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01-01-2014, 04:29 PM
I want to work on it but I get a bit arrogant/angry..I once told a christian girl she was stupid for worshiping Jesus, needless to say we aren't friends anymore..I get frustrated easily when I see so many posts on facebook about Jesus this Jesus that. I want to tell my friends how stupid they are...then again, it's a culture, it is not their fault they were born into their religion....plus here, all people here about Islam is killings, war, doing bad things to women...etc.

Sometimes I feel I'd rather see the faces of people (christian friends, celebs..etc)on judgement day, when they realize they were wrong...more than I would want to help them understand Islam as well as working on myself when it comes to health, prayer...etc..

I have anger issues ...For example,I hate a few celebrities, due to their morals/values (cheaters,crooks..etc), I wish I was a celeb just so I could berate them on twitter/online and tell them what low life trash they are and how much their parents failed at raising them and how their kids are going to grow up to be low life losers too. I get so frustrated when I see bad people come out on top against good.

I get so frustrated within my mind over several things, like things I see posted on the internet,news....I also hate the fake "Islamic countries" that make Islam look bad...well the regimes, not the countries themselves. If I was not afraid of getting shot I would openly tell the extremists they are not real Muslims and if they want some of me,come get some!

One subject, gun control for example,just to give an idea..."Are people that stupid? Do they really believe having gun control will stop crazies from doing bad things? The gun isn't going to jump up and say well, time to kill someone today....More focus should be on mental health...idiots!"

I know I should not get upset over things I have no control over...I have even got upset over things happening to people in tv shows even though I know it's not real..

I think if I was an ignorant drone like the world around me then I would be happier....logic and common sense is not abundant hardly anywhere in the world...

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01-01-2014, 06:18 PM
Thanks for approving!

01-02-2014, 02:51 AM

01-02-2014, 02:53 PM
im just gonna comment on anger..we shouldnt lose pur tempers as its wot satan wants heres few hadiths bout anger :Anger

