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wafiya
07-30-2012, 09:21 PM
Salaam

Things have not been so good, I feel like life is drowning me, I feel as if there are so many problems at once and I can't seem to handle it, I find myself wanting to cry all the time, even now when I write this I cry, I ask Allah to give me strength,I make dua as much as I can, but more and more issues arrive, Im finding it hard to cope.


I just want all of this to stop, I want to smile and be happy but something is pulling me down, I find myself being trapped in a hole and there is no escape.

I ask you all for your duas for me.
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Qurratul Ayn
07-30-2012, 11:49 PM
:wasalamex

O my dear, dear Sister wafiya :cry:

This life is first and foremost a test from Our Lord. You have to be strong and find the courage to carry on. There is always a light at the end of a tunnel and whatever Allaah does, Allaah does for the best. ALWAYS

I'm pretty sure all of us experience the situation you are in at least once in our lives. Do Dhikr, make Du'a as much as you can, read the Qur'an, listen to recitations, read all your Salaah including Nafl and Tahajjud, they will help :) Insha'Allaah the hardship you are facing shall come to pass.

Keep making Du'a always, don't worry. And SMILE, it will be hard but worth it :)

*BIG HUG*

Ma Salama
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BlissfullyJaded
07-31-2012, 12:35 AM
Wa alaikum asalaam,

I understand your feelings, but try to be optimistic. It's tough, but try. So many people did not live long enough to make it to Ramadan, and depressing thought but you don't know if you will live long enough to see the next one. So, while it's here, make the most of it. Make dua before opening your fast, make dua in the last third of the night especially more so on the last ten nights, make dua after completing a khatam al Quran. There are soo many opportunities for your pleas to Allah to be accepted, so try to stop being sad and thank Allah that He has blessed you with this moment.

After hardship there is ease. Even when things seem darkest, and you're trapped in a situation, only Allah can help you out, and He will help you out.

"Allâh burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. "Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us; our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us Forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Protector, and give us victory over the disbelieving people." [Surah Baqarah: 286]

May Allah relieve you from all that you suffer, may He make your trials a source of immense reward waiting for you on the day of Qiyaamah, and may He make you a stronger person because of it. Ameen.
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Innocent Soul
07-31-2012, 12:39 AM
Assalamualaikum

Sister remember that everything that happens has a reason and also gives you a lesson. Hardships make you strong and you become capable of facing any trials which are on your way. Allah will give you the reward for everything.
Read these verses of Quran and you will feel good and read them whenever you feel like crying. Sorry to make this post so long.

I will not let the deeds of any doer among you go to waste, male or female-you are both the same in that respect. Those who have left their homes and were driven from their homes, and [who] suffered harm in My Way and fought and were killed,
I will erase their bad actions and admit them into Gardens with rivers flowing under them, as a reward from Allah. The best of all rewards is with Allah.
(Surah Al 'Imran: 195)

When you feel you cannot take it any more, complain to Him and Him alone, then wait patiently until he answers your supplication. Seek solace with the supplication of Yaqub (AS) over his son, Yusuf (AS),
“Indeed I complain of my grief and sorrow only to Allah…”
(Quran 12:86)

"And Allah wants to lighten for you [your difficulties]; and mankind was created weak."[Al Qur'aan 4:28]

'So do not become weak, nor be sad'- (Qur’an 3:139)

The blessings of happiness and sorrow; both are from Allah.(Quran, 53:38-43)

"And strive for Allah with the striving due to Him" [Surat Al Haj 22:78]

"And never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy" [Surat Az Zukhruf 43:62]

'Be not sad, surely Allah is with us.'- (Qur’an 9:40)

'So do not become weak, nor be sad'- (Qur’an 3:139)

'O you who believe! Seek help in patience and the prayer.'-(Qur’an 2:153)

'Verily,with hardship there is relief'- (Qur’an 94:6)

'Verily,in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.-'(Qur’an 13:28)

