Severe Depression

[anonymous]

Let me start off by saying I have a good life, materialistically. Great family, always had wonderful grades in school(could have been better even), and never been without anything(materialistic) I've needed. Though I was born with a few medical issues which required lots of surgeries over the years.

Depression has had a hold on me for so long. I feel sad, worthless, tired all the time. I get irritated and angry at nothing. I say things that hurt others and am mean to others, which I regret later.I push everyone away. I feel so helpless. I do not take care of myself. I am ashamed to admit, I go days without showering, brushing my teeth and other little things like that.

My depression started in childhood when I was rejected and unwanted by the kids at school. I tried my hardest to gain friends. I had always tried to gain the friendship of the boys, I did not care for girls. After being rejected and hurt so, I vowed I would never trust another guy ever again. So from that moment forward I only wanted girls as friends(there were a few girls in my elementary years who were sweet to me).. In middle and highschool I was socially awkward and just could not maintain any type of relationship with anyone that did not turn into drama. I always came on too strong or acted so weird. Even the other socially awkward kids in school did not like me. I was labeled as a flirt even though I never saw myself as one. Later I realized it was because of the way I complemented girls a lot, the reason was in hopes they would like me as a friend.There were maybe 5 or 6 guys I liked to talk to. School was all about friendship and trying to get people to like me. I never studied yet I had an 85 or above average. Could have been top 15 had I tried :/

I have only been to a school classmates house once in my life, and that was in college for a meeting because we had a group project. I almost had an anxiety attack, I wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible.

Since childhood food has been my saving grace., I have always been overweight. I eat when I am sad, which means I eat all the time. when I get upset or irritated I eat. I do not remember a time where I have said "I'm hungry" and I really was hungry... When I am eating I feel good, and feel horrible and fat right after the last bite.

I must admit that every single day(since middle school, am now in my late 20's), when I can, I stay in my room. I seclude myself from anything and everyone. In highschool I would get upset when my family wanted to go on vacation, I could not imagine not being in my room watching tv and eating..

After highschool I went to college but for the time I was not in school or studying, I have always stayed on the computer...trying to get people to like me on facebook and myspace(annoying people and probably making them feel uncomfortable) By this time I had pushed everyone away.

In 2008 I started playing Pirates of the Caribbean Online(POTCO). I had lots of drama, fun, and spent a lot of money and time in POTCO. I spent hours on this game,(and still do) secluded from everyone...This is the part about seclusion that upsets me the most, I secluded myself away from my parents whom I love more than anything. I also secluded myself from the "acquaintances" I had added on facebook..

I only started thinking about my health 2 years ago when my grandfather died from complications of diabetes that he had for over 30 years. I stopped drinking cokes when I noticed that they made my heart skip and made me feel so bad. I drank about 6 or 7 cokes daily before I quit. Now I only have a coke if I'm sick(it helps with coughing up the bad stuff) or I am really thirsty and there is no alternative.
I think of death sometimes, that if I was gone, no one would care. Truth is, they really would not care. I would NEVER hurt myself...unless a parent dies, when that happens, I will die :/ I cannot live without them <3

I am sorry if this is long I just wanted to pour some of my feelings out. Thanks for reading. That is all I can write now, if I think of more to share, I will.

[Abdul Fattah]

Aselam aleykum,

Well first off all, you need somebody to talk with and share your feelings. So while it's good that you came here, you might want to seek out people in real life as well. Which brings us to our first problem. You should break your vow. It is wrong and it's killing you. We all need somebod yto connect with (in a non-sexual way). Somebod ywilling to share our burden and allow us to vent from time to time. Yeah, chances are if you start connecting to other guys in order to make friendship, there will be allot of them who'll betray you. But your heart is not made of glass, you'll survive. There's no real danger there. The actual danger is building a brick wall around your heart. Before you realise, it'll be your heart itself which turns into stone! And moderation is key of course. I'm not saying you should give a 100% trust to the first person who says hi and bend over backwards. But take it one step at the time. Get to know people, and then each step along the way decide whether they are the kind of people you want in your life. And I realize this is easier said than done, I'm introverted myself, so I know this isn't as easy for everyone. But you will have to work on trusting people again.