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The strong-man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage.
Sahih Muslim Book 032, 6313
Narated By Abu Huraira : A man said to the Prophet , “Advise me! “The Prophet said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.”
Sahih Bukhari , Book 073, Hadith 137
The Authority Of Muadh bin Jabal
I said: “O Messenger of Allah, tell me of an act which will take me into Paradise and will keep me away from Hell fire.” He said: “You have asked me about a major matter, yet it is easy for him for whom Allah Almighty makes it easy. You should worship Allah, associating nothing with Him, you should perform the prayers, you should pay the zakat, you should fast in Ramadan, and you should make the pilgrimage to the House.” Then he said:” Shall I not show you the gates of goodness ? Fasting [which] is a shield, charity [which] extigueshes sin as water extebgueshes fire; and the praying of a man in the deapth of night.” Then he recited :
“Who forsake their beds to cry unto their Lord in fear and hope, and spend of that We have bestowed on them. No soul knoweth what is kept hid for them of joy, as a reward for what they used to do”. (quran, verse)
Then he said: ” Shall I not tell you of the peak of the matter, its pillar, and its topmost part?” I said: “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” He said: “The peak of the matter is Islam; the pillar is prayer; and its topmost part is jihad.” Then he said: “Shall I not tell you of the controling of all that ?” I said:”Yes, O Messenger of Allah”, and he took hold of his tongue and said: “Restrain this.” I said: “O Prophet of Allah, will what we say be held against us ?” He said: “May your mother be bereaved of you, Muadh ! Is there anything that topples people on their faces – or he said on their noses into Hell-fire other than the jests of their tongues ?”
Reporters. Related by Al-Tirmithi, who said it was a fine and true hadlth.
An Nawawi Hadith Number 029
Narated By Sulaiman bin Surd : While I was sitting in the company of the Prophet, two men abused each other and the face of one of them became red with anger, and his jugular veins swelled (i.e. he became furious). On that the Prophet said, “I know a word, the saying of which will cause him to relax, if he does say it. If he says: ‘I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan.’ then all is anger will go away.” Some body said to him, “The Prophet has said, ‘Seek refuge with Allah from Satan.”‘ The angry man said, “Am I mad?”
Sahih Bukhari , Book 054, Hadith 502
Narated By Atiyyah as-Sa’di : AbuWa’il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa’di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Apostle of Allah (pbuh) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.
Abu Dawud Book 036, Hadith Number 4766
Narated By AbuDharr : The Apostle of Allah (pbuh) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.
Abu Dawud Book 036, Hadith Number 4764
Narated By Abu Said Al-Khudri : Some Ansari persons asked for (something) from Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h) and he gave them. They again asked him for (something) and he again gave them. And then they asked him and he gave them again till all that was with him finished. And then he said “If I had anything. I would not keep it away from you. (Remember) Whoever abstains from asking others, Allah will make him contented, and whoever tries to make himself self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient. And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.”
Sahih Bukhari , Book 024, Hadith 548
It is reported on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) observed: He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should either utter good words or better keep silence; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day should treat his neighbour with kindness and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest.
Sahih Muslim Book 001, Hadith 0075
The Authority Of Abu Hurairah
The messenger of Allah said : “Each person’s every joint must perform a charity every day the sun comes up : to act justly between two people is a charity; to help a man with his mount, lifting him onto it or hoistingd up his belongings onto it is a charity: a good word is a charity, every step you take to prayers is a charity and removing a harmful thing from the road is a charity.”
Reporters. Related by Bukhari and Muslim.
An Nawawi Hadith Number 025
Narated By ‘Adi bin Hatim : While I was sitting with Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h) two person came to him; one of them complained about his poverty and the other complained about the prevalence of robberies. Allah’s Apostle said, “As regards stealing and robberies, there will shortly come a time when a caravan will go to Mecca (from Medina) without any guard. And regarding poverty, The Hour (Day of Judgment) will not be established till one of you wanders about with his object of charity and will not find anybody to accept it And (no doubt) each one of you will stand in front of Allah and there will be neither a curtain nor an interpreter between him and Allah, and Allah will ask him, ‘Did not I give you wealth?’ He will reply in the affirmative. Allah will further ask, ‘Didn’t I send a messenger to you?’ And again that person will reply in the affirmative Then he will look to his right and he will see nothing but Hell-fire, and then he will look to his left and will see nothing but Hell-fire. And so, any (each one) of you should save himself from the fire even by giving half of a date-fruit (in charity). And if you do not find a half date-fruit, then (you can do it through saying) a good pleasant word (to your brethren). (See Hadith No. 793 Vol. 4).
Sahih Bukhari , Book 024, Hadith 494
Narated By AbuHurayrah : The Prophet (pbuh) said: A man never did a good deed but removed a thorny branch from the road; it was either in the tree and someone cut it and threw it on the road, or it was lying in it, he removed it. Allah accepted this good deed of his and brought him into Paradise.
Abu Dawud Book 036, Hadith Number 5225

Maybe someone else help you with other other things. hope i was little helpful

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01-06-2014, 03:08 AM
Thanks, anyone else, about the rest??

01-08-2014, 11:12 PM

I hope that you are in the best of health and emaan, in shaa'Allaah

From what i can understand, your problem isn't based on physical anger in which your getting up and attacking so and so, but rather its your thoughts on things that bother you about certain things. correct me if im wrong in understanding.

I think this is normal, we all have likes and dislikes, some can't help expressing while some can. I believe maybe you need not to express everything as it may come across as hurtful and negative in quite some ways. It seems what other people do is bothering you, well stop focusing on them, your ticket to jannah isn't through criticizing them or thinking about what negative should be done or said to them or you, rather if you want to think of them, then make du'aa for them and leave the rest to Allaah, and seek refugee with Allaah from the accursed shaytaan, as it seems these thoughts are getting you so frustrated, make your goals about pleasing Allaah your lord, what u do or say, everything in life, make it something you wanna do to please him and for his sake. It seems you know what you want to do, which is 'I want to change my attitude and anger', in what you need to in changing your atitude, well forget about everything and think positively and focus on yourself and bettering things around you with those around you, the greatest advice 'Speak good or remain silent' which is something I and all need to do, list all your characteristics on a piece of paper that are of negative attitude, then start by fixing each one by one and not all at once, and ask Allaah for help for he is your helper. And regards to what you need to do fix your anger, is to follow sunnah (ways) of advice of what the prophet sallaahu alaayhi wa salam taught, so check up on the above advice by sister Marina-Aisha.

If this is of no help, i hope many more are up for the challenge, in sha'Allaah


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