format_quote Originally Posted by
Kia
I've been seeing a 19 year old girl for about 4 months now. We go on dates once or twice a week. Movies, restaurants, rock climbing, parks that kind of thing. We met through mutual friends, and started talking. Turns out she is a Sunni muslim from Malaysia and I happen to be Shia from Iran.
My sincere advise to you is to stop dating her or anyone else in the future, brother. Dating is Haram, and there is no ifs and or buts about it. No dating. Either get her guardians to approve of a marriage as well as yours, or if you can't get the approval or guardians, then break this off. Marriage without guardians is considered Zina (fornication, adultery).
Talk to the girl's parents, and try to win them over. Speak to them, and explain to them your beliefs. If they are fine with you, and they see nothing wrong with you, then they should let their daughter marry you since she likes you. Do that as soon as possible, because you are incurring a great heap of sin by being in contact with a non-Mahram girl. In Islam, you're supposed to be as distant as possible from non-Mahram women, they are only to be spoken to when you have business dealings with them, for religious matters, or anything else which makes meeting them absolutely necessary. Otherwise, intermediaries are better. When you two are together, then Shaitan is the third companion.
I stress again, dating is Haram. Don't do it. Win the pleasure of Allah and keep distant from her until you have gained the approval of her parents for marriage. Fight for her by discussing this with them if you are that serious.
And pray to Allah fervently, since Allah helps a man to get married in order to protect his chastity. So you will certainly be helped by Allah if you do this for His sake, and if you start approaching this differently and directly.