Can't make wudu

[anonymous]

Assalam Alaikum brothers and sisters,

Every day, I make istinja and wudu five times because I get vaginal discharge (because I am female) continuously. A few days ago, something red appeared on top of my right eye and it hurt when I touched it. It went away and the same thing appeared today on the bottom of my right eye. My mom is a nurse so she told me that it was some kind of... I can't translate the words from my language to English. But she told me to stop making wudu, meaning stop praying for a while, because this can affect my bladder. I don't want to stop praying, but she said that her brother's friend continuously made wudu when she was young to pray and now, the doctors told her that she couldn't have a baby because her bladder wouldn't handle it. That really scares me. I really do not want to stop praying but that scares me.
What do you think I should do?

The thing is, I am not knowledgeable on the istinja part. I have searched on so many sites on if women should just redo her wudu when she gets discharge or redo istinja and wudu. I also heard that washing the private area with water a lot can affect it and I make istinja five times a day or more:/ I searched if we could use toilet paper but most sites said that we should use water. I have no one to answer these questions for me.

Please help brothers and sisters. I am very sorry that I am posting this with such inappropriate words.
Thank you for your help.