'Remember Me; I will remember you'- (Quran 2:152)

Indeed, We have made that which is on the earth adornment for it that We may test them [as to] which of them is best in deed. [Surah-kahf:8]

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wafiya
07-31-2012, 09:36 PM
I can't fast, I had a major operation a day before ramadam, it requires me to eat and drink so I have a better chance of recovering, I feel so guilty that I can't fast. I've been reading the Qur'an everyday 20 pages per night, I can't speak to my husband about how I feel because he will say there are people in this world who have nothing, but he is right, I feel guilty and like a spoilt brat for how I feel, the problems seem to be becoming a problem in my dreams iswell, I feel like I have the shaytan perched on my shoulders, Ya Allah I beg of you give me strength.

May Allah bless you all for replying.
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Hamza Asadullah
08-15-2012, 05:55 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by wafiya
Salaam

Things have not been so good, I feel like life is drowning me, I feel as if there are so many problems at once and I can't seem to handle it, I find myself wanting to cry all the time, even now when I write this I cry, I ask Allah to give me strength,I make dua as much as I can, but more and more issues arrive, Im finding it hard to cope.


I just want all of this to stop, I want to smile and be happy but something is pulling me down, I find myself being trapped in a hole and there is no escape.

I ask you all for your duas for me.
:sl:

My sister the way we can get through hardships and difficult tests that we may be going through in life is to firstly internalise in our minds that this life is a test ground and we are in an examination but we do not know when this examination will end but whilst the examination is taking place we are being rigorously tested and at times we are tested until breaking piont just to see whether or not we will turn towards Allah or go away from him.

We must also internalise that Allah ONLY tests those who he wants close to him. Therefore the tests that we go through in our lives clearly show Allah is wanting us to turn towards him and be closer to him. This is in fact a great privelage. The greater the tests we go through the more Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hereafter.

Therefore if we really want to know the best way to approach huge trials and tests then we should simply realise that the bigger the tests we are going through then the higher Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hererafter. Trials are a truly blessing in disguise. All Allah wants from us is for us to turn towards him in meekness and humbleness and for us to be patient and to turn to him in prayer and dua. Picture that fact that Allah loves it when his servant is in desperate need, crying to him for help for Allah tends to those who cry and sob to him immediatley just as a mother tends to its baby promptly when it is crying.

We should also internalise the fact that tests actually differentiate us believers from one another in terms of ranking in the eyes of Allah and therefore we should know that those who are tested and are patient are forgiven of their sins as sins falls off a person who is patient through trials just. Therefore we should realise that us being tested with trials and tests will NEVER go unrewarded for Allah rewards how much he wants to those who are patient through trials and those who turn towards him in humility and meekness.

It may be that a person who has experienced great trials in the world faces Allah on the day of judgement with little or no sins. So tests are a way of Allah forgiving a person of their sins so that on the day of judgement they have a much lighter load. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has called the day of judgement a "terrible" day and surely on this terrible day we would want as less sins as possible in our accounts if we are to be successful. Therefore these trials and tests are very important for us because they enable us to be forgiven for countless sins that would be a huge burden on us if it were in our accounts but due to the huge tests we faced with patience turning to Allah then it may be that we have very little or no sins at all on that day. The greater the trial the more sins fall off us. So know that even a prick of a thorn expiates ones sins.

We should also approach hardships and tests as in that it is the decree of Allah so we should NEVER ask Allah "Why" has he given us such trials? For questioning Allah why he has decreed something will mean that not only have we gone through so much grief and torment from these trials but that we have actually added to our sins by questioning Allah and we will be accountable for that.

Patience is one of the greatest attributes a person can acquire and Allah is with those who are patient and the reward for Patience is Paradise!

