Problems with in laws

[asianmuslim]

As salaam alaikum


I am a married woman from India. I have a few problems with my in laws and I seem to be stuck. My inlaws have bought a


house which is close to where their married daughters stay. The daughters have issues of their own with the elder sister in


law having her sister in law and kids coming to her house continuously. As a result my father in law who is very dominating


brings his daughters to our house every weekend. I am then supposed to cook, clean and take care of her kids. I am a


working woman and this situation became unbearable. I used to cry nights together and pray. Initially my husband said that


she has issues and will continue to come. The sisters are very interfering. They used to call my husband at 11:30 at night


and sometimes even 2 am at night when they have fights with their in laws. Eventually my husband understood that the


situation was not right and moved us away to a place close to our office and away from his sisters. Still, these girls


would invariably fight with their in laws and then come stay at our place for days together. Finally my husband got an


onsite opportunity and we shifted abroad for a year. Now I am here. But my father in law continues to bring the daughters


to our house in India every weekend. My mother in law keeps saying that we bought the house close to where my daughters are


so that we could see them and their kids frequently.All this greatly upsets me. I also contribute to paying the loan


payments of the house but have no say in what my in laws do there. I keep stressing that when we go back my father in law


will force us to stay in that house and keep calling his daughters and force me to serve them.


My husband and I are trying to coneive for a year, but I had ovulation issues which the doctor corrected and husband has


low sperm motility.He does not take any medicines for it. I keep worrying about all these things and at the back of my mind


dont have peace. We are supposed to take care of old parents and that is what I want to do, but their behaviour and


ineterfernce of their daughters makes me want to run away from them. That is what we are doing now.We did try confronting


them once but my father in law blew it and sister in law also paid no heed to what we had to say. I am really messed up and


not sure what to do. I dont want to fight and argue. Please advise

[Muhammad]

:wasalamex sister,

I am sorry to hear of these troubles you are facing. Please note that the advice you receive here will be limited. It's better to consult with an Imam or scholar who can advise through more experience and understanding.

May Allaah :swt: help you and your family and rectify all of your affairs, Aameen.

[asianmuslim]

My husband is good to me at times and at other times he fights and calls me names unnecessarily when he misses his family or his sisters provoke him. Once a month he fights beacuse of this. I am very frustrated. Feel like I cannot be with him any more.

[Muslim Woman]

:sl:


sis , may Allah eases the matters for u and grants what is best . Ameen.