i just recently pulled out my little one from school, so it's all new to me. I'd be happy to share what I have as well. :) inshaAllah.

I watch movies for entertainment and a lot of them are historical and war movies. I don't ever watch what is considered as 'soft porn', but even normal movies like 'Braveheart' have at least one scene where I feel the need to fast forward. You can be judgmental of me, but by doing so you completely miss the point of my post. I live in the USA and I was illustrating the fitnah of sexuality that is constantly tempting men to start down that slippery slope towards pornography that leads to degradation of women's status in the mind of men to the point where they are no more than objects to use for their pleasure and then discard.

I Agree 100% with, this. Unfortunately it's not just men it affects in this way, men just behave differently about it, but the damage goes all the way around.

-cOsMiC

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Assalamu-alaikum,

JazakAllah for posting this bro Scimi.

I havent been able to watch further than part 1 - as I realise that personally, too much of this type of information is not good for me.
Over the years, I have developed a mindset that almost all men are into this sort of filth (is this not true?) esp. as a result of its easy access - and to know any more details about this issue, is probably going to be destructive for me.

I am at a stage where I am actually affected by seeing semi-nude billboards, going to malls and seeing women with very little on......its the reason that I often wish I could withdraw myself completely from society and head for some cave far away.....:(

However, I do hope more parents and men, esp. watch this series - and understand how it has become a source of broken hearts, marriages, psychological scarring and the immense displeasure of Allah.

This dunya is heading towards a very dark place.
It has been for a long time.....since our beloved Nabi (sallahu alaihi wasalam) took his last breathe.

The temptations around us are just going to get stronger, and holding onto our imaans only harder.

May Allah make it easy on us all.

Ameen

Honestly speaking sister, knowledge which is beneficial to us, should not make us fearful of it. I don't know what else to say except that... i advise giving it a watch.

Scimi

[Who Am I?]

Assalamu alaikum, I can understand your perspective about distancing yourself from this topic as indeed it is disgusting. However, I am not sure that ignoring the problem or being judmental towards men is a healthy thing either. If it is possible to escape to a remote area without internet and the chance of being contaminated with Western decadence, then that is probably the thing to do. Perhaps there are men who would not be tempted to be involved in this as they have reached a higher plane of spirituality, but this is also something that I perceive men have a tendency toward. Why else do you think that women are commanded to cover themselves if not for this very reason?

If you had watched these videos, you would have learned that teenage boys are the most likely to watch porn over the internet. The purpose of these videos in my opinion is to educate people so they can avoid this fitnah and to protect their children from it as well. A teenage boy who is exposed to pornography is much more likely to become addicted (in my opinion) and affected by it for the rest of his life. If a sister never plans to get married and to never have children, then, yes, it is probably best to avoid these educational videos. However, if a sister plans to get married, then I think it would be good to understand what is going on. You are exactly correct that the temptations are getting stronger, but I think it is good to become educated about this fitnah as the last time I checked we all live in 'the real world' and not the environment of Muhammad (saaws) and his companions.

Earlier I mentioned 'soft porn'. I live in USA and it is almost impossible to watch a movie without at least some partial nudity and sex scenes. Just last night I watched a movie that I had to fast forward through a scene and look away. Today, I went to the store and at the checkout counter was an array of magazines with women in bikini swimsuits and otherwise scantily clad. Again I had to look away. As you mentioned also about billboards, there are those such as advertise 'Hooters' so-called retaurant where the waitresses are scantily clad. These temptations are all around us and I can attest that it is a struggle for men and boys in particular to be vigilant against.

This. So much this. I don't think I really need to add anything to this.

Ignoring this problem isn't going to make it go away. It is something that is very real and is something of which everyone should be aware. If you live in a Western country, it is something that you will see every day, and you need to be able to deal with it.

[~Zaria~]

Assalamu-alaikum,

JazakAllah for the above sentiments.

I think we should always try to consider the position of one, standing in their shoes.
So, while all that has been said above, is true for the most part - surely this is not the case for everyone, and in all cases.

Being a woman, who walked away from her marriage - as a result of her ex having a similiar problem (amongst other things) - and who has been struggling to regain trust, and remove the doubts/ suspicions/ paranoia that has developed.......surely this is not the series for such as me.

Believe me when I say - my head is not buried in the sand.
I do know understand the depth of this problem.
To the point of researching and visiting some of these sites myself - to try and understand, what it was that draws one to this.....
All that I was left with was guilt, hollowness and the realisation that the man who has been suckered into this world - is going to have a tough time clawing himself out. (not impossible, but tough).

And, even to the point of writing in to a certain car fanatics forum that freely provided such material to its loyal members - and Alhamdulillah, they have now changed their policies about it.

But - tbh, all this knowledge - was coming with a price tag - my own peace of mind.



Do you realise that not all knowledge is good knowledge?

e.g:
Would you tell the person who has been diagnosed with cancer, ALL details of the difficult road that lies ahead of him?
- Surely, it is words of comfort, with a realistic but as positive an outlook as is possible - that will give him hope and courage to face this trial head-on.

- Not the in-depth knowledge of the pain, side effects or poor prognosis of his condition.

But to the one who is treating him - yes, such knowledge is important to be able to insha Allah, do the best he can for this patient.

or:
To the parents whose child has been brutally murdered - do they need to know ALL the details surrounding his/ her death?
Does this knowledge serve to be of benefit or harm to them?

But, to the police who are investigating this case - these pieces of information are crucial.


In the same way - I am aware of the fitnah that surrounds me - how can one not be?
But, do I need to know all the gory details of it?
How is this going to benefit me?
Apart from adding to my psychological distress and sorrows?

Of course - if there are any solutions that are discussed - e.g how can we protect our kids from on-line porn through their cell-phones - please direct me to these.

JazakAllah.

Salaam

[Silent Peace]

Really nice series, brother pyrrhic Jazak'Allah for your effort, may Allah reward you Ameen.

[CosmicPathos]

I think about more than 95% of men today with access to internet watch porn.

You'd be quite shocked but its quite liked among women too. Perhaps not in similar numbers but there is a large group of women who does enjoy porn. And I think there is more variability in the female group because of how sexuality develops among many females, which is much more variable compared to that in men. Some are hypersexual and love sex, others totally find it a burden.

But it is a huge problem that wont be solved in years.

[Abz2000]

the solution is in front of us, Hijrah and an islamic state,
then once the structure is in place and people are able to find useful outlets for their time,
the thought of hudood would leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth.
i now know why it's such a gruesome punishment, it brings about a psychological repulsion to the idea.

it also shows that we are in the final stages as this is a form of public fahisha:


There will be prevalence of open illegal sexual intercourse.
(Bukhari)

The Hour will come when adultery becomes widespread.
(Al-Haythami, Kitab al-Fitan)


The Last Hour will not be established until they (wicked people) commit adultery on theroads (public ways).
(Ibn Hibban and Bazzar)

and the last thing we want to do is to be pulled up with these animals on the Day of Standing.

When angels take the souls of those who die in sin against their souls,
they say: "In what (plight) Were ye?"
They reply: "Weak and oppressed Were we in the earth."
They say: "Was not the earth of Allah spacious enough for you to move yourselves away (From evil)?"
Such men will find their abode in Hell,- What an evil refuge! -
Quran 4:97

a huge dilemma but the solution is in sight.

[Galaxy]

asalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah

It's very common among males to indulge in it, more than I thought, but I am sure any good muslim guy would stay away from this ukhhh+o(+o(

Part eight and up, I was quite fine not knowing about that kind of stuff.

[Scimitar]

Walaykum salaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu sister,

I was actually very intrigued by the statistics in part eight. Shows us exactly how bad the problem really is... Shocking.

Part eight extended is quite sad. It's true that kids today are exposed to things they should not be exposed to til much later on...Insha-Allah I am not gonna send my kids to a regular school for sure... Either home schooling, or a good madrassa... that's what i'm thinking.

part 9 and both part tens rounded the series up nicely.

