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if you refuse to tell a lie to gain something (e.g. Lie on paper work to get more money), People will make you feel bad about it.
I know what you mean. I have noticed how people make me feel bad for being too good of a Muslim sometimes and for reminding others of what is Islamic or even stating too much Ahadith. Yes, being extreme is not good, but avoiding evil and enjoining good is always encouraged.
I say ignore what people say, and YOU tell them what to do. Don't let them tell you what is right or wrong. Tell them lying is wrong. Tell them touching non-Mahrams are bad. (To be honest, I am guilty of this too. I have a bad habit of shaking hands from both men and women.) But nevertheless, the more people like you remind everyone else in something you clearly avoid, then tell them to avoid that too.
There is no such thing as being too nice. But there is such a thing as being vulgar sometimes, and a Muslim isn't supposed to be vulgar. Is it okay to be mean sometimes? No. So, be nice all the time. Think of how wrong the opposite way of acting is, and then you can remind yourself why you aren't like that.
We live in an age where the signs of the coming of the Day of Judgment are being fulfilled as if they are the writing on the wall, or the elephant in the room, or something obvious. Anyways, there is a Hadith which says that a time would come when people would not care how they make money, they would make it unlawfully and think it is okay. I am paraphrasing here, so please look up the actual Hadith if you wish for the accurate translation. I reflected over this Hadith and realized that too many people lie and cheat to make money these days, even a few bucks if they think they can get away with it. Realize that those few bucks aren't worth it in the Hereafter. Any wrongly acquired wealth in this life will be part of our punishment in the Hereafter if we attain it. And for what? To fill our bellies with fire?
My two cents on the matter. I've reflected over this too sometimes.