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May Ayob
Al salam alaykum dear brothers and sisters,
There's something that's been bothering me for a while I really feel the need to let it out.....eversince I joined IB I was well very happy .....at first, I thoughof this place like a second home to me and that we're all a family .....but then I don't how to say it everytime I visit this place all I sense is afierce vibe of competition and hostility, everyone wants to refute the other, everyone wants to put each other down and ironically everyone wantsto put that picture of the perfect muslim and muslimah, why all this why can't we just get along and unite peacefully.I had to take a break fromhere thinking that things might have changed but apparently it's same old. Please don't get me wrong I'm not trying to criticise you guys but reallyI honestlydon't if it's just me whose there's something wrong or it's something else, but I think we should calm down and relax. If you hate me by now Iwould understand no one really wants to hear something like this butplease bear in mind that God knows I do not intend to offend you in any way.
I hope I'm understood correctly.
Walaykum alsalam.
Assalamu-alaikum ukthi,
I think you are very right.
When one considers the negativity, the endless debates that often lead nowhere, the unintentional injury to the feelings of others and the time that it consumes from ones life.......we should ask ourselves, is it really worth risking ones imaan and piece of mind for?
Which is why, I think its time for me to take a break from this forum as well.....
Once we realise that something is potentially causing harm to ones imaan - in whatever way, e.g. it is distracting you from the
true remembrance of Allah (subhanawataála), it is consuming precious time - that should be spent in the worship of Allah and actually serving the ummah (not in a virtual sense, but in actual life - e.g. to the orphans, sick and needy,etc).......then, insha Allah, it is time for us to step back and re-evaluate our goals in life.
I personally think that I am losing focus in this regard at the moment......;(
JazakAllahu khair to everyone who places sincere effort in their posts, whose intentions are not simply to be 'the winner in a discussion'......but to those, who sincerely hope to share beneficial knowledge with others, and insha Allah bring about some change (even if it is in a small way) in the readers heart.
I pray that my brothers and sisters can continue to learn and grow in imaan
with each other (and not
despite each other), and that we always, always remember: That even in writing, Allah azza wajjal is watching us and that the angels are recording each and every word.
I pray that we can love and tolerate each other, as brothers and sisters - despite our many differences of opinions (for this is what makes us all special, and what makes life interesting).
We may not truly know each other......but
even in this virtual world, we still need to show each other respect - as we would in real life.
I sincerely apologise to each and every member of this forum, who I may have hurt unintentionally.
Please forgive me for my short-comings and if I have said anything in error - then truly this is only from my own ignorance and my nafs. Any good that may have been said, is only a blessing from Allah (subhanawataáala) alone.
May Allah (subhanawataa'la) fill our hearts with love for Him, His beloved prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasalam) and for each other.
And may we Never forget our purpose in this dunya - our journey to our final home, and our return to Our Rabb.
As our life is extracted from us, one breathe at a time.....until there is no more - may we never waste any more time in fruitless discussions, but strive to spend it in the remembrance of Allah Taa'la.
Ameen.
xxx
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