Scimi

[Who Am I?]

Walaykum salaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu sister,

I was actually very intrigued by the statistics in part eight. Shows us exactly how bad the problem really is... Shocking.

Part eight extended is quite sad. It's true that kids today are exposed to things they should not be exposed to til much later on... I am not gonna send my kids to a regular school for sure... Either home schooling, or a good madrassa... that's what i'm thinking.

part 9 and both part tens rounded the series up nicely.

Scimi

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Avoid public schools. They are part of the vast conspiracy to dumb down the masses and brainwash kids with a certain agenda. The government does not want free thinkers. The government wants good little robots that will do what they are told.

That's the short version of a much longer rant I have about this...

[MustafaMc]

I think we should always try to consider the position of one, standing in their shoes.
So, while all that has been said above, is true for the most part - surely this is not the case for everyone, and in all cases.

Assalamu alaikum, no, Sister, your shoes are too small for me. :hiding: You have been personally harmed by this fitnah from the sister's perspective. However, I rather doubt that you ex-husband is pleased with himself and his falling into this trap. Think of the probable effect on his iman after letting himself be tempted into this abyss.

My concern is not for the men so much as it is for the boys. I strongly advise all parents to NEVER allow their children unsupervised access to the internet at home and to never allow their children to visit other such homes. My opinion is that addictions that began during the teenager years are extremely hard to break.

[MustafaMc]

I think about more than 95% of men today with access to internet watch porn.

I have extreme doubt regarding the validity of this statement.

[~Zaria~]

I think about more than 95% of men today with access to internet watch porn.

If this were the case, then truly women shouldnt even bother looking for a spouse.....

I personally dont think the stats are as high as this, but they are astonishing none the less.





I think much has been discussed about the prevalence, causes, hidden agendas and destructive nature of this 'disease' that has gripped so many men (and some women).

What about solutions?

Is it not our Duty to oppose and fight these types of fitnahs that are tearing our ummah apart?

Why do we not see our imams and local leaders (from other religions as well) putting up a front to this mass perversion?
Why do we not see parents and teachers and religious leaders take to the streets, demanding stricter regulations to access to this type of material - both on-line and over the counter?
Why do we not see the above mentioned, signing petitions - for a ban on cellphone porn......which is one of the easiest ways that kids access this type of material?

How many school-girls need to be gang-raped (on the school grounds, by their peers) - before we start addressing the root of this sexually perverse society?
How many marriages need to break down?


We can go on discussing such matters until we are blue in the face.......when are we going to get up and DO something about it - for the sake of this UMMAH?


Salaam :(

[Who Am I?]

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I don't know. I think pretty much every guy has watched porn at some point. I know that every guy I know personally has, including myself.

To be honest, it's become such a part of our culture that sometimes you don't even realize that you're watching it, because it doesn't bother you anymore. Turn on any regular TV channel and you're bound to see something at least "soft core" in an ad or a program. It might not be full-on nudity, but the sexual content is implied, and sometimes that can be more dangerous than if they showed everything (because it puts things in your head that you can't easily get rid of).

There are also certain myths about sex and relationships that are perpetrated by pornography, and this is the real danger. I know from my own experience that I am having to unlearn certain things and certain ideas about women and about relationships that were ingrained into my head because of pornography. This will take a long time, and until that time, I will continue to suffer because of it. :hmm:

[TrueStranger]

I think it has mainly to do with double standards. Guys are openly admitting something that most women would not dare admit.

[CosmicPathos]

If this were the case, then truly women shouldnt even bother looking for a spouse.....

Without downplaying the disgusting nature of porn, statements like above dont really help. Guys are at least openly admitting that they watch porn and derive pleasure from it. From there on the next step is to get rid of tolerance and dependance on porn.

1- They watch the very porn (assuming they are not homos) in which female pornstars act and participate with equal zeal.

What does that mean? Women are innocent? No. Guys can make a same statement that "I will never get married, but rather become a player, for marriage is not worth it as women are cheats and have baggage from past."

So such biased statements wont take us anywhere. We can sit here all day and write a whole thesis on men vs women.

2- I have had fair share of interacting and socializing and going out with females from times of my jahiliya. The very first myth that I had to discard during that time was my illusion which I had adopted from society that women are innocent beings, so pure, and so asexual. I have not seen any guys let other guys touch their privates to measure the size while socializing. On the contrary, I've been in company of women who were quite happy to talk about "measurements" of their privates with each other. I was just dumb founded but again it was my period of jahiliyah and I came to know many other "hidden" behavioral mysteries. These were not prostitutes, but well educated confident young university-going women. Again, yes, these were kaafir women but I doubt behaviors are any different among Muslim women. You only need to attend a wedding, I did attend segregated women section of Saudi weddding as a 12 year old with my mom, and if I look back, God, I do not have words to describe it.

Afterall, we must remember the story of Yusuf (as). It was a woman who attempted to seduce the young handsome prophet.

In the end, pious virgin women for pious virgin men, as Quran alludes to.

Anyways.

salaam.

p.s. as for stats "
Scientists studying the effects of pornography fell at the first hurdle - after failing to find a man who had not viewed X-rated material.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz1ntsV15iO"

[Who Am I?]

Without downplaying the disgusting nature of porn, statements like above dont really help. Guys are at least openly admitting that they watch porn and derive pleasure from it. From there on the next step is to get rid of tolerance and dependance on porn.

1- They watch the very porn (assuming they are not homos) in which female pornstars act and participate with equal zeal.

What does that mean? Women are innocent? No. Guys can make a same statement that "I will never get married, but rather become a player, for marriage is not worth it as women are cheats and have baggage from past."

So such biased statements wont take us anywhere. We can sit here all day and write a whole thesis on men vs women.

2- I have had fair share of interacting and socializing and going out with females from times of my jahiliya. The very first myth that I had to discard during that time was my illusion which I had adopted from society that women are innocent beings, so pure, and so asexual. I have not seen any guys let other guys touch their privates to measure the size while socializing. On the contrary, I've been in company of women who were quite happy to talk about "measurements" of their privates with each other. I was just dumb founded but again it was my period of jahiliyah and I came to know many other "hidden" behavioral mysteries. These were not prostitutes, but well educated confident young university-going women. Again, yes, these were kaafir women but I doubt behaviors are any different among Muslim women. You only need to attend a wedding, I did attend segregated women section of Saudi weddding as a 12 year old with my mom, and if I look back, God, I do not have words to describe it.

Afterall, we must remember the story of Yusuf (as). It was a woman who attempted to seduce the young handsome prophet.

In the end, pious virgin women for pious virgin men, as Quran alludes to.

Anyways.

salaam.

p.s. as for stats "
Scientists studying the effects of pornography fell at the first hurdle - after failing to find a man who had not viewed X-rated material.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz1ntsV15iO"

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This is one of those myths that I was talking about, the myth that women are the pure virginal creatures and that men are insane sex-crazed lust monsters. I recently have discovered that this is not always the case. There are some women who like sex more than men do. Another forum (a non-Islamic forum) that I sometimes go to has many threads where women complain about having higher sex drives than their boyfriends/husbands.

It was a bit of a shock to learn that, as I grew up in a sheltered environment through my teens and early 20's. This education taught me that women are all shy and virginal, and us men have to control our raging sexual desires by any means necessary, so you can imagine my surprise when I learned that this is not always the case.

Just because a woman likes to have sexual relations a lot doesn't make her a ****, but that's what our society says. As long as it is with her husband, she should not feel ashamed about that. But some women are shamed into thinking that they are somehow worth less as a woman because they enjoy relations with a partner.

Contrarily, a dude who has a lot of relations with a lot of different women isn't any cooler or any better than a guy who waits until his wedding night, but again, that's not what our society says.

