Originally Posted by Ahmad H
One evening, I was in a cafe, meet few old friends after long time we didn't meet. And my cellphone was ringing few time.
Then one of them gave an idea to go to other places and enjoying the night. Everyone agree, but I told them "Buddies, I really want to go with you, but I can't. I must go home", They went together to enjoy the night while I went back to my home where my wife was waiting for me. Yes, that phone call were from my wife who ordered me to go home.
Yeah, marriage was a prison for me, literally prison. I lost my freedom that I had in my young age when I could go anywhere, slept anywhere. I lost my world as motorcycle racer who raced from circuit to circuit, and outside of the race I could ride my off road motorcycle to hill and beaches. That's the male world that I've ever had.
But I didn't mind. I lived in prison, but with the prison guard who love me. I felt a great happiness in my heart that made me happier than live in freedom but with an emptiness in my heart.
Marriage is a prison, and I am happy in this Prison Sweet Prison.
If I put it into symbols, a wife=troubles and worries.
If a stranger woman make a trouble in my home, I would throw her out, and don't need to worry about her. But if my wife cause a trouble, then it's my duty as her husband to handle it. And if I felt worry about my wife, it's because I love her.
I have lost much money for my wife medical treatment, but I didn't worry about this financial trouble. I just worry about my wife because I didn't want to lose her. It's because I love her. And then if I can accept the destiny, it's because I love her too. I know Allah has given the best thing for her. If my wife still alive, she would always in suffer with her condition.
Love is the most important thing in marriage that will make us happy in it. Love in marriage, not love before marriage.
So, young bro, you don't need to thinking that you should fall in love first to someone and then marry her, because you can start with marry someone, and then you love her. Trust me, she will love you too and make you happy.