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Lightingshine
Jazak Allah for briefing these points. As few of points were novel to me in which you mentioned you should go along with them if they swear that you should do something. Overall this piece of information really proves helpful✨
Assalaamu alaikum Lightingshine,
(smile) Perhaps this is already clear to you, but I mention it because I have known of people who expect relatives to participate in doing something wrong, and many people read these posts. Doing something for a relative if they ask you in Allah's Name to do it… should only be done if what they ask is something
permitted. If anyone wants to engage you in something
wrong, then you have a
duty before Allah to refuse them. Even if they are relatives.
(smile) Indeed, preventing someone from doing a wrong is a
kindness, as it prevents them from accruing sins, for which they would be held accountable. (smile) Indeed,
not doing a wrong one has planned, is counted as a
good deed! So if you resist a relative in a wrong, not only are you protecting him from harm, you may actually be helping him to gain merit in Allah's Eyes.
May Allah, the Just and the Wise, Guide us in our dealings with others.
Qur'an 4:135
Sahih International translation:
O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah , even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.
Qur'an 5:2
Sahih International translation:
O you who have believed, do not violate the rites of Allah or [the sanctity of] the sacred month or [neglect the marking of] the sacrificial animals and garlanding [them] or [violate the safety of] those coming to the Sacred House seeking bounty from their Lord and [His] approval. But when you come out of ihram, then [you may] hunt. And do not let the hatred of a people for having obstructed you from al-Masjid al-Haram lead you to transgress. And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is severe in penalty.
Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is oppressed". A man enquired: "O Messenger of Allah! I help him when he is oppressed, but how can I help him when he is an oppressor?" He (ﷺ) said, "You can keep him from committing oppression. That will be your help to him".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
وعنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: “انصر أخاك ظالمًا أو مظلومًا” فقال رجل: يا رسول الله أنصره إذا كان مظلومًا أرأيت إن كان ظالمًا كيف أنصره؟ قال: "تحجزه -أو تمنعه- من الظلم فإن ذلك نصره” ((رواه البخاري)).
Arabic/English book reference |
: Book 1, Hadith 237 |
source: http://sunnah.com/riyadussaliheen/1/237
Note: the words for oppressor, oppressed and oppression, could also be translated as wrongdoer, wronged and wrong. Basically, if someone is behaving badly, particularly if this behaviour harms others, we have a duty to try to prevent this behaviour. No matter who the perpetrator is.