So there is a double standard when it comes to sexual attitudes between men and women, and this is further enhanced by pornography.

Different people have different needs and different desires. Not all women are virginal, and not all men are raging sex beasts. That doesn't make any one any better or any worse than anyone else, and it's time that people started to understand that.

[GuestFellow]

It seems like there is no practicable solution to this problem. For some men, it gives them relief. I shudder to think the lengths these men would go to satisfy their sexual appetite without pornography. Not that I support pornography, but even if pornography is stopped, the root cause of the problem still exists.

Banning pornography could have a similar effect to what happened in America when alcohol was banned.

Whoever is going to stop pornography, it will have to be done at a slow and steady pace, thinking about the consequence of each step taken. It is not something that is going to go away within minutes. There is a big demand for it.

[Scimitar]

I think the solution is in the awareness of the problem. And forcing people to think whether they are a part of the problem, or the solution... and the solution in my opinion, is a simple one - abstinence, discipline and fear of God. I know, I made that sound simple. But if one really wants to achieve something, one will, insha-Allah.

However, this won't fly to those who don't believe in God. But hey, one sheep at a time, yes? If we lead by example, at least we keep our own inspired.

Scimi

[Who Am I?]

It seems like there is no practicable solution to this problem. For some men, it gives them relief. I shudder to think the lengths these men would go to satisfy their sexual appetite without pornography. Not that I support pornography, but even if pornography is stopped, the root cause of the problem still exists.

Banning pornography could have a similar effect to what happened in America when alcohol was banned.

Whoever is going to stop pornography, it will have to be done at a slow and steady pace, thinking about the consequence of each step taken. It is not something that is going to go away within minutes. There is a big demand for it.

Two words here: sex sells. This is the reason for all of those ads that have handsome shirtless men or attractive scantily-clad women. Everyone has those basic urges, and clever marketers have learned to cater to those urges and make a lot of money doing it.

This is the reason that pornography is such a problem, because it is a billion-dollar industry. Everyone wants sex to some degree, and everyone enjoys it to some degree, but nobody wants to admit it or talk about it. Pornography is legalized prostitution, really, and there is a reason why prostitution is known as "the world's oldest profession", because it caters to the most basic of human needs and desires: the need for companionship and physical intimacy.

Our society says that is OK to have a relationship that is solely based on physical intimacy, with no emotional or spiritual attachment. There are a lot of people that have such relationships simply for sexual purposes, because they are afraid of being alone. I myself have fallen victim to this lie at times in my own life. Physical intimacy is a basic human need, and there are many people who take an unhealthy advantage of this need.

The problem with that is that you must have all aspects to have a healthy relationship: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual connection. Thus, there is no healthy relationship there. I've seen too many relationships that were based purely on physical attraction or lust, with no emotional, intellectual, or spiritual connection, and most if not all of these relationships eventually end badly.

I've seen my share of men and women who end up with emotional and sometimes behavioral issues because of relationships that were based solely on sex.

[~Zaria~]

p.s. as for stats "
Scientists studying the effects of pornography fell at the first hurdle - after failing to find a man who had not viewed X-rated material.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz1ntsV15iO"

Assalamu-alaikum,

There is difference between those who have seen pornographic material at least once in his/ her life, and those who engage in this habitually, and as a means of self-gratification.

If I had been asked my these researchers whether or not I have ever seen such material - I would have to answer 'Yes' as well.
But do I go out seeking it as a means of personal satisfaction - No.

We should realise that this type of fitnah - that can develop into an addiction - occurs very passively.......all that one has to do, is LOOK. (vs. drinking alcohol, consuming drugs, etc.)
So, no doubt - the majority of us has seen porn - even if we did not go out in search of it - via on-line browsing and movies.

Also: not much info has been given - but its likely that there is a selection bias in this proposed study.
From which area were these men sampled (Los Vegas? lol). And only looking at men in their 20s?

If we had to sample men from Madinah, China, certain parts of Africa, e.g. - for various reasons, I doubt that the stats will be as high.


With regards to women and porn:

Yes, women are the root of this problem......if all women across the globe refused to strip for cameras, then problem solved.
But, as there will always be a consumer for this industry - so too, there will always be a supplier (at least until Isa (as) arrives, insha Allah)........





In either case - we all realise there is a problem......if this was an infectious outbreak - then we are at Pandemic levels.
We agree.

Now we need solutions.
As brother Scimi mentioned, as muslims - our solution lies in taqwa and fear in Allah (subhanawataála).

But what about the rest?
How do we protect our kids from this?
The psychological impact of this, has far more lasting consequences on the young, developing mind.

In 2010, the minister of Home Affairs in South Africa proposed a ban on on-line porn (esp. that over cellphones).

http://www.iol.co.za/news/politics/b...igaba-1.485476


Unfortunately, not much has come of this.

In fact, in keeping with a society devoid of any sense of ultimate accountability or morals - just its suggestion, was met with unbelievable protest:

http://mybroadband.co.za/vb/showthread.php/236273-Internet-porn-ban-in-South-Africa



.......I need to find that cave soon, insha Allah.......:(



Salaam


Ps. has there been any similiar endeavours in other countries?
Would love to hear these, insha Allah.

[Pyrrhic]

Asalam-0-Alekum,
Thankyou every one who are raising this issue and asking questions on this topic. First i want to thanks Brother Scimitar who support me and post it here... Allah give him reward inshallah... Thanyou Scimitar, Who am i?, MustafaMc, Abz2000, luv4Allah, Zaria, SFatima, SaneFellow, Cosmicontuition, Silent Blade, Cosmicpathos, Galaxy, TrueStranger, Tragic Typos,Before i start talking about the solution i first want to tell you that Pornography is a weapon to dehumanize... Infact if you search about satanism and their rituals.... you will find that Pornography is a ritual, the audiance when watch that pornography....the ritual circle increase its size....spread more and more according to the number of viewers... forexample.. If i am watching Tuaf around the Kabba, or listning to Quran Verses... I have an impact on my soul, mind and body... In part 3 extented we discuss in the end about Child prostitution CIA and Satanism... I need your good advices and please correct me where you found me wrong... please share more information on this topic... I think enough is enough We have to save our genration from this Fitnah... If today we will stand then Tomarrow our Genration will be safe... Inshallah and Inshallah Our Genration will bring peace in this world... And will stand with Imam e Mehndi Elah salam... there will be peace and love in all over the world.... Asalam-0-Alekum .... Pyrrhic Victory...

[Pyrrhic]

Part 3 extended...

[Pyrrhic]

:sl:
last month, An indonasian Muslime girl had a agumentative fight on the pornography topic. I also want to share some questions regarding pornography, So by yours answers many readers will be helpful, to understand in a better way about pornography.


What is pornography?

Why it is dangerous?

Pornography is an art... Is like a human expression...Its in every human no one can deny its need...

Pornography can not hurt any one, its just an illusion... Its on people how they take different things...

There are many things forexample Gun is for protection usage but same way it also use for bad and illegal way...

(the most disturbing argument i hear) During Hajj, thousand of people died in Makkah...So people start banned it? No...

There are always been good and bad in every thing...it all depend on the usage...

so be open minded and become liberal (haha)

(then mostly people argu me that think open mindedly dont tell us from relegion tell us what science say)

and many other things....


So every one must have to answer and share your knowledge regarding these arguments.... so by your knowledge may be it will help some one...

pardon, for my bad english
:sl:

[Abz2000]

What is pornography?
It is male and female prostitutes being paid to commit debauchery with each other while it is being recorded by others, then the videos are sold and a portion is handed to the government.
πορνογραφία (pornographia) derives from the Greek words πόρνη (pornē, "prostitute" and πορνεία - pornea, "prostitution"), and γράφειν (graphein, "to write or to record", derived meaning "illustration", cf. "graph"), and the suffix -ία (-ia, meaning "state of", "property of", or "place of"),
thus meaning "a written description or illustration of prostitutes or prostitution".



