format_quote Originally Posted by
greenhill
Salaams,
Just to clarify.... "The issue is during those days ...." you say when your wife was living with her parents. She is your wife now, was she your wife then?
I am trying to understand your post. If she was your wife but somehow the arrangements were that she still lived with her parents while you lived somewhere else, you have every right to see her or take her anywhere (that is halal:D).
If you were not married yet, then it is a totally different story.
But now that she IS you wife, and you both have a gift of a child, both your parents should be grateful. But life can be strange at times..
Have patience, brother
:peace:
Yes, brother he is not even my wife but we also have one little child too. Althudulllilah We are now living happy but the issue again is still even after more then year my wife is living with me , my mother still become angry and frustated that i disobey him by talking my wife without her permission.
You might ask why?as people asking, I think west people might not know it but if you know typical pakistani socieity here mother in laws is almost final, they interfear in every matter and reason they gave is they are elder and they have the right to make every decisions. Even my mother decide when shoud i cut my child hair and i cannot go without her permision.
Alhudualliah, my mother is very good muslim, she pray regulary and also studying quran classes with translation an tafseer and even she know all hadis and more then what might you know but i think it the effect of society that they still interfear in private matter of husband and wife.
Even still if my wife say take me outside for some his personal work , we first had to take permision from mother to take out of home and many many time they say no if your wife has personal work ask htem to call their father and go then or when they meet their parent they will take him for that work i will not allow you to go outside with him for her personal work and becom too angry why i am asking him for that , you know typical socity issue despite my mother knows what quran says.
I very upset as my mother say she will never forget me for talking my wife and bringing my wife back to home (the reason is people do talk some thing about bad for me that i am dis-obidient to my mother by talking with my wife withoug mother permision). and i am too much disturb.
The rest my mother has almost no issue with me, i love him she love me, i try to take care of him any measn i can , the only issue he my mother does not happy with me at all when i do any thing with my wife or any of my wife work, even still afters years of marriage i am not allowed to leave my wife to her parents house or take them from home , if she want to go to her parent house either i had to drop him and her parents had to bring him back or if her parent pick i had to drop him so you know only one thing i can do , even if situation arise that i had drop him and now take him back my mother bring so angry why her parents are not lefting him and does not allow me to bring him back and say keep him stay whey her parents are so not dropiing him ,
My mother even listen tariq jamil bayans for love between husband and wife and yes even ask my father to take care of everything for her as he is her husband and it my father duty to take care of his wife but when it come to my hand that i take care of my child and wife my mother just become angry and say to me to leave such issue on my wife parents and their is greate greate greate anger on my mother face , you an see my wife also get disturbe why i am not fullfulling my duties for him and she know my mother is stopping me for those forcefully.
So you can see how tense i am for that.
Yes, Please tell me the main reason also i am disturbe : What if my mother angry with me on the issue that i talk with my wife withoug my mother permisin , and she say she wont forgive me for that and Allah will curse you for that act, even i ask my mother for forgivenes she say she will never forget that in his life? So will Allah forgive me for that act? I have not intention to make my mother disturb just trying to fullfill my rights as husband but still my mother angry so will Allah forgive me for talking with my wife witout my mother permision
Please pray for me too