Secondly, work on your self-esteem.
Somehow, your subconsciousness has got it in your head that somethings wrong with you. And I don't mean in the broad sense, like we're all imperfect and flawed. I mean like your subconsciousness is screaming that you're not good enough. This is of course contrasted with your rational observation where you have to admit; "Hey, I'm actually not that bad a person." But still, both ideas live inside you, and their struggle is wearing you down. Why are you subconsciously thinking this, and what can you do to stop this?

Thirdly, about the social akwardness. Yeah been there as-well. Most people have a good feel for the boundaries and unspoken rules in their gut. But if you're anything like me and don't have that, you can still acquire it! Well your self-esteem plays an important factor here, and once you feel neutral about yourself, your akwardness might dim down a bit by itself. But there's more you can do. Broaden your horrizons. Pick up some books on psychology, body language, and so on. Read some novels or even start watching diffrent genres of movies. Maybe something that focus on social interactions rather then complicated storylines. Like say, a show like desperate housewives? As your insight in human interactions and motivations broadens, eventually you might even build an intuitive feel for it. In fact; since you're not one of those who developed this naturally in childhood, taking it for granted; you have a unique chance, a blank slate to cognitivly build up an understanding of human interaction way beyond most people's perception.

[IbnAbdulHakim]

if i was you i would do the following as much as needed in this order



bath - prayer - raise hands in dua - quran - raise hands in dua - dhikr - raise hands in dua - go to local park (must be st least 30 mins walk) sit and gently breathe thinking nothing but Allaahu Allaah with eaach breath.



assalamu alaikum

[anonymous]

Thanks for the input both of you

I do feel better when I pray but then I fall off the wagon and do not pray...(because of masterbation,I cannot pray when I have masterbated it feels so hypocritical

also missing the prayer time and feeling like well I missed it, can't pray)

What is dhikr?? I don't speak arabic..and am new to many Islamic terms.

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[IbnAbdulHakim]

dhikr is repeating Allaahs namr and i assumed yiu had that problem. everything you mentioned in the opening post is a result of that problem. do your best to fight it

[Muhammad]

Assalaamu Alaykum,

There are various forms of dhikr (often translated as remembrance of Allaah), like reciting the Qur'an as well as various du'as or phrases from the Sunnah. Allaah :swt: says in the Qur'an (interpretation of the meaning):

Those who believed (in the Oneness of Allah - Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah: verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest. [Ar-Ra'd: 28]

Some examples of phrases:

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "There are two statements that are light for the tongue to remember, heavy in the Scales and are dear to the Merciful: `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi, Subhan-Allahil-Azim [Glory be to Allah and His is the praise, (and) Allah, the Greatest is free from imperfection)'.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "The uttering of the words: "Subhan-Allah (Allah is free from imperfection), Al-hamdu lillah (all praise is due to Allah), La ilaha illallah (there is no true god except Allah) and Allahu Akbar (Allah is the Greatest)' is dearer to me than anything over which the sun rises.''
[Muslim].

Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said to me, "Shall I tell you the expression that is most loved by Allah?'' It is `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi' (Allah is free from imperfection and His is the praise)'.''
[Muslim].

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "He who utters a hundred times in a day these words: `La ilaha illallahu, wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu, wa Huwa `ala kulli sha'in Qadir (there is no true god except Allah. He is One and He has no partner with Him; His is the sovereignty and His is the praise, and He is Omnipotent),' he will have a reward equivalent to that for emancipating ten slaves, a hundred good deeds will be recorded to his credit, hundred of his sins will be blotted out from his scroll, and he will be safeguarded against the devil on that day till the evening; and no one will exceed him in doing more excellent good deeds except someone who has recited these words more often than him. And he who utters: `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi (Allah is free from imperfection and His is the praise)' one hundred times a day, his sins will be obliterated even if they are equal to the extent of the foam of the ocean.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].


There are many others, including supplications that we have been taught to read at specific times.

More information here: http://abdurrahman.org/zikr/index.html
Good booklets for prescribed supplications: http://www.makedua.com/ and http://www.kalamullah.com/successful-day.html
Some useful material here: http://www.kalamullah.com/hearts.html and http://www.kalamullah.com/worship.html

May Allaah :swt: help you and grant you healing from all you problems, Aameen.