If they try telling you it's good, just ask them if they'd find it ok if someone asked their mom or daughter to participate (be careful they don't attack you for the suggestion).

Many people fall into that trap and suffer, to condone it is another issue altogether.

Pornography can not hurt any one, its just an illusion... Its on people how they take different things...

They may want to ask themselves why they think it's ok for the goverment to ban the tv channels from displaying the recorded atrocities they carry out, since it's "just an illusion" and the viewer is not being hurt. I actuality it is known that people have nightmares and seizures due to graphic scenes so it's not just an illusion.

It works on the brain like a drug, just like extreme conditioning it can change the consciousness and perception of the victim.

(the most disturbing argument i hear) During Hajj, thousand of people died in Makkah...So people start banned it? No...

There are always been good and bad in every thing...it all depend on the usage...

The fact is that it is bad and not good, people take their mothers and daughters on hajj,
I'm pretty certain that porn pushers don't take their mothers and daughters to participate in prostitution on video - then again some of them are sick in the head and might even do it!

so be open minded and become liberal (haha)

Again, Liberal with their mom - or with their daughter?
It's the argument that works best, and makes them show that they believe its wrong when they feel insulted, but u have to be careful they don't attack you.

The thing with Islam is that we want it for ourselves and for our families,
But these hypocrites just condone other people's women doing it and try to justify their evil acts.
I sometimes watch boxing But at least I admit that it's evil to make people almost kill each other for money and fame, and prefer if it wasn't pushed as good.
My nephew who condones it and says "so what, if they wànt to do it, let them fight and kill each other", wouldn't most likely let his younger brother or child do it and would rather educate them. That's the big difference, we want Islam for ourselves, our families, and for others

(then mostly people argu me that think open mindedly dont tell us from relegion tell us what science say)

They say that because of their experience with and or perception of other religions,
Which are solely spiritual and leave the political and scientific realms to the tyrants and corrupters.

Islam is a complete code of life which incoeporates science, politics, hygiene, manners, conduct, relationships etc. it doesn't pander to their false and narrow understanding of the term "religion".

[Pyrrhic]

Mashallah brother Abz2000 well said and well define... But there is still we need detial about the answers for example....
pornography dont harm any one these are the fantasies... Its on people how they take different things...
In part 9 in first 50 seconds there is a better answer....



From part 9 pyrrhic series...
"Fantasy has a tendency to remake the world in its own image. So the harmless porn voyeur can turn into a rapist with a gun. For his fantasy is governed by mostrous myths and illusions "that women wish to be raped? that children are waiting to be awakened to sexual pleasure? or that violence is a natural right????"

Now the second thing you have said"I'm pretty certain that porn pushers don't take their mothers and daughters to participate in prostitution on video - then again some of them are sick in the head and might even do it!"thats right... But our inocent children who dont have knowledge about these things they easily become prey of these kind of open minded or liberalism.... Unfortunate we did nothing to provide a safe future for our next genration... Allah show us the right path... But i need more debate on this topic... As brother Abz2000 Mashallah explains... I need every one to hear from them... say repetitive things if you dont have....but atleast share some thing....regarding this topic...ask questions...i am working on the last part "Solution of this fitnah" inshallah...but before that i need more and more knowledge regarding this fitnah...May be some one little advice or sharing can change many people life....so please share it from the start..what you think what is pornography? it dont harm any one its just an illusion or fantasies... Its all depend on the people how they use... its a human expression...its in every one...be liberal be open minded... prove its wrong by any scientific proof....etc....

[Abz2000]

here's a set of videos detailing the physical effects it has on the brain and other parts of the body - including how it throws the opiate center off balance and ruins ones natural interactions and motivations:

i have posted all parts other than part 1 due the debauched images that appear otherwise

[Scimitar]

This is excellent, bro Sanefellow sent me this link...

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?111880-Addiction-to-Porn-amp-Masturbation-Islamic-Remedy

Contains advices on how to deal with porn addiction. I gave it a read and found it to have some excellent advices for those affected.

Scimi

[~Zaria~]

i am working on the last part "Solution of this fitnah" inshallah...

MashaAllah brother,

May Allah reward you abundantly for all your efforts. Ameen.


The 'Solution to Porn'? - My personal opinion:

We are not going to be able to curb this disease to any great extent unless there is limitation of access to this type of material on-line.

The problem with this type of addiction - from the eyes of the kufaar, the muslim who is weak in taqwa, the adolescent - is that to THEM, self-pleasure is possible, without resorting to a 'greater' form of zina, e.g illicit relationships, prostitution, etc.

The long-term effects of this behaviour on the mind, the destruction it causes to ones soul as well as families - these advices may be heeded by some.
As well as the calls to fear Allah Taa'la and be aware that He is the All-Seer, the All-Knower and that one day we all going to be accountable for our actions and deeds, even it be a mustard weight in measure.
SubhanAllah.

The problem is that for the majority, and esp. minors - this is unfortunately not sufficient to keep one away from something so stimulating and addictive, esp when it comes with no (immediate) strings attached.
We are living in a 'Me', 'Me', 'Me' society - that has little respect for the long-term or 'unseen' damages that results from many of our actions.
And a society that is fast becoming completely devoid of a moral compass.
Without the realisation of ultimate accountability, why would anyone ever care about anything but themselves?

Personally, I think we need to form collective forces in each country - consisting of all religious bodies, political leaders, doctors, psychologists, family and marriage counsellors, parents, teachers and anyone who is remotely interested in addressing this issue.

Why?

For the sake of our children, our future society, our women, our ummah.

Together - pressure needs to be applied to the powers that be, to work towards either a ban on on-line porn, or at least restricted access (esp. via cell-phone networks which are the number 1 means of exposure to our youth).

Without removing the garbage, the flies will always be present.

And without making it really, really difficult to get hold of this type of material - we are simply caught in a vicious circle that is just growing by the day.

This problem has already spiralled way out of control.
We are a few decades late in addressing solutions to this.

But better late than never.
Insha Allah.

Ameen.


Salaam

[Pyrrhic]

:sl:

Mashallah sister, Zaria well said... but when you said that

"Personally, I think we need to form collective forces in each country - consisting of all religious bodies, political leaders, doctors, psychologists, family and marriage counsellors, parents, teachers and anyone who is remotely interested in addressing this issue."


you said it right, but let me share my thoughts regarding this issue... these things are with human's life if u see the begning and till now... But it never ever get so worse and so dangerous in the history of human life... Pornography is not a normal thing... its more abnormal more attractive I mean its like a rain and we are in an open ground and there are very few people who are under the shelter(by the lessing of ALLAH)

Mostly people are enjoying that rain and laughing on those who are hidden under shelters...But they dont have any idea that rain contain dangerous chemicals....After some time...the man who remain much time in that rain...he get effected by those dangerous chemicals.... hm... Inshort Pornography is a system of Dajjal... Yes he interact with his servents... i can not say the followers because he has so much proud and so high his meanness and he is cruil and he love violence... he hate humans especially women... so followers have some respect but the way he treat lol that is pethetic and violating against humanity.... the real thing behind this all is that he knows his own end...how dajjal is going to be dead... But before that he
has a time...Allah give a period....till the judgement day... I remember that one of the servent of Dajjal said..that O people said that Hazrat Essa elah salam will return to this world and every thing will be calm and there will be peace and blessing...NO... Its not easy job... We made a hell on this earth and its not
easy we have control people...countires...no one can stand with them....there are unlimited hurdles for them....so on and so on....(by the way these people are the world most dumb, phetic and losers i have ever seen haha they know their end but still belive on satan promises haha fools one...) So now they know that time have come of the Arrival of Imam e Mehndi elah salam and Hazrat Essa Elah salam.... So why not build a mirror against humans...build each human clone so they fight against themself... So lets create Pornography fitnah for them... Now if you wanted to stand with Imam e Mehndi and Hazrat Essa elah salam....then first win a war against your self.... Thats how Pornography fitnah works... now you have to
fight against you... its never been an easy war.... because you live with yourself each and every breath...each single second you know about yourself... you can not hide any stragy against yourself... So if you kill your self you also be killed... The people the fallowers .... who will stand with Imam e Mehndi elah salam and Hazrat Essa elah salam... they need to be strong characters... Their hearts are full of emaan... they have a strong relationship with Allah... Their spirtual health.... i mean all those qualities can be remove in person by pornography fitnah...



