Not sure what you mean by engaged, bur if it is a valid nikah then you are married,
The verse below gives guidance on the priority of the people having more right to choose, and they turn out (obviously) to be the spouses.
The situation is similar and contextual in many aspects since you both seem to understand each other well.
When ye divorce women, and they fulfil the term of their ('Iddat),
do not prevent them from marrying their (former) husbands, if they mutually agree on equitable terms.
This instruction is for all amongst you, who believe in Allah and the Last Day. That is (the course Making for) most virtue and purity amongst you and Allah knows, and ye know not.
Quran 2:232
A previously married woman has more right to choose than a virgin anyway, since they have prudence and can be expected to make a more informed and mature decision,
I find it difficult to fathom why a father would take the risk of marrying his daughter to someone who might come to realize that she loves another - especially when there isn't a very strong and valid reason for the father to reject the prospective groom of daughter's choice.
although force is not allowed, a person can easily be manipulated into feeling guilty about rejecting the parent's wishes via emotional blackmail even though they are not in the wrong to make that rejection.
Amazing, the last thing i would want would be my daughter crying alone constantly or blaming me for ruining her life if my choice turned out to be the wrong one in spite of her valid and chosen prospect.
“And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves,
that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Quran 30:21)
Al Mughirah Ibn Shaibah said “I got engaged to a woman at the time of the Prophet (May Allah bless him and grant him peace).
He asked me “Have you seen her?”
I said “No”.
He said “go and have a look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility is established between you.” (Nasai)*
Khansa Bint Khidam said “My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace).
He said to me “accept what your father has arranged.”
I said “I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.”*
He said “then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.”
I said “I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them).
(Fathul Bari Sharah Al Bukhari 9/194, Ibn Majah Kitabun Nikah 1/602)*
At first, the Prophet (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) told Al Khansa to obey her father, and this is as it should be, because the concerns of fathers for the well being of their daughters is well known.
But when he realized that her father wanted to force her in to marriage she did not want, he gave her the freedom to choose, and saved her from the oppression of a father who wanted to force her into an unwanted marriage.
More info pieced together here:
https://m.facebook.com/notes/muslim-...81689961843515