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animehunter123
ASA,
I married a few years ago. I was very ignorant and ignored my families advice of marrying a non-muslim woman. I am muslim myself, but now I am trying to fix my life inshallah. Jazak Allah khair for everyones advice. I have a question...
My wife is christian, and is the nicest person in the world to me. I want her (secretly) to embrace Islam someday but I am scared to talk to her about it. Her family is very religeous and goes to the Church often, and even sing in the Choir. They are very nice people and I respect them very much.
In the coming years, I want to pray for her to open her eyes to Islam someday but I dont want to force her against her will. Does anyone know any Duat I can do to help with this? Again may Allah jazak many khair for your advice and thank you brothers and sisters,
-H.
:salamext: brother,
Below are just some small suggestions from me with regards to your question:
1. Keep in mind, that guidance ONLY comes from Allah (subhanawataála).
I think that we all realize this sub-consciously, but sometimes, we are so determined and desperate to see our loved ones embrace Islam (or if they are already muslim - to live their lives according to the teachings of our deen), that we may inadvertently over-step our 'limits' and worse, we may actually be the cause for the person to become even more distanced from the truth.
So, its really important that we are tactful in our methods of introducing others to islam, that we remain humble, kind and gentle in our manner.
2. The best form of dawah that we can ever give........is to be a LIVING EXAMPLE of Islam.
In other words, we dont just talk about Islam.
But we strive to become a reflection (as far as our sinful beings can emulate) the manner of the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasalam) - in our speech, our dress, our day-to-day interactions with others.....and
every other aspect of our life.
Which means that before we can try to, in shaa Allah, influence another persons way of living, we have to first change ourselves - and first, put into
practice, all that we wish to preach.
If you are not already making an effort to follow the sunnah of the prophet (in ALL aspects), then this is a good start.
So, e.g. if you do not have a beard as yet - then, work on this in shaa Allah.
If you do not wake up for tahajjud and fajr everyday, and do not read in congregation for each salaah (if the masjid is close-by) - then in shaa Allah, you can make efforts here.
If you are in the habit of listening to music, watching movies and things that bring the displeasure of Allah - then, strive to release these from your life as well.
^ In other words, when we start to change our OWN lives (for the reason of seeking the pleasure of Allah, not for the sake of others)......then our own environment starts to change.......and in turn, this changes the environment of those who we live with.
So, even if your wife initially had absolutely no interest in Islam before, when she sees that her husband is making these profound changes to his life (e.g. every morning, he leaves his bed to pray, etc)......then, in shaa Allah, she will start to wonder about what has inspired you, and she may start asking questions and develop an interest in the beautiful teachings of our deen.
3. Fill your home with remembrances of Allah - e.g. invest in books on the life of Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasalam), the basics of islam, as well as translated copies of the Quraan and leave them in open areas where everyone can access them.
In shaa Allah, out of curiosity, she may decide to look into them, and out of her own accord, she may find interest in learning about islam.
Also, set some time out each day to listen to the recitation of quraan with translation, and islamic lectures - which will be of benefit towards yourself, as well as your wife in shaa Allah.
4. Look out for islamic events or talks in your area and invite her to join you (if there are ladies facilities available).
If she refuses, thats ok - go ahead by yourself, and when you return, try to share a few important lessons that you have learnt - and be enthusiastic whenever you speak.
5. Finally, and most importantly: dont give up on making duaa that Allah (subhanawataála) opens her heart to the truth.
No matter how long it may take: remain hopeful, trust in the plans of Allah - and remember, ultimately:
"Indeed, you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills.
And He is most knowing of the [rightly] guided." (Quran 28:56)
May Allah (subhanawataála) grant your wife guidance and imaan, as well as every other person who has not as yet tasted the sweetness of living their lives for His pleasure.
Ameen.
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