I think we should now wakeup.... from this hypnatism...from this illusions...fantasies... Its how unfortunate and shamefull that we cant do anything for our childrens...and if we act like this just create a post having some coments and posts...create a series oh i did my job now what i do...have fun and enjoy...What can i do now? its not my responsibility i have my own responsbility.... what i can do, i did...now what you want...what we do tell us the solution.....i mean i dont know what to say but just wakeup... enough is enough... we lost so many genrations...who fall in this pornography fitnah... Doctors..familes...teachers..government.... ahhh no one did nothing... i personaly if talk with kids...who are caught in netcafe...while watching this stuff and if i say that this is wrong... when i told the whole story...Mashallah they change...not only they change...they change others...so the light spread and darkness remove.... Our children are so good... if they know the reality of this porn...rahter its christian...Budhist...Hindu...even atheists...they will stand against this pornography fitnah.... Its just about the awarness... Truth will win inshallah... Dont be afraid... of illuminati or secret socities....haha they know their end... Its the truth... they belive on satan promises and satan never fullfill his promises...Because satan itself a foolish who said no to Allah and now he is trying to prove his hate and jelousy against humans... Any way...Inshallah our children our genration will stand with Imam e Mehndi elah salam...with Hazrat Essa elah salam.... Inshallah there will be peace and love in this world... inshallah....ameen Allah give us Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W love and forgive our sins and safe us from the fitnah of Dajjal and satanism...



Warning: hahaha Pardon for not having good english...but i try my best to share some thought... regarding this issue.. there may be many mistakes in english... so if any one misunderstand by my word pardon for that...

Asalam-0-Alekum.....

[Pyrrhic]

[~Zaria~]

Assalamu-alaikum,

I fully agree with you brother Pyrrhic.
And it is honestly heart-warming to see someone, a male more-over, to be so passionate about this problem, and actually try to make a difference.
MashaAllah Akhi.
Every big change, began as small changes, by a few motivated and inspired people.


I just wanted to share the letter below.
I had sent this to a certain car fanatics forum (whom ive kept anonymous) back in 2010, when I realised that it was providing freely available XXXXX-rated material to its members (who btw, also include minors interested in cars).
(I will not go into the details as to what eventually made me write such a letter.......but at the time, I felt it was something I had to do - so that even if it failed, I could tell myself that at least I tried.......)

Hi,

I am new to this site, but i have in the past had access to your forum via my room-mate who is currently a member.

I write to you, out of concern and curiosity....

Why has such an excellent forum been degraded by the addition of freely available pornographic material??? I am aware that access is only permitted once 25 posts have been made - but is this some sort of 'reward' for membership?

Perhaps you may or may not be aware as to the reasons of my concern:

1. Pornography is a rapidly increasing ADDICTION, due to its free availability on-line. (yes, this is unfortunately true...)

2. Its harms are well-known:

www.troubledwith.com/AbuseandAddiction/A000000775.cfm?topic=abuse and addiction%3a pornography and cybersex


3. Its degrading to women, including the female subscribers of this forum.

http://www.troubledwith.com/AbuseandAddiction/A000000775.cfm?topic=abuse and addiction%3a pornography and cybersex

....to name a few.

I realise that it is not your duty to keep the internet a 'porn-free' enviroment, and anyone can access just about anything with/ without your site. But, must even a car forum be a source of spreading this sort of filth around?

I personally know a few of the members as well...who agree that they would have never attempted to actively look for on-line pornographic material, but now engage in it because its right there,glaring at you in red, to 'open me and enjoy'!!
Also, do we realise that there are also under-aged members on this forum?

Again, I understand that it is not your moral obligation to keep the internet clean, and the administrators can not beheld accountable for the viewing choices of its members....but please take into consideration the above-mentioned points, and the fact that we are XYZ FANATICS- this is what members wished to share ideas about when joining the forum!

Can I humbly suggest the following:

- If the administrators are into porn,please do not share this habit with the rest of us. It can be enjoyed privately by those concerned.

- Im sure if a poll is conducted about this issue, the majority will say continue - men will be men after all, and it takes strong will-power to turn away from something so stimulating!
So, for those who wish to engage in it,perhaps a seperate invitation/ subscription can be sent to members....who can then 'drool', and share comments at an external link, by themselves.

- Better yet, keep an otherwise fanatastic,informative forum strictly to cars...as the name would suggest. By the way, it appears that the forum is breaking its own rules and conditions, that everyone agrees to when joining:

' By registering on this discussion system you agree that you will not post any material which is knowingly false,inaccurate, abusive, hateful, harassing, sexually orientated, threatening or invasive of a person's privacy, or any other material which may violate any applicable laws.'

Thank you for taking the time to read this.I have not posted this on the forum intentionally, as I believe that this is an issue that the administrators need to look into, not its members.

Regards,

A XYZ Fanatic

Almost a week later, I received a reply by the administrators - stating that this section of the forum will no longer be available to members (unless one specifically wrote into to admin, requesting a password for access).

Yes, it was a very small change to that local forum.
But it now meant that minors who frequented the site, no longer were exposed to such images by default and that one had to actively make an attempt of seeking it (which in itself could be quite embarassing to do).


The reason I am posting this, is to encourage everyone else to make the EFFORT to try and make a CHANGE.
It does not need to concern this matter specifically.......it can be about anything that you are passionate about.

No action is too small - if it is backed by passion and desire to see a certain outcome.

Anything is possible, by the will of Allah Taa'la.
Always remember that - but WE need to make an effort as well, to see change.



Wa-alaikumsalam

[Snowflake]

I think that perhaps we shouldnt assume of what is contained in this series. It is exactly the thought that its a man's thing and then men are inclined towards this that is wrong. Women are affected just as bad, but from a different angle. Its not about the naked women (and if u think that this is what this series has, that isn't true), that isn't even what porn is about, porn is the last of it, porn itself is a tool used for the main agenda here. To think that by making naked pictures and billboards go away, is making pornography go away, it is a misconception and for that reason alone I as you to reconsider and give this series an opportunity. You need to understand orchestration behind all of this properly, the more you turn away from what u need to know the more u blind yourself. How can you protect your future children and your future husband from this if you don't know how it works? Tell them too look down any time they see a woman? That won't work because that is not the only way we are exposed to this. You may not watch porn and have never been one to do so in your life, but that doesn't mean u don't have the mentality to an extent, that these people do, because everyone is exposed to it, on a daily basis. You cannot know white without black, and as I said if you don't know how this works exactly, you cannot fix it. You are in the medical field as you have mentioned several times, modern medicine and pharmaceuticals are involved here.

Watch the series ukhti. You will benefit from it, I promise. :)

-cOsMiC

Like Sister Zariah, I wasn't going to watch the vids either and was avoiding the thread until I saw in the 'Latest Posts' that sisters had been posting on it. I'm interested in what you said about modern medicine and pharmaceuticals being involved in the porn industry. But first I'd like to ask if the vids contain any indecent material (remembers 'the arrivals'). I don't feel it's necessary to expose yourself to indecent material to learn something beneficial. Hope you get what I mean? :)

[Scimitar]

Nothing indecent in this series sister. No nudity or anything so go ahead insha-Allah.