If one is patient, and is among the ones described in the following manner in the Qur’an (Baqarah, 2: 256)

Who say, when afflicted with calamity: “To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return”:-

Then here are the rewards Allah will give that person (2:157):

The Rewards of Patience are the folowing:

1. Blessings from Allah: The patient person is blessed by Allah.

2. Mercy of Allah: When Allah gives someone His Mercy, He will let him enter paradise with His Mercy.

3. Guidance of Allah: A patient person will be guided by Allah in this world until he meets Him on the Day of Judgment.

Referring to those who are tested and endure with Sabr or patience all of the above three rewards are mentioned by Allah Himself in the Qur’an in Surah Baqarah (2: 157):

“They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.”

In Surah Hud (11:11), Allah (S.W.T.) again promises to reward those who are patient in adversity.

Therefore let us realise that patience is the main thing Allah is looking for in us when we are going through trials and tests.

Here are two wonderful examples of patience through trials in the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) :

‘Ata ibn Rabah related that he heard Ibn ‘Abbas say: “Shall I show you a woman of Paradise?”I said: “Yes, indeed.” He said: “A black woman came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, and said: ‘I suffer from epileptic fits, and because of these, (at times) my body becomes uncovered. Would you invoke Allah, the Exalted One, to cure me of this disease? ‘ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: ‘If you wish, you can be patient and you will attain Paradise (for this suffering). But if you prefer, I will pray to Allah, the Exalted, to cure you of it?’ The woman said: ‘I will be patient,’ then added: ‘I become uncovered (when I have fits), so invoke Allah for me that I do not become uncovered. ‘ So the Prophet, peace be upon him, prayed for her.” [Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1a]

Story of ‘Urwah Ibn Al Zubair

‘Urwah Ibn Al Zubair had an operation, and the doctor amputated his leg. One friend came to visit him. ‘Urwah thought that the fried came to pacify him for the loss of his leg. So ‘Urwah told the visitor: If you came to give me condolence for the loss of my leg, I already submitted to Allah with patience to reward me for its loss. The guest told him, I came to inform you that your son fell down in a stable, and the animals stepped over him, and he died one hour ago. ‘Urwah said: O Allah! You took one child, and left me many…You took one organ from my body, and left me many organs…O Allah! You tested me with my body, and you were kind to leave me with good health. You tested me with the loss of my son, but you were kind in leaving me the rest of my children.


We should also approach tests as in we should look at those who have less than us. We have clean tap water and food on our plates everyday. We have clean clothes washed regularly and shelter from the harsh weather. Whereas there are those who walk miles just for a sip of water and even then it is dirty. There are those who have the same clothes for years and cannot even wash them. There are those who go days without proper food and even then they have scraps and end up being malnourished. There are those like in the flood disaster recently who have no shelter and are exposed to terrible diseases. Those who have little or no money to buy even basic things aswell as medication for their sick family members. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) always told us to look at those who have less than us.

Sometims when we go through great trials we get decieved into thinking that other people that we see around us must be living a life happy and content. We are wrong to think in this way for we do not know what goes on in peoples lives. There are many examples of those who seemed as though they have SO much and seemed so happy but when certain things were revealed then it was clear that those people were living miserable lives full of torment! We may look at a person with a smile on his face but he may be going through trials we can never imagine.

Therefore when we are going through difficult times and trials then we should not look at others and think they are happy and living fulfilled lives for we do not know what any person on the street is going through on a day to day basis.

Therefore whenever we are going through difficult times and trials then we should put our full trust, hopes, faith and reliance in Allah for he will NEVER let us down but is only testing us because he wants us to turn towards him in humility, humbleness and meekness and he wants us to get much closer to him. He tests a person because he wants good for them and wants to forgive them and raise their ranks in the hereafter.

In reality how lucky is a person who is being tested greatly and is still patient and turning towards Allah night and day. How hig must Allah be raising his ranks and forgiving his sins on a daily basis until he is like a new born baby who has little or no sins on him at all. So the way to approach this is to realise that a person who is being tested greatly is in fact lucky but shaythan is wanting one to think opposite.

