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شَادِنُ
I am beginning to understand why having smaller number of contacts and almost an alienated life is better than what is out there..
yes, I have gone from being in a family that has literally hundreds of friends to a handful. The only quality I look for in my friends is that they are sincere Muslims and decent people and yet subhanAllah out of so many people that I have known only a few can I truly feel satisfied with as friends.
It has saddened my heart to realise how manipulative people, especially some women can be and it has shocked me to think that perhaps I have been so naive to all of the manipulation in the past.
A relative who was outwardly practicing, in niqab etc once went out of her way to make me do something I was reluctant to do, she kept on pushing me all day. My elders discouraged me advising me against spending money on such and such when there were so many poor people about. Later I discovered she was trying to make me do something first so she could ever after use me as a scapegoat and say 'she did it why can't I?'.
Then I realised she has been doing this for years driving a wedge between me and my parents.
She wears niqab, she teaches her children Quran she always talks about Islam as though she knows it inside out. And yet she is involved in this manipulative and scheming, underhand behaviour.
I am so disappointed in Muslims, there are those few of my friends though that I hold dear and I truly love them for their genuine love for Islam.
If only people would not deceive by their image - its become a fashion to wear niqab and black. It gives them the freedom to stare at men as much as they want and gossip and cause mischief all the while laying claim to being one of the 'most practicing' Muslims.
May Allah swa have mercy on all of us and keep us always guided.