Also, the brother who made the series is also a member here now alhamdulillah - you can maybe VM or PM him any questions you might have. His username is Pyrrhic.

Scimi

[Snowflake]

^Thanks bro, and welcome to brother Pyrrhic. May Allah reward you increase you and us in goodness. Ameen.

[Pyrrhic]

:sl:
Mashallah, thankyou sister rose, and thankyou brother scimitar... I made this series for our youth, for family point of view, i watch it with my family first, and then i upload and share on internet....One by One, each episode... I can not add valgure scene because we are against these things... Allah forgive my mistakes, and my sins... Please correct me when ever and where ever you find me... Because i am here to learn and share with my Muslime brothers and sisters...
So please share your knowledge about this pornography fitnah, as Mashallah Sister Zaria share her deed against this fitnah... Mashallah Allah give you reward for this sister zaria... Peace and blessings... Asalam-0-Alekum

[Who Am I?]

:sl:

All I know is how it has affected me. I haven't looked at any porn in a while, but I still sometimes think about it and have visions of what I have seen. I had certain misconceptions about women because of porn, and these are things that I am still trying to get over.

[Pyrrhic]

:sl:
Brother who am i, you are not the only one who feel like this... this is the problem with the whole genration... the difference is, that some accept and others dont... Pornography is we know a dehumanizing weapon.. Its especially against the women... If we dont have strong women in our society then we dont have a strong society... If women is not protected, have no rights...then the rest of the society will suffer... Women is the most important thing for any sucessful society...Thats why in our Islaam... Our Islamic teachings teach us to protect women, give her equally freedom...so thats how we seen Great and legends and leaders because their Mother, sisters were strong... But unfortunatly we humans never understand how this big issue is... Unfortunatly Satan impower the male to dominate women in term of relgious or liberal way...in term to mislead women... But very unfortunate about pornography... I dont know if there any other fitnah remain against women and our childrens.... Satan always hate family.. against Marriages..

One thing i want to share with u inshallah very soon about pornography fitnah, That its really difficult... Because its solution is very and belive me very simple... Thats why it is really difficult... But If you inshallah you will be get out of it...Then coguratulations that inshallah you will defeat satan on any stage and Satan can not stop u to reach in heaven.... Mashallah dont worry we are the chosen one of last prophet Ummah.... We are special ... thats why you have to face this fitnah... I know the end and yes we know the end inshallah inshallah we will rest in heaven and Satan will burned in hell..... Just try ur best to fall in love with Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W.... Asalam-0-Alekum

[Who Am I?]

There are two halves to this, really. Two halves to the destruction of the family which has led to the degradation of our society.

Half of this is because of pornography. The other half I believe is because of the women's liberation movement. Ironically, it was supposed to help women, empower them, give them more liberty, and yet it has destroyed them, and destroyed men as well. Most people don't even realize just how bad it is. I myself didn't see it until recently. But now that I know, I can see how much it has messed up my own life.

[Pyrrhic]

:sl:
Brother please share your experiances of life and give us advice....

Here is a video...

[truthseeker63]

Single Men look at Pornography because they want a Woman.

[Pyrrhic]

Thats how satan play with human's weakness, But the most amazing part is that solution of these things are really so simple... But did you observe that on youtube, on internet there are thousand of conspiracy theories, this, That, what, We, they.... The fact is very simple but the servents of satans make it more complex, so the human remain confuse, So what i am trying to say is that They try to make truth, or solution more complex and creat fear...
Its natural your enemy will always enjoy your weakness.... If you wanted to survive then you have to become strong... Dont worry, Because you are the Ummah of Last prophet Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W.... so Satan will treat you special... The reality is that satan's tricks are so weak, Inshallah every thing will be alright, Pray for my health... As i get recover from illness inshallah we will end this issue once and for all.... Remember i am not here with an empty hands, Alhamdulilah we will find the simplest solution of this Fitnah.... Allah help us and forgive us and show us the right path.... Asalam-0-Alekum

[Who Am I?]

:sl:
Well I will say this: I turned to porn not because I wanted to, but because it was a matter of survival for me. I was lonely, I was angry about it, and I was depressed. I still had the same urges that any normal man has for a woman, only I didn't have a woman to help me deal with it. So I did what I had to do. I'm not proud of it, but it's the truth. I did what I had to do to survive.

Now that I have a woman in my life, I don't want porn anymore. I don't need it anymore. So now I am having to undo my base instinct when it comes to dealing with my urges for companionship. It is not easy, but it is something that I must do if I am to have a healthy relationship with this woman, or any woman for that matter.

[Signor]

WARNING:Mature READ Relating TO TOPIC
How Pornography
Harms Children

Excerpted in part from Kids Online: Protecting Your Children In Cyberspace
by Donna Rice Hughes (Revell, September 1998)

While there are many ways that pornography harms children, I want to assure you that every child who views pornography will not necessarily be affected and, at worst, traumatized in the same way. The effects of pornography are progressive and addictive for many people. Just as every person who takes a drink does not automatically become an alcoholic, every child who is exposed to pornography does not automatically become a sexual deviant or sex addict. However, since pornography has a new door to the home, school, and library through the Internet, it is important for us to look at the many ways that pornography can potentially harm our children.
Exposure to Pornography Threatens to Make Children
Victims of Sexual Violence

The Internet has proven a useful tool for pedophiles and sexual predators as they distribute child pornography, engage in sexually explicit conversations with children, and seek victims in chat rooms. The more pornography these individuals access, the higher the risk of their acting out what they see, including sexual assault, rape, and child molestation.

• Pornography's Relationship to Rape and Sexual Violence
  According to one study, early exposure (under fourteen years of age) to pornography is related to greater involvement in deviant sexual practice, particularly rape. Slightly more than one-third of the child molesters and rapists in this study claimed to have at least occasionally been incited to commit an offense by exposure to pornography. Among the child molesters incited, the study reported that 53 percent of them deliberately used the stimuli of pornography as they prepared to offend.
  
  The habitual consumption of pornography can result in a diminished satisfaction with mild forms of pornography and a correspondingly strong desire for more deviant and violent material.
• Pornography's Relationship to Child Molestation
  In a study of convicted child molesters, 77 percent of those who molested boys and 87 percent of those who molested girls admitted to the habitual use of pornography in the commission of their crimes.ⁱBesides stimulating the perpetrator, pornography facilitates child molestation in several ways. For example, pedophiles use pornographic photos to demonstrate to their victims what they want them to do. They also use them to arouse a child or to lower a child's inhibitions and communicate to the unsuspecting child that a particular sexual activity is okay: "This person is enjoying it; so will you."

Exposure to Pornography Frequently Results in Sexual Illnesses, Unplanned Pregnancies, and Sexual Addiction

As more and more children are exposed not only to soft-core pornography, but also to explicit deviant sexual material, they are learning an extremely dangerous message from pornographers: Sex without responsibility is acceptable and desirable. Because pornography encourages sexual expression without responsibility, it endangers children's health.
One of the grimmer consequences of adult-like sexual activity among children has been a steady increase in the extent to which youth are afflicted with venereal disease.In the United States about one in four sexually experienced teenagers acquires a sexually transmitted disease (STD) every year, resulting in three million cases of teenage STDs. Infectious syphilis rates have more than doubled among teenagers since the mid-1980s. More children contract sexually transmitted diseases each year than all the victims of polio in its eleven-year epidemic, 1942-1953.

Another obvious result of children involved in adult sexual activity is the increased rate of pregnancy among teenagers.
Research has shown that "males who are exposed to a great deal of erotica before the age of 14 are more sexually active and engage in more varied sexual behaviors as adults than is true for males not so exposed."One study reveals that among 932 sex addicts, 90 percent of the men and 77 percent of the women reported that pornography was significant to their addiction.

