Originally Posted by anonymous
Your parents do not intend to delay your marriage, especially delay for decades. They just remind you that your should really ready, including in financial matter, if you want to get married.
Are you ready to get married now?. You can say you are ready, but your parents probably regard you haven't ready. The parents worry their son wife would be in suffer if their son marries her in condition which their son haven't really ready, especially in financial matter. Actually this is a clasic problem between parents and sons in marriage matter.
My advice is talk with your parents from heart to heart. Make them sure that you have ready to bear responsibilities in marriage.
And you have dodged my actual question , what does Allah SWT say in the Quran- When should I marry ?
There is no rule in Islam that a man should get married in certain age. As long as have reached puberty age and have ready, a man can get married.
I give you a scenario. My spouse like to watch a certain type of tv program , should I also watch it to give her company eventhough I detest it and vice versa
In my married life, sometime I watched my favorite TV program in a room while my wife watched her favorite TV program on another TV in another room. But also often enough I accompanied my wife in watching her favorite TV program although I did not like this program.
I knew that my wife need my attention, and accompanied her in watching her favorite TV program was a kind of attention that I could give to her. It made her felt secure and comfortable.
A good husband is a husband who understand his wife.
Becoming a husband is not so difficult. As long as you don't get obstacle to get married and there is a woman who can accept you, immediately you can be a husband. But being a good husband is not as easy as this. There are duties of the husband. Not only provide livehood, but also make his wife feel secure and comfortable.
Are you ready to become a good husband?. Bro, since you ask question about accompany wife in watching TV, I regard you haven't ready to become a good husband. However, I will not tell you to delay your nika for decades, just will tell you to learn how to be a good husband since now. It will not take long time. If you have intention to be a good husband since today, you can get married tomorrow.
Become a good husband is the result of learning process in marriage.