The answer is obvious but actually depressing when all the trivial things like children and business and getting day to day stuff done make us feel helpless, when we know we're not, also the feeling pf uncertainty and constant selfish "evaluation" of results, "will i be helping or messing things up?" "would I be a troublemaker"? Lol we're already in trouble.
Allah (swt) has answered brother Ali's question from first to last, we are the solution if only we knew the difference we can make, may Allah remove wahn from our hearts and give us the strength to assist in giving victory to His deen.
وَإِنَّ مِنكُم لَمَن لَيُبَطِّئَنَّ فَإِن أَصٰبَتكُم مُصيبَةٌ قالَ قَد أَنعَمَ اللَّهُ عَلَىَّ إِذ لَم أَكُن مَعَهُم شَهيدًا
There are certainly among you men who would tarry behind: If a misfortune befalls you, they say: \"Allah did favour us in that we were not present among them.\"
وَلَئِن أَصٰبَكُم فَضلٌ مِنَ اللَّهِ لَيَقولَنَّ كَأَن لَم تَكُن بَينَكُم وَبَينَهُ مَوَدَّةٌ يٰلَيتَنى كُنتُ مَعَهُم فَأَفوزَ فَوزًا عَظيمًا
But if good fortune comes to you from Allah, they would be sure to say - as if there had never been Ties of affection between you and them - \"Oh! I wish I had been with them; a fine thing should I then have made of it!\"
۞ فَليُقٰتِل فى سَبيلِ اللَّهِ الَّذينَ يَشرونَ الحَيوٰةَ الدُّنيا بِالءاخِرَةِ ۚ وَمَن يُقٰتِل فى سَبيلِ اللَّهِ فَيُقتَل أَو يَغلِب فَسَوفَ نُؤتيهِ أَجرًا عَظيمًا
Let those fight in the cause of Allah Who sell the life of this world for the hereafter. To him who fighteth in the cause of Allah,- whether he is slain or gets victory - Soon shall We give him a reward of great (value).
وَما لَكُم لا تُقٰتِلونَ فى سَبيلِ اللَّهِ وَالمُستَضعَفينَ مِنَ الرِّجالِ وَالنِّساءِ وَالوِلدٰنِ الَّذينَ يَقولونَ رَبَّنا أَخرِجنا مِن هٰذِهِ القَريَةِ الظّالِمِ أَهلُها وَاجعَل لَنا مِن لَدُنكَ وَلِيًّا وَاجعَل لَنا مِن لَدُنكَ نَصيرًا
And why should ye not fight in the cause of Allah and of those who, being weak, are ill-treated (and oppressed)?- Men, women, and children, whose cry is: \"Our Lord! Rescue us from this town, whose people are oppressors; and raise for us from thee one who will protect; and raise for us from thee one who will help!\"
الَّذينَ ءامَنوا يُقٰتِلونَ فى سَبيلِ اللَّهِ ۖ وَالَّذينَ كَفَروا يُقٰتِلونَ فى سَبيلِ الطّٰغوتِ فَقٰتِلوا أَولِياءَ الشَّيطٰنِ ۖ إِنَّ كَيدَ الشَّيطٰنِ كانَ ضَعيفًا
Those who believe fight in the cause of Allah, and those who reject Faith Fight in the cause of Evil: So fight ye against the friends of Satan: feeble indeed is the cunning of Satan.
Quran 4:72-76
This amazing brother cast aside all doubts and showed us how it's possible for a tiny band to make a huge difference:
May Allah grant him status among the highest:
I've never envied anyone's grave other than his, for some reason the envy i felt at seeing that grave felt like the envy an infidel would feel when he sees someone elses multi-billion dollar retirement plan.
Disclaimer: Please don't do anything illegal… as long as the definition of illegal doesn't conflict with the laws of God. May Allah make us true in word and deed.