[~Zaria~]

:salam: brother,

The source of many of your troubles resides in your computer - access to inappropriate material, wasting time on FB, social networks and on-line games.
We can always try to treat the symptoms of a problem, but if we do not address the cause, then that problem usually remains.

While technology (such as the internet) has many benefits for man, it also carries very many harms.
When these harms out-weigh the benefits to an individual, and when we are unable to control our use of it.......then for the sake of our lives and our imaan, we need to distance ourselves from it (save for times of absolute necessity).

For one who suffers from alcoholism, he first needs to stop going to the bar/ pub as well as avoiding those friends who drink.
For the one who suffers from gambling, he needs to stay away from gambling outlets.
In the same way, the one who is suffering from so many harms directly as a result of the internet, then the best solution is to remove himself from its exposure.

Unless your employment requires the need for on-line access at work (it does not appear so from your post), or in the case of needing to email somebody - then you can honestly live a life free from its harms.

I suggest that you take your PC/ laptop - lock it away from reach/ give it to your parents, and tell them to only allow you access at times of genuine need (even better, if you go to an internet cafe' and pay for half an hour/ an hour of internet usage, when required).
Switch your phone to an older model - that only provides the facility of making calls (this is what a phone was meant for).

Wallahi, there was life before the internet.
If you need to stay informed of world affairs - then there are newspapers and the radio with news-channels.
If you need general information - then are books.

In shaa Allah, you will find, that once internet access has been limited to times of actual need, you will have so much more time on your hands.
You will not even desire to stay in your room as much, as the source of your distraction no longer exists.

In this way, you can in shaa Allah, start to focus on improving YOURSELF -
1. Join Islamic classes
2. Attend islamic lectures/ events that will be of benefit your deen.
3. If you reside near a masjid, then make the effort to read each salaah in the House of Allah.
4. In the 'empty' hours that you will now have - listen to islamic lectures (burn these onto a CD for use)
4. By changing your environment in the above manner, in shaa Allah, your heart will incline towards the remembrance of Allah, reading Quraan and focusing on the purpose of your life.
5. Health: take up an activity - e.g. jogging/ swimming.
6. Develop a skill
7. Seek employment (if you are not already employed)
8. Make time each week to visit the sick in hospitals/ elderly residents in old age homes.
9. [insert any other beneficial activity here]


Akhi, you have come here, seeking assistance to your problems.
If you really desire to see change in your life, then you need to make this change.


Remember:

"....Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves (in their hearts)" (Surat 13:11)


So, the intention and desire to turn your life around, starts with you.
And when Allah Taa'la sees His servants making sincere efforts in His path, in shaa Allah, His help, guidance and mercy is ever near.


:wasalam:

[Alpha Dude]

:sl:
Others have offered really good advice. I just wanted to say in regards to this, brother:

I think of death sometimes, that if I was gone, no one would care. Truth is, they really would not care.

When we die we have no other chance at rectifying our sins. Death can come at any time, either in a state of good deed, happiness, sadness, anger or even sin. Once our soul is taken, that's it. No more opportunity for good and no more opportunity to ask for forgiveness.
So, it is not logical to be worried so much about what others will think of us after we are dead when we will have much bigger concerns at that moment in time. We wouldn't give a thought to what others think as we are questioned by the angel of death.

It's not a good idea to attach so much importance to it now either. Rather, we should be more concerned about what will happen to us.

[anonymous]

Thanks, I have thought about these things a while after reading. You are all right, only I can make the change..no-one is going to come down and do it for me. Maybe I'm trying to change too many things all at once.I make "to-do lists" all the time but never follow through.. I will try harder, Inshallah I will do better!

[Abdul Fattah]

Aselam aleykum
don't leave prayer for these reasons. This is a trick from shaytaan. "Oh if you do this, then you shouldn't do that, or if you don't do that, then you shouldn't do this either, otherwise you'll be a hypocrite..." This is false. Before you know it, you won't be doing anything at all. The truth of the matter is that prayer is mandatory, so wheter you have sinned or not you still need to pray! Btw, a hypocrite is somebody who does things for the wrong reasons, like praying so people would notice him or somebody who gives people advice/judgement, but then doesn't follow it himself. So as long as you pray for the right resons, (i.e. furfilling your obligation and worshopping Allah) then there is nothing hypocritical about it!

