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Dear brother, for any deed that we do to be accepted by Allaah (swt), it must fulfil two conditions. (1) The intention for doing it must be solely for Allaah (swt), and (2) it must be in accordance with the Sunnah of our Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam. When you come across any such advice as what you wrote in your post, you must check whether there is any basis for doing that in the Shariah. Look at the practice of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam, and his Companions, and follow their example in all matters. Our Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wasallam, taught us many du'as and many ways of seeking Allaah's (swt) help, and so the best thing we can do is follow his teachings as closely as possible and not turn to any means that he did not inform us of.
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
is His slave and Messenger.
Restricting the mention of Allaah to a definite number has two cases:
1- If specifying a definite number is reported from the Prophet
like saying
Subhaanah Allaah, Al-hamdu Lillaah and
Allaahu Akbar, thirty three times each after the obligatory prayer; in this case one should follow the number which is specified.
2- Specifying the mention of Allaah with a number which is not reported from the Prophet
; in this case fixing a number on a regular basis becomes a religious innovation.
Therefore, if the specified number which your friend told you is Islamicly determined, then you may act upon it, otherwise you should not restrict yourself to this.
Moreover, it should be noted that specifying a given mention of Allaah or a saying a given Name of Allaah before supplicating Allaah is a matter which requires religious evidence for it to be permissible.
What is religiously confirmed is that a Muslim should start his supplication by glorifying Allaah without limiting this to a given Name, exalting the mention of the Prophet
and then one should supplicate for his needs.
For more benefit on silent mention of Allaah, please refer to Fatwa
90985.
Allaah Knows best.
Regarding the link you posted, please do not use this website for any information. There is clear shirk written on that website, where they describe people like Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani as 'Ghaus-ul-Azam' and have several pictures of graves and shrines. As Muslims, we only turn to Allaah (swt) alone for all our help and needs, and it is forbidden to turn to any human being for things which only Allaah (swt) has control over. Going to graves to seek help from the dead is also expressly forbidden. That is why you should avoid such websites completely as their teachings clearly go against the Qur'an and Sunnah.
Turn to Allaah (swt) for all your problems you are facing. Here are some links regarding etiquettes of making du'a which I hope you will find helpful Insha'Allaah. May Allaah (swt) rectify all your problems and bless you with a happy marital life that is full of obedience to Allaah (swt), Aameen.
http://islamqa.info/en/ref/5113
http://islamqa.info/en/ref/36902
http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/in...twaId&Id=28845
http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/in...ang=E&Id=88296
http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/in...waId&Id=173763