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Predator
That isnt something to feel so proud about .such late marriages are actually bad for society .
Girls are far too picky . They expect us to have a big house, fancy car, a fat bank account but how can one expect a guy in that late 20's to have all that so soon. Girls have a princess mentality and dont want to struggle with their husband until they become financially stable. Both the girls and their families are responsible for this mess as they reject sincere,educated and hardworking because they cant give them a cushy life.
:salam:
There are various reasons as to why some people marry late. Sometimes, even those who do not hold the above expectations, still do not find marriage until very late in life....and sometimes, they may not get the chance to marry at all.
In the same way that Allah blesses some people with health, wealth, children, etc. and not for others, so too does He deny marriage to some people.
So, we should see these delays and denials in marriage also as being a test from Allah - as we do, all other trials in life.
There are some people who have chosen to remain single, rather than spend a lifetime with someone, who does not share the same goals in deen and in life, and who may potentially be the means of them drawing further from the mercy of Allah.
Sometimes, it is better to be patient and make duaa for a spouse who has made islam their priority......than to just rush into marriage.
One just needs to speak to those who have experienced divorce in their life - very often their regret is that they did not marry for the 'right reasons' or they rushed into marriage just for the sake of settling down at a certain age.
When we marry, we all desire that it will be for life, and that we can be with that person in Jannah, in shaa Allah.
In view of this, it is important that we chose our spouses wisely, seeking Allah's guidance in the process - and if this does not come easily, despite sincere efforts and duaa, then to be patient and know that Allah tests His servants in many different ways.
And to remember that there were so many righteous slaves of Allah, who spent much of their lives in His devotion and service, and only married much later in life.
Allah has a plan for each and every person, and His plan is always the best plan.
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