[Hamza Asadullah]

Let me start off by saying I have a good life, materialistically. Great family, always had wonderful grades in school(could have been better even), and never been without anything(materialistic) I've needed. Though I was born with a few medical issues which required lots of surgeries over the years.

Depression has had a hold on me for so long. I feel sad, worthless, tired all the time. I get irritated and angry at nothing. I say things that hurt others and am mean to others, which I regret later.I push everyone away. I feel so helpless. I do not take care of myself. I am ashamed to admit, I go days without showering, brushing my teeth and other little things like that.

My depression started in childhood when I was rejected and unwanted by the kids at school. I tried my hardest to gain friends. I had always tried to gain the friendship of the boys, I did not care for girls. After being rejected and hurt so, I vowed I would never trust another guy ever again. So from that moment forward I only wanted girls as friends(there were a few girls in my elementary years who were sweet to me).. In middle and highschool I was socially awkward and just could not maintain any type of relationship with anyone that did not turn into drama. I always came on too strong or acted so weird. Even the other socially awkward kids in school did not like me. I was labeled as a flirt even though I never saw myself as one. Later I realized it was because of the way I complemented girls a lot, the reason was in hopes they would like me as a friend.There were maybe 5 or 6 guys I liked to talk to. School was all about friendship and trying to get people to like me. I never studied yet I had an 85 or above average. Could have been top 15 had I tried :/

I have only been to a school classmates house once in my life, and that was in college for a meeting because we had a group project. I almost had an anxiety attack, I wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible.

Since childhood food has been my saving grace., I have always been overweight. I eat when I am sad, which means I eat all the time. when I get upset or irritated I eat. I do not remember a time where I have said "I'm hungry" and I really was hungry... When I am eating I feel good, and feel horrible and fat right after the last bite.

I must admit that every single day(since middle school, am now in my late 20's), when I can, I stay in my room. I seclude myself from anything and everyone. In highschool I would get upset when my family wanted to go on vacation, I could not imagine not being in my room watching tv and eating..

After highschool I went to college but for the time I was not in school or studying, I have always stayed on the computer...trying to get people to like me on facebook and myspace(annoying people and probably making them feel uncomfortable) By this time I had pushed everyone away.

In 2008 I started playing Pirates of the Caribbean Online(POTCO). I had lots of drama, fun, and spent a lot of money and time in POTCO. I spent hours on this game,(and still do) secluded from everyone...This is the part about seclusion that upsets me the most, I secluded myself away from my parents whom I love more than anything. I also secluded myself from the "acquaintances" I had added on facebook..

I only started thinking about my health 2 years ago when my grandfather died from complications of diabetes that he had for over 30 years. I stopped drinking cokes when I noticed that they made my heart skip and made me feel so bad. I drank about 6 or 7 cokes daily before I quit. Now I only have a coke if I'm sick(it helps with coughing up the bad stuff) or I am really thirsty and there is no alternative.
I think of death sometimes, that if I was gone, no one would care. Truth is, they really would not care. I would NEVER hurt myself...unless a parent dies, when that happens, I will die :/ I cannot live without them <3

I am sorry if this is long I just wanted to pour some of my feelings out. Thanks for reading. That is all I can write now, if I think of more to share, I will.

:sl:

What we must always be certain about is that this world is created as a place of misery for the believers. It is a prison for us. A place that should be detested by us all. It is no doubt a cruel and unjust world. It is surrounded by pleasures for those who have love for tit and a place of much misery and anguish for those who are seeking the Hereafter.*

As believers we must internalise in our minds that this world is merely created as a test ground. A temporary world that Allah has not put much into as he is leaving the best for the Hereafter. So if this is a world that Allah has not put much into then surely It is not a place that we should put all of our effort into. We should just do as much so as to support ourselves and our families.

Also we should stop concentrating on how others live their lives and how they treat other people and the things going wrong with the world and other people and instead concentrate on what is most important to us which is to fulfill our obligations unto Allah and ensure that we are living our own lives in accordance with the way that pleases Allah the most for that is how we will be successful. We will not be accountable for things going wrong with other people and the world but we will be accountable if we go wrong and the way we live our lives and treat other people.