Exposure to Pornography May Incite Children to Act Out
Sexually against Other Children

Children often imitate what they've seen, read, or heard. Studies suggest that exposure to pornography can prompt kids to act out sexually against younger, smaller, and more vulnerable children. Experts in the field of childhood sexual abuse report that any premature sexual activity in children always suggests two possible stimulants: experience and exposure. This means that the sexually deviant child may have been molested or simply exposed to sexuality through pornography.

In a study of six hundred American males and females of junior high school age and above, researcher Dr. Jennings Bryant found that 91 percent of the males and 82 percent of the females admitted having been exposed to X-rated, hard-core pornography. Over 66 percent of the males and 40 percent of the females reported wanting to try out some of the sexual behaviors they had witnessed. And among high schoolers, 31 percent of the males and 18 percent of the females admitted actually doing some of the things they had seen in the pornography within a few days after exposure.

Exposure to Pornography Shapes Attitudes and Values

Most of us caring, responsible parents want to instill in our children our own personal values about relationships, sex, intimacy, love, and marriage. Unfortunately, the powerful irresponsible messages of pornography may be educating our children on these very important life issues. Just as thirty-second commercials can influence whether or not we choose one popular soft drink over another, exposure to pornography shapes our attitudes and values and, often, our behavior.
Photographs, videos, magazines, virtual games, and Internet pornography that depict rape and the dehumanization of females in sexual scenes constitute powerful but deforming tools of sex education. The danger to children stems at least partly from the disturbing changes in attitude that are facilitated by pornography. Replicated studies have demonstrated that exposure to significant amounts of increasingly graphic forms of pornography has a dramatic effect on how adult consumers view women, sexual abuse, sexual relationships, and sex in general. These studies are virtually unanimous in their conclusions: When male subjects were exposed to as little as six weeks' worth of standard hard-core pornography, they:

• developed an increased sexual callousness toward women
• began to trivialize rape as a criminal offense or no longer considered it a crime at all
• developed distorted perceptions about sexuality
• developed an appetite for more deviant, bizarre, or violent types of pornography (normal sex no longer seemed to do the job)
• devalued the importance of monogamy and lacked confidence in marriage as either a viable or lasting institution
• viewed nonmonogamous relationships as normal and natural behavior

Exposure to Pornography Interferes with a Child's
Development and Identity

During certain critical periods of childhood, a child's brain is being programmed for sexual orientation. During this period, the mind appears to be developing a "hardwire" for what the person will be aroused by or attracted to. Exposure to healthy sexual norms and attitudes during this critical period can result in the child developing a healthy sexual orientation. In contrast, if there is exposure to pornography during this period, sexual deviance may become imprinted on the child's "hard drive" and become a permanent part of his or her sexual orientation. Psychologist Dr. Victor Cline's findings suggest that memories of experiences that occurred at times of emotional arousal (which could include sexual arousal) are imprinted on the brain by epinephrine, an adrenal gland hormone, and are difficult to erase. (This may partly explain pornography's addicting effect.) Viewing pornography can potentially condition some viewers to have recurring sexual fantasies during which they masturbate. Later they may be tempted to act out the fantasies as sexual advances.
Sexual identity develops gradually through childhood and adolescence. In fact, children generally do not have a natural sexual capacity until between the ages of ten and twelve. As they grow up, children are especially susceptible to influences affecting their development. Information about sex in most homes and schools, comes, presumably, in age-appropriate incremental stages based on what parents, educators, physicians, and social scientists have learned about child development. But pornography short-circuits and/or distorts the normal personality development process and supplies misinformation about a child's sexuality, sense of self, and body that leaves the child confused, changed, and damaged.

Pornography often introduces children prematurely to sexual sensations that they are developmentally unprepared to contend with. This awareness of sexual sensation can be confusing and overstimulating for children.
The sexual excitement and eventual release obtained through pornography are mood altering. For example, if a young boy's early stimulus was pornographic photographs, he can be conditioned to become aroused through photographs. Once this pairing is rewarded a number of times, it is likely to become permanent.The result is that it becomes difficult for the individual to experience sexual satisfaction apart from pornographic images.

Most of us find it difficult to talk to our children about sex in general, let alone the harmful effects of pornography, as graphically described in this chapter. We want to protect the innocence and purity of childhood.

Source:http://www.jamiat.org.za/index.php?o...ding&Itemid=63

[Pyrrhic]

:sl:

Brother "Who am I" Dont missunderstand my words, Remember you are just reading my
sentences, not viewing my physical emotics... So there can be confusions... I read your argu
about Pornography, that you watch because you were lonely, and angry and depressed.... The
most meaningful and important or your finalizing sentence...that I did what i had to do to
survive... Unfortunately Satan make us to think that your benafit is in that thing, If you want to survive you have to adobe this Dajjali Culture.... thats not only your thinking, thats the mostly men argu and think... But Once you figure it out that its not a surviving kit, its a dehumanizing weapon...ahaaaa unfortunate, if you can see satan, Belive me He has a big smile on his face... Because he said me many times while i
was on the project that there are already thousands of videos and documents articles against
this pornography fitnah, what yours series going to do? He make fun of my english language in
comunication way and etc... But by the Blessing of Allah i made them... Alhamdulilah today i
am sharing and talking... i dont know where and how it ends but as i am breathing the same
way i am struggling and doing what i got a job... Brother... I am not here with empty hands...
Let me translate some thing with you regarding the solution..... Remember Dont confuse or
make it complex...thats satan trick ok... Its simple and inshallah it works inshallah Just i am
saying again Dont get confuse or mix things up ok satan will try it... i am saying again its very
Simple Dont allow satan to wisper in ur ear so he make this procedure more complex... it
works Inshallah

i am not saying you to start saying 5 time prayer or having fast... the first step is simple

1st Step, try your best to fall in love with Prophet Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W... read about
them, Think how they led their life, how they eat, how they Walk, how they speak, How they
sleep... Read about their life... Fall in love with Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W... until One day you
have tears in your eyes.... You must do this step until u start crying in Hazrat Muhammad
S.A.W's Love... (spirtualy you feel the conection between you and Prophet Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W, i cant explain in words)...

2nd Step, Sit alone aside where no one can see you, hide yourself from others and on your
knees and sit toward Kabah, Imagine that Allah is seeing you.... hm... share with Allah with
clear and loud voice, That Forgive me, My Allah i have no hope, no companion, No one who can
help me, except you, You are my Lord... If you deny me then on earth i have no shelter...
Please show me a way, Help me... I dont want to watch that pornography Fitnah, Save me..
(Remember say and share every thing which is in your heart, Dont think that its crazy or
childish, You have to become a child ok Share every thing) Remember you have to keep this
process until you start crying... and feel some spirtual way (i cant explain in words u will
automaticaly understand)

This is how you will make a relationship With Allah and his prophet Hazrat Muhammad
S.A.W... Now when you will feel spirtualy a conection between Allah and his prophet peace and
blessing Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W... Now you have to protect this relation... Remember when
you have a relationship then the satan will attack you more and more...So now how you are
going to protect this conection or relationship?

Step 3, 5 times prayer will protect your relationship or conection with Allah and Prophet Hazrat
Muhammad S.A.W... Remember Satan will make you fail he will bring you to pornography but
Dont miss prayers, for example if you fall in his trap, Dont worry, Just Do Gusal(Bath), clean
yourself, Do Wudu and say that prayer... In first time You probably fail, but when you will not
leave your prayer then satan will be disapionted...

Tips Clean your heart from all kind of greed, or any bad thing... Forgive who do bad but
Dont do bad with others... Clean your heart... Inocent hearts will be embrace in Allah...
aaaaaaah haha inshallah next time because my hand is injured and Allah knows how i type
this all... Remember when ever and where ever you fail, Just Go back to the basics.... Dont
giveup... Yes you can not solve this problem...Only Allah can save you from this... Understand
that you are nothing... Dont worry, Mashallah you are the ummah of last prophet... Inshallah
Humanity will win against satan's hate Asalam-0-Alekum
Pray for my health

[Pyrrhic]

So is this is the end ? thats all!!!

