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Samiun
I want to know the way to you know, the correct way to love a person. I mean if I get into this situation again in the future I can at least handle it inshaAllah.
"Do not love someone who is not yours because it will make you broken heart. But have someone, then love her with all your heart".
Frankly, when I was young I had a principle, it's better if I marry someone who love me than marry someone who I love. It's because I believe, it's easier to love someone who love me than make someone who make me fall in love to love me too. So, I developed my ability to control my feeling when I attracted to someone, and also I developed ability to love someone who can love me.
This is why I could solve problem like yours easily. When I attracted to someone I told myself "why should I love someone who is not mine? it will only make me broken heart". So, I could remove my feeling easily.
And this is why, when later I started to serious with my future I could get a wife easily, because I didn't fell in love to someone first, then tried to make her accept me. What I did just notice the girls who 'open the door' for me, consider, chose one, then love her with all my heart.
:)