We should of course always be in a state of concern for the state of our Ummah. But this should not make us sit there depressed but to make sincere Dua and do our part by giving dawah and enjoining good and forbidding evil as well as giving to charity and fundraising, volunteering etc. actions although their actions may affect us and sadden us.*

Therefore we must change our focus and perspective of life. Rather than let everything get on top of us and allow misery and anguish to set in and make us feel helpless then we should beseech the help of the only one who can help us. The Almighty. We should change our way of thinking and concentrate and focus our attention and efforts into doing everything that pleases Allah and avoiding that which displeases him. We should think to ourselves of how pointless it is to waste precious time when we are so short of it. We should always keep in mind that each and every second that is going by we will NEVER get back, so we CANNOT afford to waste a second more.

Surely it is our sworn enemy shaythan who is making us feel this misery by giving us such a negative attitude. We must totally submit ourselves to the will of Allah for that is what a Muslim does and surely he is only worthy of all worship. We must make this commitment now. We should totally devote ourselves to him and turn away from that which is deterring us from him.

We should be of the appreciative and thank him much as he loves those who are appreciative. We must repent and beg of his mercy and forgiveness for he lives those who ask of him for his abundant mercy.*We must treat others around us in the best of manner just as our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam).

We must NEVER feel alone because Allah is always there with us. When we think we are alone then it us untrue for the second is Allah. When we are with another person then Allah is the third. So we can NEVER feel alone because Allah is there with us! We should raise our hands to him ask share everything to him. Feel in your heart that he is there and he will bring such peace and satisfaction and contentment into our hearts that is not possible to gain except that such peace, tranquility and happiness is ONLY found with Allah!

If you are able to marry then marry a pious partner so that you may comfort one another and be a garment unto one another. If you are currently unable to marry then work towards marriage as Allah helps those who make sincere effort and have good intentions.

*So the best advice i can give myself and others is to treasure each and every second in doing and saying that which will please Allah and avoid doing and saying that which will displease him. To have concern for our Ummah but to also concentrate on our own lives and doing our best to help those around us particularly the poor and destitute rather than to look at how other people treat those around them.*

We ONLY have this one chance in this short life of ours to build our Hereafter so let us do good so that we can continue laying the bricks of our place in Jannah. The more good we do the more we will have to enjoy in our eternal place in Jannah where all misery will be no more. A place of eternal happiness for the believers. A place where there will be no hatred or enmity. A place of pure bliss and joy. A place where we can see the beautiful face of our creator, some of us everyday depending on our actions. A place where we will have friends amongst the Prophets and Sahaba. Where we can be with our family's without any family grudges and frictions etc. Where evil and suffering will be no more. An end to all misery and pain. A place where there is ONLY pleasure joy and happiness. This will not be for a short while but FOREVER! So Let us renew our intentions and focus.

Forget what has past and learn from it. Concentrate on NOW as tomorrow may never come. Focus on our own actions as we will only be accountable for ourselves. Despair not for Allah is only a Dua away. He is waiting for us to turn to him so what are we waiting for? Then let us not waste a second more!

Hope this helps:


10 Ways To Overcome Sadness



1. Live for each new day:



Know that whatever you have gone through in your past is gone and will never come back: So everyday is a new and fresh day. Yesterday is a distance memory and today is what matters.

Therefore live for today and live for each new and fresh day and do not think about yesterday as it is gone and do not think too much about tomorrow for it may never come.

Al Hasan Al Basri said: "The world is 3 days: As for yesterday, it has vanished along with all that was in it. As for tomorrow, you may never see it. As for today, it is yours, so work on it."


2. Each second that goes by we will never get back again:



Know that each second is a true blessing and every second that ticks by can never again be regained so why should we waste our precious time being sad when our sadness will not change anything and will not benefit us in anyway but that which will benefit us in this world and the next is our good deeds.


Wise are the words of the one who said: "I expect to pass through this world but once; any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now; let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again."



So Think to yourself: "Why am i wasting my precious seconds being down when i will NEVER get back these seconds again. So there is NO time to for me to be down for my time is so little and it may end at any second".



3. Know that our life is pre-destined:


Whatever will happen will happen so there is no point being down when our sadness will not affect the outcome of our destiny but dua will so supplicate to Allah and put your FULL trust in him. Whatever the outcome whatever was decreed is best for you even if you think it is not.

So think to yourself: "Why am i wasting this precious time being upset when everything is pre-destined so whatever will happen will happen so there is NO point me being down about it".



