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anonymous
(i am a young muslim man)
A muslim girl who I have had a crush on for so long(she is on the other side of the world) is now engaged. Ok i'll admit she is my cousin.. she's soooo beautiful.
I feel so sad :/ I hope she will be happy but at the same time I feel this means I will be single all my life.
If I cannot be with her then I am ok with being single for my whole life. imsad
It is weird, I felt the same way about my high school crush(she is christian) who told me she could never like me more than a friend, I felt ok thats fine Ill just be single for life...but this time I feel that sensation even more..
:salam:
Young hearts - they are often easily crushed, until they are toughened up by the ways of the world.
In shaa Allah, we can learn important lessons from our broken hearts:
That we should make every effort to lower our gazes.
If we just work on this - allow ourselves one permissible look, and then remember that Allah (subhanawat'ala) is watching and knows the contents of our thoughts and hearts, we will surely save ourselves from a lot of heartbreak and distress.
In other words:
'Protect your eyes, from whatever can poison your heart'.
So, do not grieve young brother.
What is meant to come your way, will not miss you. And what was not meant for you, will never reach you, no matter how much we try.
May Allah bless you with an even more beautiful wife - who is not only beautiful externally, but internally as well.
And who will reciprocate her love towards you, equally, for the sake of Allah.
Ameen
:wasalam: