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fronze
assalam alaikum brothers and sisters
I am a new muslim seeking for thruth and answers these are my questions: I HOPE ALL OF THEM CAN BE ANSWERED
1-IF I AM WITH A NON MUSLIM GIRL,MUST ,SHE HAS TO BE CONVERTED?( OBLIGATORY) I PERSONALLY WANT TO GROW AS A FAMILY AS MUSLIMS AND I'D LOVE THAT.
2- WILL SHE HAVE TO COVER HER HAIR?? WHY IS THAT NECESARRY OR OPTIONAL?
3-WHAT ARE MANNER FOR US ,AS FOR OUTSIDE, (EXAMPLE: SHE HAS TO WALK BEHIND ME ,ETC,ETC)
ALL ANSWERS AND EXTRA COMMENTS ARE HIGHLY APPRECIATED ,BROTHERS AND SISTERS.
Salamualkum
1. Why when you get married the person has to be on the same faith? First we have to ask ourselves what is the purpose of marriage? If you look at society the nucleus of every society is the family so if the family structure is good society will be good. Know if we are on a ship can the Captain and pilot go in different directions No. The Ship is one and can only go in one direction. So to be successful everyone that is working on the ship have to be united to reach their destination. Same in marriage you need to be united in Beliefs, principles morals, faith .. why because when you have kids if you want to raise them successful both of you have to be united in the way you raise them.
There is more detail but it will take many many pages. I read some really powerful articles and listen to video lectures on marriage (check out this site noora1.com) the marriage article and marriage series will be very helpful.
2. In Islam we can not force religion on anybody. But why do women cover up ? because their beauty is a privilege that only their husbands should have. And dressing modestly protects the person and the other people for evil thoughts and action. Do you really want other mean checking out your wife?
There was an article i read that was powerful regarding this topic if you google it you should find it (A letter from a Christian to Muslim Women By Joanna Francis) I recommend reading it.
3. As far as how to act in public be modest as far as showing affectionate try to keep it private within your home. But I do see people holding hands or if you are in a plane or bus your wife uses your shoulder as a pillow...simple subtle things should not be a problem.
Hope this information helps by the will of Allah. Please forgive me if I said anything wrong it is my fault. Any goodness in this post is from Allah.