The "SECRET" Of Happy Married Life :D
Taqwa and compatibilty
'Taqwa' - because being conscious of Allah (subhanawataála) is the strongest guard against hurting another person through dishonesty, disrespect, deceit, etc.
Even though there will be temptations and there will be difficulties faced within the marriage, those who are striving to be conscious of Allah at all times, will be so concerned about the reaction of Allah if they were to fall into any type of sin, that it automatically means that the rights of their partner will be protected.
'Compatibility' - both in worldly terms (emotions, interests, communication/ language, at least some physical attraction, etc) and spiritual (where
both parties are interested in seeking deeni knowledge, improving their relationship with Allah and love for Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasalam), and
both are striving for the aakhirah and are willing to make sacrifices for it.).
When 2 individuals are on completely different wave-lengths with respect to the above, then it becomes very difficult for them to really 'connect' on a deeper level.
There will always be a 'void' that needs to be filled as a result of lack of compatibility.
It may be possible that people can change within a marriage.....but one should never enter a marriage with the intention to change the other.
There may be other factors that play a role in having a successful/ happy marriage, but for myself, these 2 are the most important (everything else being secondary.)
May Allah (subhanawataála) bless all those seeking marriage with righteous and compatible spouses.
Ameen
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