[Scimitar]

Word in from Bro Pyrrhic:

Pyrrhic Victory saysWlykum Usalam brother scimitar
at last now i can take rest.
here i have new group members They will continue work against pornography
http://muhammadi.me/489/films/hijab-...mic-societies/
They r from pakistan
Alhamdulilah they have made a wonderful film on Pornography---Hijab--
its with subtitles

and here it is:

The story of Hijaab VS Indecency

Language: Urdu // Subtitles: English


Scimi

[Pyrrhic]

Thank you brother scimitar... Here a new part in which we will take a quick look on the solution of pornography. You tube have 15 minutes limitation so i sumup in a quick way... Thank you all for being with me on this Journey against pornography fitnah
:sl:

[Scimitar]

Well done Bro Pyrrhic, the victory shall be ours - Ameen.

I got so much respect for you akhi, you never gave up on the one topic people shy away from. Your determination to bring to light , issues which are hard to even consider on a personal level - into the mainstream, is very commendable. Kudos bro, that must have been pretty difficult a project to work on. Granted.

Keep it up, I wanna see The Solutions series.

Scimi

[Pyrrhic]

Well done Bro Pyrrhic, the victory shall be ours - Ameen.

I got so much respect for you akhi, you never gave up on the one topic people shy away from. Your determination to bring to light , issues which are hard to even consider on a personal level - into the mainstream, is very commendable. Kudos bro, that must have been pretty difficult a project to work on. Granted.

Keep it up, I wanna see The Solutions series.

Scimi

04-19-2012 and now its 6-23-2017.

I travel almost all around the world. I mostly analyse arab countries. I saw drunk arabs who are busy in bargaining with prostitutes. Mostly are from Saudi arabia. I saw arabs from royal families spending their money on wine and girls. I hate to say but religion is just a weapon to control or blackmail poor. Rich don't care about anything. I was invisible between different people. I work with team. We successfully encourage governments to ban pornography. Secret agency enter in you computer... Once you click on porn website. It's a paradise for hackers and its satanic against christianity and other religions etc...

Unfortunately, All we have now is disappointment. Every one left. Who own this club (world) they are back. Porn websites can't be blocked. You need huge resources. They are all back. I thought by banning it. That's the solution. But we are nothing but tiny fish in a big sea.

I get a lot emails and they ask the same question about solution. hahaha i always tell young ones to get marry. But we people, unfortunately. Yes very unfortunately made marriage a business. It's much easier to get escort than marriage. Marriage is the most impossible thing now.

Scimitar my dear brother, I never smoke or drink or commit any crime. I earn 3000 usa dollar monthly. I am 27 year old now. I try my best to get married. But i get no luck. It's difficult for me. But in my case, My life is full of miracles. I saw things which very few people have seen. Its painful. Heartbroken. The more you know. You become less happy.

Marriage is not solution. It's another complex thing. I don't know what to say right now. My body shake When i see innocent young generation is watching hardcore, unhealthy, satanic rituals. Muslims leaders are shamefully corrupt. We fail to protect our next generation. Never giveup. Believe on Allah. Believe on the words of prophet Muhammad S.A.W. Imam e Mahdi R.A will rise and darkness will be vanished. We are almost there. After all it was a pyrrhic series. Its incomplete. But at least we try our best. Raise some awareness. We ask some questions. Atleast....

[anatolian]

...But i get no luck...

Salam bro. What I have learnt in my simple life is nothing is luck or lack of luck. Allah has a plan with me and everything I live is a stone on this road. At least I look at it from this perspective. I was also unsuccesful but I try to learn from it. I suggest you the same. May Allah make it easy for us.

[Abz2000]

This is a topic that many respected people avoid getting into as it indirectly implies that they are familiar with it - even though most if not all people of this audio visual age have encountered it and many have had to go through struggles to climb out of it.

From my personal experience :omg: (don't look at me like that - I've been through worse...). The less one thinks about pornography, the less of a problem they have in having to resist it.
Focusing on the injustices that take place around the earth increases a believer's reliance on Allah and thirst for justice and will to put things right, and if one risks their life and expends their time and efforts in Allah's path, and in struggling to think more broadly, they find it abominable to let all their efforts go to waste, and the thought of debauchery repels them. People hate to let go of what they strive hard for.

The more you think about fighting it, the more place it takes up in your mind, and since it is a hack on the most powerful basic instinct of a human being, it is essential to find better activities to elevate one's mind and draw near to Allah.
I noticed this Ramadan that I was diverting my glance more even on what is these days considered "normal" news bulletins, and I've noticed that even some muslim majority country news channels prefer to tart up their reporters in order to please the eyes (dunno if those dumb models are aware that the d#$k sometimes gets pleased too), and had to flick through even terminator movies out of repulsion (blow spit three times to the left lol) - again, apparently a result of the increased taqwa of Allah gained by sacrificing personal needs and desires for Allah's sake, since Allah takes priority and Master status in the mind and you don't want to do anything that might displease Him and render all your efforts vain.

So yes, again, I think it's about utmost focus and effort - not on resisting evil - but on doing good, since a craving mind can seek out multiple ways of finding trash if it sets itself on finding it, and the more effort it makes, the more center stage it takes in the mind.


يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِن تَنصُرُوا اللَّهَ يَنصُرْكُمْ وَيُثَبِّتْ أَقْدَامَكُمْ {7

047:007
:
O you who believe! If you help (in the cause of) Allah, He will help you, and make your foothold firm.

[Scimitar]

04-19-2012 and now its 6-23-2017.

I travel almost all around the world. I mostly analyse arab countries. I saw drunk arabs who are busy in bargaining with prostitutes. Mostly are from Saudi arabia. I saw arabs from royal families spending their money on wine and girls. I hate to say but religion is just a weapon to control or blackmail poor. Rich don't care about anything. I was invisible between different people. I work with team. We successfully encourage governments to ban pornography. Secret agency enter in you computer... Once you click on porn website. It's a paradise for hackers and its satanic against christianity and other religions etc...

Unfortunately, All we have now is disappointment. Every one left. Who own this club (world) they are back. Porn websites can't be blocked. You need huge resources. They are all back. I thought by banning it. That's the solution. But we are nothing but tiny fish in a big sea.

I get a lot emails and they ask the same question about solution. hahaha i always tell young ones to get marry. But we people, unfortunately. Yes very unfortunately made marriage a business. It's much easier to get escort than marriage. Marriage is the most impossible thing now.

Scimitar my dear brother, I never smoke or drink or commit any crime. I earn 3000 usa dollar monthly. I am 27 year old now. I try my best to get married. But i get no luck. It's difficult for me. But in my case, My life is full of miracles. I saw things which very few people have seen. Its painful. Heartbroken. The more you know. You become less happy.

Marriage is not solution. It's another complex thing. I don't know what to say right now. My body shake When i see innocent young generation is watching hardcore, unhealthy, satanic rituals. Muslims leaders are shamefully corrupt. We fail to protect our next generation. Never giveup. Believe on Allah. Believe on the words of prophet Muhammad S.A.W. Imam e Mahdi R.A will rise and darkness will be vanished. We are almost there. After all it was a pyrrhic series. Its incomplete. But at least we try our best. Raise some awareness. We ask some questions. Atleast....

Pyrrhic so good to read you again - get in touch with me here: www.youtube.com/DawahDigital - i'm done with forums bro, waste of time - i'd rather walk the walk than waste time talking.

Scimi

[cinnamonrolls1]

The porn industry is horrible. It creates unrealistic standards for men and women and also theres a lot of abuse actually happening the the "actors" as well.

[CalmPassenger]

Wow, Who made this series. I am speechless. This is really amazing. Good job bro.