Originally Posted by facethetruth
Finding a partner online is not recommended.
I personally know three people who used this method and in all three cases it was a disaster. The women were only marrying for financial reasons. The sad part of it is that there were kids involved in all three cases.
In one case the father was prevented from seeing his kid who was so cute :ma:. The 2nd one's kid is now on the other side of the world so it's very difficult to see them.
One of them was cheating on their husband and has several kids from several men all being looked after by social services because she is not fit enough to look after her kids. Needless to say, that one didn't last long. And I won't even mention the part about the kid who's life is ruined because of a mother who cannot control her desires.
There's another story about a sister who was communicating with a brother via Skype and she looked quite attractive but when he went to meet her in person he said she looked very different. This put him off completely from looking online.
The problem with meeting people online is that you cannot verify the claims of the person because in most cases, you do not know anyone they know who can personally verify what they're saying is true.
The traditional way of meeting people through people you know whether it's family or friends is best because at least you are likely to know someone who the other side knows and you can get some real life verification.
It's always best to see the person, in person.
The other issue nowadays is the health aspect. I've heard that some people require you to take a HIV/AIDS test before they'll consider you any further and vice versa. That is how bad things are nowadays.
You said you've already had a bad experience via the online method. Are you sure you want to go through all that again?
Since you asked for advice, my sincere advice to you brother is to:
1. Put your trust in Allaah :arabic2:.
2. Make sincere du'aa
3. Firstly make sure you're able to fulfil the rights of the woman.
4. Then get the word out and and speak to people you know.
5. :ia: what is written for you will come to you but use the correct means and be patient.