Assalaamu alaikum
format_quote Originally Posted by sami346;n2232341
I heard getting someone close to do the prayer for you makes the 'answer' more reliable because I could just see what i want to see so I got a close religious relative to.
Sister, salaatul istikhaara is a dua commencing with a salaat like our five daily compulsory salaat. Just the same way you can't get someone to read your five daily salaat or even one of them for you, you cannot get someone to perform this prayer for you instead of you. There's no sanction for this in the sunnah of the Prophet
. It doesn't matter if someone is more pious than you. Your salaat is yours. In fact there is evidence to say that one should not perform prayers on another's behalf. However, of course your relatives can make dua for you, for Allah to guide you to what is good and give you whats best for you.
format_quote Originally Posted by sami346;n2232341
She did it 17 times before she saw a dream.
This is one of the common misconceptions among Muslims about istikhaara. That you pray it at night and then keep repeating it until you see a dream. This isn't the main purpose of istikhaara, although some might see dreams. When you make the dua, you're not saying, "O Allah, if this matter is good for me, show me in a dream". What you're saying is, "O Allah, if this matter is good for me, destine it for me, make it easy for me, and bless me in it. And if it's bad for me, keep me away from it and it away from me, and destine good for me wherever it may be, and make me satisfied with it."
After examining the pros and cons, you make a decision say to go ahead. Then if it is good for you, it will go well, and if it isn't then you'll find obstacles whereby you'll realise it's not right for you and you shouldn't do it. Here you can see he's not interested, he's interested in another girl.
This dream was in all likelihood a random dream, especially after 17 nights. Also, Allah does not guide people to a good through dreams involving illicit things. If he has a girlfriend now, he could marry you and then have another girlfriend alongside, or instead of. Stay away. In shaa Allah Allah will give you somebody better for you than someone who has girlfriends.
Please do not think Allah may be a liar. Allah is truth itself, "That is because Allah is the Truth" (Quran 22:62) "And who is more truthful than Allah in statement." (4:87)
May Allah grant you a righteous pious spouse and guide you and us all to the ways of His pleasure, ameen.