4. Think of your death:


Surely death wakes us up into the true reality of our life that we are living to die. Each second that goes by is closer to our death. So why should we be sad when we know our purpose in this life and so we should do EVERYTHING to fulfill that purpose and that means not waste a second on that which will not benefit us in this life or the next.

Therefore there is NO point being sad and when we are sad then we should remind ourselves of death and that we will end up in the grave with nothing but our deeds so we should do everything to please Allah and prepare for our deaths for sadness will just waste our time and hold us back from fulfilling the very purpose of our life and making the best of the life we have.


5. Think of the hereafter:


Think about the time when the sun will be SO close to the Earth. When When you will stand with every creation in the universe and be ready to face Allah with your deeds. This will encourage you to get up and snap out of your sadness and realise that you have to prepare for that day when you will face Allah just you and your deeds!

So what point is there being sad? Will it help us when we face Allah on the day of judgement? NO but doing good deeds will!


6. Look at those who have less than you:


When you are sad then just look at those who have less than you. Look at what you have been given in comparison to them. You have food on a plate 3 times a day whereas they struggle to get a crumb of flour.

You drink out of purified tap water when they drink from dirty contaminated water full of disease. Others do not even have a drop to drink for several days.

You have shelter and heated homes whereas they live in a tent and refuge camp. They have nothing to keep them sheltered whereas you have four walls with a roof.

You have wealth that you can buy all the luxuries in the world whereas they can only dream of what you have.

So look at those with less and those who have nothing. Then know how lucky you are so should you really be sad? Instead thank Allah and spend in his path in charity so that he may give you more in this world and the hereafter.



7. Appreciate that you have been given imaan(faith)out of so many:



You could have been born in any era and in any faith or religion. You could have been of those who were misguided. You could have been of those who were not favoured by Allah but you have been given the most special gift of ALL imaan!

Therefore appreciate your imaan and do not take that you have been given it so lightly. Thank Allah for it night and day and know that you are so lucky that you have it.

Why would you be sad when you have been favoured out of countless others?



8. Make dua to Allah:



Whenever you are down then make dua to Allah. Turn to him in the latter part of the night when he will attend to you quicker. Turn to him when others are deep in their sleep. Turn to him in humility, meekness and humbleness. Turn to him knowing that he is listening. Turn to him knowing he is the closest to you. Turn to him knowing he cares and he truly loves you.

Cry to him and beg of him to forgive you. Ask of him to fulfill your needs but at the same time trust in him that he will do what is best for you. If he wants you to be patient then be patient for you will get SO MUCH BETTER IN RETURN!

Turn to him knowing he WILL answer your prayer, if not now, then tomorrow. If not tomorrow then in the hereafter and that is when we will be rewarded most for our dua's and we would wish that NO dua was accepted so that we recieved EVERY reward for our dua in the hereafter.



9. Make pleasing Allah the source of your pleasure in this life:



If we make pleasing Allah the source of our pleasure in this life then HOW can we ever be sad? When we live each day to have a highflying career we will never be fully satisfied no matter where our career is because we always want to have a better career.

When we live for money then we will never be satisfied because we always want more and will always try new ventures and ways to diversify our business etc just so that we can gain more and more money.

When we live for other people then they will always let us down in one way or another.

But if we live to please Allah and do good deeds that will make us feel closer to him then what better pleasure is there in life.

So when you are feeling sad then think: "Let me get up and do good in order to please Allah for that is my source of true happiness in this life"

So make EVERYDAY a day when you will want to please Allah more than yesterday. Whenever you are sad then turn to Allah and make him the source of your true happiness. Make the pleasure of pleasing him the means of you NEVER becoming sad again.



10. RELY ON ALLAH:


Most of all rely on Allah. Know that he is there for you and closer to you than your jugular vein. Know that he knows you better than you know yourself. Know that he loves you more than any soul ever could. Know that he is there for you when others arent. Know that he will never let you down when others will. Know that whatever you go through in life he will be there for you if you call upon him.

So put your FULL trust, faith and reliance in him and know that is is ALWAYS there so trust in him and never let shaythan make you lose hope because he is your sworn enemy until the day of judgement and only wants your destruction!


May Allah enable us to do everything to please him and to put our full trust in him. Ameen


Don't be Sad my brothers and sisters!

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