Shaythan is our eternal sworn enemy and ONLY wants us to lose hope and faith and to go away from Allah. He wants us tobecome disillusioned and lose all hope so that we go away from Alah and our deen. But we should reject our enemy who only wants our destruction. We should disregard his evil whispers and know that they are only lies and deciet.

Shaythan will try to make us think that there is no way out of this and this is because he wants us to give in and lose hope. But we must realise that if we continuously strive and keep turning towards Allah and be patient then the final victory WILL be ours! We will taste the sweetness of victory but in order to taste this victory we need to fight and strive through the tests and trials that life throws at us!

If one who is going through great trials continues to turn towards Allah in humility, meekness and in humblenes then know that the reward one will gain will be unimaginable. On the day of judgement once we see the reward of being patient through great trials turning towards Allah in humility then we would want Allah to have tested us even more so that we could have wreaped the rewards of being patient and turning towards Allah through trials and hardships. It is only on the day of judgement will we truly realise how much we have missed out on and how much more we wished we were tested by Allah so that our ranks were even higher.

So the Reward of going through terrible trials and hardships immense!

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "On the Day of Resurrection, when people who have suffered affliction are given their reward, those who are healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world." (Al-Tirmidhi #1570)

So remember: Victory, relief and ease comes with patience through distress and hardship

Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress and ease with hardship.” (Reported by Ahmad)


Never question Allah "Why"?

We must also realise that whatever Allah has decreed for us is the best for us. Therefore we must put our Full trust in Allah and never question Allah as to why he has given us such trials and hardships. So if we are not patient through tests, hardships and trials - many of which may be due to our own actions - like if we complain to Allah why he tested us, then these tests and hardships will be of detriment to us as the condition for gaining such immense reward is through patience and we risk getting major sins instead of major rewards, as well as rsking going further away from Allah instead of closer to him.

We must also remember that Allah will never burden us with that which is not in our capabilities:

“Allah does not burden a soul with more than it can bear.” (Qur’an 2: 286)

Therefore let us realise that the bigger trials and hardships we go through in this life then the more rewards we will gain in the hereafter as long as we are patient and are constantly turning towards Allah.

In the hereafter when we see the rewards of going through trials and hardships then we will all wish that we wen through the WORST trials possible for the longest amount of time!

No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah's decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere it will never come your way but if it is yours by destiny from you it cannot flee. (Umar Ibn al-Khattab Radiyallahu Anhu)

May Allah make us patient through adversity, trials and hardships. Ameen

Finally: " Do not detest the misfortunes that befall you, for what you detest may be the cause of your salvation and what you like may be the cause of your ruin." Al-Hasan Al-Basree
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Hamza Asadullah
08-15-2012, 05:58 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by wafiya
I can't fast, I had a major operation a day before ramadam, it requires me to eat and drink so I have a better chance of recovering, I feel so guilty that I can't fast. I've been reading the Qur'an everyday 20 pages per night, I can't speak to my husband about how I feel because he will say there are people in this world who have nothing, but he is right, I feel guilty and like a spoilt brat for how I feel, the problems seem to be becoming a problem in my dreams iswell, I feel like I have the shaytan perched on my shoulders, Ya Allah I beg of you give me strength.

May Allah bless you all for replying.
:sl:

It is not your fault that you are not able to fast so do not be so hard on yourself. What you must do is to give fidya which is an expiation for not being able to fast. In order to know the fidya rate for each fast that you have missed you can contact your local, regional or national Muslim charity and they will advise you further. Apart from that there is nothing stopping you from gaining rewars similar to those who fast. So do not be so hard on yourself but ask of Allah during the last remaining blessed nights and days of Ramadan and he will assist you and NEVER abandon you in times of need. All that is required is for you to be patient and put your full hopes, reliance, trust and faith in him.

May Allah give you the best of this world and the hereafter. Ameen
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