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Eric H
Greetings and peace be with you Signor; thanks for sharing;
I could look at this research from another angle, it is far easier giving advice than taking advice. When you give advice to a friend, you don't have to act on it, they do. When a friend gives you good advice, you are emotionally involved, and you listen, but don't take their advice.
I can remember my parents giving me good advice, after listening, I remember walking out the door, and doing things my way. I give my kids good advice, but, I don't hold out much hope for them following my advice, simply because I know they have the same regard as I did, when I was a kid.
As we grow older, we learn to perfect our mistakes, in other words, we do our mistakes perfectly. Or, and it is a big OR, we learn to change, I believe that means turning more to God, and striving to do things God's way.
In the spirit of striving to change,
Eric
Greetings Eric H,Nice to read your thoughts.
The idea about resolving your own problems by looking with third person's eyes is pretty old actually.I am sure at some point in life you must have heard "you can't change a system while residing(and getting benefit from) within it.Personally,I don't find the idea in OP workable for all.For instance,those people who due to some or other reason are alone for the most part of their lives,learn to micro manage every aspect in their limited capacity.With time this practice gets old and firm and its get difficult for them to think from an outsider's perspective.We become what we repeatedly do.
Apart from exclusive cases,Human biases are natural which influence our thoughts and ultimately actions.
Taking heed from others mistakes,I agree with what you said.When we try to teach people about our mistakes, we falsely hope our experiences will prevent them from repeating history. There's no doubt that the lessons we learn from others may give us pause before we jump into the same missteps, but it usually doesn't prevent us from doing the same thing.
Perhaps because advice is made up of words, not sentiments.Watching others suffer makes us more aware of our surroundings, but it is not until we personally experience the reality ourselves that we appreciate the seriousness of the fault.We can impart lessons learned from our mistakes, we can tell people how we got to the point of making it, but it's impossible for us to share the feelings caused by our mistakes.
Why young people refuse advice,Possibility is they have read those words of Mary Schmich
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
I was joking.There are other factors such as individual differences that may lead them to think we would deal with and react differently to what other people do,then we have circumstances,no two human beings go through the same life experiences.
I believe we should learn from other inner sights but not take them as articles of faith so we can apply and act on them as and when a situation requires.
Peace and Blessings!